It does both. There is always a price to pay for progress. It depends on what you allow. As a survivor of child abuse, I can honestly say that it is thanks to that that I am a devout pacifist and a compassionate soul who will always turn away from aggression. However, hatred and anger linger in me to this day despite every effort I've made to overcome it.
Thank you for your response. I'm very sorry you suffered through child abuse. I can relate to your feelings strongly and agree that it can cause both negative and positive things in our lives. I too find myself struggling with scars that seem to never go away
Just keep working on the healing process. No one is perfect and everyone needs time to overcome that which they need to. It all started to come around for me when I realized it is much more rewarding to forgive than to not. But 9 out of 10 times I still give in to anger and contempt because I need to know if I've overcome what has hurt me and I guess I havent yet.
I thought I was fine twenty three years after my mother tried to kill me. Turned out that depression I'd been randomly suffering for "unrelated reasons" was more likely linked to recently diagnosed PTSD.
I think whether you know it or not, some things stay with you.
I think it does- but pretty much what the others have said here is the same as what I'm going to say.
My stories aren't as horrible, but I was bullied in high school, and I still struggle with the insecurity and fear of judgement that their bullying caused, but it has made me stronger. I will never, ever let myself be bullied again without breaking their nose in the process.
Time apart does not bring you closer together; despite what fairytales, movies and books tell you but being clingy doesn't help either. Distance cannot fill the void of actually having that person there with you but it...
I just read that 75% of R women have a favorable opinion of Rick Santorum. I'm aghast! I'm going to protest! Let's see...I can't burn my bras because they're too expensive. I know - I'll burn my RNC card! Yes, I'm a...