I can think of no valid reason to reject fan mail unless it's inappropriate which yours wasn't. All I can think of is, being British, she might not appreciate the concept of fan mail. Since the Beatles they haven't really had any occasion to use the term 'fan'.
Re/ insulting the Government, maybe that is almost impossible to do. They are so good at insulting the opposite side in Parliament. Anyway it seems the only opinions politicians really care about is what the press think of them or might say about them.
BTW If someone says words to the effect of - I am following you so follow me, I tend to ignore that type of fan mail.
Oh you can't insult that lot, we try it all the time and it's water of a ducks back. Our illustrious leader left his baby in a pub, (he thought somebody else was taking care of it, apparently loads of people do it). Huh? Press had a field day and he's still swanning around being a complete moron. If a whole nation are rude about him what chance do you have? I'm a British ex-pat by the way
For me, I think the rudest I have been treated on this site in a similar way was recently, when I wished someone All the Best and Get Well Soon.. after they had stated in a hub that they had just come through an operation. They just completely ignored my (and another's) genuine wishes and continued to communicate with others!
So... I got their message loud and clear and in return, my message is... "if you read this Please Delete my post on your hub... because the value of it's true meaning was lost in your empty reply!"
Sorry, but as a British person I can only say this statement is utter rubbish. I have never heard of this being a problem before with British Hubbers, and it could just as easily have happened with an American, a Russian, a Frenchman, or in fact any other nationality of Hubber. To make out it is to do with a nationality is ludicrous!
I won't go into details, but I was a fan of another member, and I encouraged others to read his work, but, sadly and inexplicably, he made completely untrue accusations against me, and insulted me several times, until HP finally dealt with the matter.
As you say, a complete shock, but that's life on the 'WWW', I suppose.
Of course you surely ensured that you made a whole raft of derogatory remarks rubbishing that party and his work.. Surely? ON HIS HUB!!
I don't believe the other party appreciated the flattery attached to the 'whatever' similarity to his previously published work! I am well aware that that particular party has had his ideas and content style 'copied' by many 'hubbers' and others... many of whom followed him - perhaps for that very reason!
Interesting result though... but it appears from your post here that it still 'smarts' huh?
Maybe it's possible that she just might not have moderated her fan mail yet? You did say that it's her first fan mail. Maybe she doesn't know how to moderate yet, since she is new here. I never knew if we get a notification when our fan mail is denied. I'm curious now. Did you get such a notification?
My idea is that she may have not moderated her fanmail. There is no way to know if she denied it without she stating that. If she is new she may not know how to moderate the fan mail just yet. Why would a new person deny a compliment? Makes no sense.
If she is new to HubPages, which by the sound of things she might be, perhaps she does not understand the concept of following, fans and fanmail. Some people are wary of connecting with people online, perhaps she tought you were a stalker or a spammer.
I deny fan mail when it includes statements asking me to follow the person back or to take a look at their Hubs. And recently I went through all of my fan mail, back to the dawn of fan mail, and deleted any messages from users who show as now being banned.
I do that with comments in hubs too. HubPages doesn't report a broken link when a Hubber is banned. So I need to review comments from time to time by following the link back to their profile. Relache has a good point, I need to do that with my fan mail too.
Glen I thought the link automatically was removed when a hubber leaves HP. I have tried clicking on such links and they are no follow so I leave the comments as visitor links. But removing them is something to think about.
That's a great idea Relache. I have unfollowed banned people but haven't deleted their fan mail. Thanks for the idea. I too hate when someone leaves a fan mail and ask me to follow them, check out their hubs or leave a link.
There's always the thing, too, about hitting the wrong button by accident - especially for someone who's new and hasn't run into enough "accidents" to know to slow down. Some accidents can be undone. Some can't.
I reject quite a lot of fan mail. If I don't think it is genuine, or if it doesn't fit with the messages I want to show on my feed - I don't bother with it. Yes, it's a bit rude. No, I don't lose any sleep over it.
I admit playing the look at me and love me game for the first part of my 'career' - now I just want money.
I feel foolish for asking this question now. I always thought my type of humor is misinterpreted on black and white 1080p or whatnot. Like mentioning British people. More of an attempt at self-effacing humor; portraying myself as an ignorant American, scared of all the Brits he's never met.
Joke is on me for trying to joke with the humorless(mostly anyway)
Complete ingratitude, hmmm.... do you think they should be thankful for your work? As for being rude, why is it rude? She has complete freedom to fan whom she wants, same as you. Just because you fan her it doesn't mean she must fan you as well; only fan those whose writing touches you in some way. It's okay if your writing doesn't touch her or isn't loved by someone, there are always others that will love it. I say she hit the wrong key, but now you've un-fanned her, so she may be offended.
What comes around goes around, don't forget, while you're unfanning people.
Personally, I'm far too busy going to tea with the Queen to moderate fan mail. Not to mention all those spying missions for the Home Office, and car chases in black Aston Martins, all while I'm wearing mini-skirts and knee length boots. Such is the life of the average British subject. Busy busy busy. Sigh.
Quite possibly she clicked the wrong button accidentally. It happens, but if she was defanned, maybe she could have questioned it. Also being new could have caused her to make an error. And pointing out that she was British? what the heck does that have to do with it? You may have acted in haste my friend. LOLLLL
I suppose it narrows the field of likely suspects down a bit.
We do have such odd ways you know and we have been this way for so long that it is really difficult for us to change. Oh wait, maybe that is not a trait of the British but the English. Anyone for afternoon tea and a game of croquet? Shall I make the cucumber sandwiches or go to the red telephone box at the end of the street and invite the guests?
This might seem weird, but maybe it's the SEO thing. She may be a very great writer or SEO person, but there are a lot of self-titled "Gurus" out there. Maybe she wants to avoid the "SEO writer" cliche.
I helped a company out with their website a few years ago because it was not search engine friendly. They put a fabulous write-up on my LinkedIn page and I have it set to hidden. While I totally appreciate the compliment, I don't want people to think that I've given myself the title of "SEO guru extraordinaire" because I reallllllly don't think that's an accurate picture of me. The company's website just needed a little help.
But yeah, your comment seems innocent. I'm just trying to figure out a legit reason someone would deny it. A bit of a stretch because one little mention of SEO shouldn't hurt.
Maybe she accidentally denied it. Or maybe she thinks you're kind of cute and her super jealous husband might think there's something between you because of your comment. (You know those crazy jealous types.)
Or maybe she thinks she's terrible at SEO and didn't deserve such a nice compliment.
Mel, you make a good point. Since Google changes what it wants so often, it is difficult for anyone to take the label SEO Guru. There are guys out there who sell expensive programs because they are self proclaimed SEO Gurus, and theit advice doesn't work because Google changes things up so often.
Treat it for the instance it happened and move forward. I have two hubs that are ***cking awesome, but the traffic on them is shite, complete shite. Do I have heaps of comments on them? No. Are they in the top ranking for SEO? no. I KNOW they are awesome hubs, even if other people don't give a rats arse.
You cannot please some people some of the time and the best suggestion is not to take things personal.
The moment you do you won't last long with this site or similar ones. Write it off and move forward. There are more important concerns anyway
Yes, that is correct. On HP followers used to be called fans, but then it was changed to followers which many felt implied a kind of creepy stalkerish person shuffling around after them like some kind of zombie. Unfortunately HP stuck with their decision and fans became officially known as followers instead.
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