Advantages of Counting Your Blessings
The title connotes some religious advocacy; well religious or practical doesn’t really matter, does it? We are talking here about how we handle situations at hand as we continue to journey in this life.
By the way, what exactly does “count your blessings” mean?
This reminds me of the question, made by another hubber here in HubPages which has this effect, “…how does your life turn out in your 60’s or so?”
Most answers have similar implications such as “…my life now is not the one I hoped for or dreamed of…” then followed by; I got a better life than what I dreamed of, my life turned out to be a mess, and so forth.
I did a lot of introspection and reviews of what I had been doing in my life for the past 58 years. I found that there was only one defect hence it can easily be dismissed in my horizon but the blessings are countless.
The defect is in my marriage; well I am not married to myself so I have no control over the other person. It’s not my fault (alone, if I am at fault at all like everybody wants to believe that in every divorce or marital separation, both parties contribute to the failure of such marriage) if within the period of our marriage my partner had a dark secret such as being a womanizer and can’t help himself siring several bastards with several zero moral and cheap women; the delicious promiscuous mothers of his bastards.
But that is the only defect and there’s nothing else to talk about in that subject hence the sweetest part of my life is to dwell on the blessings that I am enjoying now.
By the way, before going further, it’s very tempting again to ask the question,
“Why should we count our blessings?”
Common sense, when you count, you start with one then two, and increasingly to infinity. You don’t start counting from the infinite down to one; infinity is obviously measureless, mysterious, is beyond the beyond.
We are counting blessings here so we exclude the negatives.
If you count your blessings, naturally your blessings will increase along with the counting therefore more blessings will come along and join in to be counted too.
Believe it or not blessings are mysterious such that they seem to have a mind of their own; they all want to be counted on and be included in the counting process by those who are counting them in their lives.
Let me illustrate; I will use my experience for emphasis then you can try to see your own life experience in the light.
Like I said, my blessings are countless in number but I have favorite four major blessings to count; these major blessings have branched out over the years in each of their respective categories. I will dwell on the present major ones.
My Five Major Blessings to Count
1. Beautiful Personality;
a.) spiritual
b.) intellectual
c.) physical
2. Responsible and Beautiful Children
3. A Loving Husband
4. A Loyal Best Friend
You notice that I only include in this example of counting my blessings, the four most important persons in my present life. Well, four persons, including myself will be five.
I consider these four people angels in my life. Some of the most important tasks of angels are to bring good tidings of blessings as well as protecting us from harm.
Whether you can believe in angels or not, doesn’t really matter, I am talking symbolically here. People who surround us with good energy such as being inspirations for us to feel good and to make us creative will be considered “angels” in their own rights.
1. My Beautiful Personality, a blessing to my love ones;
It may sound conceited to the majority but I should go on in my self-evaluation and self-assessment if only to emphasize my point.
I may have come out in to this life as a result of a secret love affair but that is not my own intent. What is important is what I made out with myself so that I can thank God and the whole Universe for allowing me to create myself into the person that I am now. I have “an angel” within me that wants to be counted too, as the number one, the starting point in all my counting system.
Therefore, I My Self, is the first blessing I can count and along with this is the counting of all the good things I had done to bless my love ones too.
2. Responsible and Beautiful Children (two children, son and daughter)
a.) My Son
He is my pride, my crown, my inspiration and joy together with his three lovable children. A reminder of success and abundance in this life.
b.) My daughter and her lovely family.
A reminder of the loveliness and sweetness in life; don't you feel blessed if you have a daughter like her? Proud Momma speaking here.
3. My husband...though far away, we chat every day.
He is the epitome of love, forgiveness, meekness, compassion and patience. My heart beat and the "wind beneath my wings." Such a blessing into my life, even in my old age, he is the manifestation of the "promised blessing" even if my "hair is grey."
4. My reliable and credible best friend for almost two decades now.
Nothing in this world can bargain the value of friendship that Ma'am Veron and I had stumbled for ourselves. She is my sounding board, and must be my angel or my sister in the other side of existence in all the Universes. Our friendship is beyond description. She is definitely, a very special blessing into my life. We bless each other and our blessings multiply between us.
What blessings am I counting now and what advantages or benefits do I get in doing so?
Let me see the whole thing:
First, by acknowledging myself as being so (like how I assessed my self-value as the number one or the starting point in my counting) I can also acknowledge the values of my love ones.
The bottom line is that they become a blessing to me because I see their worth as I see my own. If they are a blessing to me then my blessings would be multiplied from the blessings that they also invite to themselves.
Can you see the point?
Let me elaborate more and cite my son as the example.
My son is a blessing to me because of the obvious reason; he is my first born and my own. But remember that he is just number two in my count, I am number one. And since I am number one and I am a blessing myself therefore, I take care of my son and nurture him in the way that naturally mold him towards the blessedness of his mother,(me).
My self-assessment of my self-value naturally passes on and down to the person closest to me. I only have to do the initiative and everybody around me catches the spark of a good energy that would turn them into a blessing to me and to themselves most especially. They become a blessing to themselves in which they pass it on to their children and everyone close to them. Can you now see the infinity of counting your blessings? I am just citing my son only as an example, I had not done it yet to many, many more around me who are also blessed.
A blessing when said casually can be a "Good Luck" or a Lucky Charm, or a Fortune and lots more like these.
"What you sow is what you reap", hmmm, another sensible application, isn't it?
Count your blessings now in this manner and you will be spending the rest of your days in high spirit.