Are Children Educated At Home Properly Socialized?

"Until the great mass of the people shall be filled with the sense of responsibility for each other's welfare, social justice can never be attained. " Helen Keller

What does "social" means? Let's read some definitions:

  1. Living or preferring to live in a community rather than alone.
  2. Denoting or relating to human society or any of its subdivisions.
  3. Of, relating to, or characteristic of the experience, behavior, and interaction of persons forming groups.
  4. Relating to or having the purpose of promoting companionship, communal activities, etc.

Many people are not familiar with the realities of the life of a child educated at home. These people are always questioning about the home schoolers proper socialization. Many people wanting to interfere with homeschooling have no clue of the reality in traditional public and private schools. Others don't have children to know what educating a child really is all about. There are those that frozen in time, are evaluating education systems without stepping on a school yard or entering a classroom since "once upon a time".

What does "socialize" mean? Let's read some definitions:

  1. To place under government or group ownership.
  2. To make fit for companionship with others; make sociable.
  3. To convert or adapt to the needs of society.

Children educated at home are properly socialized

Many families choose to educate at home to guide their children to a healthy and positive socialization, avoiding the negative socialization found in some school settings. Some of those are:

  1. bullying - To treat in an overbearing or intimidating manner.
  2. peer pressure - Influence that those of the same group can have on each other.
  3. blind ideas - Without seeing or looking at logic.
  4. immoral rules - Unrelated to moral or ethical considerations; non moral.
  5. anonymity - One that is unknown or unacknowledged
  6. conformity - Action or behavior in correspondence with socially accepted standards, conventions, rules, or laws that could become into a conformism; who uncritically or habitually conforms to the customs, rules, or styles of a group (such as: gang members).

Studies confirm that the home schooled children live their lives in a natural social environment of family and community. The home schooled children develop healthy social skills through the womb unto the tomb. They gain this from the model of their parents and other adults in their community and through sharing with other children of all ages in diverse environments such as: playgrounds, shopping places, church, group support, public libraries, etc.

Socialization is from mother's womb to the tomb
Socialization is from mother's womb to the tomb

Qualities of a socialized person

How do we evaluate a socialized person?

It will depend on the moral values of each individual, as the person acts responsible toward the awareness of the norms, rules and customs existing in society. The person will make decisions respectfully upon their own, and society's welfare. Living around others will demand cooperation to subsist in this world in a harmonic way.

Independence is one of the highest levels achieved in any educational process. A socially independent person will know that life is about daring into an adventurous scene. Home schooled children gain social skills to perform as a healthy socially independent person.

Final observations

"History will have to record that the greatest tragedy of this period of social transition was not the strident clamor of the bad people, but the appalling silence of the good people. " Martin Luther King Jr.

This hub was written with the purpose to defend and help homeschooling families with the "socialize issue"; also to educate those without knowledge in the theme.

Below is a list of links that will help explore more about the issue of children being educated at home with proper socialization.

Blessings to all!


© Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

© 2012 Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill

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sadie423 4 years ago from North Carolina

I read a blog recently about responding to the question of socialization with "Aren't you worried about anti-social?" I am a homeschooler, and I don't worry about socialization. My kids are living in the world, they experience it, they meet others and they aren't conforming,learning disrespect or experiencing all those negatives to socialization.


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SmartAndFun 4 years ago from Texas

This question can be answered accurately only on a case by cases basis. Every child and every homeschool situation is different. There is a little boy who lives next door to me who is homeschooled. He is "properly socialized" in that he is a sweet little boy who behaves well in public, gets along with others and makes good choices. However, he does seem lonely. I think he depends way too much on my son for friendship. He is usually waiting outside for the school bus to bring my son home every day, hungry for someone to play with, although he knows my son must first come in, have a bite to eat and do his homework. He often waits outside on our porch until my son can come out to play. Last week my son was gone for the day, and this little boy came over repeatedly, asking if he was home yet. So, just because a child is well socialized doesn't mean he is not lonely. I think perhaps the adults in this boy's life should try harder to widen his circle of friends. There are many boys his age who live just a block or two away, but my neighbor does not allow her son to venture off of our block or go to school, so his social circle is very limited. I do not know whether or not she has made an effort to introduce him to any of these other nearby kids, but it does not appear that she has. Like I said, this is one case. I have friends who homeschool very successfully and have their children enrolled in plenty of ongoing, year-round activities that allow the kids to make friends their age. But this particular little boy seems quite lonely.


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Froggy213 4 years ago from On A Mountain In Puerto Rico

This was another great hub and hopefully people will think before they judge others or try to take a speck out of 1 person's eye before they take the log out of their own eye.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

sadie423 thanks for the comment. One of my purpose for this hub is to respect decisions such as yours. May God bless you and your family.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

SmartAndFun thanks for the comment. Yes, every case is unique. I am a public school teacher and I have seen many kids lonely around a bunch of kids also.

My call is to cooperate with any wrong that is being done. To be part of the solution instead of criticizing ( I am not saying it is your case). We are talking here about children and some people are seeing homeschooling like an offense to society. Blessings!


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

It is good to hear home schoolers commenting as well as non home schoolers, because it contributes to the theme in behalf of our children. I had a comment in facebook and she gave me the privilege to post it in HubPages, since I think it helps the homeschooling community:

One of the main things people ask when you tell them that you are home schooling is about socialization, I tell them that the only time they socialize is during lunch and its only for 30 minutes. If someone is a mom of more than a single child they have it made in that area but when you have a single child, such as myself, it makes it more challenging. I have looked into various ways to get my son around other children and it's not impossible. I look for events that have children around, the library and the park. Another idea would be, exchange phone numbers with other parents you meet and set up play dates for the kids.

People have forgotten that at one time kids didn't go to school, they were educated at home and when the school system began, it was a single room school house. Today, teachers have become doctors and the system is very controlled. Parents don't have a say in what the kids are being taught and many are too tired at the end of the day to care. And when a parent speaks out, not only are they told to shut up but their child becomes a target and put under a microscope. My son went through allot, as a result of this environment and as a parent it was my job to do something about it. He is already showing improvement, he doesn't mind sitting and doing some school work this summer to keep his mind fresh because he doesn't have to worry about getting something wrong or moving a little too much in his chair and he likes art again because he's not scolded to color in the lines. This is a subject that is not talked about enough. Thanks for this great hub!


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Kathryn L Hill 4 years ago from LA

A fish has fins, so joyfully swims around. humans have brains... We LOVE using what we have! It doesn't have to be forced!

What a great hub.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Thanks again Kathryn L Hill, I like that fish saying!


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Cat R 4 years ago from North Carolina, U.S.

With the issues in many schools today, educating children at home almost seems like the better choice. If I had the option and my children wouldn't miss out sozializing with others (we don't have very many neighbors), I would do it.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Cat R, If homeschooling seems a good alternative, socializing is something that comes from any other place except schools. I am a teacher and schools do not provide exactly for it. Children socialize better in parks, stores and bus lines; those normal life routines. Thanks for your comment.


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Cat R 4 years ago from North Carolina, U.S.

I guess I am being the issue with that. I am not necessarily a social person. And with college and a fulltime job, there isn't much time to go anywhere; especially living out 'in the bushes'.


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

I was not living out 'in the bushes' until I heard an invitation to my son for a bike ride. My son answered that I did not want them in that area and he replied..."Oh, your mom won't know". Then I took them to live out 'in the bushes'. If we work and our lifetime does not provide for having parental control...God is so wonderful that provide us with "bushes" to help. God bless you and your family Cat R.


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Cathy Fidelibus 4 years ago from NJ

I love this hub! I am a homeschool mom of three boys.

Socialization is the first question people ask me. If only they knew. Over the years I have often felt like I lived in a house with a revolving door. There is always someone coming and going, children, parents, classes . As much as I love it, I sometime welcome the silence. :O) - Ms. Immortal


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Lastheart 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Cathy Fidelibus thanks for the comment. Congratulations for being one of the braves mom, may God bless your journey.


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Wacky Mummy 3 years ago from UK

Great hub :)


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Lastheart 3 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord Author

Wacky Mummy thanks! I love your pseudonym.

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