Are you in favor of sex before marriage?

Interestingly, before writing out this hub today, I have done a lot of research and had conversation with a lot of my married and bachelor friends on "sex before marriage". Those friends of mine are both boys and girls between ages 18 to 30.

I asked each one of them one single question "Are you in favor of sex before marriage or pre-marital sex? The views they had given to me on this are really amazing. Every friend of mine has got a different view. Do you want to know what are their views?

You said Yes............isn't it? I think you are very tempted to read out all the views, which my friends have given on this really controversial topic.

So here are their views:

Gautam, a 20-year-old student said, "if I go into a grocery store and want to choose a good apple, I can pick it up and I can look at it. I would be pretty upset if the person in front of me started taking bites out of apples and putting them back in order to see if they taste good. Having sex before marriage is taking a bite out of the apple before committing to it (buying it). Often it means leaving it for the next person. When I have sex with someone before marriage, it is quite likely I am having sex with someone else's future wife.

Lets answer this poll and find out how many people say yes and how many say no

Are you in favor of sex before marriage?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Depends
  • I am neutral
  • Do not know much about sex
See results without voting

Sex before marriage yes or no

Love is vital than sex or not?
Love is vital than sex or not?
It is not premarital sex if you have no intentions of getting married.
It is not premarital sex if you have no intentions of getting married.
Enjoy love.
Enjoy love.
Be happy, share your views with your partner.
Be happy, share your views with your partner.
Do you favor sex before marriage now.
Do you favor sex before marriage now.
Premarital sex
Premarital sex

Premarital sex or sex before marriage

Vishwas, a 29-year-old garment manufacturer, said "sex is meant for pleasure... if both of them are enjoying it, then there is no harm in doing it, but I personally feel physically involving with someone will lead to more strong emotional involvement with your partner. If you really love him/her, it will increase your commitment and loyalty towards him/her, but if you are doing it for screwing purpose only, then both know what they are doing and let them decide.

Sameer, a 26-year-old physical therapist said that according to me, sexual intercourse before marriage is vital. I have not been engaged in premarital sex and I have suffered the consequences of that. Actually, my partner and I both did not know "how to do sex" on the first night of our wedding and it took around 7 days before our first successful shot. Some people might feel it is funny but I am seriously telling you it is not a joke, rather it is too discouraging and irritating. So according to me, you must know how to perform sex on your partner on the first night so that the pleasures of your first night and your honeymoon are not destroyed.

Megha, a 23-year-old phlebotomist, said that I can tell you from my experience that sex before marriage will ultimately damage your sexual relationship with the one you do eventually marry. It is much wiser to wait and experience that person and have that person experience you for the first time without expectation of things that were before.

Rishi, a 25-year-old medical rep, said that see it is not altogether "important" but here is a thing to be considered that after marriage while having sex with your spouse you might (most probably you will) actually compare your previous sex experiences with your current ones (with your spouse) so it might happen that the level of satisfaction might differ and in case you were more satisfied previously than here a problem arises, since you are not getting fully sexually satisfied with your spouse and then it rings a knell for your married life...

Shrijeet said well good sex is a nice thing for the body! The way of having, when, where, and how totally depends on individual interests! What is right for one maybe wrong for others, so there is no need to discuss on this issue. It is up to you and only you can find out whether you are sexually active, at your own risk. If this is your way, then it is right for you and proceed.

Amit Bajaj said there is nothing wrong in pre-marital sex. Even the couples don't marry each other after having sex and their spouses get to know about their sexual lives before marriage, so what is wrong in it? Nowadays more than 60% guys or girls are indulged in pre-marital sex. It is an open secret now.

So these were some of the views and comments on this topic from my friends.

Now, you might be wondering that why I am just sharing these views with you and why I am not disclosing my own view. No problem. I will tell you what I think about sex before marriage.

First of all, I will tell you something about myself. I am a 28-year-old professional in transcription services, working in the same field for the last 8 years. My take on sex before marriage is that I think that a person should engage in sex before marriage with a different partner if the person has got that courage to disclose this to his/her partner after marriage. What I mean to say is that you should not feel ashamed after engaging in premarital sex. You must know that you and your married life will not be spoiled if your married partner will get to know about you that you had been involved with some other person in the past. If you have those guts and think that it is reasonable, then go ahead and enjoy sex before marriage and if not, just sit back and forget about it.

I would like to say at last that I have published these views after taking permission from my friends and all the views including my views are just views, not a recommendation.

So please do whatever you want to do, as it is your personal life and you are a better decision-maker.

Is sex essential before marriage? Lets find it out in this video - Beware real.....

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Comments 135 comments

Winnie 7 years ago

Must appreciate the thoughtfulness of the writer on this so-called forbidden subject. Hope this is educative enough for many..


subhas 7 years ago

I just cannot stop myself from appreciating this article as thoroughly researched and imbibed with useful contents. A must read for every1 who r stuck between yes or no.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks Winnie and Subhas for the appreciation. I think it would help people understand this topic in a better way......


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mistyhorizon2003 7 years ago from Guernsey (Channel Islands)

Interesting article. Personally my view is we should have sex before marriage with our partner to be. After all, what a problem you would be faced with if you left it until after you were married, and then found out you were completely sexually incompatible, e.g. he or she liked sex in a way that you found abhorrent, or one of the couple had some weird and kinky needs in the bedroom such as liking being whipped. Once you are married it is basically too late, so better to find out first I reckon. :)


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for the comment mistyhorizon. I agree with you it has happened with a lot of my friends.


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dingdong 7 years ago from South India

It's a matter of individual wish, but in India we have to live for the society.

Interesting hub!


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Paraglider 7 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

Anyone answering no to the question has to accept the consequence that someone who never marries, but would like to, is forced into lifelong celibacy. Not very sensible.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Paraglider- Those who answer NO may have their own reasons hence it totally depends on each persons background, beliefs and values. Whether they get married or not that is totally another issue. Hence on such issues there is nothing like sensible or insensible.


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Paraglider 7 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

Everyone is entitled to answer no for themselves but not for anyone else. I should have made that clearer. It's perfectly fine to choose celibacy for oneself, but only for oneself.


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quicksand 7 years ago

Just before, or long before?


sohail 7 years ago

yes i agree sex is essential before marriage


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Ralph Deeds 7 years ago

Ideally sex should be more than a purely physical act, but rather an expression of love for another person not undertaken casually or lightly but with a full understanding of the potential unfavorable consequences of indiscriminate casual sex--unwanted pregnancy, STDs,, emotional hurt to one or both parties--as well as the potential favorable ones--strengthening the relationship, phyisical and emotional pleasure, etc. Moreover, it should be undertaken willingly by both parties who are mature adults, not forced on one party by the other. Most people agree that increasing teen sex is not a desirable trend because of the many problems associated with it.

In the United States couples are waiting to marry until their late 20s and 30s before marrying which makes it unlikely that they will wait until marriage for sex. It's becoming more and more common for couples to live together for a period before marrying instead of marrying at 18 as was common in previous generations. This may result in better, more stable marriages.

BTW, thanks for the funny video!


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Ralph Deeds 7 years ago

Another thought--I answered the survey "It depends," consistent with St. Thomas Aquinas's maxim:

Seldom affirm.

Never deny.

ALWAYS DISTINGUISH.

This maxim can be applied to the issue at hand by answering the following kinds of questions; 

1. How old are both partners?

2. Are both partners informed of the potential consequences of sex?

3. Are both partners willing to have sex or is one partner forcing the issue by making the continuation of the relationship contingent on having sex?

4. Are both partners willing to accept pregnancy as a possible consequence or are they practicing birth control.

5. Is sex contemplated in the context of a monogamous, loving relationship between the partners in contrast to "hooking" up after an evening of excessive drinking?

And so forth, which is why I was not able to come to an either/or answer to the question posed by the Hub.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Ralph- Thanks for the nice perspective and detailed analysis.

Paraglider- The various reasons may also include not just oneself.

I don't know if my views sound "stupid" but here they are:

Just like marriage which is a strong bond of trust between a wife and a husband hence extramarital isn't appropriate.

Premarital is strong bond of trust between parents and their child.

And also according to my hindu background and beliefs here is some more information:

1) First of all when the bride's father does Kanyadan to the groom (there is an implicit understanding that the bride hasn't had any physical association with any man including the to be husband before marriage).

2) The Second custom is where the guy also pretends to go to Kasi yatra(for practising austerities) and the mama (from girls side elder) stops the groom and tells him to give up your brahmacharyam(celibacy till that time of marriage) and we will give you a girl.

I know it's an ideal situation but those are my views. I agree in today's day and age where everyone wants to appear to be one with the times and getting married late it's difficult to adhere to certain customs.


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jimmythejock 7 years ago from Scotland

Try before you buy is a good principle to live with.....jimmy


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Paraglider 7 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

countrywomen - when all concerned belong to a particular tradition, and all accept the mores of that tradition, there's no problem. However, such societies are probably becoming less common.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Paraglider- I was just stating my personal background and thinking. Btw all my cousins(girls) including some of whom, who have got married have subscribed to similar beliefs. I don't know of a statitistical survey to prove or disprove whether it's common or uncommon now. I am not advocating it for others but just stating my position.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Oho.......great. I was away on vacation for two days and what I have seen a lot of comments and my hub has just become an online discussion forum. That is really inspirational for me that I have written something which is useful for the society and the internet community. By the way, thanks countrywomen, jimmythejock, Ralph Deeds, Sohail, quicksand, paraglider, and dingdong for visiting my hub..


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quicksand 7 years ago

Soni - you think it's over? You'll get a million more visits this year ... you mark my words! :)


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Paraglider 7 years ago from Kyle, Scotland

Ah, but countrywomen - if your sisters all look like you, they would know that plenty marriage offers would certainly come along :)


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks quicksand for the appreciation.


joula_vegh 7 years ago

I don think..... but well depends how ur partner do wish


ABDULGANIYU OPE 7 years ago

Thank you for your advise, but as to me it depend on every body on how to live his or her live. From my own perspective looking it is not advisable to practise sex before marriage, i had seen many case where partner who had limitless affection [sex] later disappoint one another just because of a little missunderstanding, my view is that if they had not sex each other,thise little missunderstanding can not cause disappointment to them because they will still be prescious to one another. Even God said in his word that bed should undefile.


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GoodRead 7 years ago from usa

I am definitely in favor of sex before marriage. It does depend on the people though and I would consider waiting in the right situation. But in most situations you want to test drive a car before buying it, just be extra careful.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks Joula , Abdulganiyu, and GoodRead for your helpful inputs.


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countrywomen 7 years ago from Washington, USA

Paraglider- Thanks for the compliments. FYI, Yes they did get good offers...hehe.

GoodRead- There is a lot of difference between humans and cars. Please don't compare apples to oranges.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Yes Countrywomen you are right, there is a whole lot of difference between humans and cars and apples and oranges and human is not made to test drive before buying, as it is a living being.


Rajat Issar 7 years ago

Sex before marriage, hmmmm, I agree with it, as I have already done it. It is really enjoyable but depends on individual differences.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks Rajat for visiting my hub. Yes sex before marriage depends entirely on an individual's own wishes. Thanks for the comment.


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naresh_19812000 7 years ago from New Delhi, India

gr8 informative hub mate....keep it up...!!! i will go for it....completely in for sex before marriage....


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks Naresh for reading this hub. So your take is yes for sex before marriage. Can you tell me what are the factors that have led you to consider premarital sex.


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livelovecoffee 7 years ago from Georgia

In favor - I think you need it in order to last like those cute old couples the females in our lives putter over. I mean how can you really know someone and be passionately in love with them if you have never been passionate? and if you haven't been passionate, are you really in love? I don't think the sex is everything but I do agree that you are truly giving that the closest part of "you" that cannot be shared, defined or expressed any other way. If are not satisfied in that state...you will never be satisfied with that person.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks livelovecoffee for expressing your unique view about sex before marriage.


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Mr Nice 7 years ago from North America

Well I don't know but what happens after people get married ???????


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MADphilips 7 years ago from Lagos, West Africa

Nice article and the responses from your friends were great.

Thanks.


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xxx girl 7 years ago from pune

yes i agree


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks MAD philips and xxx girl for the comments.


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pankaj3625 7 years ago from Delhi

I am glad to see so many comments on this topic. Soni, you write gr8.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thank you once again Pankaj for taking some time reading out this hub.


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babarushe 7 years ago

Sex before marriage is a global controversial issue among the young and singles.

This is one great challenge that is consistently and rapidly destroying the moral domain of most singles. Its impact is much felt among the teens.

I am an assistant coordinator of a Youth Organization and we engage in a workshop every second Sunday of each month on any issue affecting singles.

I must confess that the question that recalls often is that of sex before marriage.

We see young men and women cohabiting before they exchange their marital vows. They want to know if they are sexually compatible and that is the foundation of their marriage. Most girls insist that the man must have them to ascertain his sexual power and expertise before exchanging marital vows.

Young people spend more time in petting, kissing, fondling of bodies, which usually get them into trouble than in any viable activity. These acts are normal and accepted by the society but the effects are rejected.

I have seen girls give birth to children especially in the developing countries who they abandoned in the gutter, street corners, motherless babies homes, and granny or aborted, and many of them thrown out of schools. This is a daily occurrence in my locality in the part of the world I live.

The most painful part of it is that these children are left on their own and no wonder they turn to be street urchins and gangsters engaging in all sorts of crime -robbery, prostitution, theft, rape, as to survive. No parental care and instruction. They attach little or no importance to human existence. Many become street hawkers. It is disheartening.

I know a guy who contacted gonorrhea when he was 20 years old but was poorly treated. The sickness resurfaced 20 years after in which the entire body fluid was corrupted. He died in the process.

Another young man entered a lady once and came out with STD. Unfortunately that was his first time on sex.

Most young men have used it to trap some girls on the pretense of marriage which is an issue in the developing world of Africa because it is believed that a lady is not fulfilled until she gets married to man no matter her wealth and educational background.

Engaging in Pre-marital sex is like sitting on a keg of gun powder. It is a loaded gun waiting to explode.

I don't encourage it among the singles.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks babarushe for your useful comment. So we are getting so many great people from different streams of life over here. Mr. Babar is an assistant coordinator of a youth organization and his viewpoint is really concerning about the sensitivity of this matter.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

So friends up until now around 149 people have voted on my poll and here are the results.

Are you in favor of sex before marriage?47% Yes 32% No 15% Depends 3% I am neutral 3% Do not know much about sex

149 people have voted in this poll.

Right now also, the majority of people have voted on "Yes" so what you guys and gals say about it. Do you agree now that sex before marriage/premarital sex is okay?


Wedding Reception Centerpieces 7 years ago

Amazing hub page good work!


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks wedding reception centerpieces (very long username) for visiting and appreciating this hub attempt.


mahesh0709 7 years ago

Yes i agree that the sex before marriage is a inportant part as it is necessary . It let us know that how capable we r to satisfy our partner on bed.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks Mahesh for adding your opinion to this hub.


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Anamika S 7 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

I do not favor sex before marriage. I am also not in favour of extra martial affairs. Well... then that's me.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

That's really good on your part Anamika, even I am against premarital sex or extramarital affairs but there are many people in this world and everyone has a different view looking towards life and how they carry their relationship depends on a personal point.


Wedding Reception Centerpieces 7 years ago

Really nice hub page and question. My answer is that I'm in favour of sex before marriage.


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linjingjing 7 years ago

Funny article


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

So wedding reception centerpieces is also in favor of premarital sex. Why not you vote in the poll above regarding the same.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks linjingjing for your comment. Yes sex is funny but also serious at the same time because one false step can lead to crisis.


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paulkoson 7 years ago

Are you in favor of sex before marriage

I like your hub. I think it very good.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thank you Paul. So are you in favor of sex before marriage or not?


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apeksha 7 years ago from India.

I am not agree with that , it varies from person to person but in Indian culture, we have to live with scocieties rules.

Now these things are changing in Metro cities with living relationships.

But then marriages will come to an end...

So I don't think that don't sleep with anybody before marriage.

Thanks soni for writing on this subject..


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thank you very much apeksha for expressing your lovely view on sex before mariage.


dead married man walking 7 years ago

Every man should get as much sex as he can before marriage. Because he sure as heck won't get any after!!


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for expressing your take on sex before marriage, dead married man.


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Which4u 7 years ago from Leicester, UK

Sex can bring emotions flooding in that we didn't expect, in which case I don't think it's right to have sex with somebody you don't love, but this is one of many morals that is fading in today's changing societies


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

A very nice comment which4u. I agree with you.


confused_girl 7 years ago from Gurgaon, India

I have done that and suffered the consequences. Don't do that. That is my recommendation.


Chiks 7 years ago

very good subject,i will tell you later


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Okay chiks


Shah Jahan 7 years ago

Before Marriage.... It's Ok Yar


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infocity 7 years ago from United States

kyaaa likha hai sir g..... waah waah.....

good work.....


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks Shah Jahan and infocity for your comment and remarks....


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jimmy03 7 years ago from NY

well i depends upon situation...........

I m nutral..


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks Jimmy for your response.


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beautyrose 7 years ago

Hi can you please help me find a virgin man for me cause I don't want a very much used knife already hehe. I enjoy reading your hubs. The way I look at the answers of your respondents is that many dislike having sex premarital sex.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Though I am not a virgin but my knife is in good shape and is sharp. You can try that. jokes apart. Thanks for your comment beautyrose.


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sufyan_majeed 7 years ago from karachi

hay beautyrose!

i am virgin, i don't have any experience about sex!!!!!!!! i thin ur search has been completed.


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Very nice Sufyan.


Free Sex Tutorials 7 years ago

No i am not in favor of sex before marriage


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for adding your view friend.


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Drew Breezzy 7 years ago from somewhere in my mind

pretty interesting differing view points


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Yes they are. That's the unique thing about this hub.


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rizrazi 7 years ago

Due to my religious teachings and restriction; em not in favor of sex with any male or female but only with my life partner


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soni2006 7 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for adding your view point on premarital sex.


dr abhijit 6 years ago

I m not in favour of premarital sex or any extra marital relations. in such cases u r cheating ur partner. the partner, who always have faith on other. so friends always say no to premarital sex or any extra marital relations. thanks.


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks a lot doctor for your thoughtful comment. Premarital relationships and extramarital affairs are gaining heights nowadays and need to be monitored and controlled closely.


kaceybabe 6 years ago

they try before you buy :) x

but however i could never sleep with somebody i have no feelings for, and i wouldn't sleep with someone for the one off. i love my partner and we are not married (not yet but soon) i plan on spending the rest of my life with her. i have and will only sleep with her. x


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Hi kaceybabe, you have shared nice views over here. Not many people have the power to say these things. I respect your views. Best of luck for your relationship which is full of honesty.


jacky 6 years ago

Before Marriage.... It's Ok Yar


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for your comment Jacky. Nice view about sex before marriage.


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NadiraHayar2009 6 years ago from California

I really liked this analogy "Gautam, a 20-year-old student said, "if I go into a grocery store and want to choose a good apple, I can pick it up and I can look at it. I would be pretty upset if the person in front of me started taking bites out of apples and putting them back in order to see if they taste good. Having sex before marriage is taking a bite out of the apple before committing to it (buying it). Often it means leaving it for the next person. When I have sex with someone before marriage, it is quite likely I am having sex with someone else's future wife." I agree


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

"When I have sex with someone before marriage, it is quite likely I am having sex with someone else's future wife." That's the main point of view. Thanks for the very good read and comment.


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Destiny1991 6 years ago

FAVOUR NOT


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for the comment Destiny.


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prm.peddada 6 years ago

MARRIAGE IS FUNCTION PERFORMED WITH THE INTETION TO UNITE TWO SOULS WITH PUR MINDE SETUP AND HAVING INTENTION LIVE BOTH WITHOUT ANY HURDLES IN LIFE, THE ANXIETY WILL BE LOST IF GO TO DO SOME THING BEFORE MARRIAGE , I KNOW THE YOUNGER GENERATION ARE EGER TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENS WHEN ? THIS QUESTION WILL BE AROUSED IF CONFIDENCE IS THERE SO I DO NOT AGREE WITH THE VIEWS EXPRESSED TO HAVE A PRIMARITAL SEX.


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for such a useful comment from an experienced elder person on sex before marriage, yes or no.


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sexeducationnow 6 years ago

Interesting indeed. I think its an individual opinion. Also guys should stop being hyprocrite - expecting their wives to be a virgin, while not abstaining from sex themselves is like tooooo much.


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

I think you are right sexeductionnow because many guys think that they can involve in sexual relationships with any other girl but when it comes to choosing their life partners, they need virgin girls.


same 6 years ago

Choice is determined by the disadvantages and advantages

Most premarital sex reflect the things every practitioner to believe it's the way that were going to have sex after marriage if the marriage did not materialize, so it's better to be the marital relationship which is not reflecting the feelings and emotions that are reflected by the previous


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for your understanding and comment same.


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martycraigs 6 years ago

People are certainly vary opinionated about this topic, approving or disapproving of sex before marriage. You have presented a wide variety of opinions in this Hub, which makes it very nice to read. I think many ends of the opinion spectrum are covered here, and I certainly agree with many of the comments...and disagree with many others. I think sex before marriage is fine, if not good.

Thanks for posting about this topic.


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Your opinion is also really good Mr. Marty Craigs. Your view is on the safest side. Thanks a lot for a good read.


Holy Hunter 6 years ago from Alberta, Canada

Sex should be between 2 people who truly love and care for each other. sex is to be treated seriously. a lot of people treat sex a a casual thing, meaning they have se with whoever whenever. Personally if you hold out till marriage and then have sex, that's even better. however people play around way to much. if you ask me, diseases are out of control because of to may damn people having sex for the wrong reasons.

anyways that's my rant, peace out.


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

So as explained in great detail by Holy Hunter, my view again is that it depends on your personal decision whichever route you wanna go.


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Diane Inside 6 years ago

What a bold question. Well for young people teenagers and possibly early twenties, I think it doesn't hurt to wait if you can. Especially if you want to weed out the ones who only want sex. But as we get older It might be different. I think sex should be in a committed relationship whether your married or not that's my view.


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Tanks for the review Diane Inside. Though I published this hub a year or more ago but then also it is as fresh as it was at that time.


syaqoob 6 years ago

good topic... well I think one should wait til marriage and if you are too desperate then get married sooner.


bushaft 6 years ago

Sex is not allowed before marriage for both sex


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks for your comments syaqoob and bushaft.


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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA

I find this a good topic. I wrote a similar hub on "non fail guide to finding a partner and good marriage"

I agree w/ the 1st two views. The 3rd sounds absurd- 7 years to be able to enjoy sex in marriage? come on!


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Yes I agree with you on this schoolgirlforreal. I will check your hub.


jagan 6 years ago

i don't think sex is essential before marriage.... those who have sex before marriage really they are good for nothing


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Christianadam 6 years ago from Manila, Philippines


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soni2006 6 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thank you Jagan for sharing your views on this issue.

@Christianadam for sharing the link to that article.


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Liberate 6 years ago from Jesus Loves You

I've Spoken To People With This Issue; And Many Have Stated It Was Simply A Huge Mistake; And They Regret Having Sex Before Marriage. I've Recently Talked To A Female Who Claims She Lost Her Virginity To Someone Who Refuses To Marry Them.

Life Is Unexpected. You Can Go From Deeply in Love; To Hatred In Less Then A Week. Events Cause Heart Break; And Sex Is Simply Something That's used Inappropriately; Once Losing All Self-esteem; Respect For yourself; The Creature We Try To Hide Breaks Free.

This Subject Is Simply A Heart Break In My Eyes; The Idea Of Giving Myself To A Person Who'd Treat Me Like Nothing And Continue Abusing The Gentle Love I Provide Is Just Despicable. Yes; I Would Enjoy Giving The Person I Love Pleasure; I Have Soo Much Passion Inside Me; I'd Live And Die For A Girl.

Though; Bottom Line Is; I'm Very Young; Even If I've Been Hurt Multiple Times; I Shouldn't Give Up On Love.

I Just Don't Want To Be Hurt Anymore; I Haven't Even Been Kissed; I'm So Weak Inside; I'll Never Awaken From This Nightmare; I'm Standing On The Edge Of The Knife.

I'm Alive To Be Able To Help Others; I Pray You're Able To Learn My Words.


Ralph 6 years ago

Sex before marriage?

I have been married 3 times, and I had sex with all of them before we were married of course, that is why I married them why would I marry a woman who wouldn't have sex before we were married for the simple reason she probably wouldn't want to have sex. After we were married and then I would have to go out and hire the services of a young lady and run the risk of acquiring an STI.

And once upon a time many many decades ago there was a survey in regards to married couples and that was scary. The number of married couples that still have not had sexual intercourse and I'm sure that is still happening truth is stranger than fiction


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Liberate 6 years ago from Jesus Loves You

I'm Simply Trying To Help My Soul Find Salvation; Continue To Have Faith That My Prayers Will Be Receive; I'll Rest In Peace.

I'm Here To Help Society; I'd Sacrifice Everything; Just To Idolize For One Person; I'll Give Myself Just To Be Able To Help Someone.

I'll Give My Body To A Person Who Loves And Cares For Me; If That Person Even Exists.


use a wedding planner for your special day 6 years ago

"i don't think sex is essential before marriage.... those who have sex before marriage really they are good for nothing" - oh cmon amish friend !


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babarushe 5 years ago

This is an exciting hub. It is actually one of my principal areas of writing and speaking at seminars and workshops of singles.

I have written a book on this titled The Irony of Love, Premarital and Extramarital Relationships"

The damages of sex before marriage are not exciting at all apart from the spiritual warning.

I had a lady friend who was hooked up to a guy for marriage. Incidentally, things went sour and they parted. I remember that one problem that made her recovery very difficult was that she gave her body to the guy who later dumped her for another girl who invariably stayed clean with him until marriage.

I have a blog dedicated to this issue at http://www.singlesmarried.blogspot.com


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freeenglish 5 years ago from Brisbane

The expression 'life's so short' is used so often, though a portion of the people who use that expression will also say 'wait till you're married', it defeats the purpose of stressing how life is so short. What are we waiting for and why should anyone wait unless they're really not interested? I should also add that life without sex is unhealthy and yes that's a fact, sex is well know as a stress release.


chetan 5 years ago

I do not favor sex before marriage. I am also not in favour of extra martial affairs. Well... then that's me.


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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest

a woman needs to be comfortable with it and herself emotionally before having sex before marriage. When a man has several sexual experiences before marriage be thinks those experiences are the norm when we all know, sex before marriage is differen than after marriage, not saying better or worse, but different. If a man expects his bachelor sex to be as exciting and stimulating as his sex life will be during marriage then this is where sex before marriage can damage his expectations.

I think sex before marriage can be put into two categories; casual and relationship sex. Totally different.

Great hub and topic.


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ashumann 5 years ago from Dhaka

If i get someone whom i would really love, I think it is no crime to have sex with her being agree both.


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TravelinAsia 5 years ago from Thailand/Southeast Asia

Do people actually get married before having sex? Really? Why?


Curt Z 5 years ago

No, I am not in favor of sex before marriage. Some people chose to wait. Sex is designed for a "married couple." It was created by God. And having waited myself, it made for an awesome honeymoon. If your having sex before your married, then what is the point of getting married. You are already enjoying all the benefits of a marriage. I guess then it's fair for the girl when she gets half your stuff as a settlement. To wait to have sex until after you married only seems like the best option. And really it should be the only option.


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Carl B 5 years ago

I believe people should wait until marriage to have sex. God's law!


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mojefballa 5 years ago from Nigeria

Interesting piece of info in here.I think that sexual intercourse before marriage is very vital so that it will so much help you in knowing the type of man you are actually marrying in terms knowing the mans ability in bed.If he is on the high energy drive or the the low energy drive.Reason is that if you yourself is on the low energy drive and you eventually marry a man that is on the high energy drive without knowing,that marriage is a few steps from divorce because of ignorance.


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TheMonk 5 years ago from Brazil

I have said this once and I say it again: people think too much. Do what feels right for both of you. I had sex with my wife 3 years before marring her. It was awesome. It only increased our passion for each other.


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soni2006 5 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Different people have different views. This debate will go on since the end of times.


sai marlakunta 5 years ago

I totally agree with sex before marriage, Its our own personal life i don't like involving family here. Its my life and we are adults, feel free and do what ever you like. what i feel is, anything should not cross limits. As far as this issue is concerned, if two individuals are ok with it, they can totally njoy no wrong in it. Because there is no point if you don't respect your own feelings. Screw this culture ...that's what i feel


Santosh 4 years ago

Very good discussions here.i was married last year. few months after marriage my wife disclosed that she had made sex with a guy before i came in her life while i even never kissed any girl.it hurt me a lot.though i did not left my wife but i think she had bluffed me.she spoiled my life.we talked hours daily on phone before our marrige but she did not tell me it before.whenever she is away a think she is in the arms of any other guy.i am so hut that can have a heart attack.sometimes i want to take revenge by making love other girl bût i know it is very difficult that any girl wants to make a married man.frns i want u to help me.i will be very thankful to u.9128220364 is my number and my email id is santoshwisher1@gmail.com .pls help me.


Mad_Chap 4 years ago

Nothing wrong , before marriage, sex is for pleasure & after

it is pleasure + responsibility..


Jerry D 4 years ago

If it's SAFE sex before marriage, and the two people have been in a long-term relationship with the determination to get married, then I agree. Also before they get married, both of them should take the STD tests to really make sure that both are clean.

When they do get married, then they can have the real RAW sex using an appropriate contraceptive method to prevent unwanted pregnancies. Obviously, safety comes first before the fun. Now, let's suppose that one of the two suddenly decide not to get married during the late phase of their relationship because of the other's recent bad lifestyle habits, but both have been practicing safe sex with each other. While they will be emotionally hurt even after they separate from each other, they have greatly reduced the chance of getting STDs that could have been fatal in their life.

Lastly, I know this is a little bit off-topic, but here's the biggest problem. What is it? Cheating. We humans are not machines; we make mistakes. We sometimes randomly want more than what we have. Some people will do anything to have better raw, un-safe sex, so they cheat and lie to their girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse. So even if you think your relationship/marriage is 100% perfect and safe from STDs, you might be not. And I'm not saying that you must have 100% safe sex even if you are married. I'm saying that you really should be very careful in choosing who you are marrying to live together with forever.


John 4 years ago

Apparently there are a lot of opinions on this subject. Most are based on personal opinion. I have to say as someone who believes in a Personal Creator who spelled out pretty clearly how to honor Him in this subject (wait until you're married), we should base our choices on His opinion. I've been guilty myself in my past so there's 4 fingers pointing back at me. Since we all fall short, there are no guarantees, but I think our odds of sustaining a long lasting, loving, healthy relationship are a lot better if we abide by His opinion. I think there's real Truth in this matter, but I know there will be many who disagree. Don't shoot the messenger. I now have hope that I won't screw it up in my next relationship because of the relationship I have with the God that holds me accountable.


Gautam 4 years ago

I was orthodx before i met my ex girlfriend. I was in favor of not having sex or before marriage. After i met my ex i thought if i am going to marry this girl then whts wrong in having sex before the formality of marriage?

I was with her for 3 long years, we had sex whenever and wheerever we got some time and little privacy. I was ok with it until i broke up with her.

Now i realize that it has become so emotionally hard to forget her.

Morale of the story, sex before marriage makes relation all the more serious and intense and if gor for bid it doesn't works out then it hurts and it hurts a lot.

I stil love her but she wants to enjoy her life.


rinni dobiriyal 4 years ago

m in favour of sex b4 maariage in case of love and if u r taking precautions..of course dis is just a part of luv and if both the partners are agree wid it,den there is no problem..so don't think much abt future,everythin vl b ok wid tym..live ur present wid ur loved one...


swati dhal 4 years ago

sex is vry essential 4 youth age ..

take it easy ...............(jajpur town.....Judi)


Joy 4 years ago

Personaly, i am against sex before marriage.I(a true believer in Christ) happened to date a guy(a devoted man of God) i fell deeply in love with. Unfortunately we broke up. Now we are back together again with serious intentions of getting married in future. He has proposed that, to get more compactible and endorsed into our relationship, we should have sex; just for once. Mr. Authur i really don't want to lose him again and i feel i should give in to please him and keep the relationship going. I want to go the christian way too, please i need an advice.Thanks


jesus 4 years ago

do it. but trust me once you've done it once it doesn't stop there ;)


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soni2006 4 years ago from New Delhi, India Author

Thanks a lot for your comments friends and making this hub lively even after so many years. Still the question is there, Are you in favor of sex before marriage?"


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trusouldj 2 years ago from Indiana

I lost the battle with sex before marriage. However, I do believe that people should wait. For instance, a girl who is sexually active will cry if her period is late. The girl who isn't sexually active, doesn't care ... It's just late.

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