BEING THANKFUL CAN TAKE YOU OUT FROM THE HARD SHELL OF NEGATIVISM
Quitting in difficult situations will keep us hanging and uncertain about our capabilities. Overcoming tough moments make us stronger and better person.
"I hate this job!... I hate the people in the workplace!... I can't continue with this job anymore! This job is ruining my health!....I am at lost! I always commit mistakes in this job! My finances are down!"
These are exactly the words I heard from my friend for one continuous week of talking via phone every evening as he was driving his way home from the office. Actually he just landed on the job for three months, leaving his previous job where he worked for five years. He was realizing the difference between his new job with better salary but more works and pressure, and the previous one with low salary but with manageable time and minimal responsibilities. He was so depressed and annoyed, and despite tremendous explanations and encouraging words from me, he remained firm in his impulsive decision of quitting his job. Then, I acted like a mother nagging to his son who didn't want to go to school.
His attitude was like a virus of contagious ailment. The next day in my workplace, I found my boss unreasonable and some of my colleagues irritating. I begun asking myself, what do I get from my job? I started feeding my mind with negativism about the things I want which I dont get.
I was having my late lunch at 2:00 PM when my phone rang. I never expected a call from my friend since I know he is supposed to be at work with his ass sticked on his chair and eyes burried on his computer monitor in his office. My friend told me he did not come to office as he finally decided to send his resignation. "Crazy guy", I said."You should come to office till the notice period is finished". He said, "I know, but I don't feel well and Im not comfortable working there anymore". He hanged.
What came to my mind was his wife and daughter. Are they ready to bear the consequences? Will he go back to his country? Suppose he starts a business of his own, for sure difficult situations will also be there, it is part of life... Ah, anyway, it is their lives...let them carry their cross...it was his decision..or maybe their decision (him and his wife )...For all I care!!! I have my own problems to bear and I hate my job too...I should mind my own business!
Out from the office heading to the lift, something sparked in my thought! Is it my left or right brain working now??? oh, this time it is not the contagious anxiety and negative thoughts. Shouldn't I be thankful that my friend cares enough to share with me his troubles and major decisions in life, it may be right or wrong? And yes! He is a true friend that he told me what he feels, what he fears about, without minding if I will think bad or good about him? Coming out from the lift that evening was like coming out of the shell of negativism...
Thanks God! Of all his negative whinings,there is really one good reason to be thankful!! On that night I wrote an e-mail for my friend, saying thank you for sharing to me his problems. It made me feel I'm an important person.
From the word thank you, some more thoughts sparked in my mind, and I continued writing reminding him that there are a lot of things for which he should be thankful.
Yes, his job is tough and he should be thankful that he is getting new learning experiences that will make him a stronger and better person.
He must be thankful that he was hired for a good paying job.
He must be thankful that his parents are still alive and can guide him through.
He must be thankful that he got a nice brand new car.
He must be thankful that though his financial condition is tight now, he has a nice house in his country which was a fruit of his hard work.
There are thousand reasons to give thanks... His wife and daughter are the most worthy of all reasons why he should be thankful..
And of course, as a bonus I was there for him as a friend.
Few days thereafter I saw a miss call on my mobile...I returned back the call, and my friend was in such a happy voice. " I had a meeting with the boss and he said I am efficient and I have done excellently well for the company. They will give me another post with better working conditions. My colleagues are more friendly now. I will not quit my job."
I pondered that if I joined him in complaining about the same fate we had in our jobs, it would have been more tedious and depressing. Conversely, it was a delight to always see something to be thankful about. It strikes away the negative thoughts. I even more realize that quitting in difficult situations will keep us hanging and uncertain about our capabilities. Overcoming tough moments make us strong and better person. Whether or not I have been one of the reasons why my friend's wind direction change, it doesn't matter anyhow...I have multiple of reasons (to the nth power) to say that life is beautiful...
Finally he said, "Thank you for being supportive, you were my strength."
Just few simple words which kept me delighted and positive...
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