Be Different!-Be Authentic-Be Not Normal- Be Successful

Be Authentic

Dare to be Yourself!
Dare to be Yourself!

Life is Like a Box of Chocolates!

Dare to be Yourself!

Normal people do “normal” things. Normal people are like putting your hand in the sink filled with water – when you pull out your hand – it is as if you never made a difference. Nothing has changed.

What is normal?

There are those who choose to be “normal.” If this is what fulfills them and satisfies their needs, so be it. This article is not for them. We need everyone. We need “normal” people! We also need the “abnormal” people!

“Every normal person, in fact, is only normal on the average. His ego approximates to that of the psychotic in some part or other and to a greater or lesser extent.” Sigmund Freud.

I understand the term “average.” Normal people are average people. They do average things. They live in an average house with 2.3 children with their white picket fence. There is no true “average” person. Average is a composite. Some of us may be average in a small paradigm, but not average given the full range of possibilities.

For this article, average is the stereotype “blend” of Joe and Sally. They do average things; enjoy average fulfillment and average happiness.

To be Authentic is not for the Faint-of-Heart

Weired people perform profoundly… They perform “out-of-the-box.” Weird people create history. Weird, abnormal are so egotistical they think they would be a good president. Weird people create and discover new frontiers and applications.

Not-normal people are often ostracized. They are singled out, and/or subject themselves to extreme pressures to be “normal.”

Success Must be Defined

It has been stated one must work hard to be successful. Of course, this is not true. The harder you “work,” the less money you make. An example, the ditch-digger works harder than the real estate agent, or banker. The less work you do, the more money you make. It is a pyramid. The ones who work the “hardest,” are on the bottom with the above layers created by the degrees of “hard-work” performed. Bankers would probably be at the top! The offset to hard work is responsibilities.

Notwithstanding the few “skews” in statistics, the banker has much more responsibilities than the ditch-digger. The more responsibilities one has, the more money you make.

Is money success? Nope. Each of us must determine what success is. For some success may be having more choices. Others, success is to be authentic. We each have our drumbeats. We get to decide.

Examples of Weird People – Dared to be True to Themselves

Daniel Shechtman of the Technion -- Israel Institute of Technology in Haifa, Israel was awarded the Nobel Peace in Chemistry for 2011. His discovery was extremely controversial. In the course of defending his findings, he was asked to leave his research group. He dared to be himself. In 1982, he discovered a unique quasi-crystal (a not possible- non repeating crystal) and 19 years later he is acknowledged as a genius. Albert Einstein is another example… Galileo was led before the Inquisition, "shown the instruments of torture," and invited to recant. He did, but was kept under house arrest for the rest of his life for his theory the earth revolved around the sun.

Bottom Line: Be Yourself, and Enjoy the Process

Life is a process. I was born poor. I lived in a two-room house with an outdoor toilet (outhouse). I did not know I was “poor.” I enjoyed making my toys. Am I better off than one born with a “silver spoon” in their mouth? Nope. Each of us have “built-in” positives. Each of us has our life “tools” to apply to our construction of our “Yellow Brick Road” of life success.

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TheManWithNoPants 5 years ago from Tucson, Az.

Dallas,

What a positive message. It's funny, my wife and I were discussing this a few days ago. There was a special "The Life Of Dennis Rodman" on the tube. I've always been a fan of his and Amy can't stand him. Me? I love the people that bring color into this rather grey world. Ali, Barkley, Prince .. there's a lot of them. I may not want to be close friends with some of them, but I'm sure glad they are around.

I don't know what made you think of this subject, but I'm glad you did.

jim


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA Author

TheManWithNoPants,

Jim, you got me thinking about your passion to make a difference. You are not "normal." This is not good, or bad. Then I read (I am sometimes a nerd) in one of my science magazines about the guy who just won the Nobel Peace Prize in Chemistry... A truly run against the grain guy. His persistance vindicated him. We are in similiar states of mind. We have chosen to be ourselves. We are passionate about it. With our choices comes responsibility, risks, (flip side rewards) and an awareness of our possiblities...

We need everyone. Including sometimes the "bullies." The bullies may provide impetus to us to get off our butts to make a differences.

Most of us have similiar "challenges." Our resilience makes the difference. It is how we respond to our challenges that defines our own definition of success...


femmeflashpoint 5 years ago

A very good article, Dallas. Freud was definitely not in the circle-of-norm, and yet he made it to be one of the most common sources to be quoted in psychological descriptions, lol.

Growing up without indoor plumbing must not have been a bad thing for people who didn't know any different. My great-grandparents didn't have an indoor privy on their farm in Kentucky until I was 18-years-old. Even then, my great-grandmother thought the whole idea was a silly and pointless expenditure. However, her caregivers didn't, and a bathroom was installed.

If she were alive today, and read this article, she would be in complete agreement with you, as am I. :)


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA Author

femmeflashpoint,

Thanks!

We get to decide what our "normal" is...

My roots have served me well. Others with the same background may use their background as a "brake" to not take risks, to not dare to be themselves, to not be "normal." It is not for the faint-of-heart!

My brother poured cheerios down our grandmother's well and they picked out the cheerios from the well bucket for a month!

I am going to do an "Intent" article this moment. I have put off because this creates a need to reflect and think. I have a "lazy brain. Intent is very powerful and can be a trememdous tool if we are in "sync" with our intent...

An example: If I were to create a business with the "intent" of making money. It would probably fail. Most businessmen do not know what kind of business they own. Most would reply when asked, "What is the reason you are in business?" They would reply, "To make money."

Money is a scoring system. Simple. No more, no less.

If one were to know what their intent is doing their business... everything would be focused and more profitable.

An example:

I sell cars. Selling cars is not what I do. I provide opportunities and benefits to and for people.I create lifestyles, I enhance their lives, I provide utility, freedom of movement... and etc...

More to come...


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Alexander Mark 5 years ago from beautiful, rainy, green Portland, Oregon

"Weird, abnormal are so egotistical they think they would be a good president"

That is so profound, at least to me, I never thought about that but knew the instant I read it, it was true (after I stopped reading it, it became untrue of course).

Thank you for stating a truth, your abnormal is my normal, and vice versa - Rainy, cloudy weather makes me happy and sunshine depresses me for example.

But I especially like that you compared the level of hard work to pay, and how the less you work, the more you get paid - the only difference is the amount of responsibility. Lately I've been considering buying rental real estate - and the weird thing is that landlords only have to sign their names to a loan and put down a relatively small down payment. Yet many people would rather work every day and just rent because it's "safer" And that's how the rich make their money - the illusion of prosperity for the poor is a lack of high responsibility. You don't often see a rich person who can't get back on their feet after a financial crisis - but there are thousands of people struggling to find jobs and places to live who live month to month.

My brother once pointed out that in certain regions of Alaska, it is normal for a young person to get a pilot's license because airplanes are needed to get around. So even though it is way more expensive to get one than a driver's license is, they consider it just as routine as getting a driver's license is for us.

It's all about perceived consequences, and my normal and my prosperity is a perception as well. Thank you for pointing that out. This is actually quite timely for me, because it is encouraging me to think outside of my "paycheck by paycheck" box.


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA Author

Thanks for your comments. Interesting fact: it is easier to borrow a million dollars than one hundred thousand... I once got a $1.7 million loan 30 years ago in 15 minutes... Simple phone call.

Think about getting a loan for more than you need and payments with more time than you need.

Leverage is great, but is a two edged sword. You can make more money, but also loose more...

Real estate is great. I have lost millions twice doing this...


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Majadez 5 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

I loved this and agreed with everything here!

In my opinion, success is both being authentic and having choices. Anybody can have both - we all have freedom of choice and one of those choices is to be genuine rather than follow the status quo. A friend of mine always says that "normal is a cycle on the washing machine". There is no true "normal". It's just a shame that people choose to stand together because of their similarities rather than to embrace and nurture each other's differences.

I'm really enjoying your hubs - brief but thought-provoking and heart-hitting! :)


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA Author

Majadez,

You summed it up! "...success is both being authentic and having choices." I had to learn the hard way... I thought money was success. I made millions, lost millions three times... I am a "hard-head." I now understand what money is. To me, money is a medium of exchange for goods and/or services. Money can buy choices as you noted. I learned money does not buy "happiness."

I learned happiness comes from within... Being as you noted "authentic."


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Majadez 5 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

I also used to think that more money equalled more happiness. I unlearned that one as a kid. The more my dad worked, the more money we had and the less we saw him, thus the more unhappy we were. I realised recently that money is just a tool. It's exacly what you say it is - an exchange medium. Instead of giving one form of value directly for another form, we've created this measurable process of monetary figures in between. It complicates things and misdirects people's intent, but that's just the way it is for now...


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA Author

Majadez,

Good comments!

It does not have to be, "that's just the way it is for now..." YOU get to decide!

Money is what YOU want it to be! You are the master of YOUR universe...

Money is like the ocean. The ocean can be many things... It can kill you. It can provide a means of transportation, It can provide recreation, It can proved a "home" for marine animals.. The ocean's utility is decided by its users...

Money can be good! You decide...

Perhaps somepeople's lack of money is their "root of all evil!" To others, it is their excess of "money" that destroys them.

The dynamic utility of money is for each of us to decide... One-day-at-a-time...


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Majadez 5 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

Hi again Dallas. ;)

I agree with you. I just meant that the monetary system in itself is just the way things are for now. It is indeed what you make of it. I just think that people "personify" money too much. They make it an end rather than a means. That's what I mean by a complication...


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA Author

Majadez

Thanks for clarifying. We determine the "complication." The fact others may "personify" money is a challenge that others may have created. We get to choose...

Thanks again for your comments.


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thelyricwriter 5 years ago from West Virginia

Dallas your right. If you want it, you have to go out there and take it. No one is going to give it to you for sure. You are an influencer and you strive for everyone to be the best they can. Your comments influence me and for that I thank you. You make tons of great points. Don't settle for being normal. Well done sir.


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA Author

thelyricwriter,

Thanks for your comments. There is another hub article I wrote about "intent."

Your intent can and does make a difference. If you make a commitment insync with your intent, the "pieces" will come together...

Be aware and alert! You can and will make a positive difference...

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