How Being From a Small Family Leads to Self-Actualization
The Correlation Between Being From a Small Family And Being Self-Actualized
How does being from a small family lead a person to be self-actualized? In the small family environment, there are fewer children for parents to focus on. This translates into parents having more time and energy to devote to the nurturing of a small number of children than they would if they had a large number of children.
Parents of small families usually have more financial resources allotted to expose their children to varied cultural and intellectual activities such as overseas and educational trips. In addition to these activities, children from small families are more likely to be exposed to professional theatre, opera, fine restaurants, and museums. In small family culture, parents place paramount importance on cultural and educational activities while strongly emphasizing intellectual achievement.
Parents of small families have plenty of individualized time to interact with their children on various levels. As a result of this individualized parental interaction in the small family, children in such environments interface easily with adults. Children in small families also gain adult skills such as advanced vocabulary, intellectual, social and mental maturity earlier in life.
Children in small families are also inculcated as to the importance of the higher human needs such as culture and appreciation for beauty. In the small family culture, children are constantly taught that there are needs beyond the basic rudimentary needs of food, clothing, and shelter. As a result of such parental teaching, children from small families are highly cultured, refined, and appreciate the finer things of life.
Another afterthought of the individualized attention received by children in small families is an acute sense of self correlated with high self-esteem. Parents of small families view their children as important parts of their lives. Children in small families are highly respected and cherished by their parents.
Parents of small families thoroughly enjoy being and interacting with their children. These factors cause children from small families to feel that they are an integral part of their families. As a result of the individualized parental attention present in small families, children learn to appreciate and regard themselves. In addition to having a very high dosage of self-love and self-respect, children from small families have the self-confidence which helps them know what they want out of life.
Parents of small families teach their children to be high achievers in various aspects of life. In the small family culture, there are unwritten expectations for the children to attend college and/or posgraduate school in addition to obtaining a professional job and/or career. For example, William Jefferson and Hillary Clinton always encouraged their daughter, Chelsea, to achieve excellence in academics. The Clintons further encouraged Chelsea to pursue cultural actiivities such as ballet and horseback riding. She was a prodigious student which resulted in her attending Stanford and later Oxford University. She later attended New York University, earning a Ph. D. in Health Management. She worked as a research analyst in a hedge fund. She is currently a news reporter.
Another example of small family excellence is Helen and Milton Williams, both music teachers with Masters Degrees from Milwood, New York. The Williamses instilled into their two children, Vanessa and Christopher, the importance of intellectual excellence, cultural achievement, and possessing self-confidence. Both children today are well renowned celebrities with Vanessa being a quintuple threat-actress, singer, dancer, author, and now having a skin care line. Both children are also extremely self-actualized in that they refused to settle for less than what they could be.
Children in small families are taught never to settle for the scraps of life whether it is relationships and/or careers. They are taught to obtain their fullest potential and their parents are willing to help them achieve their respective goals. They live in the best world possible.
I know this firsthand. As an only child, my parents exposed me to a myriad of cultural and intellectual activities at a very young age. I was listening to classical music as a youong child. I also attended opera recitals, concerts, and fashion shows. From the time I was a young child, there was an unspoken expectation that I would be attending college and/or postgraduate school. I also knew that I would have a career, not merely a job.
I was also instructed never to settle for second best and to be extremely serious in achieving my goals. I was inculcated to be a perfectionist and to use my utmost potential. My father taught me to appreciate books and learning in addition to having the better things in life. He constantly admonished me to be BETTER THAN AVERAGE and not to live merely at the basic survival level.
In summation, parents of small families have more physical, emotional, financial, and psychological resources allotted per child. Furthermore, in small families, parents can spend more individualized time with their children, interacting with them at varied levels. Parents of small families view their children as joys to be around. As a result of such individualized attention from their parents, children in small families have a high sense of individualism and self-esteem.
Because of the socioeconomic affluence of the typical small family, children are routinely exposed to the higher human needs such as appreciation for culture and beauty. They are taught that there is more to life than just mere survival, food, clothing, and shelter. From this familial environment, children from small families are inculcated of the paramount importance of the higher human needs. Since children from small families have a high sense of self,the concept of self-actualization is not a foreign to them, but a natural part of life.
Children from small families are taught to be high achievers in all areas of life. Since many children from small families are socioeconomically affluent, they are more likely to obtan the highest education and career goals possible which makes it possible for them to be self-fulfilled. They are encouraged by their parents to be self-actualized by using their utmost potential and not to settle for less than they could be in life.
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© 2010 Grace Marguerite Williams
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