Teaching Children To Become Champions

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What Makes A Champion?

Champions come in all ages and sizes. My Brother is a champion. My best friend, Julie was a champion. My children are champions. Many of you who are reading this are champions. Children become what they learn in most cases. And if wer'e lucky, they also learn what they're taught. But children learn the most by example.

The key word here is children. The earlier we begin to teach our little ones correct principles, the more likely that they will grow up living these principles. They will seldom grow apart from them.

The single most important thing to teach children is to believe in themselves. This is the foundation of every champion.

Focus On A Child's Strength

Teaching with patience and gentleness.
Teaching with patience and gentleness. | Source
Focus on the strengths of the child, not the weaknesses
Focus on the strengths of the child, not the weaknesses | Source
Avoid scolding instead be understanding
Avoid scolding instead be understanding | Source
Teach forgivness
Teach forgivness | Source

Stepping Stones And Baby Steps

Let's examine some of the stepping stones for teaching a solid and positive belief system.

  • Focusing on the strengths of the child. Make this a consistent habit. Be specific as you compliment a child. Generalities are too vague. This is true at any age, including adults. Ex: " You are so strong " - wrong. ( why am I strong?) Instead, address the action - " I see that you are able to carry heavier bags of groceries. You're getting stronger ." - right.
  • Making sure your expectations are reasonable. Expectations must be directly associated with the age and maturity of the child. Unfair and difficult expectations bring possible negative results. ( failure). The child's self esteem is built on his successes, not his failures.
  • Give the child positive encouragement. Children who receive encouragement in a consistent manner, develop confidence in themselves and do better in life.
  • Praise the child often. Honest praise is positive feedback and re-inforcement. Again, be specific and try to praise the action or deed. The child will try to live up to the praise. If more than one child is in the room, address the other child or children in a positive manner so they don't feel left out. You never want other siblings to feel ignored or unappreciated for what they bring to the table.
  • Realize that each child is different. Respect the difference and teach accordingly. One child may be musical or mechanical. Another may excel in sports. If you prefer sports over music, keep that to yourself - or vice versa. The beauty of being different must be nurtured.
  • Never criticise one child in front of another. This is a huge mistake. You are only inviting feelings of anger, embarrassment and resentment from him. This is an area which most parents really need to work on.
  • Listen to the child. When the child is speaking, do not interrupt, correct or be busy doing something else. They deserve your full attention and feedback. You are teaching them how to listen to others by your example.
  • Offer children opportunities. The attention span of young children is short. ( It is in some adults as well. ) Offer variety, giving them the opportunity to discover and explore.
  • Teach your child good values. Being a good example is a sure way of instilling lasting principles. I taught my youngest child honesty at a very early age. Today, a grown man, he demonstrates integrity in every thing he does. Even a trip to the supermarket assures me that one of the bags of food will include a receipt and exact change. I love it!
  • Never lie to your child. When you tell a lie, you are demonstrating that lying is acceptable. It is not! Trust is one of the most valuable characteristics we can acquire. Trust is born from being honest and incorporating integrity into every area of our life.

Teach Children To Appreciate


“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviors. Keep your behaviors positive because your behaviors become your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny. “ - Mahatma Gandhi

Today's society is severely lacking in appreciation. Children will not become little champions if they are not taught to appreciate. Think of all the things that warrant appreciation.

  • Family
  • Health
  • Food
  • Shelter
  • Friends
  • Teachers
  • Animals
  • Nature
  • Planet
  • God
  • Income
  • Clothing
  • Transportation...the list goes on and on.


In Closing - Make EveryTeachable Moment Count

" You yourself must be teachable if you are to teach" - Audrey Hunt

Humility is being teachable. We can be confident, knowledgeable, intelligent and still be humble.

Real champions have humility and are teachable. They set high standards for themselves. When they fail (and they do), they pick themselves up and begin again. When my piano students asked me how many times they must practice, my answer is always the same - " until you get it right."

I encourage my students to become champions, not for me, but for themselves.

It doesn't matter how many times we are given good advice, it won't help us one bit if we do not have a teachable spirit. If you can answer yes to the following questions, you then can be sure you are teachable and in return able to teach your children.

  • Do I admit it when I'm wrong?
  • Do I become defensive when I'm criticized?
  • Am I open to new ideas?
  • Do I ask questions?
  • Am I a good listener by listening more than talking?
  • Do I have self-discipline?
  • Do I give up easily?
  • Do you bring out the best in others?
  • Am I self-serving?

There is no greater calling than that of a teacher. I believe this with all my heart. It was my kindergarten teacher, Miss Butterfield that influenced my life the most. She made me feel loved and accepted me when no one else did. I was so frightened the first day at school, I wet my pants while sitting in my little chair. She gently took care of the situation so that no one would laugh or make fun of me. Then, she picked me up, held me in her arms and called me " sweet little Audrey June ." That was the only time I liked my name. It was the first time I felt something called " love."


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lisabeaman 5 years ago from Phoenix, AZ

You have a lot of great points, Audrey! I especially appreciate the ones on focusing on the child's strength. We do some things with strength training at work to try to combat the idea that we must always focus on improving our weaknesses. When we do that, we only become mediocre. When we focus on our strengths and work toward improving them, we can become champions. Great hub! Voted up and awesome!


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VENZKHVAM 5 years ago from Milk way galaxy, trying to find a more adventurous place in another galaxy with my great followers

Dear Vocal coach,

Excellent hub,i THINK THIS IS THE NEED OF THE DAY EVERY MOTHER SHOULD READ IT.

I REALLY SALUTE YOUR MOTHERHOOD AND THE EXPERIENCE FOR PUTTING UP AND SUCH A wonder HUB LIKE THIS. DONT FEEL BAD FOR PROFUSELY PRAISING YOU .I MEAN IT.

I always believe " mothers " are the one who shape the life of a person.

And you had amazing hub with all the needed advice in line for the parents especially mothers who is always at the task of shaping their children s except in the case of both are working parents.

I had pressed all the buttons to vote for you from vote up, useful,funny, awesome, beautiful,interesting, because today's children are tommorow's future.

I am following you with pleasure.

I would like hear from you in my other hubs you had not visited even though i had only 3-4 hubs to boast about.


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Cloverleaf 5 years ago from Calgary, AB, Canada

Audrey, I love your own saying that "You yourself must be teachable if you are to teach"; this is so true. We never stop learning and always learn something from every person we meet in along the journey of life.

You teach me so much from your hubs, so keep them coming!

Louise aka Cloverleaf :-)


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Venzkhvam - What wonderful and kind comments. Your feedback is important to me. Not for my ego, but for the way it confirms that I, in my small way, have supported our children - the future of tomorrow.

I also paid a visit to your "Goldilocks Grid" hub and found it well written and most useful and interesting.

Thank you, my new hubfriend for joining our hub family. I wish you much success and joy in this wonderful adventure.


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Ingenira 5 years ago

Excellent hub, well said. I like this quote from you :

"You yourself must be teachable if you are to teach"

If a teacher has such wisdom as you, her students are deeply blessed. I am sure your students are. :)


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dallas93444 5 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

Outstanding! "Awesome!" The term "champion" may have many meanings... We get to decide... Thanks for sharing.


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Mentalist acer 5 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

Honest Praise...The Gift Of Reason And Love.;)

Thanks For Sharing Vocalcoach.;)


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Mentalist - Isn't it strange? I learned the importance of most of this by growing up without it...except for the teaching. Both of my parents were by nature very good teachers with a passion. Thank you dear, exquisit man for your support and always enlightening comments.

Blessings to you always...


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

lisa - I love your comment, " we must always focus on improving our weaknesses. When we do that, we only become mediocre. When we focus on our strengths and work toward improving them, we can become champions. "

Wonderful, excellent words to put into practice. Thank you wonderful lady!


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homesteadbound 5 years ago from Texas

Great hub! I truly believe this, but like you I did not have it growing up. I grew up in an alcoholic home. Very good advice to any who would heed it.


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randomcreative 5 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

Very inspiring hub. Great advice for both parents and teachers!


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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

I must admit, this brought a tear. I know i was a good Mother but i could have been so much better, i'm hoping that we get a second chance, ( Reincarnation ) I remember my first day of school, i was only five. I didn't know my colors. We were given a paper with circles, under the circles were the words, red, blue, yellow, etc. I remember how bad i felt, the other kids knew their colors and made fun of me. My mother never bothered to try to teach me anything pertaining to school, because of that, i was too strict with my Son, demanding too much from him. I didn't mean to write an epic, but this really hit home. Thank you so much. The info. you've given is so important.


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Chatkath 5 years ago from California

So true Audrey, and no one should know better than you, someone who always sees the good! You are truly so special!

Rated up, useful and awesome!


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

cloverleaf - We are so alike - we both appreciate being able to learn valuable lessons from others. There are times when I think this is one reason we are all here - to learn from one another. Have I remembered to thank you lately for all of your support? You are loved!


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sergs_pogi 5 years ago

Wow. After some time, I am again given the chance to read one of your inspiring hubs. The video is awesome. You are really radiating with positive energy. Thanks, vocalcoach.


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Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

What a wonderful hub Audrey, bring on the Champions!

Keep your thoughts and words positive, stepping stones and keeping yourself teachable is all excellent advice, very inspiring!

voting up and everything else!


NanaOsman 5 years ago

That is very inspirational and the fact that parents should make use of every single idea of structured disciplinary acts is so challenging and overwhelming and having pointing out such great vaules for us to learn and start our journey for championship is priceless,thanks again.


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

sergs ~ How very nice it is to see you again. So pleased to hear you liked the video. We are all champions in our own way! Blessings to you!


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Denise Handlon 5 years ago from North Carolina

Fabulous hub, Audrey! Voted up/awesome/beautiful. I am like you-I believe in giving children love, positive reinforcement and building their confidence and esteem. What a fantastic video of that young singer with the big voice! I was touched by your comments about your kindergarten teacher. I have always told my children to be mindful of what they say and whether they recognize another person because sometimes it is just that one person's recognition that makes all the difference in another person's life.

What a handsome grandson you have. :) Hugs to you.


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vox vocis 4 years ago

These are really good tips on how to treat a child properly. Criticising a child in front of other people is definitely wrong. Not just a child, anybody. Why is it so hard for some people to wait until later and then say what's been bothering them?

I love the Mahatma Ghandi quote you've included in this hub. It's my favorite and I strongly believe in the message it conveys. Great hub!


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btulloh098 3 years ago from NC

I'm enjoying your hubs. I will pin this one. I have a toddler, so I took this all to heart. I definitely agree, and strive to do these things daily. I think my background as a special education teacher helps me to be specific with praise and to respect the child. Kind of goes hand in hand with my Montessori philosophy, now that I think about it. Great hub!


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Jasnav 3 years ago

Well, this is good guidance no doubt. Both me and my spouse have been wondering how to shore up the confidence of our 11 yr old, and your hub is right up there!

Thanks for sharing!


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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

vox vocis - You show much wisdom in your comments. Most people have not learned the art of self-control. This is a huge flaw in character and can do lifetime damage to another person. We also need to learn to separate the deed from the person and show love regardless. Thank you for being here and appreciating my hub.


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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

btulloh098 - Thank you for enjoying my hubs and especially for pinning this. Being a special education teacher requires a special kind of person. Your patience, love and giving character is in a class all its' own. I can't say enough about the magnificent difference you make in a child's life. You are beyond beautiful! So glad you're here on hubpages!


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vocalcoach 3 years ago from Nashville Tn. Author

Jasnav - I'm happy to hear that my hub is giving you some helpful tips. Praise works wonders when we remember to praise the action specifically. A big step to elevating self confidence. Thanks so much!


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FlourishAnyway 3 months ago from USA

You provide an excellent list of questions to ask oneself for those open enough to do it. As parents and role models, we are the foundations of children's lives. I am involved in a school booster club and as I learn more about the high school kids I support, sometimes I am really humbled to learn of their circumstances, challenges and backgrounds. Some of them are looking for for any adult to provide a positive influence in their lives. Even if it didn't happen from birth, we can impact positive change and be a source of inspiration, safety, and nurturing for kids who really need it.


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vocalcoach 3 months ago from Nashville Tn. Author

FlourishAnyway

Hello my friend...such a joy to see you here. Your comments are so in tune with the message delivered in my hub. As you say...as parents and role models we are the foundation of children's lives. How great that you are involved in a school booster club! How sad to learn that so many kids are seeking a positive influence. We all need to be aware of this need and provide it when we have an opportunity.

Thank you dear friend. Thank you.

Audrey

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