Charm School: 101 - Lesser Known Social Etiquette Tips
Etiquette was invented by bored nobels who had nothing better to do in the French Royal court during the 16 - 1700's. As civilization evolved, certain rules were adopted to separate human behavior and self control from primal, animalistic behavior. Pleasant behavior makes life easier and nicer for everyone. I have consulted the top experts in manners and etiquette for different social settings you may find yourself in, that could be unusual. I have selected different tips and entertaining information that I know will certainly assist for those, "uh oh moments!"
Tact is the ability to cope well in situations to avoid offending others. In some circumstances it is necessary to handle yourself with care in order to maintain good relationships with others. Office parties, dinners, meetings and any other gathering that forces you into the eye of the public will command that you know how to behave as more than a civil human being, but an entertaining and fun, easy person to be around. It makes other guests much more comfortable and it will endear you to the party host.
If you puke on someone - yeah, how to say sorry.
If you have offended another person an apology is necessary. Public or private, spoken or written will depend upon the size and type of infraction. If you have made a minor mistake such as stepping on someone's toe you may say, excuse me, while breaking a hosts Faberge Egg may require a written apology along with an offer to replace said object.
Do not apologize constantly, for everything. It is not necessary and can be annoying. You are not responsible for the rain so do not apologize for things that can not be helped by you.
Borrowing means asking first...Be an ask!
While friends often do not mind lending things out there are a few rules that always apply.
- Always ASK if it is okay otherwise it becomes stealing
- Return things in the condition they were given to you or better.
- RETURN the item you borrowed in a timely fashion. Do not force the lender to have to ask you to return their property.
- If you damage the item it should be replaced with a new or better quality than the item you borrowed.
- Do not be a chroic borrower. If you need the use of a product that often it is best you probably purchase your own.
Islam - Wife Beating Etiquette
Cross Cultural Etiquette
Prior to any vacation it is imperative that you research the country you will be visiting. Customs and differences can radically vary from land to land.
Remember, when you travel - you are a visitor and should behave as such. "When in Rome - do as the Roman's do."
If you travel to Islam...you may beat your wife but there is an etiquette! It would be rude to not know thigs such as - "you may hit her - but never in the face to make her ugly." Right - that would be so wrong. Also, you may only do this 10 times - so pick your battles seems to be a good idea. You don't want to beat your wife's ass for burning the toast when you are limited to only 10 whippings....I mean if I were an Islami wife on screw up number 11? I predict it would be a good one - I would do the worst thing I could possibly do considering we had passed the beating limit.
It is always OK to save your own life!
Save yourself, anytime.
According to, "The New Etiquette," by Marjabelle Young Stewart on Choking etiquette she adds a note:
"When dining alone, the Heimlich maneuver may be performed on yourself by pressing your body against a chair or kitchen sink."
I will add this advice:
"If you are in a social situation and choking to death it is always acceptable to save your own dumb ass."
Keep it Real!
Take the Quiz!
- Cross Cultural Dining Quiz
Online Test - How culturally aware of international dining etiquette are you?
- Etiquette used while Dining
Dining out? Check out this list of etiquette and be your best while dining...
Would you like fries with that?
Dining etiquette varies from culture to culture - so again, it is a wise idea before traveling to foreign countries to do some homework first. For example:
- Don't eat taco's with a knife and fork in Mexico. Rude!
- In some cultures - such as parts of India - it is disgraceful to place your left hand anywhere near your plate - and certainly not near anyone else's! I shudder to think.
- In China it is bad luck to drop your chopsticks or flip your fish
Take the quiz to see how well you fare.
Polically Correct Bathroom Behavior
- Quizmoz - Bathroom Etiquette Quiz
The Bathroom Etiquette Quiz will test your knowledge of the touchy subject of proper bathroom behavior. The Bathroom Etiquette Quiz questions are carefully crafted so you can gauge how much you know about this subject.
Yes there is an appropriate way to behave in the restroom. I have linked a website that explains every detail about the proper way to behave. This includes where it is most appropriate to speak in the ladies restroom to which urinal is most beneficial for the men to use.
The International Center for Bathroom Etiquette is on a mission. They proudly seek to improve the restroom experience for every individual in the world. Links are provided so that you won't get caught with your pants down - no matter what country you happen to be visiting.
Bathroom Etiquette Rules Around the Globe
Who not to tip:
There are certain individuals that should never be offered a tip and are prohibited from accepting such. Never offer a tip to:
- Government Officials
- Police Officers
- Your Teacher/Professor/Instructor
- The opposing attorney
- Your date
How Much To Tip
10 - 20%
10 - 20%
10 - 20%
10 - 15% (20% if handling bags)
10 - 20%
10 - 20%
10 - 20%
!0% of the total sale
Maitre d' (master of the house)
5 - 10% of the total sale
$1 per bag
$2 to retrieve vehicle
$1 or more for accessories
$2 - $5 per night
10 - 20% of tab
15% of the cost of bottle
Up to 20% of total sales price
Tow Truck Operator
$5 per vehicle towed
15 - 20% of the total sales price
$20 per day
$1 per person
$5 per each large delivery item
5% of total bill
1 yak each time they catch you + 1 yak to get to mtn. top
$2 or more depending on distance
Corporate Jet Pilot
$50 - 200 per pilot
All about tips.....
Tips or "gratuities" are paid to another to show appreciation when a service has been provided. If the service was terrific a higher tip should be given. Wait/Service staff often rely on this at a greatly reduced salaried position. In some states servers are required to claim and pay taxes on a percentage of the sales they generate and they are required to claim as much as 8% on their total sales whether they actually make that or not.
The history of tipping is debated. Sources indicate that between the 16th to 18th Century, the TIP (acronym for to insure promptitude) began in English Coffee Houses. Others say that during the 1800's - after the war, rich Americans who traveled to Europe observed the practice and when they returned to the U.S. they brought it back to establish a sign of class and wealth.
In the event of a holiday party or wedding, the host is obligated to tip the vaious people hired to work or entertain. For example, the caterer, Disc Jockey, service staff and bar staff if an open bar is provided.
Holiday Tip Guide - Who & How Much
- Holiday Tipping Guide: 2011 | MintLife Blog | Personal Finance News & Advice
Holiday tipping time is here! We've got expert advice on who should be on your list, how much to give, and what to do when you when you can't give as much as you'd like.
Free Tip Calculator
- Online Conversion - Tip Calculator
Calculates the tip or determine how much each person should pay for meals.
Don't piss the barber off!
- Calling all men - How much would you charge to rent your services?
There are thousands, perhaps millions of single women who are or are about to be reduced to the horror and destructive presence of CATS (shudder) simply because they do not have a man around the house for the necessary 2 or 3 hours a week when such m
Never bite the hand that feeds you.
"The good guest is almost invisible, enjoying him or herself, communing with fellow guests, and, most of all, enjoying the generous hospitality." ~Emily Post
Conversation is said to be an art. It can be delicate and can make or break job offers, party invitations or destroy personal relationships. If you are in a social situation there are certain things that experts agree, should be avoided. When in mixed company there are topics that are considered to be inappropriate. It is a major faux pas to:
- discuss politics or religion
- ask the cost of an object
- correct others
- interrupt others
- changing the subject
- one upmanship
- checking your messages/texts
- don't monopolize the conversation
If another patron or guest is rude - it shifts the focus to you. All eyes will be on you and how you react can be damaging to your reputation. Do not allow the guests to feed on your emotions. Leave the punch in the bowl and do your best to shift the attention elsewhere. Ignore the insult or slight and discuss the problem privately. Obnoxious behavior makes everyone uncomfortable and should be avoided at all costs.
If ever you are uncertain of what to say - it is always acceptable to plead the 5th Amendment. It is better to say nothing than to say crazy stuff that you will never be forgotten for such as, "I can see Russia from my house!"
"You can't be truly rude until you understand good manners." ~Rita Mae Brown
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