Children From Large Families Tend To Raise And Support Themselves In Addition To Being Left To Their Own Devices

The family is one of the most important social institutions. It is there where one receives physical, emotional, & psychological support.Families are there for each other & parents are the bulwark for the children.
The family is one of the most important social institutions. It is there where one receives physical, emotional, & psychological support.Families are there for each other & parents are the bulwark for the children.
Families can be small, medium, medium large, large or very large. What is large to one person can be small or medium to another person & vice versa. Each family type has its own culture, milieu & mores..
Families can be small, medium, medium large, large or very large. What is large to one person can be small or medium to another person & vice versa. Each family type has its own culture, milieu & mores..
A person's respective family size oftentimes influences his/her outlook in life. It also determines what type of person he/she becomes.It is ultimately the deciding factor as to how many children he/she is likely to have.
A person's respective family size oftentimes influences his/her outlook in life. It also determines what type of person he/she becomes.It is ultimately the deciding factor as to how many children he/she is likely to have.
The large family is an entirely different entity from the small &/or medium sized family. It has its own distinct culture & milieu. However, not all large families are monolithic in nature. The status of the large family can vary widely.
The large family is an entirely different entity from the small &/or medium sized family. It has its own distinct culture & milieu. However, not all large families are monolithic in nature. The status of the large family can vary widely.
There are some large families that can be classified as affluent, even wealthy. Children  in such families have all the amenities at their disposal, including their own rooms. There are monies for varied things, including higher education.
There are some large families that can be classified as affluent, even wealthy. Children in such families have all the amenities at their disposal, including their own rooms. There are monies for varied things, including higher education.
Other large families can be aptly described as middle class.Children in such families may not have privacy or some amenities, they are socioeconomically comfortable, not in want. There is money slated for the important things like education.
Other large families can be aptly described as middle class.Children in such families may not have privacy or some amenities, they are socioeconomically comfortable, not in want. There is money slated for the important things like education.
There are parents in large families who can effectively raise their children alone or with the assistance of in-house help such as relatives or outside help such as nannies or au pairs. They have the means to hire help to care for their children.
There are parents in large families who can effectively raise their children alone or with the assistance of in-house help such as relatives or outside help such as nannies or au pairs. They have the means to hire help to care for their children.
However, socioeconomically affluent large famlies are a minute percentage. The majority of large families are in the lower socioeconomic category. They are either at the poverty or near poverty level.
However, socioeconomically affluent large famlies are a minute percentage. The majority of large families are in the lower socioeconomic category. They are either at the poverty or near poverty level.
In large families,monies are stretched to the limit.Parents oftentime find it difficult to make ends meets as there are more children per family.There is hardly any money for the necessities, let alone anything else.
In large families,monies are stretched to the limit.Parents oftentime find it difficult to make ends meets as there are more children per family.There is hardly any money for the necessities, let alone anything else.
Average parents of large families can barely support their children as there is less money allotted per child. Many children in large families learn to make do. Some even learn to simply do without.
Average parents of large families can barely support their children as there is less money allotted per child. Many children in large families learn to make do. Some even learn to simply do without.
In many large famlies, parental resources & reserves are stretched to the limit &/or exhausted emotionally, mentally, & psychologically. They simply cannot give individualized, even adequate care & attention to all of their children.
In many large famlies, parental resources & reserves are stretched to the limit &/or exhausted emotionally, mentally, & psychologically. They simply cannot give individualized, even adequate care & attention to all of their children.
As many parents in large families cannot adequately give their children the prerequisite attention, many children in large families are left to their own devices.They raise themselves &/or each other.
As many parents in large families cannot adequately give their children the prerequisite attention, many children in large families are left to their own devices.They raise themselves &/or each other.
Since parents in many large families are unable to raise their children alone, the oldest child is often assigned to raise younger siblings. Many oldest cihldren in large families are parentified children.They forfeit their youth raising siblings.
Since parents in many large families are unable to raise their children alone, the oldest child is often assigned to raise younger siblings. Many oldest cihldren in large families are parentified children.They forfeit their youth raising siblings.
Many parents in large famlies have the attitude that their children can do the best they can. Many children in the large family must learn to emotionally & psychologically sink or swim as their parents are NOT THERE to guide or help them.
Many parents in large famlies have the attitude that their children can do the best they can. Many children in the large family must learn to emotionally & psychologically sink or swim as their parents are NOT THERE to guide or help them.
As parental interaction in large families is nil at best, children learn to psychologically be parents to themselves.They learn to nurture & love themselves from quite an early age. It is the survival of those who depend upon themselves.
As parental interaction in large families is nil at best, children learn to psychologically be parents to themselves.They learn to nurture & love themselves from quite an early age. It is the survival of those who depend upon themselves.
Children in large famlies also must work at early ages to obtain the things their parents could not afford. They work for spending change & little extras. Many work to supplement family income.
Children in large famlies also must work at early ages to obtain the things their parents could not afford. They work for spending change & little extras. Many work to supplement family income.
Children from large families realize that their parents are UNABLE TO provide for them in the way they like. They realize that they must the adult role, working & providing for themselves. It is the reverse of the normal parent-child role.
Children from large families realize that their parents are UNABLE TO provide for them in the way they like. They realize that they must the adult role, working & providing for themselves. It is the reverse of the normal parent-child role.
Children of large families have to financially,emotionally,&psychologically raise & support themselves.They CAN'T believe that there are parents who CAN support their children.They see the latter as "spoiled" as this is beyond their purview.
Children of large families have to financially,emotionally,&psychologically raise & support themselves.They CAN'T believe that there are parents who CAN support their children.They see the latter as "spoiled" as this is beyond their purview.
Many children from large families led a hardscrabble, penurious life. This impoverished  environment influences their outlook & life philosophy.They feel that this lifestyle is quite normal&correct.They have a tough exterior& survivalist mentality.
Many children from large families led a hardscrabble, penurious life. This impoverished environment influences their outlook & life philosophy.They feel that this lifestyle is quite normal&correct.They have a tough exterior& survivalist mentality.
Children from large families oftentimes lead a hardscrabble life. As their parents are not there for them economically, emotionally, mentally, & psychologically, they MUST learn to do look after & support themselves.
Children from large families oftentimes lead a hardscrabble life. As their parents are not there for them economically, emotionally, mentally, & psychologically, they MUST learn to do look after & support themselves.

HELL, Do The Best YOU Can, I Am UNABLE To Help YOU!

The family is one of the most important, if not the most important, societal institutions. It is the familial environment where one receives nurturance, care, and encouragement. Parents financially provide for their children in terms of necessities and luxuries. Families are there for each other and parents are the bulwark of the family.

Families come in different sizes-small, medium, medium large, large, and very large. The definition of the aforementioned size families varies from person to person and each family group. A person from a small family may portend that a family of three children is a large family while a person from a large family may consider a family of four children to be a small family. Each family size has its own different culture, mores, and a milieu of being.

A person's attitude and outlook in life are oftentimes influenced by the type of family size he/she comes from whether it is small, medium, medium large, large , or very large. Varied family sizes will eventually influence the type of parent such a person becomes. A person's family size of origin also is highly influential as to how many children he/she will have.

The large family is an entirely different entity from either the small and/or medium family. The working definition of the large family in the context of this hub will include the medium large family of 5 children, the large family of 6-7 children, and the very large family of 7+ children. Not all large families are monolithic of course. The status of the large family can be quite varied.

Quite a few large families can be classified as socioeconomically affluent. Children in such families are well cared for by their parents. They also have amenities such as privacy and their own rooms. Their parents furthermore have help to raise their children such as au pairs and nannies. Because these children are affluent, they can travel, pursue cultural and intellectual activities. They are more likely to pursue tertiary education with ease because of monies allotted.

Then there are some large families that can be classified as middle to upper middle income. Children in such families lead a somewhat comfortable life with a few of the amenities of life. They may or may not have their own rooms. They are comfortable, not having to endure a tenuous, hardscrabble existence, living from hand to mouth! They also are provided with the financial resources to pursue their unique interests and tertiary education.

The ability of parents to effectively raise their large number of children vary from the type of access to care whether it is outside and/or in-house care. Also the number of children in the family is quite instrumental regarding parental care of the children. Even though five children can be difficult to raise, there are some parents who can effectively raise that number of children without further outside and/or in house care. With six or more children, depending upon the spacing of the children, parents may or may not need outside and/or in house assistance to effectively raise their children.

Although there are affluent and middle class large families, those are extremely rare. The average large family can be classified as in the lower socioeconomic bracket, either being impoverished or near poverty. Average parents of large families are unable to adequately and/or comfortably support their large number of children. Family dollars are often stretched and utilized to its ultimate maximum limit. This means that dollars are allotted for only the bare necessities and little or nothing else. This translates into children from large families having to either make do with extremely little and/or doing completely without.

In addition to not being able to adequately and/or comfortably support financially their large number of children, the average parent of a large family does not have an adequate span of control regarding raising their children. As a consequence of the aforementioned, the oldest and/or other older children in the family are compelled to act in the capacity of an in locos parentis or a surrogate parent to their younger siblings. The average oldest child in large families can be aptly classified as parentified children who sacrifice their childhoods and adolescence in order to act as a parent to their siblings.

In the average large family, parental interaction with their children is very few and far between. Parenting in the average large family is often perfunctory, distant, and less nurturing whereas the children are viewed as obligations to be undertaken. Parents of large families in such cases often pay attention to the youngest children while leaving the older children to their own devices. Children from large families tend to raise each other and/or themselves because parents do not have the emotional and psychological resources to give the required attention to their children.

Furthermore, little or no parental interaction in large families result in children being on their own emotionally and psychologically early in life. Oldest children in large families are nurtured less by their parents who must devote their energy to the younger children. This results in the oldest child being left to his/her own devices, starting in childhood.

There is often benign parental neglect regarding children raised in the average large family environment. As more children are born in the family, the older children are either compelled to pitch in and/or they are left to do the best they can. It is either a sink or swim mentality regarding the attitude of parents towards their children in the large family environment. In essence, children in large families learn that they had better swim and swim good, if not, it is just too bad! In large families, children learn the concept that it is the survival of those who depend upon themselves!

If one notice children raised in large families, they are on their own at an extremely young age. The idea of parental involvement and nurturance is extremely rare. Parents in the large family environment just do not have enough physical, psychological, and emotional resources to devote to each child. The large the family, the greater impossibility this is!

Besides being on their own psychologically and emotionally, children from large families are somewhat on their own economically and financially. They are the ones who work after school and whenever they can just to buy clothes and/or other articles for themselves that their parents can ill afford to do. Of course, the number of children in the family outweigh the amount of monies allotted per child. Many children from large families work not only to purchase extras for themselves but to help their parents make ends meet.

Children in the average large family cannot rely upon the financial support of their parents. The concept of parents providing adequate financial support for their large family is a near impossibility and a total unrealistic premise. The average large family is lucky to be just existing at the economic survival level. These children must work in order to obtain what they need, let alone what they want. It is a given that they have to provide for themselves as they know their parents cannot provide for them beyond the bare rudimentary level.

Because children of the average large family have to constantly provide for themselves, they simply find it hard to comprehend the concept of other parents being able to financially afford to provide their children with amenities such as travel, dancing lessons, outside activities, plays, and related activities. Such children portend that if they can provide for themselves, then other children should be able to also do so or else they are "spoiled."

Children from large families tend to be extremely fond of labelling other children whose parents are more able to comfortably provide for them "spoiled" because their own parents are quite unable to do the same. They often develop an extremely rough and tough exterior in response to their familial environment. This is quite natural as they have a typically hardscrabble life, fending for themselves emotionally, physically, and economically from a young age. They also have a strict survivalist mentality of either sink or swim. They believe that they have no other option but to depend on their own devices- as their parents simply cannot be there for them!

In summation, children from large families are often left to their own devices emotionally, psychologically, and financially quite early in life. Parents of large families often do not have the physical, emotional, and economic resources to adequate allot time, attention, and monies to a large number of children. It is a total impossibility and an extremely impractical premise to expect this!

So children in large families assess their environment and learn early on that their parents cannot adequately provide the needed resources for them. They realize and understand that they have to provide these needed resources for themselves. The concept of a normal childhood with parents providing their children with some amenities is extremely rare to nonexistent for children in the average large family.

Children in many large families must often assume more adult roles such as working and paying for things themselves. Because they had to provide for themselves at a young age, they simply refuse to understand the concept that there are parents who can comfortably provide their children with the amenities of life. They believe that their particular lifestyle of being on their own at a young age emotionally, psychologically, and financially is quite normal. However, this "lifestyle" is quite abnormal to say the least. After all, they reason that with all the children in their familly, their parents just simply cannot supply all the needs of the family- adding that it would be totally unreasonable and presumptive to expect them to!

Children in Large Families BEING on THEIR OWN From Childhood

Do you believe that it is QUITE COMMONPLACE for children from large families(6 and more children per household) to raise and fend for themselves, oftentimes from childhood?

  • Children in large families HAVE to raise and otherwise fend for themselves. Their parents must concentrate upon the barest survival. They do not have THE NECESSARY TIME nor ENOUGH RESOURCES to devote to their children. They have no choice but to raise and fend for themselves as their parents CAN'T or WON'T do for them. It is indeed NORMAL for children from large families to raise, fend, even SUPPORT themselves EARLY in life. They MUST swim or sink!
  • Resources and parental time in the average large families is very little to nonexistent. Parents of large families are psychologically overwhelmed by the sheer numbers of children. As a result of that, individualized time per child is unheard of. Impoverishment is a normal condition in large families. Children have to learn SOME HARD lessons early if they wish to survive in such a family environment. Yes, they have to become adults in childhood, they'd better.
  • This occurs in the overwhelming majority of children from large families. What's NEW about that? The problem is that either they refuse to admit this or rationalize this dysfunction to some degree. Well, that is what happens when parents insist on having MORE children that they can effectively raise and support. The children are going to be DEPRIVED and SUFFER in one way or another.
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If you were from a large family(6 or more children per household), did you have to raise and support yourself from childhood?

  • Of course I did, my parents had so many children that they were frankly overwhelmed, I had no choice but to raise and fend for myself. Heck, my parents were NEVER there. They were busy worrying about providing for the rudiments. I barely had enough of anything-not enough parental attention, barely enough material things. If I did not raise nor fended for myself, I would be LOST. I had to work from childhood to get the things that other children normally had. I was more of an ADULT than my parents were.
  • You did not hear nor see the WORST of it. Raising and fending for oneself was the SUPREME understatement. I had to DO IT ALL. I was the parent instead of my parents. No child should have to raise or fend for himself. If parents cannot raise and support their children then they should not having them. Parents who have more children than they can support are selfish at best and utterly mindless at worst. Parents? I would have been better being raised in an orphanage, I would have received more love, support, and attention there than at "home".
  • No, I was lucky. My parents had the means to support us beyond the rudiments. I even had luxuries. Yes, luxuries. My parents was extremely involved in my life. I did not have to work from childhood, my parents supported me and the rest of family more than adequately. I could not ask for better parents.
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© 2012 Grace Marguerite Williams

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