Key Success Factors for Personal Growth

Quotes from Wallace Wattles

The Segue to A Hubber's Monologue Overheard

I grew up thinking that the Key Success Factors for personal growth were to make sure you were unique in your ways and yet appealing to all, stood out as a leader and yet could go with the flow and stand your ground yet flexible enough to compromise. In other words, I had to do what I could to get ahead of the competition. Life, for me, was a constant competition.

Compete for your parent's attention. Compete for your teacher's approval. Compete to be in the honor's roll. Compete to be the best orator, the best actress, the best director, the best leader, the best trainer, the best in just about anything and everything. Then and only then can I be considered a success and be offered opportunities to become famous, rich and powerful. Only to find out later that I was used, abused, confused, stressed out and burned out. Oh I gained popularity alright what with all fans and the competition and detractors growing by the day. The money you say? For the life of me, I didn't know where it had all gone. I was rich one morning and poor the week after.

Decades past slowly "killing myself" to succeed and ending up poorer than I began with debts reaching intolerable heights. In search for a way to break this pattern I lived around I was led to read a book that struck me to the core. The author declared that to be truly rich is to move out of a competitive mindset into a creative one. He claimed that "Riches secured in a competitive plane are never satisfactory and permanent." He moved on to say "you are to become a creator, not a competitor. Get what you want but in such a way that when you get it, every other person whom you affect will have more than he has now."

The author, Wallace Wattles. The book: The Science of Getting Rich. The year published: 1910. Why didn't I know about this? Why was this concept not taught in schools? Why?! You could imagine my dismay! Of course I knew why. It was too radical then. It may still be for some of us now. The first sentence alone could send shivers up your spine. This book however, has significantly improved my life. In fact, I had designed training programs built around it with one focusing on the concept of becoming creators which I called Being, Beyond Competition. A number of marketing and sales people from prestigious companies have undergone it in our country and I'm glad to report that they responded positively to the program.

I take it to heart that whatever I do now, will be in such a way that every other person whom I affect, will have more than he has now. For me, the previous statement summarizes the key success factors in personal growth. Allow me therefore the privilege of sharing what I know is true.

Competition

Competition is based on the belief that there is a limited supply of everything for anyone. This belief produces fear or as author Neale Donald Walsch of Conversations with God would put it, False Evidence Appearing Real. It breeds other mindsets that become the obstacles to success.

1. SCARCITY. We function in a world with beliefs introduced to us along the way like the "early bird catches the worm" hence, the need to get things done in the fastest way possible because there is a lack of opportunity, a lack of market, lack of ideas, and lack of money. We find our selves rushing about accomplishing different things at the same time which often results to stress which may bring about illness and which adds more stress producing a cycle.

2. UNWORTHINESS. Many of us grew up with a strong belief that we were born in sin and unworthy of God's love and only through Jesus can we find redemption. Constantly being compared to cousins, neighbors, classmates and worst, our siblings prove the "unworthy" thought to be true. Unpleasant words used by our loved ones to describe us like, "oh, she's the weird one in our family" solidify this belief. A victim mindset could unknowingly be developed.

3. SELF-DOUBT. When we function in a victim mode we often cannot believe that good things could happen to us. We have a tendency to mistrust this event. "It's too good to be true", we say and believe that only something bad could happen next. We end up staying in our comfort zone in the hope to control the outcome of our decisions and if the outcome does not go according to our plan we curse the world. Without us being aware we are pushing away the very blessings we have been praying for.

CREATION

Creation is based on the belief that we have access to all the resources we ever need to produce whatever we so desire to create a better life. It reveals truth we have failed to acknowledge and accept.

  1. Key Success Factor Mindset: We are ABUNDANT. There is an unlimited supply of everything for everyone for we are connected to the Source of all abundance. We were born to create things with all the resources on earth to help others live a better and fuller life. There is more than enough time, more than enough opportunity, more than enough market, more than enough ideas and more than enough money around to use for us to fulfill our mission. If we believe this to be true then we will be able to see that every experience we have is an opportunity to help others develop. Every word we say can inspire another. Every work we do can motivate others still. Every cent we shell out is just making room for more money to come in.
  2. Key Success Factor on Value: We are VALUED. Every living thing was born to increase, appreciate, develop and become the best expression of its purpose of complimenting that which already exists. Every individual possess intelligence, talents and skills that are valuable to others. No one is less than the other. Everyone holds an important role in this world. Believing in our own value brings forth the feeling of gratitude and gratitude calls forth more of the things we are grateful about in life. A positive mindset is established in this scenario.
  3. Key Success Factor on Love: We are LOVED. God gives us unconditional love. Bro. Bo Sanchez, one of the more popular lay preachers in the Philippines, said something I will never forget. "You don't have to do anything for God to love you, He simply does". I pondered upon these words for months and believed it to be true. God simply loves without conditions, without boundaries and this perfect love motivates one to be good for it brings with it forgiveness and compassion. Faith is thus developed and lived. The world becomes a beautiful place to grow and share love. Sharing love generously brings about more love in our lives and the never ending flow of blessing upon blessing occurs.

I do believe that the key success factors for personal growth based on the principles of creation is far more effective than that of competition. I pray we all move toward empowering each other more each day. Blessings to all!

Daisy Ba-ad

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ripplemaker 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Truly a beautiful hub Daisy. I remain grateful to all the lessons we are learning each new day knowing that it is helping me live a happier and blessed life. May we able to give more as we continue to receive the abundance of what life has to offer. :)


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trish1048 8 years ago

Very thought provoking! great writing, and good luck to you ladies!

Thanks for sharing,

Trish


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

hello ripplemaker. you never fail to encourage me by commenting on my every hub. you are such a sweet friend.

Trish i appreciate the compliment and humbly accept it. thank you for wishing us well.


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jezzbb 8 years ago from Philippines

Truly enlightening! Funny how the harsh realities of life has falsely taught us how to really succeed. Everytime you conduct a workshop or direct a show, more people are touched which helps them in living more meaningful and happier lives as evident in your "10 Ways To Spot Unconditional Love" hub page. Keep on, keep on!


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G-Ma Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

I have learned to slow down and pay attention and listen to what God is trying to tell you.We learn from each mistake...well hopefully and there are many writing that help each in a different way.  One may hit you and another me.  So long as we reach out to become a more caring person.

.You have a wonderful way of expressing such things..keep up the good work  G-Ma :o) hugs


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

thank you very much G-Ma. i'm happy to have people like you aroung who speak with much concern. hugs


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Dottie1 8 years ago from MA, USA

When I switched my own thinking from scarcity to abundance, my life situations began to dramatically improve. So much truth and wisdom in your hubs dayzeebee. I look forward to your's and Ripplemaker's new site on concepts of living a more fuller life. You both are soooo gifted.


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ripplemaker 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Dottie, I read what you wrote in the fan mail, it made me really smile. I am glad I was able to lead you to dayzeebee. :) LOL life is funny and exciting huh?

Dayzee, I just had to re-read what you wrote...indeed getting out of the competitive level is a huge task all on its own esp if we are being compared all the time plus the world has a standard and definitions of what it takes to be on top. It can truly be exhausting. If we can stop competing and start creating, we can do so much. Yey! I'm super excited to accomplish our tasks...minus the fear that it will not be good enough. Hahaha


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

hello dottie, welcome back. i'm sure the weekend off was a great time to ponder about things and inspire you to write more hubs. i'm glad to know you found this hub useful. thank you for being excited about our site. that really boosts our energy. take care.

ripplemaker onward to creating more love ripples....:)


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Louie Jerome 8 years ago from UK

Very interesting hub. A lot to think about.


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

hello Louie Jerome, i'm happy to know you found it interesting. keep enjoying life.


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Dottie1 8 years ago from MA, USA

Ripplemaker, I'm happy that my fan mail to dayzeebee made you smile. It is the truth, you were the one to join our hands from the Philippeans to America. Quite an amazing feat.

Dayzeebee, thanks for the warm welcome back. My pleasure. A mini vacation can spur one on to greatness. I'm glad I could boost your energy. How else can I be of service?


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Julie A. Johnson 8 years ago from Duluth, MN

Interesting ideas to ponder. I think sometimes competition can be good because it encourages us to create. Unfortunately, sometimes competition dominates our thinking, and creativity is lost. Insightful hub. Julie


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

dottie 1 you are doing much already! continue to allow the abundance of love, joy, peace, health and financial blessings flow increasingly in your life.:)

hello julie. thank you for your comment. yes there are things that exist together for it allows us to know the difference. we cannot know joy unless we know pain. this is an example of finding "perfection in the imperfection of things". i'm sure glad you stopped by:)


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Dottie1 8 years ago from MA, USA

Here is a message I have on my dresser that I love. Not sure whose it is but a good possibility it came from the "Life of Learning Foundation" website.

"Remember, the creation of anything is through your vibration. Everything vibrates, and it is by that vibration that we harmonize and attract experiences to ourselves. So before you act or do anything, first ask yourself, how am I vibrating?

How do you tell? You tell by how you FEEL. Your feelings show you your vibration. How you feel determines what you attract."


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

hahaha that is for sure. ripplemaker and i call it the "happy cell" syndrome. and that's what you seem to have dottie that's why i can sense all this energy coming from you. and that develops more happy cells...the never ending flow of blessings! go on and go with the flow of grace and share them with everyone you encounter. we're enjoying the ride with you.


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compu-smart 8 years ago from London UK

dayzeebee,

This is a very touching and inspiring hub! with lots to make me think about!! i will look forward to yours and ripplemakers site when it's ready!

It sounds like you won't need any luck in your future success, but ill offer it just the same..

Good luck!!:)


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

compu-smart! hello there! wow, i'm sure glad you stopped by. i'm truly happy you found this hub inspiring. go ahead and take the time you need to reflect on things. we hope to have the site up by the end of the month. we appreciate the luck you send for we know it comes from a tender heart. do take care:) 


Jeanette M 8 years ago

dazeebee, I agree with you and I think its great that you are sharing your insights with the larger community. Competition seperates people into haves and have nots, but even worse it can drain optimism, joy, creativity and love from the person who is driven by it... lovely hub and thanks

J


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

hello J. appreciate your insights as well. this motivates us more to do our share of helping others find a different way of approaching life. see you around.


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amy jane 8 years ago from Connecticut

Scarcity - that one always hits me. I have stuggled with that concept for too long! I hate competition. Even when I win, I don't feel victorious deep down. Working together for a common goal and sharing the success feels so much better and can be so much fun!

Best of luck to you and Michelle on your new venture - I can't wait to see it!


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ripplemaker 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

Hi Amy, me too, I am excited as well. :) LOL


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

amy jane it's great to hear from you! oh i'm happy to know you find more joy in sharing success. following this path i believe may help ease the effects of persistent headaches. our prayers are always with you. oh and i'm real grateful that you MIXXED up my hub re this community as healing ground. i am honored. do take care.

keep the excitement up ripplemaker! LOL


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gilortiz001 8 years ago from Philippines

i love this hub! you're amazing, miss daisy! you've always been one of the few people that i look up to. thank you for being an inspiration! :)


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dayzeebee 8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

Gillen you're here too! thank you for taking time to read and appreciate the lessons here. students like you have always inspired me to become better. remember we too learn a lot from students. it's always more statisfying to move forward together in becoming beautiful individuals united in making this world a better place. do take care of yourself. Godbless!:)


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Jodi Hoeksel 7 years ago

What a wonderful hub!! I took a class study of Wallace Waddles, Science of Getting Rich and Science of being Great!! It was truly astounding, just like your hub. It is truly a life changing experience. I have found that the fear of taking certain actions to achieve that which we are visualising seems to dissipate as we continue to move forward. Moving in a creative path helps to feel in harmony of surroundings through the journey.

I  look forward to reading more from you. Very grateful to have come across your hub.


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dayzeebee 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

Hello Jodi, wow it's great to know you were able to attend class studies on the said books. Good for you. I pray you continue to move forward into abundance and bliss. Great to find you in the same road. See you around:)


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JPSO138 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

Wow, simlply amazing what you have written...


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dayzeebee 7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

Hi JPSO138, thank you very much for the compliment. It is appreciated much. See you around. Godbless:)


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Tiffany Latte 6 years ago from USA

Good Hub


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dayzeebee 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

Thanks much Vernon:)


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Steph Harris 5 years ago from Cambridgeshire, United Kingdom

Awesome and beautiful hub, you are so right about feeling gratitude for our lives and everyone in them is so important. Truly inspiring I loved every word you wrote:)


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dayzeebee 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines Author

Steph Harris, Thank you for making me feel special with your kind words. Be blessed always and in all ways:)

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