Conducting a Life

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Conducting a Life

By Tony DeLorger © 2012

Do you conduct your life with grace, in respect of all who touch you in this vast tapestry of experience? Or perhaps you live in response to a world beckoning your attention, circumstance drawing you out into a position of action. Is your life deliberate, on purpose, or are you an armchair observer, a spectator in all that is this existence?

We complain about being harshly judged, treated, misguided, oppressed, placated yet we play no conscious part in the creation of that circumstance, just a vague and often foolhardy 'see what happens' view of this precious gift of life.

Life in essence is an opportunity to be realised, a potential to be envisioned and nurtured to fruition. Without deliberate intent and action we are no more than lone corks on an unforgiving ocean, tossed and turned as life pleases without sight or footing to make a stand. Many people live in this fluid, helpless circumstance, overwhelmed and incapable of overcoming this swell so large and powerful. Yet it is we who fashion this watery world, a world filled with doubts and fears.

Without a deliberate hand in the course of our lives, we are destined to suffer the consequence of the return to balance created by our lack of participation. In other words our carelessness creates a response to maintain balance. When we forgo a necessary decision we allow the mechanics of life to take over, creating often difficult circumstances that force our decision.

Life is far more pleasant when we feel in control of it, abiding by the universal laws that govern both the physical and mental parameters of our will and its ultimate affect on circumstance. In the end, how we conduct our lives creates the blueprint of what is to follow. In other words, if we choose to respect people and treat them in a caring and loving way, we are more likely to experience that by return. A simple concept, yet often overlooked in the stress of day to day living.

We always have choices in life, and it is those choices that define us in the light of our experience now and in the future. Becoming self-sufficient in a mental sense is paramount, always concluding not from the learned biases and behaviours of the past, but investing in the paradigms that build a positive and productive life.

To me, regardless of religion, morality is the basis for both decisions and actions in life, giving rise to empathy and understanding, having a broad perspective from which to justify movement. When we consider others as well as ourselves: with impact, change and acceptance, we are honing our decisions to fit better into the flow of life, and as a consequence keeping circumstance within a natural balance. This then maintains a serene and passive playing field on which we can envisage and project what we really want out of life , without working against the natural forces that govern our existence.

This idea is not complex, in fact it is the most basic of ideals. The difficulty comes in trying to maintain it and not be swept away by the aggression and mindlessness of fear that is perpetrated against us through the eyes of struggle.

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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

I agree Bobbi; the best we can do is live by example, and practice what we preach. Thank you my friend. Take care.

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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Thanks Aubrey, much appreciated.

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PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida


What a great hub, and as a child I was taught to respect and care for others, and share when I felt someone needed it more.

This has always been my choice to treat people as I want to be treated--my best teacher of this was my Grandmother Knight, and she lived by her teachings.

Sometimes living by what you teach becomes too difficult for some---and children notice everything an adult does. The rule of saying--don't do as I do--do as I say, does not work and never will.


Your Hub Friend,

Bobbi Purvis

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CrazedNovelist 4 years ago from Hampton, GA

You have a great mind, Tony. I'm sharing this.

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