Elementary School Discipline Goes Too Far

Yep, these are real daredevils!
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Little kids should not have to watch every word they say, but they do or they end up on the nightly news. They should be able to play, imagine, and pretend like my generation and generations before were able to do.

We played Cops and Robbers with cool cap guns, Evel Knievel with our bike ramps and daring no-hands on the handle bars as we zoomed downed the street, and Star Trek with our phasers or using sticks pretending that were the famous Star Wars Lightsabers. We also pretended to be mountain climbers on the monkey bars and had swing wars, clashing into each other with our wooden swings. Let's not forget "King of the Mountain," which translates into assault charges today.

These are all things of the past. By today’s rules, it is a miracle we survived or are not in some high security prison.

Are you from a generation that had fun, yet deemed dangerous, playground equipment?

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Rules for Children in Today’s World

Today, children must watch what they say and imagine because if it is taken as “a threat,” they are punished. Today, you will rarely find monkey bars, wooden swings, merry-go-rounds, or even tall sliding boards on a playground. They have been deemed too dangerous. Hmmm… did you play on any of these when you were a child?

Children are going to play rough but if it is just pretend with no malice or no physical harm to others, what is the problem? Is society afraid of being taken over by the “hardcore” imaginations of our children? I guess if we stunt their ability to play, imagine, and pretend, they will not grow up to invent, problem solve, or have any memories of childhood innocence.

Watch out, she is armed and dangerous by today's rules.
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This sweet little girl has been put through Hell for what?  A piece of paper!!
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How Elementary Schools and Society are Taking Rules Too Far

If you have watched the news lately, you know how elementary children are being suspended on ridiculous charges of being possible threats to their school community. Here are some examples:

  • Seven year old Alex Evans was suspended from school for playing his superhero game and throwing an imaginary grenade. His game is “Rescue the World,” and he was being the hero. He was suspended for an unknown time. School discipline policy clearly states for any seven-year-old to understand (DUH!) - "no weapons, real or imaginary." I get the real part, but the imaginary? Come on!
  • A fifth grade girl was suspended from school after her classmate sees a piece of paper shaped like a gun falling out of her pocket. The classmate tells the teacher. The teacher searches her in front of the class and escorts her out. Classmates call her names such as “murderer.” Nothing happens to the teacher or children who publicly humiliate and bully the girl by calling her names. Seems like a witch-hunt. Really??
  • Here's a "real" danger to our society: a kindergarten girl is suspended for threatening another student by saying she was going to shoot her with a Hello Kitty bubble gun. She didn’t even have the bubble gun with her. It was not even in school, but at the bus stop. Yep, those Hello Kitty bubble guns have me shaking with terror. Anyone found with one should be considered armed and dangerous. Let it be known that you will probably have horrific nightmares if you ever encounter a kindergartner slingin' a Hello Kitty bubble gun.
  • A boy eats his Pop-tart making it look like a gun. He playfully points it - showing it off to other students. Typical boy? No sir! He's a threat, so get him outta there. He was suspended and grief counselors were brought in for the students. Seriously??

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Let the Consequences Fit the Crime

Don’t get me wrong. I am a high school teacher and a mom. I take school shootings and school violence very seriously. My question is should we judge all children by the horrendous acts carried out by those few who were mentally disturbed and filled with hatred? I do not believe we should. Should we take out of context a child's imagination and punish them as if it were a reality? Again, I do not believe we should.

Kids need balance in their lives. It needs to start at home and be used with consistent fairness at school. The children listed above did not do anything to warrant school suspension. Imagination and words were punished. The punishment probably left these children feeling like they had done something wrong when they were just behaving like children. Has the world gone completely crazy? Does anyone see how these rigid rules are harming our children? Making an example of kids who are just being kids is going about it in the wrong way. These strict measures are going to cause good kids to be bad. Common sense is needed, not school suspension.

How ridiculous to bring in grief counselors for students who had a Pop-tart pointed at them. I doubt any of the students were afraid, unless, of course, parents and teachers are telling them to fear everything. We are going to turn our children into wimps who will not be able to face the true realities of this world, which is that it can be an ugly place. No, we are teaching them to forget great imaginations, to know their every word is being held against them, to show imagination that might have a violent or testosterone slant is to be "bad," to be paranoid and to believe they are being watched. A little too Orwellian to me.

We are setting this generation up for failure if we continue to allow unreasonable rules and consequences, which leads to a scary future for all. If you feel there is a problem with a child, talk to the child about it.

For God's sake, take that damned Hello Kitty bubble gun and put it in the trash...

Hypocrites/Hollywood Against Violence (as long as it doesn't cut into their profits)

How Responsible Is Society?

As a 70's and 80's kid watching TV and movies, I enjoyed westerns, love stories, comedies, science fiction and fantasy. Hollywood had rules that seemed to have eroded over time. The language and violence were curtailed. If there were sexual references, they were innuendos that went way above a kid's head.

Today, Looney Tunes has been taken off of TV for violence, but what about today's Prime Time that used to translate into Family Time? There are not only innuendos to sexual acts, but there are specific explanations with graphic depictions on the tube. The same goes for violent acts. A bad guy used to be shot with little or no blood. Today, the good and bad guys are shot with blood pouring and slinging everywhere. Gee, I wonder where kids these days get such ideas?

Television used to draw the line in the sand for family time and adult time (which would be considered G rated compared to today). There is no imagination because everything is laid out in front of us. I guess the Hollywood elite feel audiences are not intelligent enough for the innuendos and just "spell it out" for us.

When my kids were little, I would tape shows I didn't want them to watch. I think it is even harder to be a parent today. You have to be on constant guard against sex and violent scenes during Prime Time. Even the news can be too much for kids.

The point is that some of these things are going to seep through to our kids, whether at our house or at someone else's. Kids are going to be kids. They should not be made to feel like a criminal for playing games and showing imagination. We are creating self-fulfilling prophecy within them because they start believing they are bad. Kids listen to adults and they absorb their surroundings.

Hollywood and politicians scream about an idealistic society by speaking out and dwelling on the horrendous real violence that occurs in our world, yet they continue to rake money in on these acts of violence in their movies and television shows, greasing the politicians hands along the way.

We can't control them, but we can try to preserve our children's childhood innocence that most of us have cherished memories. Let the punishment fit the "crime" with our kids. Stick up for your kids in ridiculous situations so they know you believe they are good and decent. Ground them if they go too far. We just can't allow fear to control us or them by ridiculous rules that do more harm than good. The future is at stake. Personally, I don't want to lose freedoms to unreasonable rules that will be seeded in our children and grow larger and stronger as they become adults.

If you played with cap guns, sling shots, sticks, rocks, etc. and have just read this, where are you physically sitting?

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billybuc 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

Susan, I am so tired of the politically correct world, and the shelter from all harm world....we need to allow kids to grow up and experience life. We cannot protect every kid from every harm or slight. For God's sake, we are raising a bunch of little wimps with no social skills.

I could rant more but it won't change a thing. Thank you for your perspective; it comes from a parent's perspective as well as a teacher's perspective and it is valid and correct.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Bill, I have been trying to write this hub for over a month. I know what you mean about wanting a good rant. I tried very hard for the writing NOT to come out that way, but maybe it did anyway... Oh, well, I am so sick of the way our children are being brainwashed and mistreated. We live in a world that is competitive and cut throat. We aren't teaching our kids how to stand up, rather they are being told to "stand down." How are they going to survive? I believe Washington and Hollywood hold pits of vipers set to put everyone in this "ideal" place they want us to be (thought they don't adhere) and IT IS HAPPENING!! I hope we can change things for the sake of our children.

We need to love our children, but we need to be honest with them. Calling them murderers or threats to society because of a Hello Kitty bubble gun or the supposed paper gun is lying to them and taking their innocence and intelligence and molding it into desensitized heaps to match some stinking agenda. Okay, now I am ranting. I am not typically a conspiracy theorist, but these ridiculous rules make me wonder what the hell is wrong with these adults who are in charge or control.

Be kind to one another and cherish children. That is what we need to do.

Thanks so much for dropping by! :-)


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Just Ask Susan 3 years ago from Ontario, Canada

The school all 3 of my sons went to cut out wrestling, football, baseball, and any other sport that could cause them to hurt themselves. I was like, What the hell! I couldn't believe it but this was what the principal of their school decided to do. This was in an elementary grade school. Most of their classmates when going into high school never bothered to sign up or try out for any of the sports curriculum, which I found very sad.

I have a lot more to say regarding your fantastic hub but I have to run....but I'll be back.


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suzettenaples 3 years ago from Taos, NM

The world has become insane. We no longer use common sense when dealing with children at school. Each child and situation needs to be looked at by all the circumstances involved. One size fits all consequences do not work when working with human beings.


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diogenes 3 years ago from UK and Mexico

We are breeding and creating a "Nanny" society. I am surprised kids are still allowed to have bikes and skateboards, etc., for sure, someone - somewhere - will be trying to ban them too. Yet adults engage in the most extreme and dangerous sports any mind could describe! Perhaps because they were denied all excitement as kids. It's so bad in Britain, schools are being denied sports fields and they are being sold off.

Kids of my generation were much tougher. We fought and got bloody noses and were left to it: today, a lawsuit would result. If we didn't toe the lne in school we got the cane and it bloody hurt and we remembered it. If a teacher hits a kid today he looses his career at once. Kids are shielded from "bullying" That is just the pecking order being established and what are kids going to do when they can't run home in tears and cry about bullies. Some kids even go as far as suicide because they aren't toughened in any physical way.

You have said it all in your article...goodness knows what sort of population we will have in 20 years when we have to face the new world order.

Bob


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Oh, Susan, taking away sports for fear of being hurt??? I'm with you, WTH??? The lessons they learn from coaches and each other are great training grounds for real world situations. Our kids are losing sight of how to be team players, and you are right, it is sad.

I hope the insanity ends and common sense comes into play.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Suzette, you hit the nail on the head: One Size Does NOT Fit All. I don't want our kids to be compared to killers and mentally disturbed people. None of it makes sense to go this far. We should be trying to create balance and perspective after any tragedy, not turn it against the good kids.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Bob, we are creating a Nanny State. It is ridiculous. When I was young, we were told, "Don't be a tattle-tail. Go work it out." That was at home and at school. Yep, it got physical at times, but we survived and grew up to lead normal lives (most of us - lol). There are always bad apples but for the most part, kids are innocents and our generation should want to help them survive in the coming world, not turn them into wimps.

If this type of "discipline" is not stop, we are all going to pay in the future. You mention the One World Order - this plays right into it.


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Mhatter99 3 years ago from San Francisco

Thank you for this. As a coach I have seen and experienced something that would make your hair curl. Bottom line, the modern problems have left me behind.


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Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

Very interesting and voted up.

Eddy.


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teaches12345 3 years ago

Excellent post! As a parent and educator, I believe the schools are reading too much into the play of children. So glad you covered this issue, it is time parents took an active approach to role modeling positive behavior and schools need to remember what play is all about. Voted way up and shared.


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX

Excellent analysis Susan. This whole political correctness disease is now bleeding over into our elementary schools which is ridiculous. It's time to ease up and let children be children. Our focus needs to be to help them become responsible adults and not punish them for being normal children.

The Frog Prince


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

MHatter, I bet you have seen some ridiculous things. I admire you for being a coach and having to put up with parents who want their kids to peak in life during that one sport. I know you know the type...

What is going on today has left me behind, too. I am just shaking my head and hoping and praying for change because these are the people who will be in control some day. If "everyone is a winner," who will lead?


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Eddy!


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Teaches! I am glad you weighed in. I think most parents would go through the roof if a child is punished for a ridiculous rules. Even the parents who don't do a good job raising kids would balk at having to set up daycare for a suspension. I believe it should start at home, too, but my point is not about the student behavior above, which I think is quite normal, it is about the bad reaction to those behaviors. Kids don't have a chance if schools don't stand up for them.

If college is teaching new teachers this liberal, wimpy, mambie-pambie crap about the "delicate" psychology of children, they are are just manufacturing lies for these young teachers to go out and make bad decisions and help mold weak kids. School administrators tremble at the thought of law suits, so they will punish anything. It is beyond ridiculous.

Sorry for the rant... I know you get it, though. :-)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Exactly, Frog! Instead we are allowing them to be taught what is normal child psychology is bad and causing kids to be weak. If kids witness ridiculous punishment, then they are going to grow up making unreasonable demands in life because they won't have a clue as to what is normal. It seems authorities are starting some type of "weeding out" process at an early age, and the rest, with glazed eyes, are falling in line with agreement.


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sonfollowers 3 years ago from Alpharetta, GA

Great hub! I very much agree with your assertions. These administrators have allowed their fear to drive them toward an over-the-top response rather than one that's reasonable and balanced. Fear can cause people to do stupid things if left uncontrolled. None of these examples were reasonable. They're doing these parents and their children a huge disservice.


Juliehaux 3 years ago

I could only watch half of your Demand a Plan video because even though celebrities were talking about curbing violence, the video has the most violence I have seen in 2 minutes and I found it disgusting. Are they really showing this in open airtime as a way to CURB violence????? I find it interesting that so many children are diagnosed with ADD, when it is a safe bet to think they are suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder! PTSD has many of the same symptoms as ADD, yet not one survey I ever filled out as a teacher addressed the violence they are seeing in video games, movies, and home life as a reason for their behavior. In addition, they are not able to play on playgrounds for the very reasons you state, which is ridiculous because they have no outlet for their fears and stress. Good article. Thanks!


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The Frog Prince 3 years ago from Arlington, TX

Susan - I understand and what might also be need is required "Effective Parenting" classes so that parents stop relying on teachers to teach them what they think is normal behavior. You hit one of my hot buttons with this one susan.

TFP


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Frog, say what you want because it is my hot button, too. I am happy to report that my high school students agree with me. They just finished writing argumentative research papers. When they were finished, they wanted to know what I would argue. I LET IT GO - FULL BLAST!! And, they were on board. I told them, "What you do with YOUR life and YOUR children will determine whether we have a strong or weak, secure or scary future." They got it! We have to get the word out to beat the news media.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Julie, I know how you feel about the video. The first time I saw it was on a news show. They speak out against violence, yet they make their money by acting out the most horrendous violent scenes. I agree with you about the video games, too. As a teacher, I have never filled out any questions about the effects of violence in video games or media either.

We are setting our kids up with unrealistic ideas about the way the world works, and we will pay for it if we don't speak out. (My opinion)


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pstraubie48 3 years ago from sunny Florida

Yes, yes, yes. The last few years that I taught this whole emphasis on no weapons, no 'threats', no crossing your eyes, or looking the wrong way at someone, and on and on.

It became absurd. And it seems just in the two years since I retired, it has escalated.

Kids need to be allowed to be KIDS.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts Sending Angels your way this afternoon. ps


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randomcreative 3 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

Great take on this topic. Having worked in elementary schools for five years, it is something I saw up close and am passionate about changing. All of the suspension situations that you discuss are completely over the line.


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always exploring 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

I totally agree with you. Kids are not allowed to be fun loving anymore. The school system has taken school safety too far. I feel sorry for the kids you mentioned in this article. Thank you for sharing..Cheers.


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Paul Kuehn 3 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

sholland,

Under the guise of political correctness, the schools are penalizing kids for having an imagination. Fear of guns and even imaginary ones among students doesn't exist in Thailand. Last year I was surprised to see a few of my girls in the 5th and 6th grades with toy plastic guns. If administration knew about it, they don't do anything about it. During the time of the Thai New Year or water splashing festival, the school encourages kids to bring water pistols to school for play a day or two before the festival during summer classes. Voted up as interesting and sharing.


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rebeccamealey 3 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

I totally agree. Once my son was going to get EXPELLED because he had forgotten to take a pocket knife out of his book bag after camping. The only reason he wasn't was because they had forgotten to give me a zer0-tolerance policy to sign when he enrolled at the school.


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Tom Schumacher 3 years ago from Huntington Beach, CA

Nice hub! Although some might think the topic is controversial, given various acts of violence that have taken place on school campuses over the last decade, but nonetheless you highlight important realities that we as a society should take seriously. Voted up!


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mbwalz 3 years ago from Maine

I find it interesting that the same kids who played Star Wars, cops and robbers, Indians and cowboys, and played on steel jungle gyms and swung on wooden swings are now the parents of or the actual helicopter parents of now! We had no instant media and didn't know when a teacher hit the "retarded" kid in the back of the class, or called the kids stupid because they hadn't understood her lesson, or when the kid who stood too close to the swing got beaned and got a concussion from the wooden seat. These were all the kinds of things I saw in my idyllic childhood. Bullies being undisciplined because the teacher was too afraid of them, kids losing fingers or worse from fire crackers. And of course, the kids who lost their lives without helmets or seatbelts or those institutionalized because they were "retarded" aren't here to speak for themselves.

Every generation takes some things too far and others not far enough. It's just that now, we are bombarded by the stupidity of each stupid person.

I also find that the idea of Political Correctness being stupid is only stupid for the people who aren't being dissed by the words or actions. There is nothing wrong with being careful with your words or actions so as not to offend others. That's actually called being respectful and polite.

Stupid teachers or administrators who see a pop tart or a piece of paper as guns or something are just stupid. That's no excuse to throw PC or manners and respect for others out the door.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Pstraubie, RandomCreative, and AE, yes, it does seem to be getting worse and more ridiculous. I want our kids to look back on fond memories. These rules could potentially make them rebellious. These silly rules don't allow them to just be kids, and I hope it changes for them and us. Thanks so much for dropping by! I'm glad I am not the only teacher who sees the foolishness in this chaos. PS, thanks for the Angels! :-)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Paul, Thai schools sound like when I grew up: water guns and cap guns were a nuisance, but they were not suspension offenses. I am glad your kids get to be kids! :-)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Good for you, Rebecca! I am glad there was a loophole. How silly! Now schools post rules on websites and FB and claim all parents should be aware. Watching the nightly news is enough to see how ridiculous things are, forcing parents to have to be on guard for their kids. I am so glad it worked out for your son. :-)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Tom, it may be controversial, but all kids should not pay for what a few have done. We should be wary, but we should also be reasonable. I think it is controversial to be unreasonable when schools start labeling good kids as bad. Thanks for dropping by! :-)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

MB, I find it ironic that the adults who are making these foolish rules have forgotten what it was like to be children, too. Everyone is afraid of a lawsuit, which our news media perpetuates. Being kind and polite should be instilled in our kids, not fear and falsehoods. I just hate it for them. I am afraid they will be living in fear most of their lives, rather than having fond memories. Such a shame! Thanks for dropping by! :-)


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Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

Kids these days aren't going to ever take any chances. They will be scared to do or say anything. I think schools have gone way over the line.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Glimmer! If changes do not occur, our kids have hard challenges ahead. I pray some adult common sense kicks in and realizes how ineffective these types of punishments are counter-productive... Our future depends on this type of discipline ending. Thanks for dropping by!


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celeste inscribed 3 years ago

I remember being a free child. It saddens me that my son doesn't have the same luxury. I am an over protective parent not because I don't believe in my son but because I am so worried that something he says or does in innocence will get him into trouble. He is burdened by the society we live in and I think it is so unfair!


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B. Leekley 3 years ago from Kalamazoo, Michigan, USA

Up, Useful, and Interesting. I agree with your points. Basically, in matters of grade school rules and discipline (as in all matters), use common sense and don't go to ridiculous extremes--like banning imaginary weapons.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

I know what you mean, Celeste. Our children are not given the same freedoms we had. The media plasters it everywhere, so our kids get a bad wrap even though they are innocent. It is extremely unfair!


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Leekley, YES, common sense is all that is needed in this type of situation. :-)


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keelymahaffey 3 years ago from Maine

Some of the news articles I've read in recent months about the disciplinary action that some of these kids are receiving have led me to agree with all of your points ~ this is getting way out of hand. Kids should learn to be respectful, but with this kind of action, they are also learning to be afraid to speak their mind. Like others have said: common sense could go a long way here.


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alocsin 3 years ago from Orange County, CA

I understand the need to protect our kids from all the violence that seems to be pervading the school system. I like the idea of consequence fitting the crime. It seems that a lot of common sense gets lost in trying to stick unfailingly to the minutiae of regulations. Voting this Up and Interesting.


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RealHousewife 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO

My goodness - I heard about the pop tart and the play gun affair in the news and I was like, really? Seriously we are wasting time on an international level over a POP TART?

Everyone is going to have to homeschool when their kids get bumped out of school for having an imagination! Sheesh we played imaginary cops and robbers with invisible guns...! Maybe we should send them to invisible prisons?!


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Keely! I agree, teach our kids respect and use common sense when we see they are just being kids.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, ALocsin! The minutia is going to take us down one of these days if we don't stand against people who want to turn it into something major and destructive. Thanks for the votes and shares. :-)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Kelly! They are setting up the invisible prisons now by brainwashing our kids into fearing every word and action... 1984, Fahrenheit 451, Brave New World - those authors saw it long before we did. Kind of scary.


Sueswan 3 years ago

Hi Susan,

Children are not allowed to be children nowadays. I remember reading about a five year old boy who was suspended from school for kissing a five year old girl.

I guess the Political Correct police want us all to be mindless robots. We need to take a stand and protect our children.

Voted up, awesome and sharing.

Have a good day. :)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Sue! Yes, we are being molded as robots in this society. I, like you, hope people take a stand for our children. I know if it were my child, I would be fighting for his/her rights to be a child.

Thanks so much for the votes and sharing!


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MartieCoetser 3 years ago from South Africa

Parents of previous generations were able to allow children to be children. Or let me rather change the word 'allow' with 'force'. Today's parents seem to over-react about the merest. While a good-old moral lecture should be applied, the punishment applied today is emotionally more devastating than the corporal punishment that was once upon a time legal, but also misused by adults without insight and vision.

So where is this all going to end?


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

I don't know, Martie. I fear it is going end with crushing the spirit of our children so they will not have the joyful childhood memories of innocence and "adventure" that we had. I think that will be a tragic loss. Also, planting fear and paranoia are not good for any society. I hope common sense kicks in SOON.

Thanks so much for dropping by!! :-)


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rebekahELLE 3 years ago from Tampa Bay

It starts in preschool where kids learn by playing and imagination. They can't pretend they have a gun or play cops and robbers. The playground is closely monitored because we're always aware that if a child falls off the play structure, we could be sued. The young preschoolers of today have very poor social skills, are overly protected, are spending more time in front of a monitor rather than playing outside and can't focus. I had a child tell me the other day he was staying home with his dad who had the day off from work, they were going to play Call of Duty.. he's 5 years old. What am I missing? What has happened? These are middle class parents. Excellent hub with great feedback as well.


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Sharyn's Slant 3 years ago from Northeast Ohio USA

Excellent SH! Things have truly gone too far. It's really quite sad. I literally lol'd at your "where are you physically sitting? In prison?" ha ha

Really great topic I wish we could truly do something about.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Sharyn! We can do something by teaching our children to not be quiet when there is an injustice done to them as they grow older. As parents and relatives of kids, we can stand up for them. As strangers with common sense, we can speak out against such knee jerk reactions. Of course, these are only my suggestions. :-)

Thanks for dropping by! :-)


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Mr Archer 3 years ago from Missouri

I work for a local school district and know exactly what you mean. Yesterday I read where a 7 year old boy was suspended form school for playing with his pencil like it was a gun with a friend who was doing the same. Mind you, they were playing together not bothering anybody else. They were told to stop and they did with no back talk or sassing at all. These two were suspended for 2 days. We must use our common sense in these situations or we will push some away instead of bringing them in.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Mr. Archer, those boys were just playing. Good grief, we are becoming a police state in our schools. So ridiculous. These kids are going to rebel one day. Why not? They have already been labeled as "bad." I pray the boys' parents are fighting this ridiculous punishment and are telling the boys they are normal.

Thanks so much for dropping by and sharing this story. I am so frustrated by what is happening to our kids.


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sgbrown 3 years ago from Southern Oklahoma

The world is going crazy! Kids playing video games such as "Call of Duty" and yet can't play with Hello Kitty bubble guns. It's like our society is losing all common sense! When I was a kid, I had a western style gun belt and two pistols. Me and the boy next door played "The Lone Ranger and Tanto". Wow, not these days!

Your right when you say that these children are going to think they are "bad" because some idiot wants to freak out when they play with their pop-tarts or pencils! God help us! Great hub, voted up, awesome and sharing! :)


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Sheila, you are right, the world is going crazy when common sense is thrown out the window. I am so glad we grew up when we did. We have a sense of self and a sense of right and wrong. That is being stolen from our kids today because of imposed political correct rules. Hopefully parents are stepping in on behalf of their kids. And, yes, God, PLEASE, help us!!

Thanks for dropping by, voting, and sharing! :-)


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old albion 3 years ago from Lancashire. England.

Hi Sholland10. I totally agree with all you have said. What a wonderful refreshing and interesting hub, your observations are spot on. Might I also say that I found your profile the most uplifting read. Truly loving and inspirational. Your family have obviously put into life and drawn from life. Well done!

voted up and all.

Following.

Graham.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thank, Graham! There were not many "politically correct" moments when in such a big family. It was about fun and sometime survival. We played, and we behaved. If we didn't behave, we got our butts busted. Made us stronger and prepared us for the world. Today, we are not being allowed to prepare our kids for the world because of such silly restrictions on play time. The bad thing is that our society is allowing it.

There are times kids deserve the consequences they get - I earned every one of mine. LOL But in the instances above, those kids did NOTHING wrong. There should have been no consequences.

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Chris in VA 3 years ago from Virginia

As a former elementary school teacher, I agree with everything you wrote.

Schools were once learning environments; now they are testing centers. Something is terribly amiss.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thanks, Chris! I agree, we are running testing centers and taking the enrichment out that makes our kids life-long learners.

Thanks for dropping by! :-)


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Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

Gosh, it is disheartening when you read all of these cases together. Great hub, Susan. It is ridiculous and nonsense. Within the paragraphs I read the word, 'imgination' and it clicked. We are robbing our children of imagination with punitive measures, while not addressing the real terrors of the world: unattended and untreated mentally ill people who actually visit schools, theaters, and navy bases and shoot people with real bullets. Up/across and shared.


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sholland10 3 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Denise, I think those "in power" have lost sight to what children need. Children need to explore and use their imaginations. Kids need to be kids, and adults are responsible for preserving their innocence.

Maybe if children had been allowed to use their imaginations beyond the violent TV and video games for the past 20 years, they would flourish as we were allowed to do and not commit the heinous crimes we see in the news today.

Thanks for commenting, voting, and sharing! :-)


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Glenn Stok 2 years ago from Long Island, NY

I don't know exactly what changed the world, but you just about covered all the issues in this hub. When I was a child in school, times were so much more innocent. We played, and sometimes we played rough. But like you said in your article, there was never any malice involved.

Today everyone has to be so careful and I agree with you that the children today will grow up with an inability to be creative. Of course there are bullies. But there were bullies back then too.

Something else is wrong and I can't put my finger on it. One thing for sure, the violent videogames are teaching kids the wrong message. But nobody seems to care about that. We are losing our common sense with making the right decisions.


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sholland10 2 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Hi Glenn! We are losing our common sense to political correctness. I think if we teach our kids to be kind and to treat others as we would like to be treated that common sense will take hold and the political correctness will be a given. There will always be kids who get it and those who will not. It boils down to how kids are taught in most cases.

Thanks for dropping by and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!! :-)


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fpherj48 15 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

Susan, this is a wonderful work of love, understanding and common sense. I am in agreement with your concern and opinions. Going back even further, to my own childhood of the '50's & '60's, it truly saddens me that our youth today must be so cornered, boxed up and made paranoid for every move they make.

How dare we place the fabulous IMAGINATIONS of our most prized little humans in jeopardy. Peace, Paula


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sholland10 15 months ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Thank you, Paula. It is so sad to think our kids do not have the wonderful freedoms we used to have. They have so many ridiculous restrictions. I am worried about our country's future.

Thanks so much for dropping by!! :-)

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