Anger Recovery Quotes: Inspiration For Healing

A Collection of Words of Wisdom, Quotes, and Advice

 

I'd like to share some meaningful words, wisdom, quotes and advice I've received over the years.

This collection is taken from conversations I've had during my lifetime, quotes from wise people, and a few of my own "Annette-isms".

Any direct quotes from others will be cited. Enjoy my latest:

Thoughts & encouragement for spiritual healing.

So, welcome! Come on in and share with me.

Fear

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It's better to face your fear and fail than never face your fear at all.

"Do not be afraid - I am with you! I am your God - let nothing terrify you! I will make you strong and help you; I will protect you and save you." Isaiah 41:10 (Today's English Version)

Rights of Circumstance

I have a right to feel indecisive.

I have a right to my feelings.

I have a right to question motives.

I have a right to explanations.

I have a right to feel mistrust, anger, humiliation, and resentment. My feelings are justified.

Encouragement

Never give up! Keep fighting.

I promise you, it won't always hurt this bad.

You can do this....believe it.

"Tomorrow will be better.." (Mom)

Love

Let's talk about roses. (Mom)

I love life when I'm working.

Even if our love isn't returned, we can feel secure in the knowledge that we have loved freely and with truth.

Disappointment

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When you are disappointed:

It hurts to know your consideration is not returned.

It helps to remind yourself it has nothing to do with YOU.

It clarifies to know they are saying YES to another part of their life.

It comforts to realize you gave freely with trust.

It's always sad when our reality bubble bursts & we realize that what we perceived as true & real is an impostor in disguise.

Feelings

"There's no such thing as a 'wrong' feeling." (Dr.Shirl Brunell)

"One usually gets defensive when attacked." (J.M.Cook,LPC)

"What may seem hurtful to our flesh now, will create growth in our spirit later." (Pastor Josh Lee, Cornerstone Assembly.)

Closure is important because it gives one a chance to tie up emotional loose ends with an official ending.

Limbo is like fallen leaves outside the fence: in your yard - not quite; out of your yard, somewhat.

Anger

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"When someone is mad at you for no good reason, it makes you think you might have done something bad to wrong them. You get depression, though it isn't your fault, but you feel bad anyway." (J.Campbell)

Shaming and Blaming

“It’s subliminal and not completely verbalized, but the feeling and meaning is demoralizing and will put you on a guilt trip about it and depression”. (J. Campbell)

It’s like a teacher standing with the yardstick of correction pointing it at me saying, “You finished the work but …."


It’s always something else. Never enough.

Consistency

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Consistency enables stability.

A vague response fuels uncertainty………

Inconsistency empowers mistrust..

Doubt is the result of inconsistencies in the circumstances, half-truths, lying by omission, and ‘holes’ in a situation’s story.

Hurt Feelings

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Acknowledge your pain, don’t deny it. Let yourself cry if you need to.

Assumption

I think the worst part of it is the "obsesssion of assumption" that builds things in our mind based only on our assumption, not on actual facts.

I've been guilty of giving the benefit of a doubt too often. I've never regretted it when I was wrong; just learned from it and moved on.

In Conclusion.....

I would like to share a passage from Colgrove, Bloomfield, & McWilliams book, How To Survive The Loss Of A Love.

"In taking, I get. In giving, I receive. In being loved, I am filled full. In loving I am fulfilled. The greatest gift is to fill a need unnoticed."

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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Thank you for a though-provoking hub


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

This was a good reading this morning. My favorite..."Do not be afraid - I am with you! I am your God - let nothing terrify you! I will make you strong and help you; I will protect you and save you."


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50 Caliber 6 years ago from Arizona

Donotfear,

These are from 2 books I recently checked out of the library by a Man named Eric Hoffer. He calls them "aphorisms" by my dictionary, A tersely phrased statement of a truth or opinion, and refers to Proverbs as another word for them as well as a book from the Bible containing many. I enjoyed his writings but the book of Biblical aphorisms, Proverbs, contains probably all one would ever need. That is just my humble opinion. Wise quotes are quite entertaining, especially if you know where and why they are reached, or you can personally relate to them.

Great Hub! On an entertaining subject. I received the titles of the books from a person via hub pages that I think, thinks I'm slightly off my rocker for being a lone wolf, she sorta said it but none the less they are good books.

"It is not at all simple to understand the simple."

"We all have private ails. The troublemakers are they who need public cures for their private ails."

"Our quarrel with the world is an echo of the endless quarrel proceeding within us."

"Spiritual stagnation ensues when man's environment becomes unpredictable or when his inner life is made wholly predictable."

"Whoever originated the cliché that money is the root of all evil knew hardly anything about the nature of evil and very little about human beings."

"The monstrous evils of the twentieth century have shown us that the greediest money grubbers are gentle doves compared with money-hating wolves like Lenin, Stalin, and Hitler, who in less than three decades killed or maimed nearly a hundred million men, women, and children and brought untold suffering to a large portion of mankind."

"Every era has a currency that buys souls. In some the currency is pride, in others it is hope, in still others it is a holy cause. There are of course times when hard cash will buy souls, and the remarkable thing is that such times are marked by civility, tolerance, and the smooth working of everyday life."

"When grubbing for necessities man is still an animal. He becomes uniquely human when he reaches out for the superfluous and extravagant."

"A society that refuses to strive for superfluities is likely to end up lacking in necessities."

"Man is a luxury loving animal. Take away play, fancies, and luxuries, and you will turn man into a dull, sluggish creature, barely energetic enough to obtain a bare subsistence. A society becomes stagnant when its people are too rational or too serious to be tempted by baubles."

"There is no reason why humanity cannot be served equally by weighty and trivial motives."

"It is loneliness that makes the loudest noise. This is true of men as of dogs."

"We clamor for equality chiefly in matters in which we ourselves cannot hope to attain excellence. To discover what a man truly craves but knows he cannot have we must find the field in which he advocates absolute equality. By this test Communists are frustrated Capitalists."

"We have rudiments of reverence for the human body, but we consider as nothing the rape of the human mind."

"People who bite the hand that feeds them usually lick the boot that kicks them."

"What are we when we are alone? Some, when they are alone, cease to exist."

"The awareness of their individual blemishes and shortcomings inclines the frustrated to detect ill will and meanness in their fellow men. Self-contempt, however vague, sharpens our eyes for the imperfections of others. We usually strive to reveal in others the blemishes we hide in ourselves."

"The capacity for getting along with our neighbor depends to a large extent on the capacity for getting along with ourselves. The self-respecting individual will try to be as tolerant of his neighbor's shortcomings as he is of his own."

"The role the unfit play in human affairs should make us pause whenever we are prompted to see man as a mere animal and not a being of an order apart."

"A war is not won if the defeated enemy has not been turned into a friend."

"Lack of sensitivity is perhaps basically an unawareness of ourselves."

"In every passionate pursuit, the pursuit counts more than the object pursued."

"The central task of education is to implant a will and facility for learning; it should produce not learned but learning people. The truly human society is a learning society, where grandparents, parents, and children are students together."

"Every extreme attitude is a flight from the self."

"The uncompromising attitude is more indicative of an inner uncertainty than of deep conviction. The implacable stand is directed more against the doubt within than the assailant without."

"To most of us nothing is so invisible as an unpleasant truth. Though it is held before our eyes, pushed under our noses, rammed down our throats- we know it not."

"It is a perplexing and unpleasant truth that when men already have "something worth fighting for," they do not feel like fighting."

"It is not actual suffering but a taste of better things which excites people to revolt."

"Our frustration is greater when we have much and want more than when we have nothing and want some. We are less dissatisfied when we lack many things than when we seem to lack but one thing."

"Both the revolutionary and the creative individual are perpetual juveniles. The revolutionary does not grow up because he cannot grow, while the creative individual cannot grow up because he keeps growing."

"The technique of a mass movement aims to infect people with a malady and then offer the movement as a cure."

"Propaganda does not deceive people; it merely helps them to deceive themselves."

"The taint inherent in absolute power is not its inhumanity but its antihumanity."

"The only index by which to judge a government or a way of life is by the quality of the people it acts upon. No matter how noble the objectives of a government, if it blurs decency and kindness, cheapens human life, and breeds ill will and suspicion- it is an evil government."

"Absolute power corrupts even when exercised for humane purposes. The benevolent despot who sees himself as a shepherd of the people still demands from others the submissiveness of sheep."

"Freedom means freedom from forces and circumstances which would turn man into a thing, which would impose on man the passivity and predictability of matter. By this test, absolute power is the manifestation most inimical to human uniqueness. Absolute power wants to turn people into malleable clay."

"The aspiration toward freedom is the most essentially human of all human manifestations."

"To some, freedom means the opportunity to do what they want to do; to most it means not to do what they do not want to do. It is perhaps true that those who can grow will feel free under any condition."

"We cannot hate those who we despise."

"The fanatic is not really a stickler to principle. He embraces a cause not primarily because of its justness or holiness but because of his desperate need for something to hold onto."

"The devil personifies not the nature that is around us but the nature that is within us- the infinitely ferocious and cunning prehuman creature that is still within us, sealed in the subconscious cellars of the psyche."

"We run fastest and farthest when we run from ourselves."

"How much easier is self-sacrifice than self-realization."

"An empty head is not really empty; it is stuffed with rubbish. Hence the difficulty of forcing anything in to an empty head."

"The less satisfaction we derive from being ourselves, the greater is our desire to be like others."

"What monstrosities would walk the streets were some people's faces as unfinished as their minds."

"Only the individual who has come to terms with his self can have a dispassionate attitude toward the world."

"Language was invented to ask questions. Answers may be given by grunts and gestures, but questions must be spoken. Humanness came of age when man asked the first question. Social stagnation results not from a lack of answers but from the absence of the impulse to ask questions."

"The ability to get along without an exceptional leader is the mark of social vigor."

"A man by himself is


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tony0724 6 years ago from san diego calif

Honesty without compassion is brutality.

Adversity introduces a man to himself

If you don't take a chance , you don't have one !

And my personal favorite ! Appreciate me now and avoid the rush ! :)


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Art 4 Life 6 years ago from in the middle of nowhere....

Good hub donotfear...you always make one think in abstract ways, that are good to clean out the soul...


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MrTooree 6 years ago

Great hub !!! I love to read Inspirational quotes, especially when I'm feeling down. Thanks !!!


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Micky Dee 6 years ago

My favorite quote is: The dew falls on a turd the same as a rose- Stanley Patrick


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Ken R. Abell 6 years ago from ON THE ROAD

Excellent Hub. Thank you for putting it all together here. Very encouraging & insightful.


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

Hi, donotfear-

I am almost through with one of the most difficult weeks of my life and found these to be uplifting. Thanks so very much!

Laurel


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GusTheRedneck 6 years ago from USA

Hi DNF - Words of wisdom accompanied by wise actions are nifty things by which to crown good results. Your hub provided good results. Being the nut that I am, my favorite words of wisdom came from a kid who was a classmate back in grade school. "He who laughs last does not catch on quickly." (Payson Jones)

Gus :-)))


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breakfastpop 6 years ago

Terrific hub. I should print it and carry it around in my wallet.


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drej2522 6 years ago from Augusta, GA

Awesome donotfear! There are so many great lines in this passage it's almost impossible to pick out a favorite. However, there's always one that stands out for each of us and mine has to do with the rights of circumstance..."I have a right to feel mistrust, anger, humiliation, and resentment. My feelings are justified." - for some reason, I really like this one!


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

Donotfear, I have bookmarked this and will refer to back to these wonderful words of enlightenment and thought. It's funny, it's often the most unexpected nuggets of wisdom that stick with us and effect us the most.


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heart4theword 6 years ago from hub

Consistency, is the one I liked the most. Appreciate the read:) Another Great Hub! donofear:)


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cheaptrick 6 years ago from the bridge of sighs

Thank you D, I'm glad I have you on my reading list.

Dean

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