How to Get Out of a Rut in Your Life?
How to get out of a rut? The question thundered in the quietness of the night. I felt stuck in the rut the past month! I was desperately trying to get out of the rut and yet I just couldn’t. Shame and guilt washed over me in waves. Ripplemakers know better right? I should know what to do. I did know but the feelings of gloominess and sadness hovered heavily on top of my head. I just couldn’t seem to shake it off.
But for what it’s worth, I tried.
I tried uttering positive affirmations. I am special. I am a beauty to behold. I am joy and love and compassion. I am whole and complete. I am the light of the world. I am the greatest miracle in the world. I could feel my throat tightening. I was in a state of disbelief. I almost choked on the last words. Another voice taunted me. That’s not true and you know it.
U-oh, there goes the inner battle again! I will not be ashamed to admit that in my own healing journey, I still stumble and fall. And there are moments when I just can’t find the light no matter how hard I try.
I tried Ho’oponopono. The mantra came out in a half hearted cry of a hurting soul. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. I thank you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. I thank you. My chest tightened in pain. My ears were blurry with tears. I placed my hand gently on my chest, above my heart where I could feel the heartbeat pulsating. I continued. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. I thank you. And so I cried and said the mantra over and over again until the pain eased. Calm descended and my breathing steadied. Father God, please hug me. I fell asleep.
I share this part of me to you because I know at one point in our lives, we share a similar pain, the ache, the grief or anguish and no matter what you do, it just wouldn’t leave. Some of us just get swallowed by it all. Some of us drown the pain with drugs, alcohol, sex, food, shopping. Some of us become angry with ourselves and beat ourselves up for being in the rut. Some of us cry. Some of us just numb ourselves. Some of us try getting a new haircut, a facelift, or buy a new dress. Some of us turn to friends for comfort. Some of us reach out to God and pray.
The following day, I woke up feeling a bit better. As I looked at my face in the mirror, I smiled
at myself. I declare aloud, “Every day I am getting better and
better. Every day I am learning more
about myself. Every day I am responding
positively.” And I began to say
aloud the things I am grateful for. “I thank you for going on and facing
yourself with gentleness. I thank you
for allowing yourself to feel and express all the hurt and confusion within.” A tear escaped my eye but I am feeling
better. The twinkle is back too.
How to get out of a rut? The question came back to me quietly. There are indeed many ways to help you get out of the rut. But today, I would just like to share with you that one way to get out of the rut is to accept yourself, your feelings and not hate yourself for feeling all these things. It’s about making a choice to go on even if it’s just moving one step ahead to feeling better.
It’s allowing yourself to be quiet so you could hear yourself think and feel so you would know what is truly bugging you. If you are able to identify what that thing is, you will be able to deal with it more.
During my meditation, I recognize that I was trying to find my path again. I had been so busy and preoccupied the past month trying to juggle my activities both online and offline that my spirit was screaming for me to halt. Stop. Breathe. Learn to enjoy and surrender to the moment. I have been straying from the path that my soul yearns to do and I have been re-awakened.
What a joyous discovery! I found my voice again. I felt like I was lost and now I am found. And for now, it’s more than enough.
By: Michelle Simtoco
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