How to Let Go of Everything, a Technique in Releasing

Once I met a man in one of the seminars I attended. He runs every morning before our sessions and when one time he hurt his leg on the course of our training I massaged it. During this time he had told me that his brother lives in a dumpster of a home and that his mother, a socialite in one of the big cities constantly begs him to please take care of his brother. He refused and continues to refuse. My logical mind could not fathom this, until a few days ago.

To enable someone to hang on to their addiction is to actually hinder them from their growth. It is what is termed as idiot compassion. The textbook definition of compassion.

Contrary to what our logical minds can conceive an addiction does not have to be with chemicals. An addiction is simply something that one has a compulsion to do, whether it be exercise, food, sex, the temporary ecstasy of drugs or or it could be hanging on to any identity that enables us to generate something out of our intended audience.

Real compassion is intelligent. It is sharp, ruthless, and most importantly, it comes from a space of unconditional love where there is no room for frivolity. The analogy being, would you give someone money when you know they would use it to buy drugs? It is the same with continuing to validate a belief by listening to them and commenting on something that they want to or unconsciously trying to validate. Had the man in the story tried to “alleviate” his brother’s condition, it would have hindered the brother from experiencing what he wanted to experience.

To continue in the path, we need to realease all kinds of baggages. We travel light. But we also have to honor the stages in the path.

This release affirmation is a combination from several sources and I only formulated them here for simplicity. You can rearrange the words, delete or add words and phrases however it suits  you. What is important, always, is what rings true to you.

Release tecnique "I release every thought pattern, attitude, behavior, programming, cultural and ancestral beliefs patterns, things and relationships that are longer conducive to my well being on the physical and spiritual level at this point in my path. I bless them all for at one time or another they were necessary for my growth. May they all be encased in divine light and divine love and returned to the Source."

So the steps

On the spiritual level, we release everyone into the space of unconditional love. Say the release affirmation above every day. Pay attention to your feelings. Your feelings is your gauge, an inner guidance mechanism. If you always feel bad when you talk to someone because of anything, then perhaps it is time to let go of this relationship. You are not bound by anything. Only our minds try to cage us, but we are all free.

On the physical level, we let go of things that we don’t use anymore and don’t intend to use. Cleaning the closets, so to speak, but also drawers, cupboards, all the material things that someone else may use, we give to someone who can use them or donate to charity. Others we throw away.

The combination of the two allows for other experiences to come to our lives be they in the form of material things or new relationships.

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Ultimate Hubber 7 years ago

Makes sense to me... Nice Hub in the end!


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Thanks, Ultimate Hubber.

Sometimes this process can be very painful. Attachment, to anything or anyone, is the cause of suffering. We acknowledge the attachment, we bless it and we say goodbye to it. Little by little.

This includes the textbook meaning of compassion. By textbook meaning, I mean doing something just because we were taught that that is the compassionate thing to do.

As always, follow your heart.


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AlexK2009 7 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

I enjoyed this and it resonated. Thanks


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DynamicS 7 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Melinda, thanks for such thoughtfulness, compassion and love that you show through this hub. Tough love is so hard, but necessary for self-realization in both the addict and those who are love the addict.

Some people hang onto the victim role as it generates the attention that they seek.

Thanks for your words of wisdom...


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Dear DynamicS,

That was so insightful. I know of so many people who can talk about nothing good about their parents and yet, they went to the best private schools, vacationed in Europe, received generous amounts of money when they needed it, from their parents.

When they begin to tell me the same thing..again and again...I just shut up or excuse myself.


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Universal Laws 7 years ago from UNIVERSE

and us choosing our parents and all........!

Raising the levels allows us to see why we chose the parents, its always perfect and an amazing uplifting moment on the spiritual level when you get there!

Great hub on unconditional love, but there is a "no" needed in the technique.... just in case someone takes it literally.

Namaste


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tim-tim 7 years ago from Normal, Illinois

I really enjoy your hubs! I can tell you are a very intelligent woman! Thanks for sharing.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Thank you so much, Tim-tim.


myhousegeek 6 years ago from Spring Hill, Florida

I love your hubs. They are very uplifting for me. Especially, because I am carrying so much hindering baggage around. Keep up the good writing.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Thanks, myhousegeek. I appreciate.

Kind regards,

Melinda


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

There is so much beauty in all that you write about. It's life giving and freeing, and very calming. It is so important to clear the head and the home of clutter.

Thanks for sharing ways to 'let go' - we tend to forget the power of our mind.


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Missi Darnell 6 years ago from Southern California

love this hub. I newly widowed and not yet at the process of letting things go, this makes such sense to me however, by holding on you essentially are holding yourself back from life's new, reqarding experiences. Thank you for sharing this hub.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Oh..Yes, this is always challenging.

I am sorry about your loss. With deepest condolences.

In the Philippines where I grew up we were always taught to release our deceased, in thoughts, knowing that they would go to heaven if they repented before they passed on.

It makes it easier for us to deal with this.

Sending you hugs of comfort, Missi.


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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

Thank you as you are a great source of positive energy and tools we all need the knowledge of how to let go of everything this is a great technique in release and vital to good health and success! Peace :)


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Yes, as we speak I am doing this exercise right now. Clearing spaces. Thanks for coming by, katie


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Peggy W 6 years ago from Houston, Texas

Material things are the easiest of which to dispose...people, less easy. You have given me much to consider. Some individuals do drag one down and we can make choices. Thanks for the clarification. Rating this useful!


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Thanks, Peggy. I did that last weekend. Cleaned the house, lol..It is amazing what we store that we never use.

Thank you for dropping by.


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Hopmoney wizard 6 years ago from barak

congratulation msorensson. This is a good hub so much wisdom in it. your insight focus on spirituality, understanding life in a logical way. like it.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Thanks a lot, hopmoney, much appreciated.


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Hopmoney wizard 6 years ago from barak

i dont know why but i keep on coming back to this hub lol! msorrensson sorry about the url that i included the last time to my comment of one of your articles wont happen again


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Oh..it is not an issue hopmoney :-)


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago

Moresson, Very thought provoking! Wonderful Melissa. Much here to ponder… “Real compassion is intelligent. It is sharp, ruthless, and most importantly, it comes from a space of unconditional love…” So true!

"Letting go” means we must release the baggage…" This does not at all mean that you are abandoning the person, your responsibility or situation. You “release it or them” and entrust them to God! To love someone unconditionally means that you always love them regardless but the way in which you interact with the person or situation changes… Letting go is a process that makes way for change …. I enjoyed this! Thank you for sharing, In His Love, Peace & Blessings!


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Thank you Deborrah. I am glad you like it. Peace and blessings, bountiful to you.


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MartieCoetser 6 years ago from South Africa

We are on the same page about this issue. May we keep on travelling light until death stops us.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Glad to be on the same journey, Martie, thank you!!!


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BrianS 6 years ago from Castelnaudary, France

Sometimes people can take on the baggage of others in order to deal with their own. Its like a distraction from their own reality, but in the end the only way to get rid of your own baggage is to accept it exists and then deal with it.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

That is so true, Brian, thank you. We each have to deal with our own problems. No matter how good the intent, the simple truth is that we have free will and sometimes to let others be, even by silence is the best thing to do.

It does not mean we do not care.

Quite the contrary, it could mean we care too much and the wiser decision is to let be.

Thank you for your comment.


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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

Today this reads different to me and is more powerful as there are people in my family I'm dying to help and yet I know those convinced against their will are of the same opinion still, they must come to it on their own and whatever it is to them. Great help and thanks for how to let go of everything a technigue in release. So vital. Peace :)


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Hi, Katie,

Can you imagine, we are thinking the same thing. I have a tendency to do that..lol..and thank God I catch myself all the time.

Thank you, katie for dropping by and leaving a comment.

hug,

Melinda


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vocalcoach 6 years ago from Nashville Tn.

I love the combination of your energy and wisdom. Your hubs seem like they are written just for me. :-) I printed out the "Release Technique" and have put it on the frig., bathroom mirror and even in my car. Thank you sweet lady for giving so much to us all. Hugs, vocalcoach.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Oh you are too kind. You always make me want to run to you and hug you the biggest hug, vocalcoach. Thank you!!


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Ruchira 6 years ago from United States

Well written msorensson :) I agree the journey of being attached and detached is very tough and it needs a lot of mental and emotional balance. I have written a similar hub by the name of Attachment Vs. Detachment. Would love your views on it :)


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Thank you, Ruchira. I went to your hub and enjoyed it.

Warmest regards,

Melinda


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carrie450 5 years ago from Winnipeg, Canada

What an amazing hub and so well written. I will return to read more of your hubs.

I think I'll begin "cleaning my house"


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msorensson 5 years ago Author

Thank you, Carrie!! Happy New Year!!


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Lita C. Malicdem 5 years ago from Philippines

I like this - "I release every thought pattern, . . . that are "no" longer conducive to my well-being. . . ." Great advice! Love it for myself, too. Voted up, useful, bookmarked this. Thank you, Dear.


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msorensson 5 years ago Author

Thank you, Lita!!


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drpastorcarlotta 5 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

Voted-Up and Useful. Let Go and let GOD!


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msorensson 5 years ago Author

Thank you drpastorcarlotta!


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days leaper 5 years ago from england

Very interesting. It does seem there are many addictions. Power is addictive, it seems people have many ways to derive and manipulate "power" or what they call -.

I past some-one in the street a few weeks back, they shouted my name, I was 'miles away', on my way to the doctors, so before I actually registered that he was having a nasty chuckle at his perception of my ignoring him, I heard myself saying "Who is it?", I wish I'd never asked it was the brother/half brother of a lad that seemed hell bent on causing my latter school life misery. So, the attempt to get my attention was a nasty reminder from a brother of said thug that seems to be living off what he percieves as "glories" of his brother. Though I actually regard his brother as a coward, I had enough problems without his malicious but sly input.

To speak of real power requires intelligence, I came through all that. Though I don't use my power to make other's lives miserable. Even self sacrificing then who has the real power at the end of the day? And I'm not even addicted to it as I haven't yet tried to correct them for though he punched me in the end -the older brother- because I had started to learn to not take any notice etc. I walked away knowing that no longer would "caregivers" owning the house subject me to their power, forcing me to go out to 'play' with any-one who showed up at the door asking to see me -whether it was convenient for me or not!

(Thanks for letting me get this off my chest!!!)


Raja 5 years ago

Before couple of days my friend toled me about the concept "let go everything" over the phone and he was so clear it'll be more effective when we both have a face to face conversation, could'nt wait and searched for it and ended in reading ur hub. This is really cool! made more sense to me! i'd be more happy if you could send more in detail to my mail id! jack_silver16@yahoo.com


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msorensson 4 years ago Author

It is time to say goodbye to Yesterday...

This is a prayer I published early this year..

From my heart and with all of my being I ask that my Divine Soul Self merge fully with me now.

In sacred way, I ask my divine spirit teachers, healers, guides and guardians to help me in this endeavor and work with me now. All that must be done will be for my highest will and good, and for the benefit of those whose path I share.

I ask that all parts of me, left in other dimensions and planes be collected so that no part of me is left behind.

I release all those whose path diverge from mine, lovingly, and completely, and I pray that they too find their paths. I honor our meeting, if only briefly, in this lifetime, and know that however brief our association, I have fulfilled my sacred contract with them and they with me, in this lifetime. All of our debts to each other are forgiven. All our agreements undone.

I ask that from my heart emanate divine love, divine power and divine wisdom that I may be of help to others the best way I can, without sacrificing my own freedom.

So be it. Om, Gate, gate, paragate, parasamgate, bodhi svaha.

I am sorry I cannot remember who wrote this but it hang on my bedroom wall when I was 12 years old. It had the picture of a prima ballerina tying her shoes, getting ready for a performance and it had the following caption:

"To Achieve all that is possible, we must attempt the impossible, to be all that we can be, we must dream of being more"


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kingmaxler 4 years ago from Olympia, Washington USA

I enjoyed your article and the replies to the comments left by you. You must have an amazing spirit.


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msorensson 4 years ago Author

Thank you, kimgmaxler, wow, thanks. I appreciate.


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TIMETRAVELER2 4 years ago

You are the first person who has put into eloquent words what I have always believed. In so doing, you have given me validation. Thank you. Voted up and awesome.


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msorensson 4 years ago Author

Thank you very kindly, timetraveller2, for dropping by and leaving your comment.


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marinandee 4 years ago from Kuala Lumpur

Nice hub msorensson. Enjoyed your writings.


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Mmargie1966 4 years ago from Gainesville, GA

Beautiful! Thank you for being such an inspiration, and sharing techniques that help your fellow man!

Great job, msorensson! voted up!


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msorensson 4 years ago Author

Thank you, Mmargie. Much appreciated.

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