How to Be a Great Man

Michael Miu 苗僑偉

Jessica Hsuan & Michael Miu in a kissing scene-HK Actress & Actor
Jessica Hsuan & Michael Miu in a kissing scene-HK Actress & Actor

Be her soul mate-He has to be your best friend. You can talk to him about the good, the bad, and whatever comes to you. Communication is very important. He has to be able to express himself and not bottle things inside.

Share the chores-If he is the great man, he would be helping around the house. On the other hand, mow the lawn and help your man.

Be appreciative-He has to appreciate the woman in his life whether you are his girlfriend or his wife. He has to appreciate everything you do for him.

Be affectionate-He has to be able show his affection whether in public or in private. I remember seeing an elderly couple in their 80's, holding hands. That is something she would appreciate.

Focus on her-Treat her like she is the only woman in the world. Don’t look around the room when you are out in the public, instead, put all the focus on her. Just remember, grass is not greener on the other side.

Never put her down-There might be time that you get disappointed when she didn’t meet your expectations. Instead of telling her how bad dinner was, let her know how much you appreciate her time for preparing the meal.

Be spontaneous-Come home on a Friday night and head to the airport with her, to have a mini vacation. Get away for a couple day without planning.

Exercise together-Find time to walk, jog, ride a bike. It is not only a health benefit but a very good bonding time together.

Sense of humor-He has to have a sense of humor! Life would be so boring without it.

Pick your battle-Disagreement can be healthy but be careful. Respect each other’s opinion and go on. Give only constructive feedback.

Respect who she is-She might not be your kid’s mom. If she chose to stay with you, remember she loves you. She is there to be with you and try her best to deal with other issues.

Give her some space-Even though you are together, you need some time apart. Let her get together with her girl friends once in awhile. It is healthy to hang out with other friends.

Share your financial status-What is wrong with married couples who have separate bank accounts? That is not a marriage. You are as one. Stop hiding the money, guys.

Get involved with the kids-Nurture the kids together. It is important to share the responsibilities being a parent besides paying the bills. How about getting up in the middle of the night and feed the baby. After all, it takes two to make a baby.

Be on time-Having a man who is on time would be a big deal. I hate to say this but a majority of women are not on time people. I am not one of them although I have seen enough to know that it is true. If both of you are not on time, nothing gets done. At least one has to lead sometimes.

Be a happy person- I don’t mean that you have to laugh your head off all the time. Just be a happy person in general. Don’t gripe about things day in and day out. Trust me it will get old pretty fast. Oh, he has to have a great smile:)

Don't be a bad breaker-That is one of the most important parts of the relationship. If it does not work out, don't be bitter! If the love is gone, let it be. Move on and let it go. Don't make the last impression unpleasant. After all, things happen for a reason. It was not meant to be.

Now that if any of you out there find this great man, let me know. I think the definition of a great man is different in every woman’s mind. So don’t let anyone tell you who that great man is. Go find yours!

 

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Micky Dee profile image

Micky Dee 6 years ago

I hope you find that man. You deserve a good man. I think you have a good heart.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

If only some men would read and apply this, it would be great. This is a great read, with very good advice. Thank you for doing the research and sharing.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks Micky Dee. I don't think that man exists,LOL. I found the man of my dream-the actor in the photo, Michael Miu. He is hot!


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks for reading my hub,fastfreta. I wrote this one because one of my fan had one about woman. So I had to write one about man, LOL.If any of you find that great man out there, call me:)


Michael 6 years ago

This is great. Once this is practiced the man will see how happy he will be. Great thoughts and I will practice them more. Thanks


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks Michael.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

I want to involve my self to be a great man in your hub. I am a man who respect woman, get involve with the kids (I am a teacher so surrounded by the kids ha..ha..ha), I am discipline person (I always be on time), I like joke, I agree with you that life is so boring without humor, And the final is I always become a happy person, live only once I try to make happy this life. I really like reading this hub. You describe excellent criteria of great man.


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tony0724 6 years ago from san diego calif

The best piece of advice I ever got on relationships came from an old man who was one of my mentors in life. He told me that in order to find the type of person who has the qualities we seek , we first have to become that person.

I have spent the rest of my life trying to assimilate those qualities. But if I want patience from my mate , I have to be patient. If I want kindness I have to be kind too. I will be a work in progress for the rest of my life. But I would like to say that there are some good common sense tips here Relationships are not 50/50 they are 100/100


gramsmith profile image

gramsmith 6 years ago

Wow........what a great tips......Really appreciable.Thanks


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Well said, Prasetio! Glad that you enjoy my hubs as well as I enjoy yours. I really appreciate your comments.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Tony, before I know it. I will find a few great men here,hah. That is so true about being that person before we find that special someone. Great comment.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks for stopping by,gramsmith. Glad to see you enjoy reading it.


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tim1314 6 years ago

thanks, i very like your article.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks Tim:)I hope I can help others and inspire them.


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pentecost777 6 years ago from Ohio

A great hub! Tells me I need to brush up on a few things.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

You are funny,pentecost777. I think we all do, live and learn. Thanks for stopping by.


notsolucky 6 years ago

This seems to be a fairy tale. You dont want to share your bank balance with your lady... its sure gonna vanish in no time with relation or after you break up. You dont want a nagging bitch on your head all the time, trying to go around other guys rather than girl friends. Trust is important and it seems that trusting them is kind of a stupid thing to do. I think you are a very positive thinker and you may think I am not, but hey things do happy and it teaches you a lot. Yes "move on" is the way of life. Sorry but its not about finding a right guy will all the qualities you dream about, but its about make the relationship work.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

notsolucky, I am sorry to hear the bad experience you had with your girl friend. Just to let you know that you are not alone. You said the relationship is about trust. It seems like you are holding back because of that. I hope you will some day, realize that you can trust your other half. Life is too short to be bitter, be a better person. Move on. Thanks for the comment.


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anglnwu 6 years ago

If only such men exist, espousing all the qualities you mentioned--wouldn't life be great? Nonetheless, there may be some with enough good qualities to make a relationship work. Hope you find your dream man--tim tim--you deserve a good one. Thanks for the insight.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Wouldn't it be great,anglnwu? If there is such a great man...Thanks for visiting.


sord87 6 years ago

I agree with you for some advice to be a great man but based on my experience too much respect for woman always inviting a silent misunderstanding both side in the end! There a certain limit and calculation for respect!


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

True,sord87. Communication is very important in a relationship as well. Thanks for your comment.


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ladyonthemirror 6 years ago from Indonesia

if there is a man like that, I will be the happiest woman in the world ;D


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jill of alltrades 6 years ago from Philippines

If there is a great man like that then there should also be an equivalent great woman. Right?

I certainly agree with all of them especially mutual respect and sense of humor.

I also agree with Tony and the advice of his mentor. If we are looking for certain qualities, we have to have them ourselves.

Thanks for sharing tim-tim.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

I agree,ladyonthemirror. If there is auch a man on earth! Thanks for visiting.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Yes,jill of alltrades. It is true about looking into ourselves. I like to treat others the way I want to be treated, certainly. Thanks for stopping by.


ashima 6 years ago

Nice piece of hub.But how do I find such a man in this messy world??It's something like a really tough task and rarely possible to get it done.


shem 6 years ago

Nice Advice especially of the relationship. I think if this apply every man in this world Im sure they can successful relationship. :p


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

ashima, I agree. Sometimes we get discouraged but that does not mean they don't exsist. Thanks for stopping by.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks shem. Don't we all wish sometimes? Thanks for the comment.


Nicks 6 years ago

Great qualities, to be sure. But what about the real manly bits - 'fire in the belly', courage, integrity, strength, vibrancy, charisma?


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Mortgagestar1 6 years ago from Weirton,West Virginia

"The perfect man-for any woman- is the man who loves her constantly, f----- her frequently, passionately, and well; who adores and admires her; is at once reliable and exciting; an earthly Adonis and a heavenly father figure a beautiful son, a steady daddy; a wild-eyed Bacchic lover and a calm, sober, but still funny friend. Can you find all these attributes in one man? Not bloody likely! And if you find them, will they endure for all the passages of your life? Not bloody likely!" - Erica Jong


Lyns 6 years ago

Oh for an ideal world..... I do not believe there is a perfect man any more than a perfect woman - we must all learn to appreciate each other for what we are and most of us have exceptional qualities of some description.... don´t you agree?


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Elleasku 6 years ago from In your imagination.

Very affirming! The tip about sharing your financial status makes absolute sense to me since I just went through a divorce. When my lawyer asked whether my ex-husband and I had a joint checking account and I said "no," her response was, "Well, it is like you both led separate lives." Telling indeed!


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Mortgagestar1, appreciate you comment but you would not be on the Great Men's list with foul language. That shows disrepectful. Thanks for stopping by.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Lyns,you have a very good point! Thanks for the comment.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Elleasku, I am glad that you got out of that marriage. It is sad that when a married couple cannot share the bank account. I would understand that if you are in a relationship and not sure about what the future holds for both of you. Thanks for stopping by and hope you find your great man soon.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Nicks, it is a list of things but not limited to the list. Sure, there are a lot more that everyone can think about. Thanks for your comment.


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Rubi Li 6 years ago from Novato, California

Are you single?


tim-tim profile image

tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Well, why such a personal question,Rubi Li? You found a great man for me? LOL.


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manlypoetryman 6 years ago from (Texas !) Boldly Writing Poems Where No Man Has Gone Before...

Ok, tim-tim...I have studied the points you made on this Hub...and will go forward towards being a great man for my wife. Enjoyed reading this Hub...very much!


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

manlypoetryman,thank you for reading my hub and go towards being that great man for your wife! I am sure you already have been a great man. Thanks for your comment. Glad you enjoy reading my hub.


ralwus 6 years ago

I don't know if I fit the bill, but I reckon not as I have a wandering eye...frequently. I figure I can still look at the menu even though I may be on a diet. After all, she does as well. She can never be on time and she does not like exercise. She is mine and I love her, that's enough.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Awww...Charles, that's great! I am sure that you are a nice couple:)


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

I enjoyed your article very much. I totally agree with everything you said. You give great advice. Thank you for the fine read.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

James, thanks for your comment and support. Looking forward to read more of yours:)


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jasonycc 6 years ago from South East Asia

At a glance, I thought the man is Leon Lai Meng. Out of the 17 criterias, I have to say that I have a lot of work to do to achieve the great man status. Maybe a good man will be enough.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks jasonycc. I think you were the only one who counted. I am sure you are working towards being that great man if not already one. Thanks for visiting.


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Hokey 6 years ago from In the energy.

Wow! That's me!


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Yes,that is you!Hokey,indeed:) Thanks for stopping by.


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Mortgagestar1 6 years ago from Weirton,West Virginia

Tim-Tim - That was an excerpt from one of the most popular books published in the 1970's called " The Fear Of Flying " by Erica Jong. It is NOT my quote!

It does however, explains many women's search for this elusive male. You may want to pick this book up at a local library or on line.

Personally, I NEVER use the "F' Bomb nor do I use crude lingo. Best wishes, Mark


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thank you for letting me know about the book, Mark. There isn't this perfect male or female in this world. At least that is what I think. With any kind of relationship, it has to be give and take. Compromising within your range is the key. Thank you for stopping by.


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philmaguire 6 years ago from Jersey, Iles de la Manche

I would add "Take Responsibility". In my opinion, it is what separates the men from the boys. Men do not run away from the consequences of their actions when they do not like them; they take responsibility and change them


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

I am so glad that you pointed that out,philmaguire!It is so true that taking the responsibility is very important! Thanks for the comment.


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festersporling1 6 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

Nicely written! Thanks.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

festersporling1, thanks for the compliment! I sure would read your hubs when I get a chance to.


Ron 6 years ago

You have been busy.. Great content . Also you have great comments. Very good work

Ron


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks Ron! Yes, I have been busy on and off, but I need to find time for writing and reading:)Thanks for visiting.


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frogyfish 6 years ago from Central United States of America

Idealistic, impossible! But we have to keep trying anyway... :-) Thanks for a great read!


Quietest Moments 6 years ago

I love the tips but don't expect any man or woman to live up to all of them, no one is perfect and I think the greatest love comes from accepting someone even with their short comings. Of course that does not mean accepting someone who is abusive in any way, but forgetting an important date or leaving the toilet seat up does not make for a bad person.. lol.. great read..look forward to more. :-)


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

frogyfish,you know we can keep hoping, LOL. It is true that it is impossible to find that perfect one but maybe there is one that is closed to perfect:) Thanks for stopping by.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Quietest Moments,true that acceptance comes into the play but we can only hope that somedays, we will find that great man!Thanks for visiting:)


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De Greek 6 years ago from UK

My wife says that you have described me perfectly! :-))


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Cool,De Greek! I guess you don't need my help, LOL. Thanks for visiting.


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Piglitza 6 years ago from South Africa

Very nice! I have quite a few male friends who I wish would adopt that attitude towards their girls/wives. Us men truly have it good with caring women backing us up, we could learn much doing the same. Thanks for sharing! :)


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks,Piglitza for your comment. Glad you enjoy my hub.I am sure that you are a great man already!


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parrster 6 years ago from Oz

*sigh* so far to go.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks parrster for stopping by. I am sure you are fine:)


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magnoliazz 6 years ago from Wisconsin

Tim-Tim...you should be a marriage counselor! This is an EXCELLENT hub! Every guy out there needs a copy of this...it should be their Bible for relationships with women!


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

magnoliazz, thank you so much for the compliment! I am very flattered! Glad that you enjoy reading it:)


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agvulpes 6 years ago from Australia

tim-tim you have put the words down now for us men to use them as an example. What a challenge? but we can only do our best!


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

agvulpes, thank you for your comment. I hope you enjoy the hub. I am sure that most of you don't even need my help, LOL.


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zzron 6 years ago from Houston, TX.

This is an awesome hub, and truly wonderful advise and a great reminder for those of us who really do try to make an effort to be the best that we can be. Some men just really don't care as you can tell by maybe their appearance or their behavior whereas other men by the same distinctions do make an effort and work hard at making a first impression. These tips are excellent for any man as their is plenty of room for improvement for everyone. Continue the awesome work.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

zzron,thank you for the compliment! You are one awesome fan who gives me the encouragement to continue my hubs! Thank you again!


canali 6 years ago

you know if you were to reverse the genders (what makes a great woman), then these things would apply equally.


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thank you for your comment,canali. Someone pointed that out to me as well before. Thank you for visiting my hub.


canali 6 years ago

so maybe the piece could be more properly retitled, "How to be a great partner" since it applies to both genders equally (am sure just as many men would love to see more of these traits in their spouses, as would women).


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

canali,thank you for your feedback and suggestion. I will consider that.


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Momma Mia 6 years ago from North Carolina

Great Hub and advice for all couples. Your essence here is wonderful at Hub pages. Thanks for sharing your insight!

Mia


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thank you,Momma Mia.I hope you enjoy my other hubs as well.


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Micky Dee 5 years ago

I haven't changed my mind. You deserve "it all". God bless Dear tim-tim!


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tim-tim 5 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks, Micky Dee.


Dre_Hitz 5 years ago

Wow, excellent way to line it out for us LOL! Great points, although no one is perfect there is nothing wrong with trying to satisfy your woman. You are never too wise to not listen, that's why we have two ears and one mouth. Thanks for posting this hub, I am constantly trying to improve myself, I am sure my wife would appreciate it if I helped our around the house and complimented the dishes she makes for dinner. Sometimes we just don't think. Overall a great piece, and you have excellent communication skills! I feel that a couple should also connect on a spiritual level. My wife and I are from different cultures but we still respect each other's upbringing a lot. My advice, put God first, everyone else second, and always love yourself no matter what, and of course find some way to give back. It feels good knowing that there are some really good people left in the world. I admire your success, its evident when reading your hub. Thank's Tim-Tim.


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tim-tim 5 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Dre, thank you for your nice comment. It sounds like you are a great man alreadly:) Hope the hub is useful to others.


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Heart Felt Book 5 years ago from New York, NY

THIS IS AWESOME!!!!!! I WILL BE SHARING THIS AND ALSO I WILL FIND YOU ON FACE BOOK.. THANKS FOR THIS GREAT HUB!!!


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tim-tim 5 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Heart Felt Book, thanks for the comment. Yes, find me on Facebook.


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Malcolm_Cox 5 years ago from Newcastle, England

nice hub - men will be men however!

voted up!


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tim-tim 5 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks, Malcolm. Yes, men will be men:)


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northernwriter 5 years ago

I'll add one I learned recently: don't be negative about her ideas. Try to react positively, even if you don't agree.


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Nare Anthony 4 years ago

This is just so awesome. More people should read. Shared on FB :)


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tim-tim 4 years ago from Normal, Illinois Author

Thanks for visiting my hub, nare!

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