I feel so lonely, what can I do to have a social life and meet people?

Picture of people having fun at the race track.

Have you ever said to yourself or some one else “I feel so lonely.” Well, if you have and you still do, it is now time to do something about it. There is no reason to go through life feeling alone when there is much to do. That’s right; there are things you can do to help you not feel lonely.

 While there are many that can still feel alone even in the presence of others and even if they have a social life. In this article I’d like to focus on those people who feel deserted, isolated and secluded because they have no friends or an active lifestyle, even those who because of lack of finances may feel they are unable to explore the different things life has to offer.

Choices

First and foremost I’d like to emphasize on the fact that we as human beings have choices. We can choose whether we want to stay home in a corner and do nothing, or make a difference and begin to discover a new way of living. If you choose to remain in a cocoon well,  that is where you will remain. But, if you choose to explore different avenues and live life, than you will do just that.

Okay, so you have chosen to live life, great! It is time for you to do a little research.

Working out in the park photo.

What do you like?

Do you like to workout? There are plenty of free and inexpensive ways to get involved in physical activities. Almost every city has a gym that is of low cost to join, take for example the gym I attend, it cost me nothing to join and there is only a monthly fee of ten dollars. It is interesting how when you go to the gym regularly there are people you will run into frequently and perhaps become friendly with. Attending a gym is a good way to be healthy, get in shape and meet new people. The gym is a very good outlet for a lonesome person.

Now let’s say, because of the economic times you are unable to spare a monthly fee of ten dollars. Understandable, frugality is a must for many these days. Still, not enough of a reason to desolate, many city parks offer free nature walks and as the weather gets warmer they even offer free yoga classes and workout sessions. To find out more about what activities your city offers for free, just type in your Google search box free activities in your city or town.

What interests you?

We all have interest, things we are curious about, want to learn and do. If you always wanted to learn how to knit, learn basic computer skills or poetry, there are many places such as your library, bookstores, and churches that usually offer free beginners classes on all sorts of subjects. Many people take advantage of these opportunities which all makes way for meeting others and possibly build friendships. Again, let your fingers do the walking, use the search box on your computer and research what is available in your community. Remember what may not come up on your searches could very well come up as you take a walk to these places and take a look at their bulletin boards. That’s right, where there is a will there is a way and it is worth it!

Is it more of a social life you're seeking?

No problem, there are many organizations that often plan recreational and leisure trips for groups of people. Do not feel funny about inquiring and keep a look out for those bulletin boards. Many people who go on these trips are often friendly and fun individuals who enjoy visiting different places and meeting new people.

Another wonderful source to consider is joining a meet up group near you. It is usually a group that shares your interest and similar goals. To find one go to meetup.com. If you find that there are not enough resources in your city or near by towns, then it may be time for you to take charge and do something about it.

Perhaps there are others in your community who like you feel isolated and alone, this would be an opportunity for you to create a group of your own. Maybe a book club or a weekly theatre night group followed by dinner, the possibilities are endless in your pursue of a more social active life.

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PaulaK 6 years ago from Austin. Texas

What a great topic for a hub!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thanks Madison for a great hub with great ideas.Thank you for sahring. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you paula, I'm glad you think so!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Creativeone, thanks for stopping by and commenting:)


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

good advice Madison, and I agree with you there is so much to do to feel alone, Thanks, Maita


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hi prettydarkhorse, thank you for reading my hub:)


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Cheeky Girl 6 years ago from UK and Nerujenia

The people around us help us to not feel so alone or isolated. Sometimes we need distance from others and then at other times, we crave the companionship of others who don't judge us and are understanding. This is a nice well thought out hub! Rating you up, Madison! : )


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betcaro 6 years ago

Great idea for a hub and creative suggestions. Rate up! :-)


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ntweisen 6 years ago

I definitely need some help with this one. It is so hard to make friends after college. The ten people I work with are all ten years or more older than me :(.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you Cheeky Girl! It is always a gift when we could find others who don't judge us and are understanding.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Betcaro, thank you for your comment!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Don't worry ntweisen, before you know it you will make a friend. I'm glad you read this hub, most of the tips I've done myself and have successfully made friends. Thank you:)


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Ann Nonymous 6 years ago from Virginia

Loneliness is a troubling condition. You can be surrounded by millions of people, walking shoulder to shoulder with them and still feel that ache of loneliness. It's awful to go through it and experience it on a daily basis but as you point out there are solutions and you have done a marvelous job addressing this subject. I love your closing comments, Madison. Bravo!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you! Ann, I'm so glad you enjoyed the article, I appreciate your comment very much.


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

Choice, as you said, is the biggest thing, and action is the second. A friend of mine is pretty alone, and in the last four years I told him hundred times to take an Aikido class, or a Tai Chi one, or to go to the gym. Results? None, because he remains at home.

Great hub Madison, I dig your style a lot. :)


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks

Hey! This is good advice. I plan to apply it to my 'spousal union'. Thanks!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hypnodude, thank you! Many years ago I had a friend suggest the same things to me luckily, I did take her advice and discovered a few things of my own. Maybe when the pain of loneliness is to much to bare a light bulb will go off.

Oh yea, I totally dig yours too:)


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

You and I both donotfear, LOL:) Thank you for the comment!


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prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

I joined a group here, Filipino American group for social dancing hehe, I came to tell you madison, Take care, And I remember this hub, Maita


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Maita, that is fabulous news! Good for you, Let me know how it goes along. Seems like to will have lot's of fun!


Shivku 6 years ago

Hi madison, you look cute (assuming tat dp s ur pic)... Can u write a hub on how to develop interest into doing boring things like studying?


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Shivku, thank you so much for stopping by and reading my hub. "interest into doing boring things" mmmm, maybe I will give it a shot:)


wordscribe41 6 years ago

Fantastic hub idea with a lot of great suggestions. I wish I had a free gym. Mine cost a fortune when I first joined, now it's pretty cheap every month. Interesting about meetup.com. Is it more like a dating scene, though? It can be hard to make new friends when you're "grown-up". College was a breeze. Take care, Madison.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hi Wordscribe, hope all is well. Thanks for the comment and for reading my hub, I really appreciate it!!


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Tom Cornett 6 years ago from Ohio

Wonderful hub and suggestions. One of the worst feelings is loneliness. You did good! :)


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hey Tom, So good to have you stop by. Thank you for your comment:)


TattoGuy 6 years ago

Love this hub Madison and really helpful, I attend a few singles nights and I kinda enjoy them, better than sitting about feeling sorry for yerself, big thumbs up for this hub !


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Hi TatooGuy, So glad you are having fun with those singles nights. But, then again you seem to have a fine personality and great sense of humor, I'm sure it's not hard for you to mingle. Thanks for the comment:)


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Dmrfam 6 years ago from India

I liked the hub and your ideas and suggestions. As you say its a choice and I realise the choice is driven by a person's personality or nature. Liked the idea of joining groups who share the same interests.


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brianzen 6 years ago

I loved this and you are delightful to read!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you Dmrfam, Joining groups with the same interest helped me alot when I was going through difficulties.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Brianzen, and I am delighted that you enjoyed my hub. Thank you for the kind comment. :-)


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Mr Nice 6 years ago from North America

Hi Madison22,

Wonderful ideas & suggestions. Lonely people are also very shy & lack self confidence. I believe that is the biggest problem. Thanks for sharing your ideas. Good night


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Mr Nice, Thank you for your comment. Very much appreciated!


Sweets 6 years ago

I agree but I would like to meet new friends to go dancing with or to movies etc.......these places are hard to find people there but I will see with time....


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Sweets, I wish you all the best. Thank you for reading my article and commenting.:-)


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Sweet Chococarrie 6 years ago from My Heart To Yours

A lot of times i have this line you wrote in here ''i feel so lonely'' i guess its really too hard to escape once in a while not to feel so lonely and you are right there are a lot of options we can be out of this loneliness by merely trying to find the best thing of your interest perhaps and try to cultivate it in many different ways then that can help oneself forget the word loneliness:) thanks for these positive simple tips Madison.


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

So glad you enjoyed sweet:)


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RunAbstract 6 years ago from USA

Well done!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you.:)


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sherrylou57 6 years ago from Riverside

Thank you, for your inspiring hub. Life is a journey and the choices you make will lead you on to a brand new path.


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twogroce 6 years ago

Great hub, way to give people a boost in confindence that we can make things happen in our lives. Good job!


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Madison22 6 years ago from NYC Author

Sherry, Thank you for your comment and your wisdom.

Twogroce, sometimes a little push can open doors beyond imagination. Wonderful of you to read my article!


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Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

great topic and well done hub. I think one has to balance offline and online socializing.... I know too many lonely people who only have friends online and they are not happy.

Social skills and people skills are not taught in the home nor in the school system..... and should be.


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Madison22 5 years ago from NYC Author

I agree with you, Neil. Thank you so much for your comment!


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Larry Okeke 4 years ago from Enugu, Nigeria

Okay, its been a while since this article was written, but now i've stumbled across it, i can't help but wag my tongue, sorry, pen, sorry, keyboard, over it. This hub is so useful! I mean, before now, i would always meet a person i like and instead of spilling my guts to them, would just let them slip away and expostulate my self thereafter. But having seeing this, i guess am now ready to start living like james bond! Nice hub! Voted up, useful, and whats more, i'm now following you!


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Madison22 4 years ago from NYC Author

Thank you!

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