Just a thought...


How is it that people so far away that don’t even know you, can be more interested in what you have to say than those who are meant to be the closest to you? How is it that I could sit before this computer with tears streaming down my face, and yet no one would notice? I may not even know where the tears come from or why. All I would know is that they are here and to those closest to me, it is as if they were not.


Why is it that we choose to ignore the needs of our loved ones? Why is it that we procrastinate with them the most? Yet, we can read a book, a blog or a poem of an absolute stranger and give understanding and try to empathise with them or give some sort of feedback? Or just outright agree of course. Why do we fail to see the biggest problems when they are right there in front of us? We don’t simply miss the signs, but we ignore them.


People read my work. They leave comments, write mail and even recommend my work to others. So why is it that not one member of my family is following my work on here? Why is it, that to get friends to read it – I have to post a link on facebook because they too are not following. I’m not angry with either groups, I just don’t really understand the logic. Maybe it is because they feel they already know me ‘well enough’, so why would they need to read my views, opinions or philosophies. I can safely say something right here and now: those who truly know me have read every piece of work I have ever posted. I have said to many friends that I am a here and now type of person. I will speak or write how I feel in the present. The good thing about writing it is that is lasts as more than a memory or a jist of what I have said; it is a concrete, word for word definitive collection of what I think or feel at that moment in time. This is why to understand me, you have to accept that you probably never will fully and that I am a rather diverse sort of person. I will always give you one or two surprises once you have put me into whichever box that you think is suitable for me. By box, I mean: category.


Some reading this may think that I am a very deep and philosophical young woman. Others may think that I’m depressed or upset about something. Plenty will most likely just think I’m crazy. And their counter parts many find that I am perfectly normal and I merely reflect on everything that all humans do at some point or another. Whatever you stance is, never be shocked when you change it rapidly, after reading another piece or after having a conversation with me. There is more to every person than that which meets the eye.


So please the next time your friend, child, parent or sibling asks you to take a look at a piece of work they have done – just look at it! You may be surprised as to what part of them it reveals...


Just a thought...

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gracefaith 6 years ago from United Kingdom

Interesting. People tend to pay attention to the deeper or more thoughtful musings of others they don't know well because that's all they have on that person so nothing exists to signal that that person may be imperfect- though of course we would know them to be. When we get to know people better we reaslise they are flawed and place a more balanced weight on their opinions on things.

The words of a stranger are often more profound than the words of a friend- even if these words are the same. Have you ever found something less significant or maybe untrue when said by someone close, but then found it amazingly accurate when said by someone with 'objective'?

I think one reason for that is that we put our friends and family in the same bracket as ourselves and so we imagine they don't neccesarily know better than us- and we ted to disagree with them at times because we know they have their biases. Strangers however are completely untainted by this imagining and their cosiderations in isolation can strike a chord with us as your writings do, simply because we are prepared to be enriched by a 'new' view.

I'm sorry to hear your friends and family don't give your writing attention, because truly, a more considerate and genuine side comes through in them. They would know more about you if they did and would be able to answer some of your hubbing questions and confusions, especially the love article.

Have you considered sending out a weekly email to your friends and family? They would at least give your articles a look over if they received them in their inboxs! ;)

Oh, and I don't think anyone imagines you to be strange. I think you just know how to communicate how you feel in words and not many people know how to do that. Your thoughts and feelings are very normal ones that we all think sometimes. I think this is refreshing for the people who read your hubs who don't know how to let out these issues.

Blessings and keep- up the good hubbing :)

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Aiysha17 6 years ago from UK Author

Thank you :) I don't mind if they don't read it, I just find it ironic...

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Bundu 6 years ago from Somewhere just outside Edinburgh that no-one has heard of... Mid Calder

Perhaps they have read your work and chosen not to follow you formally by becoming a fan or a member of the site? Strangers will always find it easier to comment as there is no price associated with the words they speak or write. Family and friends always have to be more careful as their words carry the most weight.

Be glad that someone listens to your words and if you need more of a response from your friends and family then why not speak to them directly rather than indirectly through facebook links?

Please don't take my words as negative i just think if your current actions are not eliciting the response you desire then try something different until you do!

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Aiysha17 6 years ago from UK Author

As I said, I don't mind - I just find it ironic

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Teresa Laurente 6 years ago from San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A.

We always try to take for granted what we have until we see news on tv or hear stories from friends when we realize the importance of our family and friends. Thank you for reminding. More power.

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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

Beautifully said. I am honored to be your fan. Huge hugs to you. xo

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