Life Coaching-Stuck in the Middle

Stuck In The Middle

I am sure you have been on a flight somewhere and for some reason you were stuck in the middle seat. Just last year I was doing a contract job in another state and yes I was stuck in the middle seat. Did I want to be stuck in the middle seat...why heavens no...because the guy on the left of me thought both arm rest were his and made no attempt to share . The person on my right was a little more sharing as they used their right arm rest and let me have the one to my right. Lucky for me the guy to my left did not have to go to the privy. He was a big guy and I certainly did not want to pick a fight so I just sat there "stuck." Saying to myself, thank God when we landed.

This is how life is sometimes, we just get stuck. Stuck in the middle of a fight for something we don't even understand. Stuck in the middle of a job we hate but do nothing about it. We get stuck in the middle of a family feud and wish they would leave us out of it....We get stuck in our own little happy and sometimes unhappy world because we are afraid to let any change into our life. We want our on little routine and order.. with no deviation.

We are stuck in the middle of our life, needing something new to refresh our living a bit and begin to wonder why we are "stuck." It seems that life is passing us by, we are getting older each day and we have not accomplished anything in particular. We are just living in a rut, in automatice mode, doing the same old things everyday. So......how do we change that and why are we living in a rut?

We get stuck in habits that could destroy us in the long run if we do not get that wake up call....

Let the Sunshine "Shine"!!!

Living a Routine

Some people love a routine and do not want anything to distrub it.  If someone does, they become a little agitated.  My..I'll just bet their life is boring, wouldn't you?  I think they are stuck!

A routine brings comfort to some people I guess and that is what makes us all unique, but it also allows us to sit in our comfort zone and forget that there might be other aspects of life that just could be interesting and that we could really be missing something important.  If we never allow ourselves outside of a certain wall or barrier...how do we know that our life is everything it was meant to be?  How do we know we are growing if we are in the same mode day end and day out?  Where is our certainty that we are living our life with purpose.

I just head on the news last week that having a purpose even in old age, prevented some ailments.  If your purpose is just to have a routine and be stuck there until old age...then okay, don't invite anyone in to your routine and let life pass you by.  Do not let anyone mess up your day by asking you to take a walk in the park to enjoy the sunshine, and keep you from watching your favorite soap opera.  Do not let anyone suggest to you, going on that trip to see an old friend, you haven't seen for years, who is sick.  Do not dare give up your trip to the movie store so you can sit for hours watching something fictional when you could be living life to the fullest with joy and laughter and giving of yourself to someone else.  What we give away comes back to us, even if it is only time.

The thoughts of being stuck in life is not always something we intended.  It is that sometimes we try to figure out ways to help us get our necessary life things done in a constructive way.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with trying to save time and efforts in our schedule, but becoming closed to ever getting outside your walls of comfort can bring at some point...an unbalanced life.  I have seen this happen to people I have loved through the years.  They withdrew into their own little world and everybody else was on the wrong path but them!!!  Just a warning..don't isolate yourself from living in the real world and the possibility of enjoying something fun...

The Recipe for Getting Unstuck

These are my suggestions:

Let the sunshine in your life, when and where ever it comes from. If you are happy; then you should share it with others...they may need to see how you achieve your happiness...you might just help someone else. It will not only give you joy and a satisfied feeling but it cost nothing.

Change your plans every now and then to accommodate taking the walk in the park to see God's creation. It will refresh your memory of how blessed you are to have the ability to walk and bask in the sunshine and open air. There are those who cannot.

Change your attitude to sharing instead of being possessed with us four and no more. Be aware that with other people in your life you are giving yourself the freedom to learn something new, as no one has the exact set of rules on how to live life better. Share your experiences....you might save a life...no one ever knows.

"It is not the days in your life; but the life in your days that count." Brain White

Don't judge or criticize your neighbor for being a fanatic about the lawn, what if he were the opposite and never mowed the lawn...then what would you do? He also might be wondering why you are not a friendly person. Best policy is not to criticize anyone for anything because you have not traveled in their shoes and you would be upset if they criticized you.

Take a good look at what you are accomplishing on a daily basis. Are you really getting where you want to go; stuck in this routine, doing the same things over and over and without even using all of your brain power that you have. It is proven by the professionals that we use only a mere 10% of our brain power as we live in automatic shift constantly. It could mean we are lazy!!! Sorry, just had to say that...but are we? If we do not stretch our brain power, we will lose it just like everything else, if it receives no prompt from us to explore the unknown in our life.

"Most people live and die with their music still unplayed. They never dare to try." --Mary Kay Ash

Being stuck is simply being unable to move forward. If we do not move forward we do not learn, grow or manifest our full potential.

For me, it is doing what someone else may think I can't do or accomplish. I will not allow someone else to dictate what my abilities are, or what my hard work will accomplish. So I defy what others suggest for my life because I am reaching for something more than a routine and being mediocre and stuck in the middle of something that makes me unhappy.

"Be kind, be compassionate, live with others in mind and not just yourself."

"Never underestimate the effects of daily prayer; it helps God know that you know, who your creator is."

"Be constant and true in dealing with other, if you are, nothing will come back to haunt you."

"Do not lower your standards for anyone or anything; keep in mind that if you do; you loose respect."

"Never forget where you have been when you become rich with blessing, money or fame; it will help you keep your focus on helping others who may be struggling as you once did."

~ ~ by Linda

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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Veey well written article with good advice. Being stuck in the middle does feel awful and I like your suggestions.


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lctodd1947 6 years ago from USA Author

thank you again Pamela99. I don't like being in the middle of anything that is comfortable...

I appreciate you taking time to read and come by.


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msdee115 5 years ago from Stone Mountain, GA

Really needed that! Great hub!


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lctodd1947 5 years ago from USA Author

msdee115, thank you so much. I am glad it hit the sspot...thanks for stopping by to read and comment. I really appreciate it.

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