Mass Texting: Rude Behavior or a way for busy folks to keep in touch?

It’s the holiday season; a time to celebrate religious observances, a time to enjoy friends, family, food, and gifts . And, of course, the time of the year to send mass text holiday greetings to everyone (or most everyone) in your phone address book.

This has been my tradition for years. For as long as I’ve owned a mobile device capable of texting, I have often made use of the mass texting feature. Sometimes, these were ill advised self-promotional deals. One time I sent a mass text asking for prayer for my grandfather who was gravely ill and I received a response that said “You don’t know me well enough to ask me for prayer, so I won’t do it.” While, this was a decidedly rude response, I suppose an argument could be made that mass texts are annoying and less personal.

With this in mind, I tried one Thanksgiving to send an individual message to most everyone in my phone book. 120 messages and six hours later, I was done. It was not worth it. I resumed the mass texting binges that Christmas.

But, really, I never saw the big deal. Yet, often, I get snarky responses to mass texts. Sometimes these come from family members, sometimes from acquaintances. Often they said things akin to “If you can’t take the time to write me a personal message, then don’t send me anything.”

I’ve taken to deleting such acquaintances from my phone. I don’t need rude responses when I’m doing something nice. Or at least with niceness as the intention.

I find rude retorts troubling and arrogant. Certainly it is nice to receive a message written specifically for you, but this is not always feasible. I CHOSE to send you a message, It’s still a personal message. I could have chosen NOT to include you. Just because I sent it to a hundred or so folks at the same time doesn’t mean it’s not personal. I don’t see the big deal and I really don’t understand why people will respond rudely when they get a mass text. I’m happy, even when I know it’s a mass text, to be included. Do people have a misplaced sense of entitlement and self-importance, or is this truly rude behavoiur?

This is different, of course, if I am attempting to sell something. Then I can certainly see the annoyance in a mass text…especially if the only time I texted was when I was selling or promoting something. I have been guilty of this in the past, though not anymore. Now, we have Facebook :-)

But, if it’s just a friendly holiday greeting… why get up in arms? Why respond with a rude comment? Why respond at all if you’re irritated? It’s the holidays, it’s busy. The fact that I took five minutes out my day to include you in a holiday greeting should show you that I think you’re important and valuable, even if I didn’t include your name in the body of the text. We are busy people. We do what we can to stay in touch.

Does anyone else agree? Am I off base, or is mass texting a rude behavior? Should people get over themselves or do they have a right to gripe?

Tell me. I’m dying to know.

Tell me what you think...

Mass Texting is...

  • Rude. Always. Send me a personal message or don't bother.
  • It's fine! At least you were thinking of me when you sent it!
  • It's fine as long as you're not trying to sell or promote something.
  • Never thought about it.
  • I don't mind getting them, but I don't usually respond.
  • Depends on my relationship to that person.
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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Tayisha, I agree with you. I think people annoyed by mass texts have a bit of a superiority complex.


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Tayshia 3 years ago from Seattle

I have no problem getting a mass-text, and I am guilty of sending them! Even though it may not feel personal, it is!


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Alur, I think people can tell when you're sending a mass text. I've actually had people tell me to send them a personal text or don't both texting them. They're been deleted from my phone. I think that's rude.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Thanks Lindalou. It's pretty amazing how uptight uptight some people get about it. I appreciate your insight and clarification!


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ALUR 3 years ago from USA

I am often a culprit of texting in general: a means to avoid a deep dialogue. but sometimes a group text during holidays to let more than one person know you are thinking of them is quite all right, provided you preface "group Text" or a nice headliner so that others know they are not nec required to respond..


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lindalou1963 3 years ago from Texas

If the text is something that could be generic like Happy New Year, mass texting is fine. Some things should be more personal, like 'you're in my prayers'. Somehow, a mass text saying that just wouldn't seem sufficient. But overall, its no big deal i guess. Either / or.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Thanks for your input, sarina. I appreciate it. Thanks for reading and commenting!


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Thanks SMonaghan. I'm plased you enjoyed this and I'll be looking forward to seeing you around hubpages more!


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sarinananana 3 years ago from A corner in South Carolina

I believe that, like anything else, technology is useful in moderation. I enjoy receiving mass texts as long as it does not replace traditional conversations with those I am closest to. A relative I hardly speak to? Just a quick "Merry Christmas!" text is enough to brighten my holiday - at least they were considerate enough to do that! But when it comes to my best friends or parents, I expect something slightly more personalized.

Facebook, cell phones, it all gives us the tools to live a more fulfilling life. However, when done the wrong way, communication becomes impersonal and less valuable. Technology should not replace classic relationships, but enhance them.


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SMonaghan119 3 years ago from PA

Humorous article in the sense that texting almost as a whole drives me nuts...things always get misinterpreted...and as for mass texting, i think i'd rather slam my head through a wall =D will be reading more of your stuff later, I was amused.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

lovedoctor, true that. Again,it's the arrogance that you deserve a personalized text.. was your christmas card personalized that you sent me? Probly not, but you don't hear me complaining. At least you were thinking of me :-)


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Sherry, the problem is, I don't like the phone. When I'm on the phone I tend to mumble and sound grumpy and it bothers people so, unless it's business related, I almost always text.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Amy, thanks for sharing your story. It's a tragedy this day and age that there are so many people wanting to take advantage of others, yet, technology has made it so easy to do so. i tend to accept anyone who wants to friend me on facebook, linkedin, et al, but I'm also really careful what information I reveal to them and, one i don't know personally, I keep on a short list.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Brenda... I agree. It's a bit of a conundrum. I just don't understand why people get offended by it. That's what seems silly to me. but, to each his own, I guess.


lovedoctor926 3 years ago

A very good hub. voting up useful.

I know exactly what you mean. Rudeness is a turn-off. It shows that the person lacks manner and class. Anyone can have a bad day, but it doesn't give you the right to take it out on other people. I agree with you. It comes across as arrogant too. I would much rather prefer to talk on the phone than text. texting is good for simple and short statements, but not for long conversations since it can lead to misunderstandings. And plus too much texting causes sore wrists and painful thumbs. Lol.


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Sherry Hewins 3 years ago from Sierra Foothills, CA

I don't usually text, and I have never sent or received a mass text. I don't particularly object to it, is sounds convenient if you have the same message to send to many people. Text messaging in general doesn't seem all that personal to me. I think some people, like immediate family, might warrant an actual phone call.


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Amy Becherer 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO

There are pros and cons with every decision. I am not a big "facebooker." I believe it has done more harm, although the intentions may be good, than the benefits of making connections. Yet, without participating to some degree for those with a computer, can be a disadvantage, too. I will never mass text, as I feel it delegates everyone I know to the same status, and in effect, negates the importance of my beloved friends.

"Friending" everyone that invites at Facebook lets anyone in to all information posted on the site. There is risk, yet without, we limit our potential to meet new friends across the world.

In the busy lives of everyone today, if I didn't delete many emails I'd spend 24/7 at the screen. I once opened an email from an unknown source and had to spend $200 to remove malware from my laptop. We live and learn. Caution is just as important online as opening our door to a stranger at our homes. I am going to be more discrimate with confirming friends, deleting emails from unknown sources, even messaging birthday wishes to someone I don't know at all. I reserve reaching out and sharing to the people I know and trust. Before online communications became the way of the world, meeting people was face to face. When that risk was taken in good faith and ended badly, it was the victim that was cast as naïve, unaware and harshly judged by society who rendered little sympathy. Today, online predators threaten our children, identity theft is rampant, hackers are devising new ways to defeat security software with consequences life altering. To error on the side of caution is safer than the possibility of offending someone with good intentions. The bad guys count on our acquiesence to "good" behavior. Telling the good guys from the bad online is risky business. I'm just sayin'....

Thank you for this provocative food for careful consideration, PDX.


Brenda Durham 3 years ago

I voted "I don't mind getting them, but I don't usually respond". But would like to change it to "Depends on my relationship to that person." ha.

Although modern technology would seem to make it "a small world".........it seems to create even more of a distance between people emotionally; yes, making it impersonal at times.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

The Christmas card analogy is a good one,

while i get some Christmas cards that are personalized, I get quite a few that are of the "form" variety. I don't get upset. At least they thought about me. I think it's a misplaced sense of entitlement and self importance. But your idea of stepping back and examining is a good one as well. Thanks for stopping by.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Thanks Willstar,

I remember when my grandfather used to leave me voice mails. He got out the words fine but, the last two minutes of the message was him trying to hang up. I'd hear things like "damn phone", and stuff like that. Made me laugh. It makes me miss him to think about that.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Thanks a lot Deborah. That's very kind. Obviously that particular person was not.


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PDXKaraokeGuy 3 years ago from Portland, Oregon Author

Carol, I understand that as well... technology which was supposed to bring us closer actually serves to separate us further. The odd thing is, the only people that get upset by it to me are people in my generation, who should be used to this kind of thing.


SilverGenes 3 years ago

A few years ago, people sent Christmas cards through the mail and there was much discussion then about typewritten family newsletters. Now that we have FB and know what kind of sandwich our friends had for lunch, this kind of update is no longer necessary. But the dilemma is the same. Christmas cards were signed personally and often contained a few lines of special greetings for close friends and family. It was even important to select different cards so people did not all get the same one! Cards from local businesses were printed. I think mass texting falls into a similar category as printed business greeting cards. If we are truly too busy for close friends and family, we should probably be taking a step back and examining our lives.


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WillStarr 3 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

In my early days, I was about as tech-oriented as anyone can get, but now, I resist most of it, because I just don't care. However, I'm using a computer to respond to your Hub, and I use texting now and then because it's a great way to leave a message you know will get read. However, I have never mass-texted, because I won't take the few minutes it takes to learn how.

How's that for a stubborn old man?

I enjoyed your Hub immensely!


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Deborah Brooks 3 years ago from Brownsville,TX

If you need prayer you can text me anytime or send me an email or tell me on Facebook.. I will put it on the prayer request page.

I don't mind.. I don't care about you trying to sell me anything.. unless I ask you about it.. but prayer anytime you want too.

many blessings to you

Happy New year

Debbie


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carol7777 3 years ago from Arizona

I don't text.... enough of this impersonal life...we no longer memorize phone numbers...we text, we write emails..maybe we have forgotten how to talk..

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