I have a tendency to forget people's names five minutes after meeting them.If you told me your name was Mary remembering it would be quite contrary to my personality.For the last few months I've been using a new technique that I've learned by watching other people who are extroverted.When meeting someone for the first time they will often repeat the persons name out loud and this technique has helped me at least for the first five minutes until my attention deficit kicks in and I retreat back into introverted intuition and logic.I simply cannot help myself from fading to away into something I find infinitely more attractive than mindless chatter.The first and easiest to learn is how to tell a persons brain sex.(for a wonderful synopsis of introversion visit MIndfield's hub Are You a Misdiagnosed Introvert.)
Now on to the sex and maybe a missed perception for some of you.As the chatter fades to black and the undercurrent of information comes into view,my focus will turn to the person's hands.At a glance this can be determined by comparing the length of someones index finger and ring fingers.When you were a fetus between 8 and 14 weeks you began to secrete the hormone testosterone.This hormone is proven to directly affect the length of your fingers.If you are a male your ring finger will range from slightly to significantly longer than your index finger.If you are a woman these two digits range from the same length to the index finger being longer.
A biologist from Liverpool named John Manning was the first to identify this relationship and his thesis has been accepted through analysis,observation and statistically.The data also shows that females with longer index fingers will display male characteristics and vice versa for the men, for instance men with shorter index fingers display more emotional tendencies.Other studies have shown that the finger length changes in different geographical areas and among people of different ethnicity.I don't believe anything no matter what the data suggest but I've used this one in real time for my own collection,analysis and application.I believe it has helped me to connect or tune into different people's frequencies.This may be helpful to anyone ever in a position of having to sell,themselves, goods or simply breaking the ice,especially if you have introverted tendencies.
Scientific analysis has proven that your fingers aren't the only thing that are affected by prenatal production of testosterone.The hypothesis is that the hormone inhibits growth in the left side of the brain while encouraging growth in the right.The data isn't bulletproof ,as I've dated very athletic women with standard feminine hands.I have personally found the research to be true 80% of the time with men and a little less with women(yes I'm keeping track).Regardless of that when the data turned to be true,the way I approached the initial contact turned out to be meaningful,intimate and deep,just the way a brute like me likes it.Do you remember the name I stated in the beginning of this hub?Me neither,now quit examining your fingers and direct your attention below to see what it means to be left or right brained:
LEFT BRAIN:Need total quiet to read or study,Like to write non-fiction,Usually rational,remember verbal material,good at math,Read for specific details and facts,Skilled at sequencing ideas, Likes to be Organized,Responds to a words meaning,Recalls peoples names,Speaks with few gestures,intellectual
RIGHT BRAIN:Can listen to music or TV while studying,Like to write fiction,Day dreamer,Prefer group,Enjoy creative storytelling,Read for main details,Solve problems intuitively,Philosophical,Responds to word pitch,recalls peoples faces,speaks using gestures,intuitive
Minding Your P's and Q's
I've always been interested in how people harness that most precious of commodities,time.Whenever I'm near someones calendar on a desk or a wall,I've been too intrigued by the information someone provided in the little boxes to pay close attention to superficial niceties.There's a lot to be said about a person from the way they spend their time but with the advancement of technology,much of this data has gone digital.In order to feed my insatiable appetite for information I am pleased to report that for now people still write things down,sticky notes are a big one and even the occasional calender can be found.This one is taking some getting used to but can still be achieved without notice.If you stare too long in someones presence you may be mistaken for a mindless brute that cannot read and that may not be a good perception of you on a job interview.
Handwriting is as expressive as any other way people express themselves and the art of analysing it is called Graphology.There is the face(signature)that people put on in the world and the real person(everything else).A persons emotional state at the time that the sample was taken can also be studied.Which is why this one is difficult to do at a glance.Usually several samples are needed and if you are at your office right now you probably have sticky notes everywhere.Sticky notes are like Skittles in the commercials,everywhere and all different colors.Well,taste the rainbow then and learn to savor the flavor.Here are some of the things to look for at a glance:
Large letters:Likes being noticed,Broad perspective,Bold,Action oriented
Med letters:Adaptable,balanced,realistic,comfortable with others or alone
Small letters:doesn't seek attention,introverted,humble,easily concentrates
Smaller letters:precise,introverted,cerebral,selective,avoids the spotlight
Finally there is the slant of the letters
Strong Right:Impulsive,spontaneous,enthusiastic,needs support,led by emotions
Slant Right:Friendly,extroverted,outgoing,sociable,responsive,interest in people
Vertical: Self sufficient,restrained,practical,independent
Slant Left: Observant,cautious,reserved,good listener,self reliant
Variable: Unpredictable,varying moods,ambivalent
I'll be back with some more mental gymnastics for the easily bored and under stimulated soon.These are especially fun for any frequent flyers,waiting rooms or anywhere you gather with strangers.
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