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Monsters in Disguise


©LaDena Campbell 2012 aka justateacher

Children often fear monsters. They fear the monsters under the bed and in the closets. They fear the boogeyman. They soon learn that these monsters are all in their head and a hug and reassurance from mom and dad chase those monsters away.

Sometimes, though, the monsters are all too real. And the people they go to for comfort are the biggest monsters of all. Too many times, I get to see this first hand. It is a part of life that I wish did not exist. Unfortunately it affects people of every race, color, creed, religion and socioeconomic status. It knows no boundaries.

What I am talking about is child abuse. I am a special education teacher and almost every year there is at least one case of child abuse that I have to report. Today, I reported my fourth case this year. I want to do something ­to stop this from happening, but there is not much I can do. I report every case that I see, but I can’t see it all…I spread the word against child abuse, but still, it is not enough. It still happens.

This year I have a little boy who was abused before he was born by an alcoholic, drug abusing mom. When he was taken from her and placed in the foster care system, he was abused by several sets of foster parents. This little boy has had enough bad things happen to last him a lifetime.

Another little boy comes to school and talks about being locked in a cage and tied up to his parent’s bed. He and his sister regularly come to school with bruises on various parts of their little bodies. The little boy fights getting on the bus nearly every day.

A little girl was reported because she comes to school in the same clothes for days and days at a time. Her hair is a mess and she is always hungry. She cries and says there is no food where she lives.

Today, I made my fourth report. A little boy opened up and told me that he is scared of his father. He said that he didn’t want to go home because he was scared. When I asked him why, he said he didn’t like the way his dad touched him. And he really didn’t like it when his dad hit him. He said his dad touched him and hit him in his private spot.

As a teacher, I am legally bound to report any suspected abuse to a child. We get trained on how to make a report and how to follow the steps to make sure the report is followed up on. We spend at least a day every year going over and over everything about how to report. But we are never told how it feels to know that the children that are in our care for seven hours a day have to go home to the monsters that are real. They don’t prepare us for seeing a little boy being taken away from school in a police car because it is not safe for him to go home. We don’t learn how to deal with children who have no home to go “home” to.

We teach our children not to fear the monster under the bed and in the closet. We teach them that there is no boogey man. We teach them to tell their parents if anyone tries to harm them.

We sometimes forget that the parents are the monsters…

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molometer 4 years ago

Interesting useful and awesome hub on a serious matter, we as educators deal with daily.

It is incredible frustrating, when social services seem to take forever, to step in and help these kids.

Well done for SHARING this information. I know many would rather not hear it. That is their issue!


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Thank you molometer - I appreciate the share! Today I was lucky and social services removed the child from school immediately...usually don't get that result!


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Pamela Kinnaird W 4 years ago from Maui and Arizona

This is such a big issue and so sensitive. I admire you very much for doing the work you do, knowing you have to try to sleep at night with your heart so full of love and worry for these children. I have a quarter of a degree to finish in the direction of social work and I stall for fear I won't be able to handle it. It's so heartbreaking -- what these children go through. I see Molometer has shared this. I will come back another day and share it again. It's a message people have to be aware of. If they see something that looks like abuse, it has to be reported and investigated. The child is helpless.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Pamela -It is a message that people need to know about...for some reason it seems that especially this year this is happening way too much...it makes me sad...


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teaches12345 4 years ago

My heart sank as I read your hub. Child abuse is so sickening and there seems to be more and more cases everyday. I had to report children to DSF before for abuse. You see them at school, care for them and love them as children. It hurts to see the pain they carry and you just want to make the bad monsters go away. You are such an awesome teacher and I pray that your love will help make a difference in the lives of these beautiful children. Voted up!


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billybuc 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

Disturbing....all too real....excellent job of presenting a difficult subject. Great job and bless you!


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hush4444 4 years ago from Hawaii

Today I spent the morning with a little guy who two weeks ago slept on the floor of our staff bathroom with his mom and brother. Someone had left the bathroom unlocked, and it was a haven for the mom, who is abused by her boyfriend, and her two kids who were trying to get out of the cold when they were kicked out of the house. Our student, who is just five, is the most delightful kid you've ever seen, and he's eager to learn his numbers - he's stuck on 12. I'd love to take him home and show him what it's like to be safe, but I can't. Thank you for this hub, for all the kids out there who don't know what it's like to feel safe and warm at night.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

hush4444 - there are just way too many children out there just like that...


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

I have many students I want to just take home with me every day....


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Frank Atanacio 4 years ago from Shelton

Justateacher this was a very well written article up and well...different.. I loved it


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

Thank you for stopping by Frank!


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butterflystar 4 years ago from A Place of Success :)

I wasn't expecting to read what I read in your article, but it is so so sad to hear it, and it is really sad that teachers have to hear this in school and work with children that are being abused. In today's society it is such a terrible thing, I wish schools would eduacate young students in Highschool on parenting as a standard before they go off and get married and raise children of their own. Most people have children at young ages and without a good Model in life they have nothing to go on when raising their own children hence cycles being repeated. I wish our government would definately incorporate family values and parenting as mandatory in school systems today. Thanks for sharing such a touchy subject.


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justateacher 4 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... Author

butterflystar - it would be great if parenting classes were mandatory for high schoolers. While in high school I was "stuck" taking a parenting class when we moved to a new state in the middle of the year.I loved the class and ended taking more throughout high school. Those classes really helped me out when I became pregnant as a senior...


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PDXKaraokeGuy 4 years ago from Portland, Oregon

very sad, ladena... but thanks for doing what you can in the lives of our youth.. especially those who are special needs. i have a special needs nephew and it takes a certain personality to be able to deal with those kind of children. Thanks for doing your part to protect them and guide them!

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