On Opinions and Debates
Do you impose your opinion on others?
There are as many and diversified opinions, ways of thinking, lifestyles and ways of living as there are many peoples and cultures in the whole world. Even beggars have opinions that work for them and that brought them to their ways of life; my opinion on certain matters, personal matters particularly, may not necessarily work for others and vice versa.
So why impose?
What is an opinion?
Even the definition of "opinion" has variations and are situational. Let me delve deeper into how Dictionary.com define "opinion."
The following are some of its definitions and/or descriptions of what an opinion is in given situations;
1. An opinion is "a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty."
2. It is "a personal view, attitude, or appraisal."
3. "...the formal expression of a professional judgment: to ask for a second medical opinion."
4. "Law . the formal statement by a judge or court of the reasoning and the principles of law used in reaching a decision of a case."
5. "... a judgment or estimate of a person or thing with respect to character, merit, etc.: to forfeit someone's good opinion."
When it comes to your lifestyle and personal life, which do you value most? Your own thoughts or what others think?
Along life's journey, there are times when you are in a situation that are confusing so that you tend to consult the opinions of others. In situations like these, who do you ask? Is it not important to consult the opinion of an expert? Or do you consult just anybody else, a peer group, a friend, a relative or anybody who is not an expert in the subject at hand? Do you consult them just because they are easier to reach?
Other people may have opinions or a say to certain situations in your life but they only express their thoughts based on their own belief system which they had also accumulated as they live their own lives. They have no sufficient and thorough knowledge about you from inside out. It's only you who know you (or can know yourself) from within you. Nobody else can feel exactly the way you do when things go wrong in your life.
In the first place, these things that had gone wrong in your life have had their precedence from your state of mind and viewpoint in life and are demonstrated in all your behaviors and decisions that also had led to the confusing situation. Nobody else can change your way of thinking and belief system but you.
Consequently, your own viewpoints in life had come to be because of your own personal experiences in various areas such as your education, your socialization processes and so forth.
Hence, when it comes to personal matters, it is unnecessary, if not stupidity to consult the opinions of others. By doing this you are just putting yourself under unnecessary judgmental scrutiny from anyone who has no sufficient knowings of the whole person that you are. And not to mention becoming the subject of gossips and criticism that may confuse you the more.
Therefore, self-knowing, introspection and self-awareness are the smartest things that any sensible person can do in his/her whole life through.
There was this woman who claims herself as a writer and who said that she values the thoughts of others then added to the effect that anyone who always think for himself/herself is selfish and needy. This is a very good example of an opinion that works for her. She doesn't want to be selfish and needy so she will not listen to herself more than to others' opinions.
This reminds me of the story about a father, a son, and their donkey. They listened more to everybody's opinions so that they didn't know anymore what was right for them and their donkey and that left them miserable.
Among the definitions of "debate" that Dictionary.com gives is as follow;
"...a discussion, as of a public question in an assembly, involving opposing viewpoints: a debate in the Senate on farm price supports.
"...a formal contest in which the affirmative and negative sides of a proposition are advocated by opposing speakers.
In the Q&A in HubPages was a question raised to the effect "Is your way the only way?" and some woman answered also to the effect "...I love debates, they are thrilling..."
It's really funny that people give their nonsense answers to a non-sense question in the first place. This is the very reason why I had quit opening a topic in the forum and raising questions. Many people love to ask "gossip-provoking" and non-sense questions that also incite gossipy and non-sense answers just to forfeit the opinions of others or to make themselves feel better being in the upper-hand in the discussion.
I answered the question even if I knew that such question was actually not a valid question. My idea in answering such a question was to remind the obvious that, to repeat my intro, "There are as many and diversified opinions, ways of thinking, lifestyles and ways of living as there are many peoples and cultures in the whole world. Even beggars have opinions that work for them and that brought them to their ways of life; my opinion on certain matters, personal matters particularly, may not necessarily work for others and vice versa."
But then, opinions and mentions of debate came out as answers.
As every educated and well-read person, not to mention writers for that matter, is expected to know, a debate is a formal discussion of mainly some socio-political-economic issues between two opposing concepts. It is in the form of an affirmative and negative arguments supported by facts and evidences that each side had researched for the topic in question.
A debate is a formal discussion and contest or deliberation between two parties of opposing concepts about an issue in an assembly where a moderator and a group of judges are present to determine the rules and regulations are followed and to determine which side wins based on facts and evidences presented.
I would like to reiterate too that among the most important rules for each party is to be decent and polite in using words in the process of discussion as to avoid using words to defame the characters of each speaker.
I wonder what rules the forum and Q&A have to follow. Opinions there are so distorted and lots of impoliteness and defamation of characters are being shown in the process of arguments.
The basic difference between a debate and an opinion is that; a debate is a discussion of wider scope that involves social issues among others whereas an opinion concerns personal beliefs and viewpoints on personal matters. When opinions are applied to public matters then there will be no end to the discussion and defamation of characters enter because like I said there are as many opinions as there are many peoples and cultures in the whole world.
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