Parenting by Natural Selection
Sometimes I think that man kind has gone astray.
Most species on this planet mate by natural selection.
Natural selection means that they chose their partner by either: the way they look, their strength or perhaps their attitude.
Man kind on the other hand looks for all the qualities in one, then, are surprised when they are later disappointed.
If man kind had stuck to the rules of the planet, then we would either be the most beautiful, strongest or kindest on the planet. Instead we are none of the above.
Whether you believe in it or not, natural selection does make sense. Humanity does not.
Too often parents want to live the life they could have had, through their children.
This can never happen, they are not you. Every person is different, which means every child is different and that is their beauty.
OK, you can say you will bring them up as your parents brought you up. How? Your spouse wasn’t there.
OK, you will let your parents bring them up. Your parents are older than they were then, they have changed, the world has changed, and nothing remains the same.
Face it YOUR childhood has gone and you cannot replace it.
If you were not the prom queen or the star football player, YOU never will be.
Relax and let your children be what they were meant to be, not what you want them to be.
Too often I have seen parents take their children to church every week without fail. Then, when the children can do what they want, they never return to church.
YOU CANNOT FORCE FEED CHILDREN.
There is none.
As I have said, no two children are the same and neither are any two parents.
When I hear parents are selling parenting advice, I am amazed. They say they are qualified because they have brought up perfect children. I say they are not qualified, they are lucky.
Again, no two children are the same. What works for one may not work for another so there cannot be one set of rules for all.
Parenting is about: love, respect and giving advice.
If you are lucky, in return you will receive: love, respect and a receptive ear.
If there is a problem, then it has to be faced one on one because nobody knows either of you better than you do each other.
Always remember that children will follow examples and it is YOUR example that they will see the most. We all make mistakes, so tell them when you make one, after all, you are not perfect and neither will they be.
Do not live in a dream world, tell them how life is, not what you dream it to be.
No matter how long you dreamt of having children, the dream stopped when you had one.
Give love, respect and advice, and then also pray that your dream will not become a nightmare.
Remember: A child's knowledge, is a gift from God and its parents. How it uses it, is the child's repayment.
In the animal kingdom they pick their partner carefully then leave it to the genes to make their offspring the best they can be.
Human Parents often mistakenly, through love, hold back natural progression in our species.
Will, one day, the animal kingdom’s natural selection over take the human’s egotism for perfection?
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