Remember those who have died

When I was a young girl, some of the happiest memories I have were spending the weekends with my grandma. It was during those times that she taught me a lifelong lesson in humanity, but I didn’t realize it then.

When I stayed with her, my “job” was to fetch the daily newspaper and to separate the sections into two piles. One pile was the pile to read and the other was the pile to discard, which always ended up being the sports and classified sections. My grandma always picked up the Metro section first and turned right to the obituary pages. I remember asking her why those pages were so important and her reply was that when you get to her age, you start to see a lot of friends and distant relatives that you know appear on these pages. If it was a good day, she wouldn’t recognize anyone, but she would always read each person’s obituary out loud to me. I guess this was our way of honoring and learning more about the person. It seemed like the right thing to do instead of just moving on to the next page.

I still enjoy reading the newspaper when I have the time. Like a lot of people, I sometimes get consumed with day to day activities, such as family, work, errands and other obligations that I don’t take the time to really look at things outside my inner circle. It seems as if there aren’t enough hours in the day to read everything…or are there?

A few days ago I was going through my piles (sports and classifieds also discarded) to read and as I was reading the Metro section, I’m ashamed to say that I passed over (no pun intended) the Obituary pages. My daughter was sitting next to me at the time and she asked who those people were. Without realizing what I was saying, my response was, “They’re just people who died.” As I finished that sentence, I had the worst feeling in the pit of my stomach as I made eye contact with my daughter and saw her trying in her mind my insensitive response to her question.

Thinking about my grandma, I immediately changed my mind set and turned back to those pages filled with people; both young and old, who lived their lives to the best of their ability. Some had long lives and died after lengthy illnesses and some were young who had a lifetime to live but for whatever reason had died abruptly. Each and every one of these people from my community was special and loved by someone. Each deserved to have their lives celebrated, remembered and not forgotten. They all deserve a few moments of our time. That night, I read about each person’s life to my daughter and we honored these great people and shared a sense of loss for each of them.

To my surprise, there were enough hours in the day. Thank you Grandma, for taking your time with me and sharing those moments. You will always have a wonderful place in my heart and you will never be forgotten. I love and miss you so much!


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thevoice 6 years ago from carthage ill

great hub God loved ones are never forgotten thanks

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Miss Belgravia 6 years ago from Fort Worth, Texas

What a lovely lesson you taught your daughter. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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DustinsMom 6 years ago from USA

What a lovely heartfelt tribute to Grandma.

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4tsom10 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you for reading my story and for the kind words.

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magnoliazz 6 years ago from Wisconsin

What a lovely and kind thing to do!

You are right, each person on that obit page was loved and leaves behind a family, usually filled with loss.

No matter what the age, that life impacts us all in ways that we may never know.

What a wonderful tradition to pass down to your daughter, all because of your dear grandmother. It honors her too.

dreamreachout 6 years ago

Wonderful hub that reaches our heart!! We who have lost our dear ones at young age know and feel it better!! Your above commentator, magnoliazz, lost two young brothers and I lost my young brother too!! This hub appeals to us all the more!!

Its one of the best teaching imparted to you by your grandma and its wonderful that you passed it on to your daughter!!

Thanks for the wonderful read!!

Cheers!! :)

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4tsom10 6 years ago from Texas Author

Thank you magnoliazz and dreamreachout the the nice words. I'm sorry for both of your losses of a sibling. I have two brothers and a sister and we are very close, so I can't imagine what you went through. I've lost my grandma and my mom over 10 years ago and I still feel like an orphan but their lives touched me more than I can ever imagine and I'm sure your siblings did too. It sucks that we have to die, huh? Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts...I appreciate you!

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