Sharing My Shower With A Spider; An Arachnophobe's Story


Yes I am an arachnophobe; I have an abnormal fear of spiders. But how did this terrifying fear of spiders come about?

Maybe I have been this way my whole life?   

No that is not true because as a child I was known as the notorious bug lover; the girl who would stop her trike just to let a caterpillar take his right away on the road.  I would pick up bugs, look at bugs and had a natural curiosity about bugs including spiders.

Maybe it was my parents?

No, that is not true either because my parents never really freaked out over bugs.  My mother never shrieked at bugs in fact she always said things like, “You are much bigger than that bug and it must be very scared of you.”  My father still catches bugs to set them free under the notion that bugs are all God’s creatures and I agree with that sentiment (well maybe not when it comes to the mosquito).

Maybe it is the stories that I have heard about spiders?

That is possible because some of those stories are absolutely terrifying. You know the stories of a spider crawling under someone’s skin and giving birth and then all the spiders crawling out after being born.  Or the supposed fact that in a lifetime a human will eat somewhere between 7 and 8 spiders (not on purpose but usually while sleeping with their mouths open).  Although these stories totally freak me out I really don’t think that these are the reason but these types of stories don’t help to ease my fears and only adds to them.

So where did this fear come from?

I still have no idea. But I do know that somewhere between childhood and adulthood I developed this fear and at times it can be paralyzing.  In my head I know it is silly but it is still difficult to get over. At my worst I remember running out of the bathroom totally freaked out and screaming.  I ran to my husband and told him that there was a HUGE spider on the wall in the bathroom. I begged him to get rid of it for me.  My husband stepped into the bathroom and yelled back, “Which one?”  Because I was already completely freaked out I went ballistic screaming, “How many are there?”
“Four!” He said back to me a little annoyed. “Four Spiders?!?” I yelled back getting more and more worked up by the minute. I thought I was going to come out of my skin at this moment. My husband could tell that I was terrified but couldn’t stop laughing as he responded, “No four walls! Which wall is the spider on?” It was at this point that I realized how silly I as acting.  I couldn’t help it I was crazed by the fear. I was also pregnant at the time and realized that I did not want my children to share my silly fears.  It was incredibly hard as my children grew up not to show my fear but I did my best.

Overtime I could tolerate spiders a little better. I still had set backs; like when a humongous spider jumped at me when I was brushing my teeth. I dropped my toothbrush quickly and ran scared out of the bathroom.  When I returned after my husband gave the all clear I immediately threw out my toothbrush because I imagined spider “goo” all over it.  Even though I have my outbursts and freak-outs I think I am slowly coming around.


I came to this realization last week while I was showering.  I happened to look up and saw a spider chilling in the upper corner of the shower. I wanted to freak out immediately but calmed myself down quickly.  The first day I kept my eye on the spider the whole time I was showering, making sure it didn’t attack me.  By the third day I was able to shower and actually turned my back to the spider for a short moment.  I was really progressing and proud of myself.  I was taking little steps each and every day.  I tried to think about Charlotte from the story Charlotte’s Web and that helped or even how Miss Muffet might have misunderstood the spider’s intentions when he sat down beside her.

It has been well over a week now and the spider is still camped out up there watching over my shower.  Now I actually look for it before I step into the shower to see if it is still there and to see if it is still alive.  I know that I am still an arachnophobe but definitely a more tolerant one, at least for now.

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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

Thank you for a lovely story. It must horrible or at least cumbersome to have this fear.

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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

Hmmmm. It does make you wonder - how did the fear come about. There are so many people affected by phobias of every kind - and spiders and bugs are way up there at the top. And I knew a librarian who was so afraid of reptiles she could not go down the aisle where those books were located. Then I was out with three friends who all took off screaming and running and I couldn't figure out why - seems some minute bug had approached. They were on the way to running out into traffic until they saw me laughing uncontrollably.

Hope you don't injure yourself getting away from a spider!

Nice new avatar by the way.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Hello - It can be horrible. I am trying to get a hold of it so that it doesn't have a hold on me anymore!

Bk - Phobias can be funny to those looking in from the outside. I even think mine is funny to some extent. I have injured myself before due to a spider but then again that could be just because I am clumsy by nature! Thanks for commenting.

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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

Okay now Triplet Mom, getting along with the spider is one thing, but letting him share the shower is a bit much for me. LOL! I might not have freaked out, but I would have to eliminate him right away. Oh, and, the story about the spider crawling under someone's skin and giving birth, that gave me the willies. I really did like your story though, and it is a very good hub.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Fastfreta - Yeah I would take the spider out of the shower (yeah he is still there) but I am not touching that thing with a 10 foot pole. But now I am getting a bit scared that its going to give birth up there or something like that. I know I am a nut!!

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suziecat7 6 years ago from Asheville, NC

Get someone to remove it for you. Spiders CAN be dangerous. Great Hub.

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Silver Poet 6 years ago from the computer of a midwestern American writer

I captured a wolf spider and kept it alive in a Kritter Keeper for several days before releasing it. Having a chance to observe it in safety helped me be more calm towards arachnids.

Good hub.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Suzie - I will try and get someone to remove it soon. I might even try and do it myself.

Silver poet - That is interesting. I wonder if I could do something like that. I still get shivers looking at pictures of spiders....hmmm.

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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

I am not terrified of spiders but I'm not crazy about the things, either. My personal phobia is snakes. That's the fear I can't get a grip on.

Glad to hear you're doing better with spiders--I sympathize.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Mike - I am so glad that you understand my pain. I am not a fan of snakes either, I just do not see them on the regular like I do spiders.

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borge_009 6 years ago from Philippines

Spiders really scares me. It started when a big spider jumped and climbed at the back of my neck.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

borge - That would freak me out!

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borge_009 6 years ago from Philippines

That freaked me out too. That's the beginning of my fear of spiders. Because I freaked out I accidentally crushed the spider in my hands

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Borge - Oh yucky. I would have been scarred for days over that incident! No wonder.

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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

Triplet Mom - honey I know exactly what you mean. But my problem is; if I don't kill the spider they usually end up in my bed. I'm not kidding that's the God's honest truth.

I now get a "Spidey Sense" tingle when approaching my tub or shower, and drown the vile thing before I venture into either.

I'm glad you're gaining control of the rascals, but I'd have to put that one out of it's misery. YUUCCK!!!

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

pmccray - That is why I hate when the spiders are up high! I am so afraid that they will fall on my head. That is one of the reasons I am scared to get the shower spider down (yes it is STILL up there). I want it gone but don't want it falling on or near me!!

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2patricias 6 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

Pat says - as a child I had no fears that I can recall. Now I am plagued by silly fears, but I try to tell myself it is childish. I hate being in a room without windows, and this can make visiting a department store difficult. My Wonderful Husband thinks it is great that I only like to be in stores for a very short time.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Pat - Its really nice to hear other people's fear. I think it makes me feel not so abnormal.

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kea 6 years ago

Nice hub...I don't think most people would confront a fear and share a shower with a spider! I find it odd the spider is always in the same place though...are you sure it's not a fake spider?

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Kea - It has been there so long that I made my husband come look (truly hoping that he would take it down for me). It is a real spider and very much alive. I just cannot bring myself to do anything about it. I am not certain how it is getting food and hoping that it goes away soon.

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the pink umbrella 6 years ago from the darkened forest deep within me.

haha, my fear of spiders is alive and well. a spider bite is dangerous, and they are just icky poo poo crawlies. Nope, that sucker could leave the shower and bite me in my sleep. gross. I say put it in a tupperware and get it out. Then throw the tupperware away...spider goo. yuck!

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

The Pink Umbrella - So I was fine until I was in the shower a few days ago (maybe a week) and the thing started heading towards me. I was screaming bloody murder. I had to battle the thing no tupperware necessary. I felt bad but he went right down the drain. I still look around the shower before I get in.

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Sally's Trove 6 years ago from Southeastern Pennsylvania

I admire your perseverance with getting over your fear. I never would have allowed that spider to share my shower, even though I have no fear of them. As Pink Umbrella said, tupperware is in order. My shower is MY space. Under the couch may be the spider's place, and I feel no need to impose myself there.

It's been 5 weeks now, and the spider went down the drain...have any of its progeny surfaced?

Loved this Hub.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Sally's Trove - Thank you very much. Luckily for me I have not seen another spider in my bathroom since. I am hoping that they ALL got the message.

kims3003 6 years ago

Haha! I know what you mean! I hate spiders...but it sounds to me like you DESPISE THEM. Great article. =)

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Thank you! kims3003 - I try not to despise them....but they just freak me out too much.

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MotherHubber 6 years ago from Southern California

Brave mama!

But I had to chuckle at the part about the spider crawling under one's skin then giving birth to its babies and they all come pouring out. . .LOL. That's a vision. Now I'm scared of spiders, too!

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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

You seem to be coping well despite the fear. Good for you!!

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Mother Hubber - I am not sure I am brave...just crazy sometimes....Yeah that story gives me the yucks every time I hear it!!

Chris Eddy - Thank you. I think I make myself sound a lot more brave than I really am.

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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

I am with you on this one. I am terrified of spiders. My wife laughs at me because I work in a maximum security prison but I am scared of spiders.

Go figure.

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Samboiam - Hey we all have our weaknesses, right? You must be a very strong person to work in a maximum security prison. But I can still see your wifes point of view as well.

Carly Winer 6 years ago

I loved your story...I know the whole try no to stare at the scary spider routine pretty well...I think it has something to do with the fact that they have eight eyes and legs that really freaks me out...except of course daddy long legs...because they cant actually bite you!Thanks for sharing it really made me laugh with the four walls comment =)

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Triplet Mom 6 years ago from West Coast Author

Carly Winer - Thanks for understanding my pain. Just the thought of a spider freaks me out.....

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ChristineVianello 5 years ago from Philadelphia

I also loved your story. I can feel your pain, terriefied of spiders.

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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

Christine - Thanks for understanding my pain sometimes I feel so silly but I cannot help it when it comes to spiders.

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RussellLHuey 5 years ago

Great article.

suki 5 years ago

I lived in Brazil as a child and spiders could get as big as dinner plates there (I also found a tarantula in our laundry basket..freakin'ugly)! So, my fear of spiders is a valid one and I don't blame anyone for having a screaming fit when they see one. I keep my heavy Catholic Bible nearby even now that I live in Canada..not too many big spiders here. I'll use a broom to knock them off the wall and then throw the Bible on top of them.. Splat ! Hope God doesn't mind.

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Triplet Mom 5 years ago from West Coast Author

suki - I got serious chills just thinking about you finding a tarantula in your laundry. I would have cried!!!

Kyla 5 years ago

Cool i absalutelea love it

I love spiders

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