The Day I Asked Forgiveness for Bullying a Classmate

Say "No" to Bullying

Be a leader and say "no" to bullying.
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Say "No" to Bullying

Bullies have been around forever, at least since children have been gathering together. When most of us think about bullies, we imagine that big strong boy that intimidates and picks on everyone. This is not the only face of bullies. Bullies can actually be typical people that are usually very kind and loving. Here is my story of how I became involved in bullying someone in middle school. A memory which I am very ashamed about.


I didn't have the Courage to Stop the Bullying

I was a middle schooler and riding the bus to school. I was sitting next to one of my best buddies and chatting away. About Halfway to school I heard some commotion going on behind me. It was three kids teasing Linda. Linda was moderately developmentally disabled. She went to school with the rest of us but everyone knew she was slow. She usually kept to herself except for a good friend of hers. His name was Mike and he was also developmentally disabled. He was also integrated into the school system but went to special education classes. That is where he met his good friend Linda.

I saw that three kids were trying to make Linda eat a sandwich that had fallen out of someone's lunchbox and onto the dirty floor of the bus. Eventually, it wasn't just the three people bullying Linda but now many people were getting involved. Several kids now began yelling for Linda to eat the sandwich. The chanting became louder and louder. My buddy and I were feeling uncomfortable about this sad scene involving Linda but we just sat there and watched. Soon, the whole bus was cheering for Linda to eat the sandwich. Peer pressure in middle school is real and Lisa and I soon found ourselves uttering the words, "eat the sandwich, eat the sandwich." That poor girl did eat the dirty grimey sandwich. I would be haunted by this despicible event for many years. That is until...

Forgiveness

I was a highschool senior and enjoying everything about being seventeen. One spring day, my friends and I went to a local, fast food joint. Hardee's had become a place that many highschoolers hung out after school and on weekends. This particular day as I waited in line, someone caught my attention. I had to look close, but soon realized it was Linda, the girl from middleschool that was so shamelessly bullied. My heart sank as I recalled that day on the school bus. Here she was now, cashier at Hardee's and doing quite well. My mind was reeling about whether to say anything to Linda. Did she even remember me? I almost burst when I got to the front of the line. I ordered a hamburger and fries and she politely thanked me when I gave her the money. I couldn't hold it in anymore. I said, "Linda, I don't know if you remember me but...Just then, Linda interrupted me. She said, "I remember you Linda, we went to middleschool together," and smiled at me. I told her I was very ashamed that I teased her on the bus that day back in 7th grade. By the look on her face, I could see she remembered the event I spoke of. I said, "Linda, will you forgive me, I was just a foolish kid?" She didn't even hesitate and said, "yes, I forgive you." I was very choked up at this sacred moment, to be forgiven. Before we said our goodbye's, she said she wanted to introduce me to her husband. She ran back to the kitchen and up walked this good looking young man with a name tag on his shirt that said, "manager." Linda, this is my husband Mike.

I walked out of Hardee's, humbled and more grown up. Linda and Mike taught me so much that day. I was grateful to be forgiven and learned a big lesson that day. Bullying is wrong and even if you feel pulled in to follow the crowd, don't. Be a leader and have the confidence to stop the bully and the bullying.

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We achieve inner health only through forgiveness-the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves." Joshua Loth Liebman

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justom 5 years ago from 41042

Great story, I think we all might have been a bit less smart about that stuff. It's all just part of growing up. Peace!! Tom


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Hyphenbird 5 years ago from America-Broken But Still Beautiful

What a great story. I am glad you wrote it as I sit here crying. It is a wonderful testimony to the power of forgivenss and the grace Linda has in her heart. And that Mike! Good for him.


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

Wow the power of forgiveness is a great treasure. Awesome story - thank you.


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HattieMattieMae 5 years ago from Limburg, Netherlands

Ha Ha, some times bullies can be family members too! We never think of them, cause they are closer! Forgiveness is a wonderful thing once you learn how to do it! Can be he hardest thing in the moment!


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Tom- I felt so blessed that she forgave me without reservation. So many of us as youngsters don't realize who the real heroes are.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Hi Hyphenbird-Who are the mature ones in middle school? Wow, what a lesson they taught me. I have heard through the grapevine that Linda and Mike are still happily married. God Bless them! How beautiful that she wanted to introduce me to her honey.


marellen 5 years ago

Such a great story. I think we all have been in a situation like that. Its wonderful that you asked and got forgiveness.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Hey acaetnna-Thanks! Forgiveness is a gift which I didn't expect to get from Linda. It sure felt great.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Hey Hattie-Of yes, the family. Good point! I think family can be the cruelest because they think they can. Forgiveness and being forgiven are such gifts, there for the taking:)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks Marellen. I always carried alot of guilt after that incident because I knew I should have stood up for Linda. I know sometimes this is how we learn but poor Linda for putting up with that. She was much more mature than every kid on that bus.


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bbnix 5 years ago from Southern California

Crimini, I'm such a baby - like Hyphenbird, I couldn't help but cry...

I suppose we all have things from our past that we're less than proud of, but those are a powerful part of what makes us so damn adamant to do everything right now.

And no, we're not perfect, but by God, I'll fight with all my strength and knowledge to be as close as possible...


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Twilight Lawns 5 years ago from Norbury-sur-Mer, Surrey, England. U.K.

Lovely story. I think we all can be dragged into doing the most horrible things and when we look back at how we joined in so callously we feel absolute pain and shame.. I've done it. I Challenger anyone to say they haven't.


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WillStarr 5 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

When we were young teens in my small Iowa town, we teased an old man because he always reacted in impotent anger, and we thought it was funny. He is long dead of course, as are some of the kids who teased him, but to this day, I wish I could ask his forgiveness.

The worst part is, I was taught better than that, so I can't plead childish ignorance. I knew it was wrong when I did it.

Important Hub, Twin.


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Poohgranma 5 years ago from On the edge

I'm glad you wrote this. Maybe it will bring others to ask for forgiveness as well.


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b. Malin 5 years ago

What a Beautiful and Poignant story Minnetonka Twin...It also takes a bigger person, to say "i'm sorry" and you did. Bravo for you!


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einron 5 years ago from Toronto, Ontario, CANADA

Such a beautiful story of forgiveness and grace. Thank you. Blessings and peace.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

bbnix, you are my heroe for admitting how this affected you. I think HubPages can be powerful because people can be educated on how we are all human. Thanks for your honesty here:)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Twilight, thanks for making me not feel like such a monster. I am a good person that just had to grow up.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks Will. We are so human and life is just our learning playground. You are a good person and so am I. I know I am forgiven and so are you:)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks Poohgranma. I hope so too:)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Aww, thanks so much b.Malhin-I appreciate that:)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Hi Einron, hopefully my bad can help others grow up:)


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Karanda 5 years ago from Australia

In a perfect world or on TV, anyone can come forward, stand up to the bullies or resist peer pressure. It is much harder to do in reality as you have shown through your story.

How wonderful for you to have the opportunity to say sorry. It doesn't matter how long after the event as long as your intentions were sincere.


Sunnie Day 5 years ago

Great story! A priceless "do over" Thank you for sharing.

Sunnie


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breakfastpop 5 years ago

My moving story. When I was a kid there was a very mean man living on the block. The kids would stand outside and chant, "Joe Blow, the big fat schmo". What was I doing?


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Nicole Winter 5 years ago from Chicago, IL

breakfastpop: I'd be mean, too if ya'all were standing outside my house yelling that to me! *grin*

Minnetonka Twin: This is really a lovely story, the fact that you were able to see Linda and Mike again, to ask Linda for forgiveness, is just utterly beautiful. I have a theory every child, even the most kind-hearted of them have that moment, that time they can think back on which makes them cringe with shame. It's fantastic that you've had a chance to alleviate some of your childhood guilt, and more lovely still that Linda and Mike are married, productive and living happy lives. Thank-you kindly for sharing this, it brightened my day and gave me an idea for a hub I'd like to write.


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drbj 5 years ago from south Florida

That was a lovely thing you did by apologizing and asking Linda for forgiveness. It made TWO people much happier!


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Hi Karanda. I was so blessed that I was able to see Linda again and have the chance to apologize. After this experience I was very diligent in stopping any bullying I saw. I had a newfound confidence to stand up for the victim. When you really think about it, it's all about self-esteem. I was too chicken to do the right thing in that bus. I followed the crowd, which my father had taught me Not to do.


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kashmir56 5 years ago from Massachusetts

Hi Minnetonka Twin, to ask to be forgiving is awesome....to be forgiving is priceless !


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks Sunnie. I like the term, "do over." I was blessed to get the chance to have a "do over." I know many people don't. I felt like I'd just gone to confession afterward. It felt Spectacular!


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

I had to giggle a bit, breakfastpop, with the chant about joe schmo. You are lucky he didn't beat you up. So the bully was getting bullied back. I wonder if it made him think about his bad behavior??HMM


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The Frog Prince 5 years ago from Arlington, TX

Excellent Hub. For those who haven't seen it, this is one way to deal with a bully.

Up and awesome.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2f1FUTnVPPk&feature...

The Frog


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Nicole-Thanks for your kind words about my story. So glad my hub inspired you to write on this. I will look forward to reading it.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

I know, Linda and I were visibly happier after that. It was so beautiful when she flitted to the kitchen to get her husband and introduce me. I was thinking, "wow, not only did she forgive me, she wants to show off her husband to me." I felt so blessed that day:)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

kashmir, You said it so perfectly. I did not assume I would be forgiven but it felt lovely. I knew I had to apologize for my bad behavior no matter her response to me.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks so much Frog Prince. I'm gonna go check out the link. Peace:)

Just went to the link. Woe, the guy kept putting up with the bully and finally blew.


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The Frog Prince 5 years ago from Arlington, TX

MT - He took it about as much as anyone can take being abused.


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Tamarajo 5 years ago from Southern Minnesota

wow what a beautiful story. I am so glad you had the courage to ask for her forgiveness. tears in my eyes.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

AWW, thanks Tamarajo. It was a really good day to be forgiven:)


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pmccray 5 years ago from Utah

Great testimony. I feel you were more of a follower than a bully. Bullies are cowards and it took courage for you to face your victim. Kudos to you for having such moral sense at such a tender age. Voted up, marked useful and awesome.


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

I was bullied by this one girl in middle school. I didn't do anything to her at all. She just had it in her to be mean and I caught her eye on the wrong day I guess. She would kick me or push me each time we saw each other. She was lots bigger than me. It made me wonder what was going on in her house that made her so darn mean. I had to figure out a way to get her off my back. She was threatening me daily.

I worked in the school cafeteria during lunch period. I got free lunch for that and I also got to keep my lunch money because my parents said I earned it. That girl ended up in my line one day. I looked her right in the eyes and I gave her extra French fries. She smiled at me. She never ever bothered me again.

I don't think many people in her life were ever nice to her. I must wonder if bullies are being bullied by someone themselves.


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Fossillady 5 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

Don't hang onto the shame, hopefully writing about it will be another way for you to help let it go!


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Darknlovely3436 5 years ago from NewYork

great hub, bullying someone a serious thing,

I was so lucky when I was going to school, my older brothers was my protector. So nobody dare mess with me.

back in the days...


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RealHousewife 5 years ago from St. Louis, MO

Sorry Minnetonka - I meant to say that so many kids in that situation would have been confused about what to do! You took the opportunity to learn from it and there are so many who wouldn't have. It shows you are so caring!


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catgypsy 5 years ago from the South

Minnetonka, thanks for having the courage to share that story. It's sad, but true, that probably all of us have been "peer driven" into joining in on something we later deeply regreted. It's great that you were able to apologize. The very fact that it haunted you for so many years, and you took the opportunity years later to apologize, shows what a kind person you are.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Dear pmccray-You are right about that. I was following the crowd. I was never the bully type but I think at that age you find yourself following the crowd at times and some of that comes from thinking people wont like you if you don't go along. I was being a chicken by not standing up for Linda. I am so glad I learned from this experience. I found a new strength in myself after this and made sure to stand up for those being teased.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

What a great story RealHousewife about the personality of the bully. I believe bullies are very insecure and probably not getting their emotional needs met at home. You giving her extra fries was a beautiful gesture and as you see, you melted her bullying heart. You noticed her when you gave her extra fries and made her feel special. Great job:) Very touching.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Hi Fossillady-Writing this did help take that shame burden off of me. I am still not proud of how I followed the crowd, but her forgiving me was such a gift and I will Never forget it.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

DarknLovely-Sometimes brothers can be a real asset to us. I had two big brothers and a twin sister to protect me. Noone messed with me if they were around.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks for interjecting that RealHousewife. I was a good kid and just screwed up by getting pulled into the group thing. I will never forget how great I felt the day I talked to Linda. I felt like I'd just gone to confession. I had quite the spring in my step as I walked out of that Hardee's.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thank you so much catgypsy. I am so glad I put this hub out. I think your right that most of us got pulled into something we knew was not ok but did it because of peer pressure. I appreciate your kinds words to me:)


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sonia05 5 years ago from india

great hub...forgiveness is not easy but asking for forgiveness is all the more difficult.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thank you so much Sonia. Although I was nervous about talking to her about the incident those many years before, I felt so relieved to get it off my chest. She was a very sweet girl.


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thougtforce 5 years ago from Sweden

This is a great story and I can relate to how you felt since I also have some embarrassing moments on my conscience from my childhood. I can only blame it on immaturity and foolishness. But you did an awesome thing when you apologized after all those years. Tina


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Becky Puetz 5 years ago from Oklahoma

I think it's wonderful that after so many years have passed, you still think of the mis-treatment this developmentally challenged young girl suffered at the hands of her peers. The fact that you did ask for forgiveness that day at Hardees says a lot about you; you're a genuinely good hearted person, trying to right the wrongs in your life. We can all take a lesson from your kind and thoughtful act. It's never too late to ask forgiveness. When Linda accepted your apology, it proved what a good person she is too. Thanks for sharing this heart felt story; I hope others will follow your lead. Voted up, awesome and beautiful.


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Darlene Sabella 5 years ago from Hello, my name is Toast and Jam, I live in the forest with my dog named Sam ...

OMG girlfriend, you made me cry, this is so sad and so brave of you, and Linda and Mike are so special. I remember the name of the person in our school, shame, shame on our entire school. I love this and thank you I as well feel humbled. Rate up love & peace darski


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks so much Tina. I do chalk up this one experience to my immaturity and insecurity. Anyone that follows the crowd is doing it out of insecurity which is common when we are young. My father taught me not to follow the crowd but I had to learn it myself. I know I am blessed to get the chance to ask for forgiveness. The icing on the cake, she forgave me. YAE! I was a different girl as I walked out of Hardee's that day. Dad gave me my moral foundation but I learned the lesson through this experience. Standing up for victims of bullying is the right thing to do, even if it's uncomfortable at the time. Even if it means you are not cool anymore. I knew, being cool is being a good person. Thanks to Linda and Mike:)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thank you so much Becky. I really appreciate your kind words. I think we all make mistakes and we have every chance to right our wrongs. What a day this was for me. God Bless Linda for even giving me a chance.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Hey Darksi girl, I am so glad you got something out of my hub. I do think we all have a story but we all make mistakes. What we do with our mistakes Is what makes a difference.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain

Nobody i perfect and apologies are not always easy.

You are a gem. Wonderful hub


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

That is so sweet Dim Flaxenwick. You just gave me a big smile today. Yae, I'm a GEM.


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Whidbeywriter 5 years ago from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington

Very moving story, forgiveness has a way of freeing us from the stronghold that holds our hearts captive. Thank you for sharing this awesome story - blessings!


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

AAWW, thank you so much Whidbeywriter for your nice comments. I love how you stated that "forgiveness has a way of freeing us from the stronghold that holds our hearts captive." Well said:)


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Scarlett My Dear 5 years ago from Missouri

I enjoyed this very much. As well as, so many honest and touching reassurances in your comments! It is obvious from those who follow you here that you are a generous spirit.

We certainly do learn those greatest and most humbling lessons all on our own. Perhaps this life lesson was what propelled you into opening your eyes. We ALL have those moments. I like to think of it as our Awakening. My brushes with similar events in my youth added to my own all important development of empathy.

Your truth here speaks volumes for many, Minnetonka. It's not easy for us to admit when we have wronged another. We feel shame and disappointment in ourselves, often feeling alone with the pain that follows. The simple fact that you felt something was already, not only the step in the right direction, but perhaps, was also a life lesson which Linda learned from as well.

Life is Pain ~ is Forgiveness ~ is Love. ALL pieces of the puzzle must be present for the picture to be complete.

~With Much Respect, Scarlett


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Scarlett, your words on your comment here are so touching. I really like how you ended with, "Life is pain... is forgiveness...is love and it is a puzzle." I have goosebumps my dear Scarlett.


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Scarlett My Dear 5 years ago from Missouri

Of all that we learn while we are here, I think the idea that pain has purpose in our lives is the most difficult for us to accept. Who in their right mind would invite it in, right?

But, it is my belief that it most certainly does have purpose. I fight against it like we all do, but in the end it helps me understand the challenges I face so much more when I realize how entirely they affected me ~ often for a lifetime.

Loss of our loved ones is painful. This I know. And, though I ask Why ~ I do understand that even when it is unexpected and feels like downright torture, there is always something to be learned from it. We forget when we are in the trenches that the loves of our lives that are lost, are loved by many ~ And Many are changed so deeply that they in turn change others with newly acquired sight and wisdom.

I only hope that I always pass it on! You did.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

You have such a wise soul and such a lovely way with words. I so believe that that life and it's pains are how we learn. Pain brings growth even though at the time it hurts so bad that we can't see why it happened. Some of my best teachers in life were people that hurt me. Every experience is needed to learn what we need. God Bless you for sharing your thoughts:)


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Seafarer Mama 5 years ago from New England

Hi Minnetonka Twin,

I also had tears in my eyes when I read this. Thanks for sharing such a beautiful story.

Yes, bullying often happens within families, too (per comments from various hubbers above)...and sometimes forgiving those bullies - who push so hard to get their way though it steps on your needs, or to make their opinions your law - is a bit of a challenge, especially when they seem to be nowhere near apologizing for their disrespectful behavior...but allowing ourselves to get past that and to focus on the beauty of a new day is so freeing! :0)

Each time I feel the resentment welling, I take a few deep breaths and find something fun to do for myself...a way to free myself...especially if it means playing with my daughter and increasing the amount of quality time we spend together!

Namaste!


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Dear Seafarer-I really appreciate your kind words on my bullying hub. I also want to thank you for your courage to share that you feel this way with your family. I know there are many that feel that way and you can count me in on that. I have struggled with a couple of my siblings who are very rude and disrespectful to me. They feel it is their right because my twin and I are the youngest of 5. It's amazing how family dynamics work, I mean, I am a 48 year old woman, we are not children, even though that is still not an excuse. Thanks for letting me spill about it, I feel better already.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you so much MT Twin,That was an awesome undertaken, But isn't it wonderful to acknowledge our wrong doings and put things in their proper perspective and get on with our lives. It's a good feeling isn't it.Thank you so much for sharing. God bless youj. creativeone59


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks so much creativeone, I appreciate that. OH the feeling of sweet forgiveness is quite a gift. I felt like I'd just walked out of confession.


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Wonderful confession which is so funny but i love these work.


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks Sun-Girl-It felt very cleansing to apologize to her that day.


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Daffy Duck 5 years ago from Cornelius, Oregon

That's a great story. You didn't actually bully her, but the "pack" mentality can be extremely strong....especially with kids who have, on average, little self control and fore thought.

It's good to see how it worked out....a happy ending. :)


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Minnetonka Twin 5 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks Daffy Duck, I appreciate your comments. Ya, I just got caught up in the group thing as you said. I am so glad I bumped into her and told her I was sorry. It was always something I felt bad about.


stessily 4 years ago

MT, It's great that you were able to close this circle in your life with love and forgiveness. It's also great that when the opportunity for reconciliation presented itself to you, you went for it.


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota Author

Thanks Stessily. It was a great blessing because I know most people don't get the opportunity. Thanks so much for reading this and all the other hubs you've visited. I really appreciate it:-) You've even motivated me to clean up the one about Robert Downey Jr. because it was an old hub and needed some work. Hope your having a great night. I'm watching the bachelor and one of these gals is such a meanie :-0 I think she's gonna skinny dip with him after the commercial which will make her more unpopular than she already is with the rest of the girls. Yikes.


stessily 4 years ago

MT, I've only seen The Bachelor twice, both with Brad from Texas. In both of them, there was at least one contestant whom everyone hated. I wondered if they really were like that or if it was scripted to add drama; it got kinda ugly. Yikes! Sounds like that might be par for the course when so many women are competing for one man's affections --- especially before a huge worldwide audience on TV!


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Minnetonka Twin 4 years ago from Minnesota Author

I wonder too if it's scripted. This season Courtney is the mean one. It sounds like next week the girls are gonna call her out. I'm glad cause the bachelor seems like a nice guy and she pretends to be nice around him.


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maggs224 3 years ago from Sunny Spain

What a wonderful hub, I am so pleased that you have shared it, I think we can all identify with what you did, as you say peer pressure is hard to stand against.

I know that I was often humbled by my kids my daughter especially, I was quite needy when I was young and as a result a people pleaser and as a result I have a few moments that I really regret and am not proud of.

I have when, when I have had the opportunity, asked for forgiveness but not with the positive outcome that you had here. Though after the asking at least I had the peace that comes from trying to right the wrong.

My daughter on the other hand was her own person almost right from the get go, and she would stand up against anyone or anything that she thought wrong.

She could never be one of those who would pass by on the other side of the road if she saw something going on that was wrong.

If she saw something wrong she would have to go into battle on the side of the underdog.

My daughter, was and still is fearless, even in first school would come home with tales of what had gone on in the playground that made me so proud of her.

The amazing thing about it was she was clueless as to how brave she was being, she hasn't changed much now that she is a grown woman with a family of her own.

I think that this is an inspirational hub Linda, I will be voting up and hitting the relevant buttons as I go.


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Minnetonka Twin 3 years ago from Minnesota Author

Dear Maggs-thanks for not only reading my story but sharing that you also got caught up in it. I think most of us have a story of following the crowd because of our own insecurities. It feels so freeing to say that it's our weaknesses that find us chiming in with the bullies instead of standing up for the victim. That experience always made me feel terrible and I was so glad to get it off my chest. Even if she wouldn't have forgiven me, I would've felt better and it was icing on the cake that she did. What a lovely woman she was for seeing we are all human and do stupid things.

Your daughter sounds like an incredible woman-I can hear how proud you are of her. She is someone we could all learn a big lesson from. I wish she could have been around for Linda that day in the school bus.

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