The Many Generations of Sex

Talking to Your Teens About Sex

I have written many different articles about copulation. I have written hubs concerning teenage pregnancy, ways to implementing copulation exercises, to "How to" hubs about feeling sexier. Moreover, I have touch on this subject matter before but, not with this sincerity. I am truly concern about America being too conservative, and extremely uptight.

I'll tell you what prompted me to write another article about intercourse. I watched an episode of the Bravo cable series, The Housewives of New Jersey. In that episode, Jacqueline Laurita was talking to her eighteen year old daughter, about her living arrangements. Her daughter had just recently moved out of the home, because she felt her family's rules were too strict. Same story, we all have heard it before.

However, what caught my attention was that, is was quite clear that Jacqueline had never really conversed with her daughter about any sexual topics. The teen giggled and squirmed when Jacqueline asked if she was being safe and using protection. I, being the opposite of Jacqueline's parenting practices, and was appalled that she was just now getting involved, in her daughter's sex life. Seriously, that tells me that there is something terribly wrong with our sexual generation.

As parents, we should be truthful to our kids. We should not tell them to wait. That is simply unrealistic. Did you wait? Well if you did..., you were one out of a million. Our kids today should not be scared to talk to us about sex. We, as parents should not make sex appear to be something "nasty or dirty." I honestly feel that if more families were honest about sex, our kids would be safer, and more open to saving it for marriage. Furthermore, it is crazy in this day and age for parents not to be providing condoms, for their kids or some kind of birth control for their daughters. Especially that is if you don't want another tax credit adjustment on your next year taxes. Unwed mothers and teenage pregnancies are at an all time high, in our illogical society. The burden that fact causes on our individual state's tax system is at the breaking point. I, for one am tired of forking out my hard earn money on pregnant kids, whose mothers and fathers forgot to talk about sex to them. It's the very definition of insanity in my humble opinion!

What really gets my gall brewing is how the modern-day parent, just expects our young lovers to abstain from sex. Just as the Housewife of New Jersey, pretended that her kid was not, or just now having sex. She is a wild 18 year old girl. Newsflash Jackie, you have allowed her to carry on with a 23 year old boyfriend. Get a clue lady- the two of them are having sex! That 1950's ideology is ancient history. To me that thought process is as barbaric as Attila the Hun himself was. Who by the way, had plenty of great sex partners, and it was not the dirty, little, secret of the village either. Americans are way too uptight about sex. Why we lput guilt trips on people who love to have sex, or why we feel the need to have a new scientific approach to sex- is completely beyond me. As for myself, I love sex. Sex is something to be deemed beautiful, and not buried as a cryptic, deep, dark, and mysterious secret. This policy of turning a blind eyed to the reality of love, is more dangerous than any nuclear weapon release upon us. Emptiness leads to destruction. If we can learn anything from our past generations, it should be that sex is sex, and it is where the vitamins that our precious souls need, are kept good for good keeping.

The Study of Sex

Once upon a time, sex was just sex. A caveman's reason to breed. However, throughout many generations of humanity, sex has transpired from being basic need to something almost feared. Though sex has played an important role in the right of passage for men, it has always been a way for men and women to provide one another great pleasure. This form of family activity between a man and his wife, was not the best kept secret in town either. Its enjoyment is the reason why, so many large families were created during the early 1600's to the mid 1900's. It was carried on with the full backing of the Catholic church, practiced, and even encouraged without the worries of prudish neighbors. To be Catholic in 1600 or a present day Mormon, almost certainly meant you were going to be apart of a very large family.

However, America's close mindedness towards sexual activity has led to a new "Scarlet Letter" community lifestyle. A society where sex is everywhere, yet it is nothing more than a cryptic secret, consumed in disillusions and severely lacking in passion. This most basic human need, has now turned into America's worse secrets. Do you realize that it is a known fact that both the Confederate and Union soldiers, were allowed and even encourage to visit brothels and bawdy houses, throughout the span of the war? It has been documented that;

“In 1864 there were 450 brothels in Washington D. C., and over 75 brothels in nearby Alexandria, Virginia. A local newspaper estimated there were 5000 public women registered as working girls in the District of Columbia alone, and another 2500 in Alexandria and Georgetown. By the third year of the Civil War there were more than 7500 women working in the prostitution industry in the Washington D.C. area." -History of Sex, History Channel

This new era of hush-hush conversations between people concerning sex, has only brought about the advancement of a new Anthropology/Sociology, scientific field of study, known as Sexology. Which is of course, the study to helping people understand, why they need to have sex. Seriously people, since when do we need scientist teaching us ways to have sex, and giving us reasons why we should have sex? It seems a little crazy to me but am I the only one in thinking so? Sex is sex! It is one of the most beautiful, intimate, experiences two or more people can share. It relaxes the soul, and enhances the mind.

© 2010 Julie Grimes

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gmwilliams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

To IntimatEvolution: Great hub. It is about time that people advance beyond Medieval Times and embrace sex for the natural act it is. This is the 21st century and it is surprising how people are still squeamish about sex or view sex as only for marriage and procreation. Let us get real. The main reason for sex now is for pleasure with procreation being secondary.

I like the way you talk to your child about sex. Sex should not be classified as dirty but a wholesome part of life. Teenagers whose parents relay the message that sex is dirty grow up confused and act furtively towards sex.

I also believe that this country due to the interfere of religious busy bodies frown upon sexual expression and the need for contraceptive education. The United States have one of the highest rates of unplanned teenage pregnancies in the world. People must be taught that sex and contraception are okay and that young people should be encouraged to use contraception.


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IntimatEvolution 6 years ago from Columbia, MO USA Author

Religion is a whole another universe unto itself. Thanks for commenting. I'm glad you stopped by.


ELLIOTTdaMAN 6 years ago

This hub makes perfect sense to me. For instance, when I was stationed overseas I noticed that sex was publicly and openly displayed...and in some cases so was prostitution, but the teenage pregnancy rate was so much lower whereas here in the "good ole US of A", teenage pregnancy is common, and in some cases, expected. Everyone knows that when something is labled as tabboo, then it will spark human intrerest and the more naive/younger/innocent/inexperienced the person is, the more like they are to go and "find out for themselves".

Me and my close group of friends growing up were all exposed to sex openly by our parents and we turned out fine. I think the average age range for one of us losing our virginity was 17-20. There was one who was 15 but he was the baby brother in the group trying to play "catch up". He did it all on his on accord (no peer pressure)

To this day, only one of us has an out-of-wedlock child (not this guy) and all of us are STD free. And there are 9 of us.

Now I know this was no scientifically proven study, but the proof is in the pudding. I didn't choose to start having sex because of peer pressure. I, myself chose to do it once at the end of my Senior year because I just didn't know if it would be wise to graduate a virgin-like a certain stigma I just didn't want to live with.

This is supposed to be the land of the free yet we are not free to openly express ourselves sexually. We can bash all the political figures (good AND bad) all we want though, but don't show, or mention, private parts on TV. Oh and I can't believe religion is such a touchy subject either. Bless this back-asswards country....


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IntimatEvolution 6 years ago from Columbia, MO USA Author

Bob- thank you for this comment. Without such dialog between opposing sides, their will never be a right answer. I think it is wonder that you openly expressed this opinion. And you know- it is something for me to mull over. Seeing how I am raising a teenager, I'll take all the advice I can get. Love you too big fella! XO


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no body 6 years ago from Rochester, New York

I respectfully disagree with an aspect of your article. I think that openness with your children is essential. I think that answering all questions and letting your children know how very intoxicating and important sex is, is essential. But I disagree in what seems to be you saying that if we let children see and don't protect them, it may be better. It sounds like a desensitizing exercise to me. I want my son to know how very special a woman will be to him. I want him to care for her body and to want to know everything there is to know about it for both their sakes. I want him to treat her like fine wine or a priceless musical instrument and learn to play a symphony of pleasure in her. In order for him to know that I must be open and honest. The problem I have is in movies and some art and other media, they do not respect women or give an idea that there should be marriage or commitment of any kind. It just is sex without any strings. We both know that sex has strings and if we deny it we lie. Using someone for just release one must degrade the person to a piece of meat or a sex toy with no feelings. I know that one can reassure each other of just such a circumstance but sex is much to valuable to be used in such a cheapening fashion. You know I love you Julie.

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