The Socialization Factor

The Socialization Factor

"Homeschooled students are typically loners with zero socialization skills, and no ability to adjust to the outside environment. If they have any friends at all it is typically a sibling, and they are even worse off if they are only children because this means that they will not be able to adjust and function as an adult."

The Critics

So the critics say. However aside from the learning environment which can vary greatly state to state and family to family there is little to no difference when it comes to the amount of socialization between home and public school students, especially after graduation. In fact if you were to interview a successful individual and the discussion schooling prior to college didn’t come up you would never be able to tell if they were home schooled or if they went to public school.


Examples

The best example of this is three siblings all schooled by the same parent, all from kindergarten until they graduated. The first, a twenty nine year old who is self employed as a sales person. The second a concrete finisher who is completing a degree from ITT Tech in Computer Aided Drafting and Design, with aspirations of being an Architect; and lastly is the youngest, the first to go to college, and now owns a successful day care facility.

All traveled different roads, with different end goals, and yet all three of them were home schooled students. So why home school? The biggest reason is the ability to focus studies on what the student wants to learn about. Another purpose involves shying away from some more questionable practices of larger schools. Not to mention cutting down on the chance of violence, under age sex, and other aspects of peer pressure. There is another reason why many people choose to home school, and that is the closer relationship between child and parent. Depending on the personality of the child this can be the difference between falling into a peer pressure trap and knowing that there is safety within the family.

Still the argument exists that home school students are loners with no socialization ability.

What about Socialization?

What about Socialization? In public school, especially in the class room students are told to be quiet. In public school there is no talking allowed, unless it is in response to an instructor. The purpose of school is to learn a lesson, provided by the instructor. Yes there is interaction when the instructor asks questions, but simply socializing between students is frowned up as a disruption in the learning process. So how is it then that students are better socialized in a public school setting where they are told not to socialize, than in a home school setting?

The options are the same whether you are a home school or public school student for after school activities. It is in these situations primarily where socialization takes place. Between various sports teams both set up exclusively for home school students as well as ones that work with private school and public school students, co-ops, youth groups, home school fellowship groups, FFA, and Four H, the opportunities for extra-curricular activities for home school students has increased; making it easier for the parents to prepare their students for life outside of home school.


What about Socialization?

What about Socialization? In public school, especially in the class room students are told to be quiet, that there is no talking allowed, that the purpose of school is to learn a lesson, provided by an instructor, yes there is interaction when the instructor asks questions, but simply socializing between students is frowned up as a disruption in the learning process. So how is it then that students are better socialized in a public school setting where they are told not to socialize than in a home school setting?

The options are the same whether it be home school or public school for after school activities which is primarily where socialization takes place. Between various sports teams both set up exclusively for home school students as well as ones that work with private school and public school students, co-ops, youth groups, home school fellowship groups, FFA, and Four H, the opportunities for extra-curricular activities for home school students has increased; making it easier for the parents to prepare their students for life outside of home school.


The Facts

There will always be critics who make claims that home school students will not achieve as much as their public school counter parts. But like anything in life critics can make all the claims they want, the facts will speak for themselves. Facts suggests that home school students score higher on standardized test than their public school counter parts, and desire to achieve more from life than their public school counter parts. Another fact that home educators can use is that positive socialization is one of the key aspects of in homeschooling. Home school students learn to interact with a much wider range of individuals than public school students because they are not limited to interacting simply with their peers. When presented with these facts it becomes harder to argue against homeschooling. Socialization can only be an argument against homeschool if all of the facts are not known.

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Ken R. Abell 6 years ago from ON THE ROAD

Thank you for this well thought through presentation. I appreciate your perspective. I gave it a thumbs up.


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Old Poolman 6 years ago from Rural Arizona

Thank you rachellrobinson - great information. I can assure you two things. If I had school age children, they would be home-schooled. And when they finished, they would all know how to read and write, know geography, and have above average math skills. And there would be things they would not know that children today are not ready to learn, but are taught by the schools or their class-mates.


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richtwf 6 years ago

Thanks for sharing this very useful hub and your thoughts with us.

When my wife and I have children this is something which we will discuss more about as I'm very concerned about the standard of education these days and the peer pressures that children face when in school.

Cheers!


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rachellrobinson 6 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Ken: Thank you for your comment.

Old poolman: Your comments always make me smile.

richtwf: Thank you for your comment, peer pressures are a very scary thing, I was home schooled, I was faced with some serious peer pressure just among individuals I met outside of home schooling, and I can tell you that if I didn't have that bond with my parents because of being home schooled I very easily believe I could have fallen into the peer pressure trap. Wanting someone to like you no matter what, with home schooling I had a constant reminder that my parent's loved me no matter what, now that is not to say that you can't achieve those same bonds if your children are sent to public school it just might be more difficult.


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DavePrice 6 years ago from Sugar Grove, Ill

Thanks for another great hub - I have 1 homeschooled son in college, admitted at the beginning of his senior year of high school, and 2 daughters currently homeschooled high school students. I thank you for being a champion of a system I personally know is highly effective and beneficial. I always reply to those who comment on the socialization of my children, that my children have no problems in social situations; they just have to use smaller words and shorter sentences.


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rachellrobinson 6 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Dave Thanks for the comment.


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JimmieWriter 5 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

People who use the argument of socialization as a con to homeschooling really mean "going to school with 30 other kids of the same age." Socialization is so much broader than that. There are abundant opportunities to socialize outside of public or even private schools.


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rachellrobinson 5 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Jimmie thanks for the comment.


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Monisajda 5 years ago from my heart

Well written hub. I agree with all you put out there. Especially with the socialization issue. My daughters are brilliant, friendly and fast to make new connections with people of different ages, both peers and adults. It only depends on the parent to provide them with social outlets. I believe there may be some homeschooling families that don't interact too much and as a result their children don't get enough of it but this is rather an exception to the rule. Most of homeschooled kids I know are very adaptable, social and even better, protective of their younger siblings.


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rachellrobinson 5 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Monisajda: Thanks for the comment.

Rachel


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Fastest Car Rider 5 years ago from California

good job


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rachellrobinson 5 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Fastest Car Rider: Thank you for the comment.

Rachel


Student 4 years ago

hey thx i needed this to write my essay on home school vs public school n socialization is 1 of my thesis. so thx a lot appreciate it


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travelschooling 4 years ago from Australia

Hi Rachell, we homeschool, it rocks! I have no worries about the s word whatsoever. I have no idea why people keep harping on about it!


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rachellrobinson 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

travelschooling,

Thanks for the comment.

Rachel


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Becky Katz 4 years ago from Hereford, AZ

My daughter socializes at church and family functions. We have a large family. I have homeschooled all of my children and they are better educated. My son decided he wanted to take the GED so he could join the military. He passed in the top 10% of the country that year. That put him at the top for choosing his MOS. My daughter is the smartest 15 year old I know.


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rachellrobinson 4 years ago from Southwest Missouri Author

Becky,

Thank you for your comment and God Bless.

Rachel

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