The Zero Step in the Manifestation Process

I manage a club both on Facebook and at eCademy, called Manifesting Magical Moments

This is my latest post in the clubs and I thought I would share it with everyone.

The basic assumption that I have been making ever since I started the club is that everyone's self esteem is high enough that you all feel worthy of manifesting your desires. I have come to realize that even with the brightest and most successful people I have met, there is a tinge of "un-self worthiness". This is not so obvious. We try to bury this as the "secret" side of us. Even I realized this in myself, looking back at my life. This inner feeling of "unworthiness" can be buried so deep, it manifests as guilt and shame. Guilt for many reasons, shame for many reasons. Some for things we did, some for things we did not do. We have to let go of all of this junk from our consciousness, in order to manifest our desires.

I know only a few people who have not exhibited these feelings. They are all happy with everything in their lives. One has been married forever and the other just found her true love, a prince through and through.

So how do we go about re-asserting our inner self worth? It is not easy to undo years of conditioning so we do the least invasive of all techniques. Of course, I will always recommend that you meditate but if your heart is not in it, then don't do it.

One of the absolute musts in my coaching sessions is the mirror technique. I have my clients look into their eyes in the mirror and tell themselves "I love you, [their name]. In the beginning a dozen times a day and as the days progress, for longer periods and for a greater number of times, until they actually FEEL that they accept everything about themselves. I mean everything. The good, the not so good, the serious and the funny. If they told me they did not do the exercise for the day we were supposed to have a session, I cancelled the session. It is as simple as that. It would have been a waste of their time and mine.

I know what it is to be judgmental. I was my own harshest critic

I admit to having been harsher on myself than on anyone else. My coaching instructor and my friends in the coaching classes pointed this out to me. I was not aware of it, until they actually repeated my words to me and I realized, oh, it is true! As long as we do not feel deserving of what it is that we want, it cannot materialize.

Here is a short story to illustrate my point.

Once a lady met a prince. She did not know he was a prince since he was dressed in rags when they met. They married. She found out he was a prince when he took her to his castle after they were married! The lady could not believe she is now a princess. While she believed in fairy tales, she did not think it could happen to her! Why her? She was so ordinary was what she thought.

Within a few years, the prince fell in love with another and the lady had to leave the prince's castle and had to deal with the harsh realities of life after leaving the castle. After many years the lady realized that it was all her thinking, and that deep within she did not believe she deserved to marry a prince, for after all, she was just an ordinary person.

She began to study herself and began to believe that she was special after all! She began to believe in herself and to feel worthy of everything that will make her happy. And then a miracle. The princess woke up! It was just a dream. The prince was by her side after all and she was still the princess she was meant to be.

I could have changed the story to reflect a man who finds oil in his backyard, or someone who invents something that can be used by anyone, or someone who just has a business that seems to soar. How long will you stay there?

Are you still in the dream or have you just been awakened? You are absolutely worth everything that you desire, and more. After all, YOU are the source of it all.

Go buy a pocket mirror and do the exercise of looking into your eyes and saying "I love you [say your name]. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled." How long and how often? Until you actually FEEL it. Minimum of 40 days for it to be ingrained within you.

A caveat: the feeling of unworthiness comes back when you are not aware of it, so carry the mirror with you at all times.

I end with a card given to me by a friend when I was twelve years old "May your life be filled with much happiness and only enough sorrow for you to know the difference."


© 2009 by Melinda M. Sorensson

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AlexK2009 7 years ago from Edinburgh, Scotland

The crux of this great hub is that change takes work and problems built over years cannot be removed in an instant.

I know what you mean about being over hard on yourself.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

We all have to embrace ourselves fully. Only when we love and accept ourselves fully can we love and accept others unconditionally.

In essence, we have to be our own best friend first, because only after we are able to take care of ourselves and our own needs can we be truly happy and then we can share that happiness with others.

Only in the space of happiness can the seed of deliberate manifestation be sown, if we want to manifest that which we desire.


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James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

This is a beautiful and inspiring message. I enjoyed it, thanks! I love myself! I love myself!


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Thank you, James.I appreciate.

Tonight I received an email from a dear friend and in it she outlined how easy it is for us to forget. Even I do that. Every word in her email "pricked" a part of me that has forgotten or maybe chose to forget for one reason or another, logical or otherwise. It was an email from a space of unconditional love, which is what we all deserve, first from ourselves. When we do, then the people that we associate with mirror it. The ones who choose not to be a part of our lives can not.

The importance of reminding yourself is exactly that. The people in your lives, the ones that are good for you, come and remind you, how special and worthy you are.

Does not the bible say "For even the hairs on your head are counted"

I think I remembered that correctly.


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James A Watkins 7 years ago from Chicago

You are correct. It also says "Love your neighbor as yourself" clearly meaning, as you say, we are to love ourselves.


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metaphysician 7 years ago

I think the person that we miss most of the time are ourselves and the mirror reminds us that. But, the universal mirror is the people that around us because they reflect who we really are. If you are good, then they will be good but if you are bad, they will show the same.

I'm sorry, thank you, I love you.


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DynamicS 7 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Wow! Melinda. You are speaking to me. Until a year ago, I had deep feeling of unworthiness. I felt it for years but did not acknowledge, then as soon as I accepted that feeling and started re-affirming myself that I'm worthy, I started to feel a sense of deep happiness and joy. This is not to say that I do not have days when I feel sad, but I call pull myself out of the funk quicker.

But I thought that you were going to address manifestation. If self worthiness is zero step, what is step one?

I sit at your feet...


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Dear Metaphysician,

So true and will always be so. Your innate wisdom amazes me.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Dear DynamicS,

You are too kind. What you see in me and in others is also in you, you simply have to acknowledge it.

Step one in the manifestation process, appreciation, gratitude for everything. Only our logical minds create the distinction between what is good and what is bad in what happens. As long as we are able to appreciate the lesson taught us by a "bad" experience, we are there. We replace regret with gratitude for the lesson it has taught us.

There is only one place where you can plant the seed of manifestation. Happiness. I tell everyone that if you can place yourself in a place of unconditional love, then you can manifest anything. In the space of unconditional love, you are happy, fulfilled, grateful, magnificent. It is the space where you find your own greatness and power and because it is in the space of love, you can not harm yourself or others by your manifestation, therefore, what your spirit will want to manifest is only what is good and best for you.

You will find that material things are a representation of something that your spirit wants you to discover.

I will email you the links for some articles.


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

I see the truth in what you had said here.It seems contradictory though to some well known western concepts concerning self love such as someone admiring one's self in a mirror.Unfortunately it's seen in a negative light because the person doing it doesn't seem to need convicing that they love themselves.Quite the opposite they look in the mirror so they can admire themselves in a selfish sort of way it seems.Is that love or something different altogether? Then there  are those who hate themselves for feeling pleasure because it makes them feel guilty for some reason.I can understand them feeling  that way if,they did something to hurt or control someone to get that pleasure in a selfish way otherwise I dont really understand why they would feel that way. 


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

There is no separation between vanity and insecurity. Someone who really loves himself is secure. He is comfortable with the way he looks as he is so he does not have to go to the mirror to admire himself.

Pleasure is the temporary fulfillment of a desire. With one desire comes another and we are caught in the never ending cycle of this. It is karma. In tantric sex, the pleasure is witheld because when correctly focused it can lead to the opening of the third eye.


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

If I understand you correctly vanity and insecurity are incompatable with love and those who look into a mirror and say to themselves "I love you" don't or shouldn't do it from a feeling of insucurety or vanity ,but with a feeling of sercurety or belief or faith in the fact that they are a loving person ,or a person worth loving without any reservations and with conviction. Of course they would have to be the person they think is a loving person. I 'm interested in knowing more about the third eye.I understand it has to do with the pineal gland in the forhead and assension

If I'm not mistaken jesus "christ" said that we would be able to manifest the things he was doing and more one day,could be this is the assension.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

The best way to learn about the chakra system for now will be to go to Youtube. Then when you are really interested you can go to a yoga teacher and he or she will explain everything to you.


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

I have been to some webpages that go into it ,I just have gotten around to reading it as yet.But thank you for the advice .It's appreciated. As always.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

I am sorry I missed the other part of your earlier post about Jesus Christ. Yes, He did say that. But only with perfected faith. The irony is that with faith it is perfected when we have gone through a lot of work which eliminates ego centered wants. Therefore when we have perfected the faith, it would be superfluous for us to want to manifest anything that is ego based.

As the prayer says "Give us this day our daily bread" it is true.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Or very simply, one who has the power to manifest anything, instantaneously, never does it.


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

Because they no longer need to right! What ever needs they had such as food are not needed anyomore.Translocation of the physical body is possible.Even time travel is possible correct?


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Time and space is where you are. Both are illusions but a persistent illusion which we need and acknowledge as long as we are in a physical body.


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

That's for sure!

Sometimes i get a numbing sensation and it reminds me how intricately our brain,mind connection is.and how complicated our physical bodies are constructed.I understand

the physical body is more than what we see with our physical eyes.Someone I used to work with claimed to see deceased spirits,and she said they would communicate telepathicaly with her.One day she even mentioned that she saw me walking behind my self.I told her that I felt faint at the exact place and time she saw that.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Thank you for asking that question. It gave me the answer to one of mine. Thank you


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

your welcome!


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Yorusalem 7 years ago from Seattle, WA

I believe self security comes from love. When you see yourself as part of everything, the sun, the moon, the starts, the flowers, the higher divinity, you cannot help yourself but to love. I used to do the mirror exercise all the time because I am my best councilor. You no longer look into people to elevate you because you have always been elevated. I believe the true nature of love is love itself.


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

This is true. It is love that experiences itself through us. Great that you are familiar with the mirror technique and have used it in the past.


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

It has always been said ; "the eyes are the pathway to the soul."


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my-success-guru 7 years ago from Upstate NY

Hi msorensson!

Great insightful hub on Manifestation!

Yes! It all starts with believing!

Bless You,

Jim


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Shirley Anderson 7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

You have touched on what I believe to be the hardest part for most people. We can love others but boy, we have trouble showing ourselves the same. I can't speak for others but I just usually try to skip that part. Of course, it doesn't work very well if you're trying to manifest something special for yourself. I have made a lot of progress over the years and am still working on it. It seems sometimes though, that by the time I get to where I want to be, I'll be 100. :) Yes, I know that's not the best way to think. Luckily, it doesn't happen often.

Thank-you for the mirror exercise, I'm sure that it will help speed my progress.

Love & Light

Shirley


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Thank you my-success-guru.


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someonewhoknows 7 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

Who were you thinking of just now?


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

Hello, Shirley,

Thank you kindly. I speak from the perspective of a single parent who has to deal with everything. Very early on, I realized that in order to take care of my child, I need to take care of myself first. I can not afford to get sick, miss work, etc. I do not have the luxury of asking anyone else to take care of my duties therefore I had to prioritize

I am first and foremost a mother and in order to fulfill that role, I have to be good to myself, feel worthy.

It is paradoxical in a way, but it is truth.

Much love,

Melinda


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msorensson 7 years ago Author

First my son, then the person I am in love with.


Patrick Collins 6 years ago

Thats great advice ... i'm going to do that.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

The fact that you were born human is a gift. Not even the gods have the same power and potential as yourself.

You simply have to honor that part of you. Your humanity [smiles]

Only as a human being can you get realized, Patrick.

Thank you Patrick.


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vrajavala 6 years ago from Port St. Lucie

One word: karma. If it's meant to be, then you deserve it.


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msorensson 6 years ago Author

Thank you for dropping by, vrajavala.

It is karma that we transcend when we meditate.

The irony is that when one is in deep meditation, there is no desire.


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Angelo52 4 years ago from Central Florida

Beautifully written and inspirational. I'm glad I read it. Voted up.


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msorensson 4 years ago Author

Thank you, Angelo. I appreciate it.

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