Social Etiquette Situations In Bad Manners, Habits And Attitudes

Social Manners or Etiquette

During our lifetime we encounter certain behavior in our friends, family members, acquaintances and strangers that we abhor or find very annoying. These are some very common behaviors that we sometimes ignore. These behaviors define our social etiquette or social manners.

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Do you find this behavior annoying?

  • Yes
  • No
  • It Depends on the person or the situation
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1 - Someone talking to you while you use the toilet.

Some persons like to lock themselves away when doing number one or two. They may find it difficult to perform the bathroom duties while interacting with someone else. If it is a family member or spouse it might not be so bad but when a co-worker or someone you barely know does it, the situation can become quite uncomfortable. Is it good social etiquette to talk to someone through the bathroom door when they are performing this act?

Nine out of ten persons including males and females find this behavior uncomfortable.

Are you okay with someone talking to you while you take a shower?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Depends on person (Family member or spouse)
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2 - Someone talking to you while you take a shower.

This one is also tricky. All the females I asked said if their spouse or children do it, they have no problem, but a co-worker (if you have to shower after work) does it, or a gym member (assuming you do it at the gym) does it, then it's quite uncomfortable. This acts defines social bad manners.

Five males said not uncomfortable so long as it is a female. Two females said uncomfortable with unknown males and three females declared uncomfortable with either male or female acquaintances or strangers. All ten persons are okay with family members or spouse.



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Are you affected by this behavior?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Only if the person is too close for comfort
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3 - Incessant coughing (while you eat, at the dinner table, at a restaurant or on the bus or train)

This might define table manners or dining etiquette. But social etiquette might come into play here if you are at a restaurant. This is also a varying situation and also very difficult to avoid. People are understanding of other persons and tolerate them thus. While doing my survey I found that people were considering how the person with the cold felt rather than himself. So I ask how do you feel about it?

Here is the situation. You are at a restaurant enjoying your meal and the person at the next table has a hacking incessant cough. Does it bother you?

If you are on the bus sitting beside someone with this hacking cough, do you feel uncomfortable enough to move away?

Five of the ten persons who participated in the survey felt uncomfortable with this behavior.

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Are you okay with someone talking directly in your face?

  • Yes
  • No
  • It Depends on the situation
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4 - Someone talking directly in your face ( you can smell their breath or feel their spittle on you)

Definitely bad social manners or bad social etiquette. This is one of the most common behavior. Children tend to do it a lot, but not as annoying as when two people are arguing and one feels that they need to really confront the other.

All ten persons interviewed hated this behavior.


Do you get sick to the stomach seeing phlegm on the pavement?

  • Yes
  • No
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5 - Seeing someone spit on the pavement or seeing phlegm after someone left it there

I really don't know where to place this one, is it a sanitary issue or bad social behavior? Probably the most common of them all. General saliva might not be so bad but coughing up a lump of cold and letting it go on the pavement might be another matter.

All ten persons I interviewed felt mortified at seeing this on the pavement.



Are you uncomfortable with someone drinking from your glass or picking food off your plate?

  • Uncomfortable with both
  • Not uncomfortable with both
  • Uncomfortable with drinking from my glass
  • uncomfortable with picking food off my plate
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6 - Someone picking food from your plate or drinking from the glass you are drinking from

This is definitely bad manners and bad dining etiquette. Not a very common behavior but friends tend to want to do it at times especially when at a bar or something. They might be drunk or thinking that you won't mind. One of the things associated with this is bar nuts, where everyone eat from the same bowl. Buffets are also famous for people picking out food with their hands, but this is not the same, as your plate belongs to you and maybe you feel violated when someone who is not your spouse or a family member pick food from your plate or have some of your drink.

Eight out of ten said no to the plate but all ten said no to the drinking part.

Do you mind someone drinking directly from the milk or juice carton/bottle?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Don't mind if it is a family member
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7 - Drinking directly from the juice or milk carton/bottle in the fridge

This is very common in teens. These boys think that all the milk and juice from the fridge only belong to them or they don't want their siblings getting any. I define this as a sanitary issue.

Most families don't mind this because they are close and maybe they all do it at times.

As far as my survey went all ten persons interviewed disliked this behavior.


Are you okay being interupted while making your point?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Okay if it with friends or a heated discussion
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8 - Interrupting you while you try to make a point (talking)

Bad etiquette or lack of it thereof, bad social manners. We all have little habits and we all argue, have discussions and talk. There are times when we also need to listen when others are trying to speak or make their case. Some of us often want our voice to be heard first. Common courtesy is that you allow the other person to finish before speaking.

Six out of ten said they found it annoying. Four admitted they don't mind as they themselves do it at times.

Are you annoyed being called away during a meal?

  • Yes
  • No
  • Depends on the situation
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9 - Interupt you unnecessarily during a meal

You are having lunch and your neighbor calls you to ask you if you know the price of sugar. Okay so the question might be necessary at the time but there are instances that actions are quite unnecessary this is one of them.

Eight out of ten persons who did the survey do mind if they are interrupted for any reason during a meal.

How do you feel about people reading your personal stuff?

  • I don't mind
  • No one should be reading my personal stuff
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10 - Reading someones diary, notebook, letter, email or any other personal items.

Reading someones mail is a federal offense. Going through a diary is a personal offense. Please do not read letters, notes, memos or even receipts that do not belong to you. Marriages often have problems when wives go through their husbands stuff including searching through their cell phone messages.

If you want to build a rift between you and your child then go ahead a read her diary. On the other hand reading her diary may save her from some pain and heartache even her life. Emails are varied as you do not want your child being the victim of some online pedophile so it may be okay to read their emails. Doing so with and an adult is a different matter as this is downright nosy.

All ten persons who participate in this survey abhorred the idea of someone reading their personal stuff.

Do you mind being asked who were talking to on the phone?

  • Yes I do mind
  • No it's okay with me
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11 - Asking you who was on the phone

Another common behavior that we adopt is asking who you have been talking to on the phone. When your husband or wife ask the question it might be okay, but we all need some space at times. We all need to feel that we are free independent individuals who want to do our own thing.

It is very annoying to have to answer to people all the time about personal issues like who were talking to on the phone. This is definitely your business not theirs.

I am not sure if this a culture issue but all of the ten persons I spoke to about this do not like being ask who they were talking to on the phone. They even disliked their spouse questioning them about it.


Do you mind someone enter your home without you being there?

  • Yes I mind
  • No I don't mind
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12 - Entering your house without permission

If you were out and left the door unlocked but closed, would you mind if your neighbor came in to get some sugar or sit on the sofa watching tv until you came home? What if a co-worker came to visit and you were not home, should they come in and have a seat or go away? If the police came because they are investigating some crime or other, could they come in to look around?

This might be uncommon but I actually know people who do this, both police and civilians.

100% of persons surveyed answered no way to this.

Do you mind univited or unannounced visits?

  • Yes I do mind
  • No I don't mind at all
  • Depends on who visits
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13 - Stopping by uninvited

Imagine you and your partner getting ready to have a nice romantic dinner for two. It's eight o'clock at night and you have not had this time together in a long time. You both have no plans and did not invite anyone over. The door bel rings and your friend from work said they were just in the neighborhood and thought they would give you a surprise.

A neighbor a few blocks down drops in every time you have a family gathering or just in time for dinner every time.

Nine persons out of ten said they absolutely minded people dropping by uninvited or unannounced. One person said it depends on the situation.

What do you say?

  • Yes it's okay to do them in the kitchen
  • No it's not okay
  • Maybe, if there is nowhere else
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14 - Washing your hair or clothes in the kitchen sink

This one is a matter of personal preferences. It's a sink with water just like any other sink, some may say. Other may say we need boundaries for food and personal hygiene. What do you say?

Out of ten 5 persons say no way to hair and clothing in the kitchen. Two persons were not sure and Three persons said maybe they don't if there is no where else to do them, so long as they wash the sink out afterwards.

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Are you annoyed seeing someone pick at their teeth or nose?

  • Yes, they should do it discretely
  • No I don't mind
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15 - Picking your nose or teeth in public

You are in the supermarket and next to you stands a man or woman with their finger in their nose just digging away.

You are at a restaurant and sitting across from you someone decides to use their fingernails to pick food from their teeth.

All ten persons who did this survey agreed that these actions are grotesque.

Are you annoyed when someone wakes you up unnecessarily

  • Yes I am annoyed
  • No I don't mind
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16 - Awakening someone unnecessarily

You are taking a well needed nap and your adult son wakes you up to tell you that he just bought a pair of shoes. You neighbor wakes you up just to chit chat about nothing in particular or the phone rings and it's a prank caller.

All ten persons interviewed hate being woken up unnecessarily.

Do you find this behavior disgusting?

  • Yes I do
  • No I don't mind at all
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17 - Blowing their nose in their clothing

This might not be common in some places but I see this often. Someone using the tail of their t-shirt to let it rip in can be so disgusting. A child doing it might not seem so bad but when and adult does it, the effect is quite different.

Ten out of ten person find this behavior really disgusting.

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SubRon7 profile image

SubRon7 5 years ago from eastern North Dakota

Interesting, Cardisa. You don't have to comment. I'll just keep checking back. Thanks.


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ahorseback 5 years ago

This is cute , but I think your getting a little annoyed with someone in particular ?...:-] My wife talks to me through the bath door all the time!!! You and I think alike.....I love the first picture.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Thanks for visiting SubRon7.

Hi Ahorseback, I hope you don't get annoyed as easily as I do!


Lesleysherwood 5 years ago

What a brilliant survey. I found that I voted the same as most people do. Just shows that we're all alike us human's. Who is this irritating person talking to us on the loo whilst spitting in our faces and reading our diaries. Ha ha.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

I found the same results with everyone I spoke to, just a few exceptions of course. We do dislike the same things as humans. Sometime we don't realize how annoying things are to us because we tolerate them all the time.

Thanks for taking the time to do the survey!


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jpcmc 5 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

I hate #12. That's trespassing and i hate when people invade my private space.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Me too Jpcmc, that's why I decided to do the survey. I fell very annoyed when I come home to find out that my brothers have taken some form my bedroom or a neighbor sitting on my porch.


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WillSteinmetz 5 years ago

Very interesting guys.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Very interesting WillSteinmetz, thanks for stopping by.


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epigramman 5 years ago

.....hey where did my pretty little Jamaican girl go says your concerned Canadian man -lol - well I love this hub so much (and laughed out loud at certain parts) that I posted it to my Facebook page with a direct link back here - I am currently listening to a classic Sinead O'Connor album - classic, because she recorded it in Kingston with Sly and Robbie and it's an all reggae lp - imagine a baldheaded Irish catholic woman doing something like this - you gotta love it. One of my favorite hubs by you - or by anyone else for that matter.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Thanks Epi, glad I made you laugh and thanks for the link, really need it.


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petertheknight 5 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Memories...memories...not the memories I want to remember! lol I voted in all your polls! Go me!


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Thank you Peter, you are a wonderful Knight, Sir!


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stephaniedas 5 years ago from Miami, US

I'm glad you mentioned spitting in the street, or just spitting in general. I think this is extremely rude, bu its seldom talked about. This is one of the few things that really make me feel like I'm going to get sick to my stomach! This hub is funny too. Voted up and funny.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Thanks again Steph, and you are right. Nobody says anything about that particular action yet it's one of the most sickening things ever.


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Pollyannalana 5 years ago from US

Those are all bad! I will have my privacy regardless, but most know that so it is not a problem. Some of those things might get someone a punch, lol. Great fun hub!


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Thanks Polly. All these are actually things that annoy me...lol


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ahorseback 5 years ago

I forgot I read this Cardisa , Man ! do I ever feel like that poor boy on the potty! Someones always bugging me ! But we just keep smiling !......:-}


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Ahorseback, I hate being bothered when I'm in the bathroom or toilet...as a matter of fact I hate being bothered when I'm doing anything at all...lol


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AUPADHYAY 5 years ago from INDIA, UTTAR PRADESH STATE, KANPUR CITY

Very well said Cardisa, the God has created the human being to look and behave to the best of the social rules because the God has enabled the human being to utilize his mental power. This has not been enabled to any of the creature living on the earth. So why we should not behave like a human ? After all, appreciated hub and vote it up with firm determination.


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NiaG 5 years ago from Louisville, KY

OMG! These questions are from a Taurus! :0) I can relate on majority of these peeves. I can not stand when someone asks "who was that" when you get off the phone. It's nunya business! And waking me up when I need my sleep is a NO-NO! I will stab somebody if it's interrupted for a split second. Love this!


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

AUPADHYAY, I think humans are jealous of animals because of the freedom to do whatever they want. We don't realize the advantage we possess of being greater beings.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

NiaG, I am Taurus! Good insight. All the above annoys the hell out of me!


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Just Ask Susan 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

This was really interesting to read. It used to drive me absolutely crazy when my husband would pick food off my plate. I have grown accustomed to it now but if anyone else does it Watch Out!.


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

I hate when my Fiancé does it. He also has a habit of playing with me (like tickling me and stuff) when I eat and I hate it.


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stylezink 5 years ago from Atlanta, GA.

HILARIOUS! I decided to come read because I saw a comment from NiaG in my feeds saying these were questions from a Taurus and HAD to read it. She's absolutley correct! LOL! I can agree with all of these things.

I hate when someone tries to talk to me in the bathroom! It's worse when they try to yell through the door. My teens like to do that, it drives me bonkers! And the coughing, OMG! There's a lady at work who coughs the entire time she is there. Take a damned cough drop already! My biggest peeve is someone waking me up. Everyone in my family knows not to wake me. I've been told I've flipped out on them and not remembered it. I'm so bad that my other half will wake our flat faced Lhasa when he starts snoring because they were 'scared' I would wake up, lol! Pretty bad! It must be a Taurus thing!

Thanks for sharing this! Enjoyed the chuckle this morning!


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Stylezink, we Tauruses are picky people...lol. My fiancé knows not to wake me at all when I sleep! The coughing really freaks me out too..lol


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Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

Hi, Cardisa, I couldn't stop laughing reading this, along with a few Uggs! and Yucks! lol not sure which one is the worse though, the one where someone talks right in your face I usually step back and say, 'this is my space, nobody steps in my space'! then I 'draw' a circle with my finger to prove it. if they don't move, I walk away throwing over my shoulder the words, 'when you get some manners, please let me know'! lol cheers nell


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

I'll have to practice those moves Nell, can imagine your attitude...lol


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Alecia Murphy 5 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

Some of this stuff is ok like spitting in public, because I have a lot of phlegm and sometimes you can't hold it. Talking in the bathroom and stuff is too personal unless you're related to or romantically involved with the person and even then there may be boundaries. It all depends on how you look at it, but when it comes to spreading germs, better to use proper protocol than trying to go rogue. Great hub Cardisa!


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Thanks for reading Alecia, I guess it's all about personal choices.


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whoisbid 5 years ago

Well done on thinking up so many things on your own


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Cardisa 5 years ago from Jamaica Author

Thanks Whoisbid, these are some of the things that kinda drive me crazy.

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