6 Things Which You Should Stop Doing To Yourself

To bring about some healthy and good changes in our lives we must stop doing certain things that  affect us and our thinking in a negative way.
To bring about some healthy and good changes in our lives we must stop doing certain things that affect us and our thinking in a negative way. | Source

There comes a point in life when you have to focus on your own reformation process. For that matter you really have to add some good things to your life and get rid of some of the undesirable habits. This article will exactly explain the most vital and common things which if half of the people think of stop doing, their lives will become much easier and appreciable not only for themselves but for others also.

For much needed good changes all of us should try to STOP doing the following,

1.RUNNING AWAY FROM YOUR PROBLEMS:

We are not flawless beings with most perfect lives. Each and every one of us has to deal with matters and problems that we come across throughout our course of existence. However there is the presence of people who avoid facing their problems. They do not pay much heed to difficult issues that come their way and try to run away from them without facing the realities. This attitude makes it a major issue and a better change cannot be expected in our lives without us learning to deal with the problems at hand. Running away from problems is not a solution rather they must be faced bravely. Instead of keep on getting upset, anxious, or depressed over the problems we must rise up and ace them courageously. By looking into troubles that we face and trying to bring about a good solution that can help us to resolve issues is what that matters the most.

Therefore we should,

STOP RUNNING AWAY FROM THE DIFFICULT SITUATIONS RATHER FACE THEM WELL COURAGEOUSLY.

2.THINKING ABOUT PAST:

I have seen and observed people who constantly live in the memories of the past. Their minds and their thinking’s are very much focused on what went before. This I perceive, is an unhealthy thing to do and is a source of hurting your own self. To start new chapters in life, we have to move on and that is only possible if we stop revising what happened in times gone by. I have always kept on stressing in my earlier articles, past is past and we must concentrate on the things we have to face in future. Living on the bad memories of past is never helpful for us at all. In your heart the more anger or regrets you hold towards what happened before, the less capable you will be for loving the present.

Therefore it is good to

STOP THINKING ABOUT YOUR PAST AND LOOK AHEAD WITH A CLEAR, POSITIVE MIND.

3.COMPLAINING IS NOT AN ANSWER FOR EVERYTHING:

It is said everything happens for a reason and there are people out there who do not realize this fact. They do not concentrate on the why’s and how’s of a certain problem but rather pay much attention on the complaining part again and again. This kind of negativity is not appreciable and it is one of those very desirable things that we all must stop doing. To hold grudges and pessimistic thoughts is not a solution for anything negative. Instead our focus must remain on the reasons of why a certain thing has happened and that is what needs to be cured and cleared out in our both mind and heart.

So you must

STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THINGS RATHER CORRECT THE MISTAKES WHICH ARE UNDER YOUR CONTROL.

4.SPENDING TIME WITH WRONG PEOPLE:

To start anew, you need to bring about changes in the company you keep. Learning to differentiate between the good and the bad is something essential. Try to stay away from those who you think are not helping you out in anything and who affect your happy feelings. The thing that must be kept in mind is that those who really want to be around you will make space for you and those who won’t will always keep on discouraging you in everything. Therefore spending time with wrong people, who are not doing any good to you and instead stay busy discouraging you; keeping them at bay is helpful.

So it is better to

STOP SPENDING TIME WITH UNHELPFUL PEOPLE, LEARN TO DIFFERENTIATE THE GOOD AND THE BAD.

5.YOU ARE SPECIAL:

Another thing that needs to be realized is that you are special who carries an own individuality. It is always good to care and help for others but there is YOU who also needs to be taken care of. Realizing your own worth is what matters. You have to take care of yourself both physically and mentally. You have every right to take time for yourself, do things that you enjoy, and move towards the goals that you set for yourself only. It is true that everyone around you also matters but you have your own importance as well .Therefore, you should do whatever big or small that can make you feel good about yourself.

SO it is good to

STOP THINKING ABOUT OTHERS ONLY.REALIZE YOU ARE SPECIAL WHO HAS HIS OR HER OWN WORTH AS WELL.

6.CONFIDENCE IS THE KEY:

Many people have hard time in trusting their own self and their abilities. They rely and depend on other people a lot. This I believe, is a wrong thing to do. Our main concentration should be on confident approach towards the state of things. When you learn to trust your own self and rely on your own abilities you discover a different kind of horizon out there that becomes the real source of contentment and happiness for you. It is extremely important to step up with all the nerve and make a positive difference for ourselves.

So it is necessary to

STOP STAYING DEPENDENT ON OTHERS, TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR OWN SELF AND MOVE ON WITH CONFIDENCE.



With a little bit of effort on our part, I think it is manageable to change the self destructive attitudes which we posses. It is not about changing our whole personalities and stop being who we are rather it is about how a good change can be brought about in ourselves that not only benefits us but can also help us to contribute as a good person towards the environment and the communities around us.




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penlady 4 years ago from Sacramento, CA

Wonderful advice to live by. I know some people who could use this advice. Thanks for a hub that can help them possibly see the light. Voted up, useful and tweeted.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi penlady,i am happy that you liked and appreciated the hub.I also hope that this hub can really be beneficial for people who really need the change.Thank you so much for your encouragement,votes and your kind comment :)


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Vellur 4 years ago from Dubai

Read your hub, each and every point you have written, so very true. Voted up and shared.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you so much Vellur for dropping in,appreciating and sharing :)


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sofs 4 years ago

I love the stop complaining one.. Most people need that one... Wow! they really don't know that it hurts them more than the thing they complain about.. Negative thinking.. Thanks for the share.. Have a lovely day.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi Sofs...Complaining is something which is very easy to do instead of focusing on the solutions and remedies of the issue You are very right in saying that complaining hurts one's self more actually.

Thank you for coming by and leaving your feedback.Much appreciated. You too have a very nice day :)


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Movie Master 4 years ago from United Kingdom

Excellent advice to live by, you have covered everything so thoroughly, a very helpful and positive hub!

Thank you and voted up.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you very much Movie Master .I am glad you liked the Hub. Thanks for reading and voting. Like i always i appreciate it a lot :)


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rahul0324 4 years ago from Gurgaon, India

If one really follows such advice... success and advancement is sure to come... more over and most importantly, he will be the most content man on earth

Great advice..

Sharing:)


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thanks rahul for sharing...I appreciate your very nice comment,totally agreeing with the most content person part also :) Thanks for coming by !!!


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

Awesome hub!


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you lovedoctor926 for your appreciation :)


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MelChi 4 years ago from Cape Town, South Africa

I agree 100% on all your points - excellent advice! Thanks for sharing :)


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi MelChi...I am glad you liked it.Thank you very much for your kind comment.I appreciate :)


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

This is an extremely wise hub! I totally agree with each and every point listed by you! We should face problems courageously, forget the past, never complain, be in the company of selectively good people, realise our worth and live life to the fullest with confidence and happiness! Well-written advice!

Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Interesting. Voted up.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hey ishwaryaa...Thank you for taking your time out and reading.I appreciate your appreciation and i am very happy to know that you liked the Hub.Thanks again for sharing and your votes. God bless you!!!


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SanneL 4 years ago from Sweden

This is a wonderful, positive and very wise hub! If we stopped our complaining and negative outlook on life, we would be so much happier and content, and appreciate life to the fullest. Great work! Voted up, useful, awesome, interesting and shared.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you very much SanneL for your wonderful comment and appreciation.We really,truly need some positive changes in our lives to exist with a satisfied mind .

Thank you for your votes and sharing also...i am glad you liked the hub and dropped by to check it out :)


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dwachira 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

Sometimes it takes us a while before we can differentiate between the good and the bad company and only realize this when harm has been committed, am glad you pointed this in the article. Voted up and useful.


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dghbrh 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

nice and useful hub...thanks for this one.....

up voting and sharing as well:-)


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi dwachira... Thank you for your feedback on the Hub and votes. Much appreciated :)


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Hi dghbrh.... Thanks for sharing,vote and appreciation. I am glad you found it useful !!!


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healthylife2 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

Great advice for living an emotionally healthy life. I decided to get rid of a friend that was more hurtful than beneficial and am happy I did.


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learner365 4 years ago Author

Thank you healthylife for the appreciation. Yes sometimes we have to move on leaving certain people just to discover better ahead.


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JPSO138 3 years ago from Cebu, Philippines, International

I hate to admit that I am guilty on some of this things. I hope that I will be able to stop them as they always affect my day and life in general. Great hub!


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learner365 3 years ago Author

JPSO138.... Realizing about the issues which a person has is always a good thing and it becomes best if a person starts to correct them. I am glad you like the hub . I wish you best of luck and thank you for dropping in your feedback and appreciation :)

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