Why Is Etiquette Important - My Funny Story
My Funniest Handshake
I never thought a handshake before and after a job interview is a form of etiquette, no one told me. It should have been a three-second handshake that starts the interview and another one right after.
I already had stepped out of the manager's room when I remembered I forgot to shake his hand for a thank you. So I turned around headed back to his office, went straight to him and offered my hand. What a disaster!
If everyone back in that office found it hilarious, I did not know. I was so embarrassed. Of course, nothing was so wrong, I just did a comical skit! I still laugh to that fun memory to this day.
The right etiquette:
Initiating a handshake at the beginning of interview creates good impression as well as leaving the interview with a handshake.
My Funniest Dinner
I was invited to a high-profile wedding reception some twenty years ago. It was the first time I encountered a seated dinner setting in a whole lavish dining of chandeliers in the garden and food that moves counter-clockwise. With almost more than 10 kinds of exotic dishes, I was amazed with the shark's fin soup. The food service was called lauriat, a Chinese style banquet.
While eating, my Chinese friend shared about how his folks in China would cook lauriat foods as Pan Tow dishes, meaning, cooked in fry pan with tow handle and a glass lid. After dinner and while everyone in my table started sharing about how exotic the meal was, I was asked which dish I enjoyed most, I said "I loved the Pan Tow!"
There was a moment of silence then she explained that a Pan Tow is not a dish but it's where the dish is cooked on. Could you imagine my face? I wasn't listening!!!
No matter what the occasion, it is always important to present yourself in the best possible manner. Think before you talk.... listening is good etiquette.
Is Etiquette Really Essential?
Lack of etiquette, whether from man or woman is something that bothers us immensely. If you speak rudely, you will be disliked; if you eat voraciously, you will be looked at; if you sit sloppily, you lack manners; even when talking on the phone, you need a certain decorum, and along with sending emails, there are etiquette rules to observe. All these means one thing - etiquette is part of everyday.
The Big Difference Example
Even the smallest lessons in etiquette are important and are best begun at a young age. Maura Graber offers this example,
"I have learned over the years (especially with my own kids) to be a better etiquette teacher because I have learned that kids, as well as adults, respond well if they have choices and options. Since manners will vary from place to place, 'etiquette' is simply defining that manners are our way of showing respect for one another, then teens should be shown respect and taught how to show it back."
With social manners, you are setting the standards for how to be polite to one another and how to show respect. If you care about even the simplest etiquette, you care about people and how you build relationship with them.
Have inconsiderate fellow diners ever put you off your food? Now you know why even the smallest etiquette is important.
Enjoy My Etiquette Suggestions
- Dining Etiquette and Manners
For it is only important to learn dining etiquette. Your manners and good examples will be an inspiration to others
- Classic Eating Manners for Difficult Foods
This way of eating difficult foods has grown up over the years as being the most practical and attractive approach.
- Mind Your Manners - 10 Tips for Office Etiquette
Office manners are not always present in most people and these tips will help keep you admirable and respectable in the eyes of both its customers and its employee
- Party Etiquette Tips for Hosts and Guests
These standards of etiquette are only basic as even the most carefree parties demand guests and hosts alike to meet certain expectations
- 10 Social Media Etiquette DOs and DONTs | The Suitcase Entrepreneur
This is a special guest post from Annemarie Cross that cuts right to the heart of how to build your online reputation using the right social media etiquette
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