Why Is Etiquette Important - My Funny Story

My Funniest Handshake

I never thought a handshake before and after a job interview is a form of etiquette, no one told me. It should have been a three-second handshake that starts the interview and another one right after.

I already had stepped out of the manager's room when I remembered I forgot to shake his hand for a thank you. So I turned around headed back to his office, went straight to him and offered my hand. What a disaster!

If everyone back in that office found it hilarious, I did not know. I was so embarrassed. Of course, nothing was so wrong, I just did a comical skit! I still laugh to that fun memory to this day.

The right etiquette:

Initiating a handshake at the beginning of interview creates good impression as well as leaving the interview with a handshake.

My Funniest Dinner

I was invited to a high-profile wedding reception some twenty years ago. It was the first time I encountered a seated dinner setting in a whole lavish dining of chandeliers in the garden and food that moves counter-clockwise. With almost more than 10 kinds of exotic dishes, I was amazed with the shark's fin soup. The food service was called lauriat, a Chinese style banquet.

While eating, my Chinese friend shared about how his folks in China would cook lauriat foods as Pan Tow dishes, meaning, cooked in fry pan with tow handle and a glass lid. After dinner and while everyone in my table started sharing about how exotic the meal was, I was asked which dish I enjoyed most, I said "I loved the Pan Tow!"

There was a moment of silence then she explained that a Pan Tow is not a dish but it's where the dish is cooked on. Could you imagine my face? I wasn't listening!!!

Lesson taught:

No matter what the occasion, it is always important to present yourself in the best possible manner. Think before you talk.... listening is good etiquette.

Is Etiquette Really Essential?

Lack of etiquette, whether from man or woman is something that bothers us immensely. If you speak rudely, you will be disliked; if you eat voraciously, you will be looked at; if you sit sloppily, you lack manners; even when talking on the phone, you need a certain decorum, and along with sending emails, there are etiquette rules to observe. All these means one thing - etiquette is part of everyday.


The Big Difference Example

Even the smallest lessons in etiquette are important and are best begun at a young age. Maura Graber offers this example,

"I have learned over the years (especially with my own kids) to be a better etiquette teacher because I have learned that kids, as well as adults, respond well if they have choices and options. Since manners will vary from place to place, 'etiquette' is simply defining that manners are our way of showing respect for one another, then teens should be shown respect and taught how to show it back."

Teaching manners at an early age
Teaching manners at an early age | Source

With social manners, you are setting the standards for how to be polite to one another and how to show respect. If you care about even the simplest etiquette, you care about people and how you build relationship with them.

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Have inconsiderate fellow diners ever put you off your food? Now you know why even the smallest etiquette is important.

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NidoNyte 4 years ago from The Lone Star State

Sit up straight, chew with your mouth closed, no elbows on the table; I used to think my mom was just being mean, but I know now she was really looking out for me. Manners and Etiquette keep everything running smoothly and a necessities for each person to know. It pays to be polite after all. Good hub.


Chris Hugh 4 years ago

Hilarious pictures! Good hub.


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Tonipet 4 years ago from The City of Generals Author

NidoNyte thank you. What an elegant Mom you have, lucky she is to have instilled those etiquette on you. Your polite manners will be example to our little young minds, and along with your plans of branching out on civil rights, you'll really be admired. Keep up that sweet chocolate vision:=)

Chris - Thank you very much. Me too really find those pics hilarious, glad you liked them. Take care and cheers!


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Express10 4 years ago from East Coast

Very good examples of why etiquette is important. The pictures are very effective too.


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Tonipet 4 years ago from The City of Generals Author

Hello Express10. So nice you found the examples very good. I hope many people will take time teaching their little ones with basic decorum. Thank you for stopping, really appreciated. Best Regards!


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katyzzz 4 years ago from Sydney, Australia

Unusual hub, but very necessary, I think I err on the first count, OK with the others.


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Tonipet 4 years ago from The City of Generals Author

Greetings to you katyzzz. Thank you, perhaps it's the role of the unusual to put deeper color to what's usually around. Insightful comment and glad you find the hub necessary. Cheers to you and best regards.


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traslochimilano 4 years ago from USA

You are showing why etiquette is important with nice story and pic also. Thanks


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Tonipet 4 years ago from The City of Generals Author

That's so nice of you Pamela. I just realized that real stories can be real help, so glad you find mine nice. I take pride learning from those stories. It was so much fun learning. Glad you've stopped by. Thank you.


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Injured lamb 4 years ago

Appreciate much for another great hub of yours Tonette, I enjoy your writing style much...


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Tonipet 4 years ago from The City of Generals Author

Hello lamb :=) thank you! Did you know that your "Silent Quotes" hub reminded me of this really funny dinner experience I had? You made me realized a 100% more how important silence really is, lol. Thank you for the energy... so nice meeting you here!


Chinese boy 2 years ago

This message is so popular that Chinese teacher have put it into the homework that we do.Although I'm only 14.


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Tonipet 2 years ago from The City of Generals Author

Hello Chinese boy. Good manners are best taught and learned at an early age. Why? Because you'll get used to the right and proper etiquette that's going to be constant into your system. The result? You're ready to face the world, and be the next role model for the young. Your teacher was right.

Thank you so much for the kind comment. Keep up in studies and best of all. :=)Tonette

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