WHY Do People HAVE Children?

The REASONS Why People Have Children

Reasons for having children are as varied as people themselves.Many people have children because of covert,overt, &subliminal messages that it's desirable to have children. Societal messages propagandize them as to the feasibility of having children.
Reasons for having children are as varied as people themselves.Many people have children because of covert,overt, &subliminal messages that it's desirable to have children. Societal messages propagandize them as to the feasibility of having children.
In our pronatalist culture & society, having children is viewed as positive, even being deified. People who have children are considered to be more mature & responsible than those who elect not to have children.
In our pronatalist culture & society, having children is viewed as positive, even being deified. People who have children are considered to be more mature & responsible than those who elect not to have children.
Our culture & society see people who have children as more responsible/stable & less selfish. They know that their children are more important than they are & the imperativeness of providing a secure environment for them.
Our culture & society see people who have children as more responsible/stable & less selfish. They know that their children are more important than they are & the imperativeness of providing a secure environment for them.

Why DO People HAVE Children


The reasons that people have children are as varied and/or vastly individual as the people themselves. Some people have children because of outside pressure whether it is parental, from relatives, peers, and/or associates. It is not only parents, relatives, peers, and/or associates who exert either overt or covert pressure for people to have children, society convey subliminal messages that it is desirable to have children.


In our pronatalist culture and/or society, having children is viewed in a positive light. Messages abound that children are what makes a family. Further messages affirm how children enrich couples' lives. People who have children are viewed as true, legitimate adults. In our culture and society, having children is considered the valid parameter of true adulthood. Some even believe that one is not considered an authentic adult unless and/or until he/she has children. They assert that until people have children, they are adults in name only.


Our culture and society furthermore relay the message that it is a sign of responsibility and unselfishness to have children. Having children makes people more responsible and altruistic that they have someone else to consider other than themselves. In relation to the responsibility and unselfishness apparent as a result of having children, it is contended that having children makes people more stable. It is long thought of that people who have children are more responsible, stable, and less selfish. They are aware of the sacrifices it entails to have children and to provide them a secure environment. In this hub, I shall discuss the seven key reasons why people have children: (1) outside pressure from parents and friends, (2) religious obligation, (3) old age insurance, (4) to make an imprint on the world, (5) as an exercise in power, (6) to fill a void, and (7) because they truly want them.

PRESSURE From Parents, Relatives, Friends & Associates

They are pressured by parents to have grandchildren & they succumb to such parental wishes. They are also pressured by other relatives that they MUST have children in order to be considered a full fledged, legitimate, mature adult.
They are pressured by parents to have grandchildren & they succumb to such parental wishes. They are also pressured by other relatives that they MUST have children in order to be considered a full fledged, legitimate, mature adult.
They can even feel pressured by their friends to have children. They may be the only couple in their social circle that don't have children. They don't want to be the odd ones; they want to belong so they have children to fit in their social circle.
They can even feel pressured by their friends to have children. They may be the only couple in their social circle that don't have children. They don't want to be the odd ones; they want to belong so they have children to fit in their social circle.

1. OUTSIDE Pressure



Many people have children because of outside pressure from parents, other family members, relatives, and/or friends. They feel that they must give their parents grandchildren to fulfill their parents' wish and their filial duty. They contend that by giving their parents grandchildren the family will be further complete and they will create a family legacy. They also succumb to the wishes of their siblings, cousins, and/or other relatives to have children because the former either want companions for their own children or they want some descendants that they can dote upon.


They can be pressured and inculcated by their friends to have children because it is the socially acceptable thing to do. They can be the only couple in their social circle not to have children. They may feel that they would be the odd/outside couple if they do not have children. If they do not have children, they will be ostracized, even marginalized by their particular social circle. So they have children in order to belong and be part of the group.

MANDATED by One's Religion

Others contend that they are mandated by their particular religion to have children. They believe that the purpose of marriage isn't to selfishly have hedonistic relationships but to unselfishly bring children into the world.
Others contend that they are mandated by their particular religion to have children. They believe that the purpose of marriage isn't to selfishly have hedonistic relationships but to unselfishly bring children into the world.

2. RELIGIOUS Duty Obligation


There are those who have children because they are religiously obligated to do so. They feel that they must have children to fulfill some prescribed, even preordained religious mantra. They contend that the reason to get married is not to indulge in some selfish, hedonistic relationship centered on pleasure but to unselfishly produce children and to make a true, authentic family. In their purview not to have children is viewed as an aberrant immorality, even a mortal transgression. It does not matter if they want children or not, they contend that whether or not they want children is totally immaterial. They vehemently argue that they must subvert their innate selfishness to the familial, if not common spiritual goal to bring children into the world as some type of religious duty and/or fulfillment.

To Provide SECURITY in Old Age

Many people have children for the purpose of being taken care of/looked after in their old age. They see their children as a safeguard against being alone as they get old. They feel that their children WILL BE THERE for them when NEEDED.
Many people have children for the purpose of being taken care of/looked after in their old age. They see their children as a safeguard against being alone as they get old. They feel that their children WILL BE THERE for them when NEEDED.

3. Old Age INSURANCE

There are people who have children because the latter are seen as security measures, some type of insurance protection in their old age. They view having children as ultimate safeguard against being old and/or alone. They may even feel that their children's primary purpose, even obligation, is to look after and take care of them when they become old. They know that by having children, their children can and/or will be trusted to be there when needed. They even contend that by having children, they will always have someone by their side who can provide emotional, psychological, even financial comfort and/or assistance when the time comes. They further believe they can feel safe and secure around their children that they cannot feel with anyone else.

To Somehow LIVE On & Be REMEMBERED After Death

Some contend that by having children, they will make a posthumous contribution to society & the world at large. They know that they will attain some type of immortality, being remembered through their children.
Some contend that by having children, they will make a posthumous contribution to society & the world at large. They know that they will attain some type of immortality, being remembered through their children.

5. To Make THEIR Imprint


Some people have children because they want to make their particular mark on the world. They believe that by having children, they will be immortal. They see having children as some type of posthumous contribution to their particular society, even to the world. In their purview, they contend that if they are unable to contribute to their society and the world through their talents and works, their children will somehow be their contribution to their society and the world at large. In their eyes, they and their children are one. Their see their children in living in their name and people will know them through their children.

To EXERT .....Power

There are those who have children for the purpose of exerting their power.To them, parenthood is an excuse to display methods of power.They see themselves as superior to their children & believe that their children exist to merely obey them.
There are those who have children for the purpose of exerting their power.To them, parenthood is an excuse to display methods of power.They see themselves as superior to their children & believe that their children exist to merely obey them.

5. As an Exercise in Utter POWER


Many people have children with the purpose of employing upmanship and other displays of power. There are people who use parenthood as an excuse to establish unadulterated dominance over their children. They are of the school that as parents and adults, they are the masters who are in control. They hold the opinion that their children are not individuals in their own right. The thought that their children are individuals is totally incomprehensible and beyond their purview. They maintain that as parents, they can treat their children in any matter that suits them. After all, their children are mere replicas of them and the latter exist to obey their directives. They see themselves as the boss and superior ones while their children are subordinate and inferior to them and each ought to act accordingly.

To Satisfy That MISSING Void

They feel that something is MISSING from their lives. There is a huge void. Either their relationship isn't happy or they have no outside interests, friends, nor hobbies. They feel that by having children, ALL their needs will be met.
They feel that something is MISSING from their lives. There is a huge void. Either their relationship isn't happy or they have no outside interests, friends, nor hobbies. They feel that by having children, ALL their needs will be met.

6. To Fill A VOID


There are people who have children to fill a void in their lives. Their relationship may be unhappy, even unfulfilled so they believe that by having children, their relationship will be happy and fulfilled. There are some who have no outside jobs/careers, hobbies, friends, and/or interests. They feel an aching need for some type of outlet and involvement. So instead of pursuing a job/career, getting a hobby, or being involved and/or participating in an activity, they have children to satisfy their need for an outlet. They feel that by having children, their particular needs are met, even satisfied.

Simply WANTING To

There are people who love & enjoy children.  They thought long & hard before having children. They see having children as spiritual experience. They view their children as joys, precious entities w/ their own mindset, consciousness & psychology.
There are people who love & enjoy children. They thought long & hard before having children. They see having children as spiritual experience. They view their children as joys, precious entities w/ their own mindset, consciousness & psychology.

7. They REALLY Want To


There are people who believe that they were meant to be parents. They put a lot of thought and planning regarding having children. They were prepared emotionally, psychologically, and financially before they decided to have children. They embrace, even love the idea of having children. They consider their role as parents to be a spiritual experience. They view their children as wonderful entities with their unique personalities, mindsets, consciousness, and/or psychology. They want to guide, teach, and/or nurture their children to be the best people they can possibly be. They furthermore believe that their children are teachers and guides, teaching them new, exciting, and/or different perspectives on life. To them, their children are not merely their children, they are their closest friends and companions. In their purview, their children are unique beyond all compare.

Conclusion


In summation, people have children for many different reasons. Some have children because of outside pressure either from parents, relatives, friends, or the general society. Others feel that they have a moral, even a religious obligation to have children. There are those who have children to fill some type of psychological void in their lives. However, there are others who love, even embracing having children. They see children as one of the greatest joys in their lives.

© 2015 Grace Marguerite Williams

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Kiss andTales 19 months ago

If nobody had somebody then it would be nobody here, here on earth,

That is why the heavenly Father allowed Adam and Eve to continue life so that we could be born. , if he had started off a new pair of people we would not be speaking now.


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gmwilliams 19 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Thank you for stopping by and beginning the discourse.


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Ana Kolomeka 19 months ago from Big Island of Hawaii

I've come across WAY too many people who have kids with virtually no thought as to why, or how they'll even take care of them. In those cases, it's something that "just happens". I know someone who had 7 kids by 7 boyfriends. She kept the first, and gave the rest away to foster care. Then the first child had a baby at the ripe old age of 15, making her a grandmother at age 34. At that point, the State took away the 15 year old, making her yet another foster child.

I find cases like that INFURIATING!!!


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gmwilliams 19 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Yes, there are people who unthinkingly and mindlessly have children and it is the poor children who suffer indeed. Of course, it is infuriating. In fact, it is beyond infuriating and into the insidious. Thank you for stopping by and responding.


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Kiss andTales 19 months ago

Planned or not planned that is a precious life. And that special life could one day save millions. Yes un planning can be a problem but let's find the positive now that they have been born as fellow humans.

If God allows it who are we to say they should not be born.


Gmarkwart 19 months ago

... because my wife wanted them.


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peachpurple 19 months ago from Home Sweet Home

good question, because my mother in law wanted to have a grandson, so we have to keep producing


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gmwilliams 19 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

See, there you go. Thank you for stopping by and adding to the discussion at hand.


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Relationshipc 18 months ago from Alberta, Canada

I've chosen not to have children, but if I did, it would be because I am an only child and my parents will never have a grandchild. Guilt. Also because my husband's mom is very religious and children are not an option, they are a requirement. Guilt. I just don't find guilt a good enough reason to have children!


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gmwilliams 18 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Exactly, I feel that people should have children because they want to. Having children should NEVER be a requirement. Oh boy, this is a subject of yet another hub to be.


big daddy oreo 17 months ago

I would never want to put any kids in this world. The world is too screwed up in my opinion. But if I did have any kids I would want them to be black. I feel like black people have a much stronger hold on the world. Much more protection. Much more flexibility on what you can and can not say. Being a black man in America would be awesome. And it looks like the president of the naacp showed the world it may be possible for a white man to change to black.


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Kiss andTales 17 months ago

Interesting I am sure there are people who want to be your ethnic race. In this world many things are unfair and injustice touches us all no matter the color of our skin. But there will come a time we will live togather under One Father and Lord and Government no one's skin color will matter just as it did not in the family of Noah , all lived togather and repopulate the earth, but this time the earth will be ruled by our creator instead of his opposer who challenge his right to rule over us.

We have the results of failed governments , failed citizenship that ends in war, failed happiness where we are are suffering even in health, and since money rules it has failed many to have it, or keep it, even worse people have died for it. Do we have a future of something better

I garentee yes we do ! King James Version

Isa 33:24 And the inhabitant shall not say, I am sick: the people that dwell therein shall be forgiven their iniquity

King James Version

Isa 65:21 And they shall build houses, and inhabit them; and they shall plant vineyards, and eat the fruit of them.

New World Translation

Isa 2:4 He will render judgment among the nations And

set matters straight respecting many peoples. They will beat their swords into plowshares And their spears into pruning shears. Nation will not lift up sword against nation, Nor will they learn war anymore.

The citizens of this New World has already been gathering from generations learn peace and love getting along .what ever race you are you are loved by God that is what matters

2Pe 3:13 But there are new heavens and a new earth that we are awaiting according to his promise, and in these righteousness is to dwell.


big daddy oreo 17 months ago

I look forward to heaven. However I live in this world now. I have a good life but only make 10 an hour. Bosses always cheap with raises and benefits.

I think white bosses should go undercover as a black man to get more productivity out of black employees.


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Kiss andTales 17 months ago

BDO. Many people feel like you do , but the truth is there is going to be a New Heavens and A New earth, 2

Peter 3:13 is very clear the earth is going to be heavenly as well.

Notice scriptures. Mt 6:10 Let your Kingdom come. Let your will take place, as in heaven, also on earth.

Just like a certain stores as example are under the same owner and management , they can have similar appearance , like Walgreens most all look the same inside. Earth will be heavenly.


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Kiss andTales 17 months ago

Which also mean all humans will not have to experience death to live in a heavenly environment.


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Albana Lada 11 months ago from Italy

Interesting topic.People should have children because they want to...absolutely agree.


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gmwilliams 11 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York Author

Thank you!

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