Ways To Be Happy

No one can guarantee that you will always be happy, but there are things you can do and ways you can think that will help you lead a happier life. Here are some of them.

Think Highly of Yourself

Self esteem is one of the key ingredients for a happy life. For healthy self esteem, I recommend the following practices:

  1. Teach yourself to like who you see in the mirror. Foster a positive self image. Something that worked for me when I had a negative self image was to look at myself in the mirror and actually tell myself how great I am. Learn to look at yourself in the mirror and smile affectionately at what you see.
  2. Do what you think is right. You will always respect yourself if you always try to do the right thing.
  3. Don't beat yourself up. This can be a tough one to beat, but calling yourself stupid or otherwise thinking negatively of yourself for your mistakes is counterproductive. Instead of blaming yourself, coach yourself to do things differently next time.

Do For Others

Few activities help us feel good about ourselves more effectively than helping other people.

  • Help members of your family
  • Help your friends and people you know
  • Volunteer or fund-raise for a charitable organization.
  • Help people you come in contact with accidentally

If you can say you are a person who helps others, it definitely will help you think highly of yourself.

Be Calm

Learn to control your mood. Both the heights of ecstasy and the depths of depression are dangerous to your overall happiness. Meditation is an excellent practice for smoothing out the hills and valleys. Steady happiness is much better than a manic depressive roller coaster ride.

Treat Yourself

Do things you like to do. Eat things you like to eat. Treat yourself like someone you love. If you love yourself, you will feel loved even if no one else loves you.


One of the best ways to be happy is to be fit. Now, fitness is a relative thing, but I can tell you, the fitter I am, the better I feel. Adopt a regular program of exercise. Find a way to measure your progress. Develop a reward system. Regular exercise is good for mind, body, and spirit and will almost always help you feel better.

However, try not to hurt yourself. Injuries can be an imperfection in your happiness.

When Bad Things Happen

As I said earlier, don't beat yourself up. But especially don't beat yourself up about occurrences over which you had no control. This is not only self destructive, it's stupid. Bad things happen to everyone. If it happened because it was your fault, own up, learn your lesson and move on. If it happened because of circumstances outside the sphere of your control, take comfort in the fact that it was not your fault.

There is much unhappiness in the world. Sometimes it's just unavoidable. But you owe it to yourself to bounce back as soon as you can. Life is too short to spend it otherwise than happy.

I wish you happiness.

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Peggy W 7 years ago from Houston, Texas

What a beautiful hub filled with the best of advice. Thumbs up on this one, Tom.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, Peggy! :0)

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Enjoy, brother. It's the reservoir at Little River, Waterbury, Vermont, United States

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MindField 7 years ago from Portland, Oregon

I'm working hard to be happy at a time of many overlapping crises in my life. Believe me when I tell you I am going to take your advice to heart, Tom.

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Jodi Hoeksel 7 years ago

Nice and bright hub. Great advice!

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

I hope it's helpful Mindfield! I wish you the best.

Thanks, Jodi!

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Jmell 7 years ago from El Paso, Texas, USA

Thanks Tom for reminding us to stay in tune with the good things......including ourselves!

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Candie V 7 years ago from Whereever there's wolves!! And Bikers!! Cummon Flash, We need an adventure!

Now, we shall read this hub together, everyday till we believe it!! Well done!

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G-Ma Johnson 7 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

sounds like a plan Candie and Thanks Tom...:O) Hugs

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, Jmell, Candie, and G-Ma. Happy is better than unhappy anytime.

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Frieda Babbley 7 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

Beautiful, Tom. Sound advice. The photo at the top is awesome by the way. I got calm the moment I looked at it; it's rather focusing (if that's a word).

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wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

This hub has some great points to it, well done and well said. Self esteem is the number one point here. Thank you for this hub.

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\Brenda Scully 7 years ago

It's so important to try to be happy.... I tend to let other people make me happy, but that is not always a good thing.... THE advice you are giving on here is advice I am hearing all over the place, and i am trying to take it on board.

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Storytellersrus 7 years ago from Stepping past clutter

Nice, thanks Tom!

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thanks Frieda, Wesley, Brenda, and Storyteller! Frieda, I love that photo, too. I agree, Wesley, self esteem is what it is all about. Happiness comes from within, Brenda :0)

Thank you Storyteller

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Feline Prophet 7 years ago from India

Thanks Tom..sometimes just a simple reminder like this helps!

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Imagin8tion 7 years ago

Wonderful sentiment in this Hub! Thanks for sharing it.

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, Feline. That's right.

Thank you Imagin8tion

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Zollstock 7 years ago from Germany originally, now loving the Pacific NW

I wish you the same, Tom.

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DynamicS 7 years ago from Toronto, Canada

As always Tom, you've done great!Thanks for reminding us of what is really important to reclaim our happiness.


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feeweewv 7 years ago from Between A Dream And Reality

Well stated :)

JJ 7 years ago

Very good advice my friend! I think that a happy medium between the ecstasy and the depression is alot healthier than the rollercoaster as you said.... very good interpretation!

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Tom Rubenoff 7 years ago from United States Author

Thank you, JJ, my friend :)

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