When the dreaming stops, and reality takes over

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When the dreaming stops, and reality takes over


By Tony DeLorger © 2012

How we wish we could win the lottery, have an executive job, have everything we want in life with all the trimmings, the benefits and pleasures. The thought usually follows with a sigh, a resolute acceptance of the improbability of our wishes. Sometimes I am aghast by the depth of our ineptitude and denial of possibility. We gaze longingly into the air dreaming of our desires without for one moment trying to realise them. Counter-productive to an extreme wouldn't you say?

Life cares not for our wishes, what we want, deserved or not; that is the realm of our perceptions. We are not some pawn of Karma or any other paradigm of retribution and reward. We alone make our luck, forge our paths and decide on what and how we live our lives. Dreaming may create goals but bringing them to fruition is another matter. We must invest in our wants with action, a deliberate movement in the direction of our goals. Only then does the laws of balance and cause and affect come into being.

Being caught in the holding pattern of life is commonplace, never moving far from the circumstances that may offer some security, but rarely change. Without the catalyst of change we are bound to remain just where we are, stuck in a rut we call our lives. And if you think your not in this rut, you'd be wrong. Human beings crave security, and we find it in the familiar, the repetitious monotony of known actions and outcomes. This is of course fine as long as you don't remain there without movement.

We need nourishment, both mentally and physically and not stepping out of our little shell can inhibit the possibilities in life, the turning points and points of change that can deliver a mundane life into a feast of experience and success. Courage is needed here to be able to risk losing stability for the rewards of change. But without risk, there cannot be gain, and so the decision is ours to make.

A still and serene mind sees wholly what one wants and also how to go about getting it. The task is simple and requires no pushing or contention of any kind, just the calm and dedicated steps to our goal, keeping it in mind with all its detail. Working toward what we want should not be a task but a joy, undertaking what we truly imagine for ourselves as right and positive.

Of course this decision requires us to get off our butts and work toward our goal, not sit there dreaming if only it were so. But remember, all journeys begin with a single step, and that one step is always the most difficult. Once on the journey, the direction and actions required are obvious and the rewards are always ongoing and in the doing. As I was reminded of just recently, by a graphic on facebook... 'When you get knocked down, roll over and look up at the stars.'

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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

My pleasure ITcoach; glad it struck a chord. Thanks for dropping by.


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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Glad you agree Cyndi10, taking life by the horns is a great way to live, and never regret a thing.


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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Glad it was Aubrey, we all need a nudge every now and then. Complacency is a stagnant pathway.


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Cyndi10 4 years ago from Georgia

This article should be required reading. We all have the tendency to let life roll along and pay less and less attention to our dreams. There is so much in our lives that we do have control over. Granted, there are some we don't but our reactions are totally within our control. We should continually revisit our dreams. Voted up and sharing.


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CrazedNovelist 4 years ago from Hampton, GA

Tony, you're absolutely on the ball with this one. I am one who is constantly dreaming, but never taking any real steps toward my goal. I have also gotten stuck because I feel secure and because I know what I'm doing *this pertains to my day job*, but at the same time I know I can do more. It's so hard to come out of that rut and take real action towards my goals. This was very inspirational. Great work! :)


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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Glad you did Shalini. Thanks for dropping by and taking the time to comment.


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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

That's kind of nice, dghbrh. I'm just glad you get me and appreciates my thoughts.


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shalini sharan 4 years ago from Delhi

this was a really awesome, really enjoyed it


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dghbrh 4 years ago from ...... a place beyond now and beyond here !!!

Tony, this is really an awesome hub. I always like the way you end your work. (To be honest, i start reading your hub by the last line, don mind please). Voted up and shared:-)


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Tony DeLorger 4 years ago from Adelaide, South Australia Author

Thanks CriticalMessage. Much appreciated.


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CriticalMessage 4 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

We humans are intricate little buggers aren't we?... Nice Hug Tony!

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