Ooh, yes I know this all too well. It's strange too because the girl that I have in mind would do that exact thing, especially with me the boyfriend at the time. For example, she worked a somewhat heavy load of house - as did I. Well there were multiple occurrences where if someone had even jokingly called her "lazy" or complained because she couldn't make some non-important party or what-have-you then the girl would flip out a little bit. It was strange because she would want to be, as you said, coddled when she was sad but she wouldn't accept it for too long before a random trip to Walmart that would end up in her driving to some state line and being gone until the early morning, leaving me there. She pulled the Woe-is-Me card alot, but not near as much as my last girlfriend or the one before this girl in reference...actually come to terms with it they all were somethin' else. As far as your last question is concerned, I think that it makes them manipulative because they know that the other said person will buckle and give in - not many guys can continue arguing with a crying girl. Usually I only see any girls do this if they are with a nice guy, someone that wouldn't ever think of hurting them or being abusive because they're upset. I guess my advice for anyone enduring that is just knowing when to put your foot down. Gotta take a hold of the situation before it spirals out of control.