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What can I do to teach my child (a boy) to stop hating school and learning?


Too much damage is already done by the system itself - and even though I consider myself lucky with the school he attends and the teachers (it's an excellent team), but the system in general is created for girls. Not only my son is a late bloomer, he is not very co-operative in the academic field. For him, everything should be hands-on, fun, entertainment, games. It's too much of a challenge for me - and I don't have the support of my ex who is a strict disciplinarian. Pure discipline makes my son detest school and learning by rite even more.

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Rod Martin Jr (lone77star) says

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Thank you, I agree with you. I hated the history of the Soviet Union especially after WWII - it seemed boring beyond..., however, later I met history teachers who made it fascinating. It is not the subjects or students - it is the system.

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    I am afraid you are too quick to judge. What you see in me is a reflection of you. You don't know me at all - not enough information. There are very few people like me even on HP - you'd probably have to ask my friends. No offense taken.


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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Thank you. He is a very sensitive, emotional child. For certain things I am waiting when he is ready, but I am constantly searching for ways to understand him and make him feel good about himself. MOTIVATION only comes from WITHIN. No forcing.

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Right now - his stage is graphic novels. I don't consider it reading, but encourage him being a visual. When he was younger he created a book - and illustrations - it was really bright! Thank you for your advice.

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    He knows that. He surprised me the other day with "Muchacho!" As much as I was quoting Spanish for him - there was no "feedback" and this muchacho came seemingly out of nowhere - but I know - it's all my efforts - I love languages!

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Thanks so much! I do have this hope, too! After all, as a mother - there is no quitting for me - I must hope and I will always hope for the best. And, yes, he is a smart boy. Maybe even smarter than me.

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Thank you, haikutwinkle - I agree with you, I am trying. We were watching eagles from our window - and he immediately came up with a story - "It's a bald eagle! It has just been on our balcony!" - exaggeration, of course, but I loved his enthusiasm!


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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    I'll try to keep it in mind - the trick for me not to get too frustrated myself. I cannot find "the reasons" why he should learn French - I just cannot convince him that he must do it. There is this word again - MUST!

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Thank you. I'll have to talk to his teachers. The best thing I can offer him is my faith in him and my support. The message "You are not good enough" he gets from his father and I was dealing with too many putdowns. It is harder for a child.

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Thank you very much! We are lucky this year - his teacher is a guy and a very likable person - the whole class - boys and girls admire him! I cannot tell you what a relief it is to me!

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    I agree with you - I tried to be stricter with him and that was exactly the result - bedwetting - what he could not say to me, still got out - his anxiety. I stopped immediately and his bedwetting was also gone. So, yes, criticism is not the answer.

There may be a reasons your child hates public school84

There may be a reasons your child hates public school

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    By Lori 4 years ago

    Wow , excellent article. I couldn't agree more.

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    kallini2010 4 years ago

    Thank you very much for your advice - you just gave a great idea - once Daniel comes back from his dad - I'll make a hub with all the suggestions I can gather (the more the merrier) and I video tape Daniel's rebuttals. The child is resourceful beyon

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  • Sarra Garrett 4 years ago

    I was going to say the same thing Larry. My first thought was bullying. Definately talk with your son. Take him out of the house and talk. This way you are in a neutral atmousphere where he will open up better.


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  • Garifalia 4 years ago

    PS: if he likes games, etc. he might be a kinestheic learner. That means that he needs to come into contact with things in order to be able to concentrate and learn. In any case he's probably cleverer than most and he's life in bloom. Celebrate it!


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