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Billie Kelpin says
Ouch, you are quite succinctly spot-on! It seems that many people don't think before they decide to have children.They are so"in love" w/the idea of large families,they fail to consider how this would negatively impact on their&theirchildren's li
Agreed my good man!
If one is intelligent and educated, one has children that they can give the best life financially, educationally, & psychologically. Large families are abusive, especially to the oldest child.It is HE/SHE who has the MOST responsibility,not paren
It seems to be more unintelligent to resort to name calling of people you don't even know.
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The overwhelming large families that I have encountered via relatives, parents, and associates were poor and disadvantaged. They admit that they didn't receive the needed attention &oftentimes depended upon outside help for food & other neces
Most are. C'mon on. Parents NEVER raise children in large families. It is always THE OLDEST CHILD.Oldest children in large families are NEVER children but adults at young ages.They forfeit their childhoods, raising younger siblings & having adult
I actually have a lot of more feedback to give you on this but no time right now. I can give you a ton of scenarios of families with 3 children or less that were terrible parents and where kids parented siblings including myself.
Yes, but those incidents are rare. Parents of small families RAISE their children. Parents of large families MAKE their oldest children RAISE their youngest siblings. That is typical parenting behavior in large families. Oldest is ALWAYS the parent.
Not really. My oldest do not raise their siblings. I, however, grew up raising my little brother and my older brothers I was not raised with. I know many other families like this here in New York, as well. It's the parent not the size.
It is THE SIZE.Parents of small families often RAISE their children,they don't expect the oldest to raise them.However,in large families, there are MORE children than the parents can control so they ENFORCE oldest children to assume parenting duties.
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Debra Allen says
They really CAN'T support those children. They depend upon outside charities &/or other donations to keep the family afloat..Also, many children from large families work as soon as they can walk. Many young children from large families have p/t j
Before assuming that they can't and they have to go to other assistance have you talked with many that are from lg families? How large would you say lg is? Lg fam also helped those who were farmers etc...
I went to school with some. All of them received some type of outside assistance of one kind or another. One family's clothes were donations and nothing else. Large families are totally aberrant and abnormal. That is ALL I have to say on the subject
CS is right. I know of a person whom told me that they were having another child so they could get more welfare...no kidding. I should have turned her in because now she is a druggie and isn't really there for her children. She abuses them.
Wrong again gmwilliams. It costs me between $800-$1000 a month to feed my children and that doesn't come out of your pocket. It comes out of my pocket. I would just like to add that the only parent in this house is me because of how I was raised.
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Any right thinking, educated person does not believe in large families. Large families ALWAYS penalize the oldest/older children.They are forced to raise younger siblings, forfeiting THEIR childhoods.Kids in such families AREN'T treated equally.
Children should not be raising children. Children should have a free childhood and adolescence. Any parents who force their oldest children to raise siblings is abusive. The parent has the children, they should raise them or DON'T have them!
gm, well then that is the end of that lg fam then. Those who do everything for their children only teaches that child that they will always be given or have things done for them, which make society what it is today...lazy and the Me, Me, Me attitude
Life in large families for the oldest child is akin to being an ostarbeiter in a German labor camp during World War II or a slave in the Antebellum South. NO life, are on 24/7/365. Wrote 3 hubs on oldest children in large family,check them out!
gm then you have interviewed all the wrong ppl. My gma had 12 kids but miscarried 2. The oldest went to war with many of the men and so did most of the boys in that fam. None of the children raised any of the other children.
Why are you assuming all older children in families raise their siblings. Unless you have been witness to every single large family in the world, you can not imply that. I personally have not had a social life in 19 years. I'm always with my children
An overwhelming majority of oldest children in large families RAISE their younger siblings Some do this as young as 7 years old.Many oldest siblings HATE their parents for doing this.Many become so weary,they learn to avoid responsibility as adults.
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