I don't try to ruffle feathers, but I've been accused of rocking the boat. The problem is I am passionate about my stances, but before I get to the point of sharing my opinion, I like to observe the players, research the topic, and come up with my own perspectives.
I am a question-er and I want to know the WHY behind everything. Why do you think that way? Why do you believe that? What led you to your conclusion? And although, I want to know everyone's viewpoints and how they reached their perspectives, I staunchly believe that I've reached the RIGHT ones.
Really, the only time I will fight/argue to the death is when it's a topic concerning one of my students. If someone tries to violate their rights or cheat them of person-hood or tell me they are worthless or bad or prison-bound, I become Mama Bear protecting her Cubs.