What are THE MAIN DIFFERENCES between parents of small families(1-2 children per

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   gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

   What are THE MAIN DIFFERENCES between parents of small families(1-2 children per family) & parents
   
   of large/very large families(6 & more children per family) in terms of parent-child interaction/involvement,exposing children to cultural & intellectual activities, attitudes towards education/achievement & success?What makes parents of small families be more proactive, putting much forethought & planning before they have children so that the latter be born into an environment which they have myriad choices & opportunities as opposed to parents of large families who just give birth to children,having a lackadaisical attitude towards their children's outcome i.e. they either sink or swim?
   
   

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   Chris Nealposted 9 years ago

   The answer to your highly biased and leading question is....
   
   ...that the parents of smaller families tend to put more emphasis on highly-structured exposures to culture and education because they believe (either explicitly or implicitly) that this is both a result of and way of 'building' better people (smarter, harder-working, more intellectual and more morally pure.) They tend to be of the mindset to begin with that smaller families are better.
   
   Although the media is certainly saturated with stories of "lackadaisical" parents with  many children, these tend to be the exception rather than the rule. Even in poverty-stricken neighborhoods,, families of six or more children are not the norm. And just because you have more than 1.5 children does not mean you have little interest in their intellectual or 'spiritual' well-being. Often, though, these parents lack access to, and a knowledge of how to navigate through, certain institutions that more affluent parents take for granted. Once you are in poverty, it is damnably difficult to work your way out. It takes more than just money.

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      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent answer; however, in poorer families, large families are the rule rather than the exception. Poorer people tend to have more children than affluent people who tend to have less children.

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   gmwilliamsposted 8 years ago

   
   
   (1) Parents of small families are wholly involved in their children's lives whereas parents of large/very large families leave children to their own devices. 
   
   (2) Parents of small families assume the adult role in the family whereas parents of large/very large families abdicate their adult roles, consigning such roles to their oldest/older children.  Oldest/older children are THE TRUE ADULTS in large/very large families, never the parents.
   
   (3) Parents of small families organize, plan, & strategize to insure their children's educational & socioeconomic future whereas parents of large/very large families could care less about organizing, planning, & strategizing for their children's educational & socioeconomic future.  Their children have to INSURE their own educational & socioeconomic future.
   
   (4) Parents of small families put their children FIRST & themselves LAST whereas parents of large/very large families put themselves FIRST & their children LAST, particularly their oldest children.  In essence, parents of small families have children to SERVE THE CHILDEN while parents of large/very large families have children to SERVE THEM.
   
   (5) Parents of small families have warm, close, loving, & nurturing relationships w/their children whereas parents of large families have cold, distant, & even non-existent relationships w/their children. 
   
   (6) Parents of small families are parents in every definition of the world whereas parents of large/very large families are "parents" in name only, if that.
   
   
   (7) Parents of small families value higher level needs while parents of large/very large families are only concerned w/ basic needs, viewing all needs beyond the rudimentary as totally unnecessary, even wasteful. Parents of small families believe in living a cultivated life beyond struggle, they have an abundance mentality while parents of large/very large value struggle & poverty, even honoring THEM.  They have a poverty, lack, & scarcity mentality which they imbue to their children.

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