"Do you know yourself" Lets see the last time I looked, I was me, yep looked again, and its still me, unless, all NO that isn't me, and I'm just thinking its me, no that's me, wait maybe not, let me go check again, wow that was close its me ....lol....Just teasing you marinealways. You know I like your questions...
1) Probably learning about others b/c I think I've got a decent handle on who I am. 2) Yes, it's weird but do-able. 3) No. 4) What scale are we using? On a 1-10 scale, with one being low and 10 high, I'd say I know myself on a level of 8.5.
I give myself a B- because, even though I think I know myself pretty well, I like to 'forget' the flaws and stuff. My car remembers some of them though (you should see the back end of it) and my sweetie remembers the rest (but he's usually too polite to mention them).
I think I learn more and more about myself everyday. I spend too much time trying to make others happy, and I need to spend more time on finding out what really makes me happy. I know that, in order to empathize with others, you have to put your self in their shoes. I think that when I put myself into the shoes of others, it helps me know myself a little better. I would have to say that I know myself pretty well.
Marine, I was never arrogant or even bothered with an ego, as such. I really am incredibly laid back. But I have been humbled by some of my mistakes, definitely. And felt a little silly for good measure
I know myself pretty well. I know I am too insistent when I shouldn't be. I judge too quickly (shameful, really) and then beat myself up over it. I am too quick to say yes and then angry at myself for not thinking first (credit cards, new cars...etc) and I worry too much about things I can't change. BUT, I am docile, I love people (mostly), love conversation, and am always ready to try something new. Certainly not perfect, but trying always to be better than I was yesterday...its a daily challenge
Nice description. Sounds like you have things covered. Maybe instead of judging, you could find common ground looking at faults in yourself. You can't change that you judged in the past, all you can do is learn not to judge.
I have already found fault with myself (as I just pointed out above) and am trying to be honest about that part of myself with you and to me. Its not easy admitting things like that, but like I said, I'm trying to be better each day.
Are you judging me? Seriously? Are you? Because you seem to be taking the position of someone who can ask all the questions, but never take any responsibility for your own actions. Honestly, I'm not trying to start anything here, but you just can't leave well enough alone. You remind me of someone who needs to keep digging even though you already found all the bones possible. What more do you want me to say? I try everyday not to judge, but as a human, its difficult. And I know you struggle with it too whether you admit it or not. We all do. Its inherent in us. But the difference is that there are those who admit to it and try to change and those who don't or who refuse to believe they do. I don't judge people harshly all the time if thats what youre asking. I can be quick to think 'I don't think we'll get along', only to be surprised when we do. Thats what I mean when I say quick to judge. I wrote a hub about it, its called A Calling To Compassion. I don't know what you think of me Marinealways24, but I have a feeling you have pre-judged me and I would like to know why, Megs
lol You aren't a very easy person to communicate with. I didn't expect you to get defensive from that question. I'm not judging you. Do you not think if you figure out "why" you judge, then maybe you won't judge anymore? How well can you learn of yourself if you get defensive of questions about yourself?
Hmmm, I think you pose questions to make people respond Marinealways24. I don't think any question you ask goes without some kind of ulterior motive. I really don't care though, like I said, I enjoy people, I love conversation, and actually my most enjoyable past time is a good debate.
However, in response to your question, I do know why I judge. I'm human, and more than that, I was raised in an environment that wasn't really safe and I had no choice but to be careful. That tainted my point of view and my trust in others, but the fact that I recognize it and admit that I have a problem in that area kind of helps me to understand it better. And being defensive is rare for me and I'm almost ashamed that you got it out of me...almost, but not really. And trust me, I ask a lot of questions of myself. I ask a lot of questions period. I am not being defensive, just stating fact! And not once in my life have I been told that I was difficult to communicate with. Weird that it should come from you!
Wow, That was an excellent in depth explanation. Thank You for posting that. I have judged people previously for some of those same reasons in the past. Maybe in the society we live in, we have to judge to an "extent" to protect ourselves. I give you huge amounts of credit for being humble enough to recognize and explain your faults. You are easier to communicate with now. lol
Thank you Songbird (love that username). I kind of said 'jeez, did I just admit all that to a lot of people I don't know?' and then I thought 'that felt kinda good!' Always learning I guess, take care megs
I accept that none of us can know anyone else as well as we know ourselves, so at this point in my life I more spend time working on myself than learning about me or others.
With the exception of my outward appearance/demeanor, I can step outside myself and see my side to things/thoughts as if I were an objective third party. With the outward stuff, I'm more than familiar with the person in the mirror but I have no clue about what others see.
You are a very smart lady. Have I said that before? I think if you see yourself doing good from a true 3rd person perspective, you can guarantee it will influence others to do good. I think as long as you are honest with yourself and others, the others will see what you want them to see.
I think I know myself pretty well - it's been one of my missions in this lifetime. After about 7 years of psychotherapy and also training to be a psychodynamic counsellor I've learnt a ton. One of the most important things is I know that some things you can change about yourself and some things you just can't. Then it becomes a quest to accept the things you can't change.
I use my dreams and nightmares to get some real insight into who I am and not just who I think I am or what I would rather be like! It's a constant thing this learning about oneself. I can't imagine a point where I'll say, "ok, that's it - I know everythng now."
Thank You for posting. What do you think when someone can't remember dreams? Do they really have purpose to our conscious life when some of us can't remember them? If the dreams are replaying what we have learned the previous day, are they just not repeating what we have already seen?
LOL, well I am grateful for many things. But sometimes my 'old man' wants to return and I must fight him off. He is a baaad character that likes to raise his fugly head now and again. I am very grateful and thankful for finding so many people who I now regard as friends right here and am having fun getting to know more and more about you all.
I was reading a threat started a while ago (and since then discontinued) about 'the ideal human' and was intrigued by the responses. I really enjoyed the topic and was wondering what kind of input some of you hubbers...
When and how does it end up that you have a lot of friends and then eventually you turn around and you are alone because you are not happy with yourself? Shouldnt that be a time where your friends are there the most?