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How do you overcome your shadow aspect?

  1. ceciliabeltran profile image84
    ceciliabeltranposted 6 years ago

    We all have a Shadow. How do you recognize your shadow aspect and what do you do when you do?

    1. leeberttea profile image61
      leebertteaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      I try to stay out of the light. I don't like being followed.

      1. agvulpes profile image87
        agvulpesposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Ah but if the light was behind you, you would be following your shadow !

  2. Rochelle Frank profile image90
    Rochelle Frankposted 6 years ago

    Use sunscreen.

  3. John C. Evenstar profile image80
    John C. Evenstarposted 6 years ago

    First an individual must be aware that in fact s/he has a "Shadow Aspect". When s/he realizes this, then and only then, will that individual be able to gain control of it. I would venture to state that; no one individual has that much self awareness as to completely rid themselves of the "Aspect".
    I am sure that some would argue that people like Gandhi, or a Pope or other similar individuals may hold complete awareness, but my opinion is; we all fall to desires. That's my opinion anyway. and I have fallen many times in my past.

  4. John C. Evenstar profile image80
    John C. Evenstarposted 6 years ago

    Also to address the other part; how do you overcome it? Well an individual that realizes his/her shortcomings, or that it is possible that s/he has them, I would argue that, this individual can overcome a lot of the shadow by always asking him or herself; how will this decision affect all of those around me.

    I use to drink heavily, and I never asked myself questions of that nature. I never knew I needed to. Anyway, the point I am trying to make here is simple, if you are aware you have shortcomings, and you ask yourself that one question, and you acknowledge the answer to it, it then makes it very hard consciously to do another harm.

  5. Lisa HW profile image82
    Lisa HWposted 6 years ago

    I'm apparently one of those people who isn't aware I have a shadow aspect.  hmm  I don't know....     I sure don't see or sense one.  Is the Aspect an evil type of thing (in which case, I really don't have that), or a weakness type of thing (in which case, I have some of those)?

    1. John C. Evenstar profile image80
      John C. Evenstarposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      A shadow is essentially those things that lie just beneath awareness that sometimes show in our behaviors that have negative effects on ourselves, things we do and others around us. Our unconscious desires for power, sex, status etc.

      Freud studied this aspect of psychology and is what made him renowned.He studied the "Id" the "Ego" and the "Super Ego".
      Id refers to the part of the subconscious that drives our pleasure.
      Ego refers to our subconscious that drives for power
      Super Ego refers to our subconscious that tries to keep us in check; it is our rational part of the mind.

      1. Aficionada profile image93
        Aficionadaposted 6 years ago in reply to this

        Another great way to look at various aspects of a person's personality (known and unknown) is the Johari Window.  Check out this Hub: http://hubpages.com/hub/Johari-Window
        and some of the ones written by Tina V and kimh039.  It's a very good way to understand people and their interactions with others.

        1. mythbuster profile image85
          mythbusterposted 6 years ago in reply to this

          Awesome article you've directed us to. Thanks!

    2. John C. Evenstar profile image80
      John C. Evenstarposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      And yes Lisa, a shadow could very well be classified as an Archetype for evil. But people can mean good, but our actions sometimes represent our unconscious before our conscious.

  6. earnestshub profile image87
    earnestshubposted 6 years ago

    Constant vigilance is the only way I know to see the shadow aspect of self. smile

    1. NathanSyckel profile image59
      NathanSyckelposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      Very good. Constant Vigilance are the perfect words. I like the idea which I learned from Napoleon Hill. The only thing in life that we have absolute control over is our thoughts. So if our thoughts turn to the negative we have to learn to control them and only let the positive breakthrough.

  7. Jeff Berndt profile image92
    Jeff Berndtposted 6 years ago

    Before I can intelligently answer that question, I'm going to need a working knowledge of what a "shadow aspect" is.

    I know what a shadow is. I see mine all the time. I even make wee puppets with it sometimes. But I'm not sure what you mean by my "shadow aspect."

    1. Beelzedad profile image61
      Beelzedadposted 6 years ago in reply to this

      That's Jungian speech for the 'irrational.'  smile

  8. ceciliabeltran profile image84
    ceciliabeltranposted 6 years ago

    Wow, this is an old topic i uncovered.

    The Shadow Aspect is the rejected self.

    For example. You were shamed for looking at naked women as a child. So, you grow up hating porn and denigrating all porn lovers. It is the shadow of the self that loved naked women and has learned to see all images of naked women as porn.

    The Shadow Aspect is that part of our psyche we refuse to look at, the aspect we demonize.

  9. kalixao profile image60
    kalixaoposted 6 years ago

    I recently helped a young neurotic writer in a project wherein he rewrote his history by dramatizing his life. He identified a Shadowy Self and interacted with it. He discovered that the Shadowy Self was really the guardian of his soul. The Shadowy Self delivered the essence of the soul back to the writer and "died", passing the torch to the core self once he felt the core self would not neglect the soul again. The Shadowy Self had a great self-destructive need to connect itself to the outside world and to women through sex. In passing the torch and relinquishing his role as soul warden, the core self was enabled and empowered to feel as one with all aspects of himself, with his partner, and with the universe.It was a truly transformative and miraculous experience. The Shadowy Self says to the core self, "In dying, I transfer to you all that I am and more, for now I am a part of you forever. Nothing ever really dies, especially not passion. Remember me."