“Who Are You?”
Often we heard people asked. They want you to tell them who you really are. This is really simple question, is it? Or is it not?
Have you ever noticed how people can come up with different answer for that simple question? And sometimes they also come up with more than one answers.
“I am a Policeman.”
“I am a Husband.”
“I am an Atheist.”
“I am just a simple average man.”
Did you ever wonder why different people can come up with different answer for one simple question?
Is there any clue to decide what answer we should give regarding this question?
I want to know what you think about it.
Thank you for the kind response.
Interesting question! I think a lot of it has to do with context. Often people confuse the questions "Who are you?" and "What do you do?" because they see the two as intertwined, but obviously that doesn't have to be the case. Even our own names aren't necessarily "who we are" because they're merely labels given to us by our parents. When we introduce ourselves, we give our affiliations with jobs or other people because we are trying to give ourselves context, reason for being in a situation.
"I'm Sarah, Amanda's roommate", for example, clearly implies a person who is new in a given group in which an acquaintance of hers is already a member. By attaching our identity to our connections, it becomes easier to feel belonging and legitimacy.
Depending to the context. People will look at the context before giving the answer.
But then it is mean "I" is related to many things which sometimes not really "me". Just a label, a connection. Something which not really define "me", but only to make "I" being easy to be tag and easy to be search later from the crowd. Isn't it?
I am ... a Human ... Created by One, Who Hath the Power, to Create ... The Creator of every "Ideal" and "Thing" ... out of Nothingness ... With The Command ... Be !
I am a Muslim, a humble follower, of Prophet Muhammad's Conveyed Word of God ... thus, a Muslim ... who tries his best, to Conform to The Ordained Way of Life ... Islam ... I am nothing more, nothing less. Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon Muhammad.
I speak The Truth, and Interpret The Stated Word, within, God Granted Awareness ... for a Muslim, is Expected to State, The known Truth ...
I work ... I try for gainful employment, of my time, for The Lord Commands us humans, to make fair Effort, for a Fair Living ... and not subsist, on Interest ... earned sitting idle ... managing the others, Effort earned monies ...
Physical effort, is thus, involved ... in all fair Human actions for a living ... For the Duration of our Worldly existence ... Life.
I have been a fisherman, all my working life ...
But I am most Grateful to The Lord, for Granting me the Opportunity, to do, my Present work ... The Exegesis, of the Koran Stated Word of God.
Thank you, Sir.
From your answer I concluded that you answering the question with what you believe the most which is become foundation of what you do, and it is how you defined yourself.
I wonder, is there any time when you will not give this answer but only answering the question related to the context, like when you are at the airport and ready to entering a foreign country, and an immigration’s officer ask you, “Who are you?”, or when you meet a man who wish to become your daughter’s future husband. Will your answer at those particular moments following the context only and keep what you defined yourself as based of your behavior, or will you still giving similar answer, Sir?
I’m sorry for my curiosity. Thank you, again.
God hath Granted Humans, the Complete, unobstructed Freedom, of Doing, whatever they want to Do ...
At the same Time, God hath Shown us the Correct Way, of Living our Life
What you are asking is about day to day human affairs ... I can only Apply the Islamic approach, to your asked questions.
1. When you go to the Airport, or any port of Exit to any destination ... Go forward, in Peace.
2. You should Travel abroad, with a proper Tickets and Valid Travel Documents ... and if the Immigration officer asks ... "who are you" ... tell him, "I am the person, mentioned in the Passport and Travel Documents you are holding."
3. When you meet a Person who wants to be your daughter's husband, see, if he is Husband material ... meaning a gentleman who can spend the rest of his life faithfully ... if not, you should tell your daughter, what you think of the person.
4. As a rule ... and if you must, then always Judge people, from what they "Do" ... Never Judge a person, by the way he or she dresses, talks, or carries, and appears ... Always take note of the Company, of a person ... it tells a lot, particularly ... if you are unable to decide ... if the person is a Con artist, or a genuinely good person.
Ah, thank you very much, sir. wassalammu alaykum.
Your name sounded different ... glad to know you are an Indonesian Muslim. I read your Hub profile, today, and discovered, one of your interests is Indonesian Cuisine.
Let me tell you a short story ... I once met an Indonesian gentleman, in Karachi ... perhaps the year was 1964.
In the Islamic tradition, I requested him to have lunch, with our family, which he very graciously accepted. We served Pakistani Cuisine for the lunch, including Rice Pulao [Turkish Pulaf], Shami Kebabs [Syrian Kebabs], Roasted Chicken, Spiced Yogurt, Salad, Desserts, etc..
To our delight, Mr. Bacheron Idris obliged... that was his name ... and took generous helpings of Pulao, and other foods ... but we were quite amused, when he asked for some Chillies ... because, from western standards, Pakistani food is considered rather spicy.
Anyway, we served him a few chopped green chillies ... on seeing these, he said ..."No, no ... I mean Red Chillies ... a few greens won't do" ... so we brought him the red chillies powder jar ... and to our amazement, he covered the Pulao's Rice with a "layer of red Chillies" Powder, and said "Now thats good !"
It was then, that I realized, what was really meant by the term "Spicy Food" ... that is, Having Pulaf, with what to us, was a huge amount of red chillies ... but a regular feature of the normal cuisine, of our Indonesian brothers and sisters.
I often remember Mr. Bacheron Idris, and am still amused by the memory of his taste for red chillies... it remains a precious memory to this day, although almost half a century has passed, and we never met afterwards.
Mr Bacheron Idris was a Journalist from Indonesia, just visiting his
Pakistani brothers and sisters.
Freya Cesare is only my pen name, Sir. I chose that name because it's uniqueness make me easy to be find in the browser while my real name will send people who look for me have to find around several hundreds different person. The pen name is for tagging need only.
Ah, yes, most Indonesian have worst taste on chilly, but several tribes only. We usually chopped or crushed the small red chillies and combined it with onion and tomato, which we called as "sambal" and eat it as addition to main food, like fish, chicken, etc. I know several people who couldn't eat without it. Hot and spicy is a must for many Indonesia. And regarding his name, Mr. Idris, more likely he is Sumatranese. This tribe famous with their hot and spicy food. He is lucky then you had chilly for him. Me, myself, need to bring hot sauce or sambal if I have to go to the place where chilly is not important for the citizen. Food will never taste good without it.
Have a nice day, Sir. ^_^
“I am a Policeman.” - Might be a criminal you talking to
“I am a Husband.” - Lady chatting you up in a bar
“I am an Atheist.” - Religious lady chatting you up in a bar
“I am just a simple average man.” - What you say to other simple average people
“Who Are You?” Reminds me of Babylon 5, the Vorlons asked that and the Shadows asked "What do you want?"
The answer is to come with reference to the context.
What is the context is known to both sides.
Overdoing and underdoing in giving the answer may cause the confusion.
And isn't confusing ourselves is the best thing human keep doing to themselves? Question, question and more question. Everytime it being answered, new questions will come up and replacing it.
I am agree with you. Context seem indeed playing important role here.
I would answer that I am a "scott." A scott is but one of the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers). And once you understand who/what a scott is (or a clark or a roger)it will make perfect sense. Not only that, but you'll be able to understand why people say and do the things they do!
We are our conditioning both genetic and environmental (learned)
Will is the manifestation of conditioning. We do what we like, but we don't choose our likes or dislikes.
So I am my unique conditioning.
I am me. Plain and simple. No further explanation needed.
As to your question about wondering why people give different answers. No, I don't bother. It's a waste of time to think about.
Is there any clue to decide what answer to give? Doesn't matter.
Interesting answer, Cagsil.
"I am me."
What is "me"? Who is "Me"? What will define your "Me"?
What is me? If you have to ask, I suggest you go back to school.
Who is me? Me.
Me defines Me.
Considering that I don't mind to go back to school ^^, I hope you don't mind if I ask again.
If everyone answering "who are you?" simply by "Me", so what make your "me" different than any other "me"?
Is it because your "me" have Cagsil as name.
Or is it because your "me" simply flesh and blood and sparks of life when your heart beat which everyone else also have?
Or because your "me" doing something which different than the other?
Or is it because your "me" thinking different than the other?
"Me" is unique to the person saying it. Your "me" is going to apply only to you. But - I understand you just fine when you say you are "me."
I am "me" also. But only to me. To you, I am the individual human animal called "Mark Knowles," and most of which make me that individual will be meaningless to you, because you are "you" and I am "me" so only "I" can understand it.
In which case I may choose words I deem appropriate to give you understanding as to what makes "me," "me," and seek words that you may have some understanding of in order to facilitate that.
As the first thing you wish to tell anyone about yourself is your religious affiliation, by wearing religious garb - you will probably get a lot of peopel answer "Shi-ite" "Sunni" "Christian" "atheist," whatever when you ask them this question - as they probably deem this to be the most important thing to you.
Who are you?
Mark Knowles, I am really appreciate you comment. But this is not religion and philosophy forum. What I wear is not significant with what I asked.
My question is not about what people will define themselves, but how they chose to define themselves and why. It is not about what you believe who you are, but the process which caused you created your frame of reference. Who you are for me is not important. But how you created who you are and why is interesting story.
In my idea about "I", just like dontmakemeover said, always relating to the context. In this case, by questioning this, I am simply a mere student which want to learn and understand more about how people's minds works. But in the other hand, I don't feel this is enough explaination about why people answer the "who are you?" question.
I have question and looking for answer.
I am not here to pursue anything other than answer for my question.
Can those above are enough explanation about my goal in asking question?
Of course it is - and I explained why. Your avatar makes it clear that your primary desire is to share your religious beliefs with everyone. This is why you wear religious clothes. If I showed a picture of Jesus or a Muscle car or a WWF logo - or whatever in my avatar - that would tell you something about me would it not? Which would thus color the answer you gave me if I asked you who you are.
When people are asked the question, "who are you?" one of the determining factors as to how they answer will depend on who is doing the asking and the statements they have made about themselves to you.
You said that when you asked people who they are, one of the answers you got back was, "I am an atheist."
I was attempting to explain why that might be the case. How they define themselves - to you - depends largely on you.
Sorry that was not the answer you were looking for.
Freya, it wasn't directed AT you, but would be directed at the person who asked the question(aside from you, as in other people who would ask it).
Who? It is a reference to my individuality, so in that case on the second time asked, I would give them my name, but the first time asked, I would say me. I hope that helps.
I explained above.
Everyone else is irrelevant, when it comes to discussing the individuality of a person.
If that were the case, then the original question would have to be phrased differently than it was to get a different answer.
Everyone thinks differently, that is what is the uniqueness in make up of a person's individuality.
Whenever someone is asking me" Who are you?", I would always answer it with my name and my occupation.
I am God and you must surrender your body, mind and money to me.
you can have my mind body and money, to be honest you will send it all back, i am sure.
If you give your mind, body and money to BunuBobu, so what will have left for you, Joy?
oh yeah maybe i should keep hold if it all after all.......
In one way we are all the same with the same basic needs, we all need love, understanding, encouragement, support, we have similar thoughts, non-religous beliefs as humans. We have the same fears, we have the same natural intstincts. Whether we believe in something or not, we still no what is right or wrong. We still choose to do what is rigt or wrong.
I could go on with the similarities, but than we are also different and unique creatures, with our perceptions, interpretations, individual experiences, tastes, and preferences.
I guess like I said on another page, we should let people live in their realities, and they should let us live in ours. We should just agree to disagree instead of shoving one way or another down each other's throats. For someone like you your experience is different than mine. Mine is different than yours. I believe in God for my own reasons, and what has happen in my life. But have you had the same experiences. No! So I can not expect you to agree. So why argue the point, when I have not walked in your shoes, nor you have walked in mine. So wouldn't it be better to just accept one another as who we are. I understand for the first time on hub pages in my life time why people always told me don't discuass politics and religion. Why because it is harmful and hurtful in my opinion to both sides.
If i met an atheist at work, school, or in my home town we would be talking about other things, probably wouldn't even know you were one anymore than you would know I was a christian.
It's a crazy thing, because than you miss the most wonderful friendships just over religion and politics. It's a sad thing, and sorry so many people miss the opportunity to learn and grow from each other.
Oh, please. We are not talking about religion in here. I think I did put the forum inside cognitive psychology. Why then the answer had been bent to the other side? If I am the one who caused it without realized it, please forgive me.
Like I said to Mark, My question is not about what people will define themselves, but how they chose to define themselves and why. It is not about what you believe who you are, but the process which caused you created your frame of reference. Who you are for me is not important. But how you created who you are and why is interesting story.
I am trying to understand more about human's mind, not about what they believe.
Yeah dude, you are totally ruining the thread.
I have delusions of grandeur which have nothing to do with religion.
If you want more answers, here's a forum thread I started on just this question.
Might add to your discussion.
To me, the best answer is defined by my relationships, and not so much by my career, or skills.
I know that forum. I wrote the answer once too. You have so many funny answers there. I guess, it is my fault to make everything become too serious around here.
Define by relationship? Ah. I see.
So, if I can make a conclusion, outside have to be relating to the context, often people define themselves with what is the most important for them at the moment, right?
I'd say that's a good question! I'd like to know the answer to that as well!
What I mean by that is: do we know the answer ourselves? or are we looking for the answer?
If you don't know "who are you"?, then I suggest you continue to search, learn and don't stop until you do answer it.
usually what is in their mind is their beliefs, perception, and undertanding of thier selves. Listen to Byron Katie and she will prove the point that your beliefs system is how you percieve yourself, and how in your mind how you internalize everything, or choose to live bye what others say, or do, and how you react in your thinking. Psychology, Psyche, spirituality all teach basically the same principles. It is cognitive behavior therapy, and carl jung, and other psychological theorists study all sides to come with their own conclusions.
And your point?
My advice to Scorpio was sound enough without the psychology and philosophical junk from others. I'm sure plenty of people rationalize specific things, just so they can make a buck or two.
However, psychology is making strides in understanding the human species, but most of it isn't for the average person and done to understand the criminal mind and nothing more.
If someone fails to understand themselves and are unable to answer the question "who are you" and has to put much thought into, then apparently they haven't learned enough about themselves, to even be any good to themselves, much less to others.
Ah, interesting point, Cagsil.
"Psychology done to understand the criminal mind and nothing more."
Indeed, it is true. In the end, this is the vital benefit of psychology for society. But we never know how many criminals are walked around us these days. How scary! Isn't that make psychology become more applicable then?
I think, by questioning, we will start learning about ourselves. So it is not too bad and will help personality become more mature. Right?
Psychology is just a tool to understand criminal activity and the reasons for said activity. There would be no reason to apply it to the average person. The average person isn't doing damage to humanity, like criminals are.
Learning about oneself is key to finding love.
Maturity is a character trait one has to come to on their own. To understand when maturity isn't warranted, so that the child can have some fun, is just as important as to when being mature at time when warranted or needed.
Average person isn't doing damage to humanity? Hmm... I am not really sure about that, because if we read history of human, what we called normal today could be abnormal 10 years ago. And what we considering as abnormal today have possibility to become normal in another 10 years. Some of it, already changed the face of morality, which for me, many of it indeed already damaging humanity.
Mature people can have fun too. Being mature doesn't mean one have to be rigid, just more responsible on their own act and more wise in behaviour.
Yes, society/humanity/citizens do have a tendency to evolve forward.
Morality as it is defined cannot be changed. The subjective view of the individual, only gives off the appearance that morality is changing. Morality doesn't change. It's a set of definition.
I realize that, but when people want to be child-like, responsibility will always still play a factor, because it's bred into the person(which should be the case). When I say child-like, it's only in reference to put all other worries aside and just enjoy the moment without interruption. Our own minds get in our way of enjoying some things and to let go for only a brief time is actually what I'm talking about.
Psychology is a broad and often mis-used term and more a category to me. The idea behind understanding personality types is understanding the perception of another. This is the foundation of the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers) There are just three personality types called, for reasons stated elsewhere, clarks, scotts and rogers. We all have some characteristics of each. It is the predominance of one over the other that determines which "type" we are.
And once we are able to see the world/reality through the eyes of another, that is to say their perception, behavior becomes understandable and even predictable.
some people are always looking for the answer, or to improve who they are......
Hmm... Yes, that is interesting questions.
do we know the answer ourselves?
or are we looking for the answer?
I often see people seem only know what they think they are which is sometimes really different with what them really are in other people sight. When this differences come in the surface and bump into each other, disappointment become the result.
For those who still looking, maybe they will adapt very well and growth into more mature personality. But it seem for those who feel cozy with who they think they are, it might waking up their depend mechanism. And I think in the process, turned them into more cynical, sarcastic or bully.
Hmm... I wonder if my observation is correct or not?
yeah good way of improving yourself it looks like to me....... too tired to go into it deeply, but i will take a look another time, Do you follow it.
If someone just asks me who I am, then I say 'I'm Tricia' ~ and I will give an additional piece of information, according to the situation: ie. so-and-so's mother / wife / daughter / sister / friend / whatever.
But if pushed with 'Ah, but who are you? Who are you really?' etc, then I will say 'I am me'.
I once received the response that this was a bit too close to what God supposedly said, when asked for his name. I received the impression that maybe they felt that it sounded a little bit arrogant?? But I was just being truthful.
Me? I am the person wondering how best to answer your question at this moment
I'm wondering if anyone has ever asked me, 'Who are you?' in those words. I'd probably think it a bit rude and ask who they are before walking away.
Ah, a Vorlon type. Kirstenblog said, in Babilon 5, a Vorlon answered "Who are you?" with "What you want?"
No, I wouldn't want to know what they want, nor who they are.
Ah, so it is simply a sarcastic way in saying, "I don't care what you want to know or what you think about me." I see.
May I know why you think the question bit rude? I mean, if vocalized, sometimes indeed we might find the rudeness in the way people asked which show us their intention. But when it written, I think it might be possible the questioner genuinely want to know about you.
If I were caught trespassing, it wouldn't surprise me if somebody were to ask, 'Who are you?' I wouldn't take kindly to somebody asking me, 'Who are you?' in writing, either. They might ask something like, 'Would you like to tell me a little about yourself?', but only if appropriate.
Otherwise, people tend to introduce themselves. Questions may be asked of another person at appropriate points during conversation. Seems the most natural thing in the world to me.
You might be asked a succession of questions in court, or by the Police, or during an interview.
When somebody ask me the q "Who are you?", my answer will depend on the situation and the person who is asking. You are mirroring yourself to the person who ask based on what you think he/she would like to know based on the circumstances/situation the both parties are in or one is in. But mostly this is a question about your name so I will say - My name is Maita, then I will smile. The ball will start rolling then.
I go along the reply of prettydarkhorse regarding social setting. When I am asked this question the views of George Herbert Mead regarding the "I" and the "Me" always causes a smile to be raised on my face. The social setting, the cause or reasoning for asking the question, who my "Me" is, and how my "I" will interact comes into play. If it is a police officer asking the question my first and last name become important. If it is a friend of a friend then my first name is all that is important. If it is an advesarial stranger then my identity or self becomes important, and on and on. However, and I may have this wrong, the truthful answer to the question "who are you?" will most likely not be revealed, because as Popeye said, "I am what I am and that is what I am." remember to have fun, fun, fun
(After stepping outside for a break I just remembered something. When I took a Symbolic Interactionism class - I know it is contrary somewhat to cognitve psychology, a forum question was to write about this , , ,)
Person A: Who are you?
Person B: Me.
Person A: You are me?
Person B: Yes.
remember to have fun, fun, fun
The question of who are you is deep seated. It's a question of identity. 'As a man thinketh in his/her heart so he is.' It also a combination of your values and belief. These attributes are the drivers of your behaviors. It's a very difficult question and most people don't even know who they are. Being aware of this understanding is the begining of self-awareness.
If you remember that an is a tripartite being made of spirit, soul and body; and understand that these parts play significant role in who we become.
Most of the attributes we exhibit are based on our learns and conditioned events in our lives which have become habits. These habits are responsible to most of the traits we exhibit. We can change them to more preferable ones which lead to better outcomes.
Hence Who are you is a question of identity. And the why we do wat we do is a question of value of motivation.
Most People do not know the answer, they are too busy trying to please all their surroundings, trying to empathize and find others' acceptance. Tough question for them.
Slarty: synchronicity led me here now. Am behaviouralit trained & educated; however closet Jungian. Agree w/ your definition of "Will". kudos!
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