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whats easier? Being positive or being negative?

  1. lizzieBoo profile image77
    lizzieBooposted 5 years ago

    jus wondering.

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      Brenda Durhamposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      negative, I think

      for me as well as most others?

      It's a battle!

    2. AEvans profile image73
      AEvansposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Being positive. When you are always positive you tend to get more back lashings by those who are constantly negative. They tend to be more critical and try to always  burst your bubble. smile

    3. ediggity profile image60
      ediggityposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I wonder what the Neutron would say?

      lol

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      daniellehorganposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      It's all a habit. If you are in the habit of thinking negative thoughts, then being negative is easier. If you force yourself to think something positive each time you catch yourself being negative, then eventually you will find it easier to think more positively!

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    Emile Rposted 5 years ago

    Oh, come on lizzieboo. You know the answer. Negative, of course. There's little work involved in pointing out problems.

    There's a massive amount of work involved in accepting that there are problems and finding solutions.

    1. lizzieBoo profile image77
      lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Right you are Emile. wink In fact being negative is just too easy.

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    RookerySpoonerposted 5 years ago

    I think it is more natural for the human mind to be negative.  However, this doesn't make it easier, because it is much more pleasant to be positive.  Being negative causes depression, and makes our very short little lives so unhappy.  However, it seems harder to force ourselves to be positive, because we all have our problems, and the news seems to focus on the bad in the world.

    1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Yes I also think that's true, but, when we force ourselves to be positive about things, it rubs off on other people, make sense? So, when we are surrounded by positive people we feel better. It becomes easier to feel positive. It can become a perpetual thing with a bit of effort.

    2. lizzieBoo profile image77
      lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      But being negative is pleasurable at the time. It's only only unpleasant in hindsight, like gossip and getting drunk. An easy habit to get into.

      1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
        Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        I don't find being negative pleasurable ( except when I'm indulging in a little self pity, which I must confess happens from time to time big_smile) When we have a negative attitude we stop searching for solutions to problems. But, I do completely accept and agree that it's an easy habit to slip into to.

        1. lizzieBoo profile image77
          lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          I have conversations in which the subjects become more and more negative. I pick holes in types of people, complain about  the weather etc . I see myself slipping towards a chasm of irretrievable statements which will keep me awake with cringing at night and yet I don't have the self-discipline to back-peddle.
          It's all about self control. I'll have to work hard to cultivate it, but what a joy when I've mastered it! I must work to make the positive easier. Here's hoping,

          1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
            Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

            Off topic I know so apology in advance, but don't you think that sometimes it might be critical thinking as opposed to negative thinking? Make sense?? I try really hard to be positive about things, but sometimes our experiences teach us to be a little skeptical. Who knows, maybe the solutions lie in identifying the problems and coming up with solutions. If that makes any sense at all. For a writer I'm rubbish at conveying what I'm thinking. How's that for negative thinking lol

            1. lizzieBoo profile image77
              lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

              No, no I hear you. I think deep down we know what's good for us and not and good for others too.

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        RookerySpoonerposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Since when has being drunk been unpleasant, even with hindsight?

        1. lizzieBoo profile image77
          lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          Ha ha. Maybe I need to drink to forget more.

        2. Hollie Thomas profile image59
          Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          Oh, come on, there must have been a time where the next day you thought, OMG, what did I do?

          1. lizzieBoo profile image77
            lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

            Oh Ho yes.

  4. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 5 years ago

    Depends on what you got.

    1. lizzieBoo profile image77
      lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Ha ha. Good one. smile

  5. 2uesday profile image89
    2uesdayposted 5 years ago

    The question is easier on who? Negative by proxy is not easy to live with.

    1. Lord De Cross profile image65
      Lord De Crossposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Negative, connected to money is the root of evil.

    2. lizzieBoo profile image77
      lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Very true.

      1. Melovy profile image97
        Melovyposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Although in the short term looking for the positive can feel like hard work, that’s really just conditioned thinking - or habit - that we’ve learned by copying adults around us when we were young.
        I don’t think trying to force positive thinking works - at least not in my experience - and the reason is precisely because it feels such an effort that people give up.  I’m actually in the middle of writing a hub on this very subject, which I will probably post tomorrow. For several years I’ve been using two processes that help to turn around negative thoughts and make it easier for positive thoughts to naturally appear.  These methods do take a little work in themselves, but the great thing about them both is that you’re not always policing yourself, watching out for negativity or whatever. You just do the process and what happens happens - and the outcome is definitely an overall more positive outlook on life.

  6. billabongbob profile image80
    billabongbobposted 5 years ago

    Being negative is much easier than being positive. However, staying negative is sure to bring great unhappiness and who really wants that??

    It's easy to get stuck in a negative grove and it takes a lot of effort to pull yourself out. You just have to keep remembering WHY you are making the effort and stick with it.

    Being negative has an effect on other people too. The impact that this outlook can have is one that most people try to avoid. I don't blame them!!!

    Being positive can be hard work, but the rewards are more than worth it. Success is often missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work wink.

    People with a negative attitude, on average, live shorter lives than those who are positive. So think on people...... What's it going to be??

    Stay positive, allow a little self indulgent negativity from time to time,but don't let it rule your life.

    1. lizzieBoo profile image77
      lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Good point, yes.

  7. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 5 years ago

    Some say what is most important is your health.
    Worth more than money or fame and the easiest thing to take for granted. After that what does
    it matter? Appreciate.

    1. lizzieBoo profile image77
      lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Thats right. Gratitude it the highest form of thought. Agreed.

  8. knolyourself profile image60
    knolyourselfposted 5 years ago

    And You read terrific.

    1. lizzieBoo profile image77
      lizzieBooposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Cheers!

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    RookerySpoonerposted 5 years ago

    A news item today explores the brain of an optimist.

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-15214080

    1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      So, it is likely that a pessimist may die younger but, they are at least, more realistic.

      1. 2uesday profile image89
        2uesdayposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        and if they could they would say "I told you so."

        1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
          Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

          At least once, perhaps twice, but probably umpteen times. lol

  10. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 5 years ago

    It's easier for people to see the bad(negative).

    However, as an optimistic person, I always look for an upside inside anything negative. wink

    1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Because, more often than not if you adopt the right frame of mind, you will find something to be positive about. Just takes that bit of effort, but well worth it.

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        Hey Hollie, there's always something to be learned either positive event or negative event....learning is never bad. wink

  11. Gordon Hamilton profile image94
    Gordon Hamiltonposted 5 years ago

    Depends on your personality. You are by nature either a "Glass half full" or "Glass half empty" sort of person. I've always been the latter and negativity comes naturally to me.

    Not quite sure where the money and root of all evil comes in to play with regard to this particular subject but I am a contradiction in that respect. I know it is - but I also know that money is the most important thing in the world... I have been there, in the situation and circumstances where you have literally nothing and believe me, you never forget that experience...

    1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I've been there too Gordon, what a frightening experience. By nature I'm a glass half full person. I have to admit this had led to many disappointing and heart breaking events in my life, however, as Cagsil so eloquently puts it, they're all learning experiences. We live and learn. smile

      1. Gordon Hamilton profile image94
        Gordon Hamiltonposted 5 years ago in reply to this

        So true, Hollie - that is definitely the right attitude. Thanks! smile I'll try to take a leaf out of your book...

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    RookerySpoonerposted 5 years ago

    I was surprised that the bbc news item suggests that 80% of people are natural optimists.  I am one of the 20%, and am a glass totally empty kind of a person.  I believe my own pesimistic view of life may have something to do with the fact that I do not believe in God.  As most people do believe in God, this may explain their optimism.

    1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      I don't believe in God, I do believe in a greater good (probably makes no sense at all and I wouldn't expect it to) I actually do not believe our inclination towards  negative or positive thoughts, has anything to do with our belief in a higher, greater good, but more about social integration and acceptance. How we feel we are perceived by others, a mirror if you like.

  13. Theguardian17 profile image62
    Theguardian17posted 5 years ago via iphone

    Or you can be the glass is always full type person cause it's half full of whatever liquid is in it and half full of air..technically speaking

  14. kerlynb profile image91
    kerlynbposted 5 years ago

    Unfortunately, it was so quick for me to be negative.  Perhaps something about my childhood and my family helped me become that way.

    Good thing, I had been exposed to all these wonderful authors and self-help experts and even hubbers who give excellent tips on how to become positive.

    Now, it's easy for me to flip to positive in 5 minutes! Yes, that's 5 minutes!

  15. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 5 years ago

    Psychologically what is tiring is the world differing from you expectations (an expectation gap).  Thus, if your life is crap it is less tiring to be negative.  But then there is that self-fulfilling prophecy thing....

    1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, I can see that (expectation gap) in relationships, career, life in general. But, don't you think that as we age we become more realistic in our expectations (because of experiences?) So, our thoughts are not always necessarily negative but realistic? Maybe we need to learn to separate the two? Which thoughts are negative, which are realistic?

  16. psycheskinner profile image81
    psycheskinnerposted 5 years ago

    It seems that the optimal state for mood is slightly over positive (slight tendency to expect better than you get).  People on the realistic to pessimistic range are more likely to experience more depressed mood.

    I think it is a trade off between how much time you spend happily expecting good thing, and how often you are disappointed....

    1. Hollie Thomas profile image59
      Hollie Thomasposted 5 years ago in reply to this

      Yes, I can see that too. But in some respects I also think this is realism as opposed to negativity or positivity.  For example, the only thing that is certain, is that if you don't try you definitely don't get. Whereas, if you try there's a chance, but no guarantees.

  17. thelyricwriter profile image52
    thelyricwriterposted 5 years ago

    i agree

 
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