It's all a habit. If you are in the habit of thinking negative thoughts, then being negative is easier. If you force yourself to think something positive each time you catch yourself being negative, then eventually you will find it easier to think more positively!
I think it is more natural for the human mind to be negative. However, this doesn't make it easier, because it is much more pleasant to be positive. Being negative causes depression, and makes our very short little lives so unhappy. However, it seems harder to force ourselves to be positive, because we all have our problems, and the news seems to focus on the bad in the world.
Yes I also think that's true, but, when we force ourselves to be positive about things, it rubs off on other people, make sense? So, when we are surrounded by positive people we feel better. It becomes easier to feel positive. It can become a perpetual thing with a bit of effort.
I don't find being negative pleasurable ( except when I'm indulging in a little self pity, which I must confess happens from time to time ) When we have a negative attitude we stop searching for solutions to problems. But, I do completely accept and agree that it's an easy habit to slip into to.
I have conversations in which the subjects become more and more negative. I pick holes in types of people, complain about the weather etc . I see myself slipping towards a chasm of irretrievable statements which will keep me awake with cringing at night and yet I don't have the self-discipline to back-peddle. It's all about self control. I'll have to work hard to cultivate it, but what a joy when I've mastered it! I must work to make the positive easier. Here's hoping,
Off topic I know so apology in advance, but don't you think that sometimes it might be critical thinking as opposed to negative thinking? Make sense?? I try really hard to be positive about things, but sometimes our experiences teach us to be a little skeptical. Who knows, maybe the solutions lie in identifying the problems and coming up with solutions. If that makes any sense at all. For a writer I'm rubbish at conveying what I'm thinking. How's that for negative thinking
Although in the short term looking for the positive can feel like hard work, that’s really just conditioned thinking - or habit - that we’ve learned by copying adults around us when we were young. I don’t think trying to force positive thinking works - at least not in my experience - and the reason is precisely because it feels such an effort that people give up. I’m actually in the middle of writing a hub on this very subject, which I will probably post tomorrow. For several years I’ve been using two processes that help to turn around negative thoughts and make it easier for positive thoughts to naturally appear. These methods do take a little work in themselves, but the great thing about them both is that you’re not always policing yourself, watching out for negativity or whatever. You just do the process and what happens happens - and the outcome is definitely an overall more positive outlook on life.
Depends on your personality. You are by nature either a "Glass half full" or "Glass half empty" sort of person. I've always been the latter and negativity comes naturally to me.
Not quite sure where the money and root of all evil comes in to play with regard to this particular subject but I am a contradiction in that respect. I know it is - but I also know that money is the most important thing in the world... I have been there, in the situation and circumstances where you have literally nothing and believe me, you never forget that experience...
I've been there too Gordon, what a frightening experience. By nature I'm a glass half full person. I have to admit this had led to many disappointing and heart breaking events in my life, however, as Cagsil so eloquently puts it, they're all learning experiences. We live and learn.
I was surprised that the bbc news item suggests that 80% of people are natural optimists. I am one of the 20%, and am a glass totally empty kind of a person. I believe my own pesimistic view of life may have something to do with the fact that I do not believe in God. As most people do believe in God, this may explain their optimism.
I don't believe in God, I do believe in a greater good (probably makes no sense at all and I wouldn't expect it to) I actually do not believe our inclination towards negative or positive thoughts, has anything to do with our belief in a higher, greater good, but more about social integration and acceptance. How we feel we are perceived by others, a mirror if you like.
Psychologically what is tiring is the world differing from you expectations (an expectation gap). Thus, if your life is crap it is less tiring to be negative. But then there is that self-fulfilling prophecy thing....
Yes, I can see that (expectation gap) in relationships, career, life in general. But, don't you think that as we age we become more realistic in our expectations (because of experiences?) So, our thoughts are not always necessarily negative but realistic? Maybe we need to learn to separate the two? Which thoughts are negative, which are realistic?
It seems that the optimal state for mood is slightly over positive (slight tendency to expect better than you get). People on the realistic to pessimistic range are more likely to experience more depressed mood.
I think it is a trade off between how much time you spend happily expecting good thing, and how often you are disappointed....
Yes, I can see that too. But in some respects I also think this is realism as opposed to negativity or positivity. For example, the only thing that is certain, is that if you don't try you definitely don't get. Whereas, if you try there's a chance, but no guarantees.
I wrote a question to myself and posted in a couple of places to see it all the time. As I look at it, it's deeper than I supposed. The question is this:If you knew that being positive about your life experiences every...