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Why Some People Like to Speak Dirty?

  1. jainismus profile image78
    jainismusposted 4 years ago

    Why some people like to speak dirty? Is it a psychological problem?

    1. aka-dj profile image80
      aka-djposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Shows who they truly are.

      We all speak from what we know.

      Whats the old saying, "GIGO"?

      (garbage in, garbage out?)

      1. gmwilliams profile image86
        gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago in reply to this


    2. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Because they are thuggish, uncouth, and have no home training.    People who have a large vocabulary and refinements do not have to resort to using monosyllabic, curse words to express themselves.    As my father stated that using curse words and talking dirty are signs of having no inherent decency, a limited vocabulary, and not being intelligent.     Wise words he stated!

      1. Daughter Of Maat profile image98
        Daughter Of Maatposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        I beg to differ, allow me to explain. To me words are words. The use of so called "curse" words is just another form of self expression. It doesn't have anything to do with intelligence. Those who are intelligent know how to use words, ANY words, effectively.

        I do believe there is a time and a place for it, however. I'm not about to drop the f bomb on people I don't know, or in the presence of someone who may be offended by my choice of vocabulary. 

        It's all a matter of perception. You may perceive that cursing and foul language indicates a person lacks intelligence, but that does not mean that is the actually the case. For anyone to make that sort of blanket statement is a form of prejudicial stereotyping in my opinion. Personally, I wouldn't discount anyone based on their choice of vocabulary until I had a chance to get to know them. Human behavior is just to complex.

        1. dndswordsmith profile image81
          dndswordsmithposted 4 years ago in reply to this

          Nice response!!

      2. dndswordsmith profile image81
        dndswordsmithposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        Wow, so judgemental, yet so wrong!! So the next time I stub my toe, I will say "gosh gollee how discomforting." I'm not there yet, my highly educated co-hubber. My response will be more like, "WHAT THE F@#K!! I use that response for many other mishaps and occasions too.

        Think about this, just because your father stated that "using curse words and talking dirty are signs of having no inherent decency, a limited vocabulary, and not being intelligent" does not mean that his words were for anyone else but you. Possibly that was his way of controlling you and making you do what he wanted you to do. My father and mother told me not to curse and they gave me philosophical advice too. See how I turned out smile

        @no home training?? to be so educated and not understand that some children rebell against their parents and do the opposite of what they are told, THAT should be a crime.

        Just because a person speaks dirty, curses, cuss', has a potty mouth, etc does not mean that they are thuggish, uncouth, have no home training, has a limited vocabulary, uneducated, or unintelligent. I don't fit into either of those categories.

        1. Uninvited Writer profile image82
          Uninvited Writerposted 3 years ago in reply to this

          When people say "gosh darn it" or "shoot" you know what they are really saying smile

      3. tussin profile image61
        tussinposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        And yet one can be thuggish and uncouth without resorting to bad words.

    3. FatFreddysCat profile image92
      FatFreddysCatposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      I have small children so I do my best to contain my, shall we say, "colorful language." But occasionally it just happens. I mean, if you hit your thumb with a hammer, you're not going to say "Oh, shucky darn!"

    4. Bubba Jones profile image60
      Bubba Jonesposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Brother it sure is. When I been out hunting all night, and my wife wants some early morning delight, I might pull up lame at the post. She starts talking dirty and it's HOOBOY! Off to the races!

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      Phoebe Pikeposted 3 years ago in reply to this

      The words are harsh on the tongue. Easy to say and taboo. Something that human nature turns to. Naturally many want to go against certain rules that society has placed upon them. That could be why so many songs use it. It catches the ear and breaks rules we were once brought up with. It's like speeding up at the yellow light to beat the red light... a tiny victory that isn't considered "behaving".

  2. scentualhealing profile image61
    scentualhealingposted 4 years ago

    Its a form of sexual abuse, its meant to make you feel uncomfortable and intimidate certain persons.  If they were to go to therapy they would be told just what they are doing and how wrong it is.

    Ask any office personal what sexual discrimination is and part of that answer will be anything that is said in a sexual tone that makes you feel uncomfortable.

    the United States allows so much mild sexual abuse to be a part of ever day life, every one excepts it as normal now, but it is not

    1. wilderness profile image95
      wildernessposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      If everyone accepts it as normal then, by definition, it is.

      And that is the crux of the problem.  It is not intended to make anyone uncomfortable; it is simply the normal method of conversation for many people but some don't understand that.

    2. Repairguy47 profile image61
      Repairguy47posted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Its in no way a form of sexual abuse. You should talk to victims of actual sexual abuse.

  3. WiseRabbit profile image84
    WiseRabbitposted 4 years ago

    People in all cultures the world over have "taboo" words in their languages. People use taboo words for a variety of reasons. Different taboo words have different levels of potency, but all of them serve similar purposes. Sometimes a person is simply expressing their own shock, surprise, anger or disgust. In other circumstances, the person using a taboo word is seeking to generate humor by using a word that is shocking or surprising in an unexpected way. The majority of taboo words, whether a person intends it or not, do generate negative emotions in the person hearing or reading them. This can be because the word is sacrilegious or because it is connected with something dangerous, dirty or sexual. Sometimes a person uses a taboo word to get another person to respond to their own emotion or validate them. Other times, the words are meant to cause another person to behave in a certain way or do something the speaker wants them to do. In some cases, taboo words are used as a form of emotional abuse and are designed to cause a person to feel bad about themselves or afraid. In any case, when a person uses taboo words, they do affect the person they are speaking to and often it is in a negative way. With this in mind, a person who wants to be considerate will be careful to choose words that will benefit their listeners.

  4. DON BALDERAS profile image81
    DON BALDERASposted 4 years ago

    Using "dirty words" has a cultural shade. It means that most of them who use this kind of words start when they are young, and they are brought until they grow. Parents are part of their learning to use those words. Society and the kind of environmental media they are exposed to contribute much to this dirty language. So, it stretches from generation to generation because people multiply as words and dirty expressions are carried through different media and exposure.
    They like it because they grow with it. They use it. They may live it. Blame that to whoever and whatever. But it is a subject of self-discipline. If people realize how bad it is to mouth dirty language, then, they must by all means avoid using the language, and shift to one that's edifying and uplifting.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      I definitely agree!

    2. dndswordsmith profile image81
      dndswordsmithposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      I use "dirty words" often, can't blame that one on my parents. They weren't "potty mouthed" people at all. You are correct about environment though, I learned it from being on the streets and from some of the music I'd listened to while growing up. You have very good points here, one being "They like it because they grow with it." I can remember when I first cursed, I got caught and beat half to death. My friends just laughed and laughed. That didn't help because them laughing at me only made me want to prove that the next time, I would have better coordination with putting my curse words together. So from that point on I learned how to strategically word my cursing by practicing in a mirror. Now I'm sort of a pro at it smile I can definitely have normal conversations without cursing. It has no baring on who I am or what type of person I am. It's just language I use to signify that I'm angry, mad, emotional, so don't f@#k with me. I can consciously curve my tongue, as I can't use this language in my everyday life (around work, school, elderly, parents etc). Although I've tried to have self-discipline and discontinue, I am having a problem with that. However, among the other issues in my life I tend to place this one at the bottom of the list of things I need to fix within myself. Hopefully, God understands smile

      It's not so bad to "mouth dirty language."

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    Sophia Angeliqueposted 4 years ago

    I have no idea.

    In my entire life, I never heard my father use an epithet or be uncouth.

    I do know that it makes me cringe.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago in reply to this

      Thank you, Sophie,  only people of low class and extremely limited vocabularies have to resort to using such words.     If a person wishes to use such words and have no class, so be it!  Those types of people demonstrate how low they are!

      1. kirstenblog profile image77
        kirstenblogposted 4 years ago in reply to this

        So my friend with a Phd (in medicine) is showing her lack of class and is of a limited vocabulary (her native tongue being german but her english better then most english peoples!) when she curses after stubbing a toe or what have you.

        I guess we have a different idea of what a limited vocabulary means as well as what it means to have class.

        Class to me includes knowing when something is OK and when it isn't. If you cannot work out when something is OK and when not, I guess that means you shouldn't ever do it, but that doesn't mean you should impose your lack on others. Not everyone has troubles figuring out when something is acceptable and not, just because you cannot.

      2. tussin profile image61
        tussinposted 3 years ago in reply to this

        Ooh ooh, let me try:

        People who were hypersensitive about bad words are deficient in intelligence.  A string of syllables only has as much power as you give it.  Someone who can't see that lacks critical thinking skills, is prone to superstition, and clearly does not have any educated people in his or her circle of friends and acquaintances. They also have a foul odor about their physical person. 

        (See how easy it that was?)

  6. ptosis profile image80
    ptosisposted 4 years ago

    " ... if you overdo casual everyday swearing, then it seems that you would not get the benefit of letting fly with an expletive at that moment when you injure yourself,”

    http://www.thirdage.com/news/swearing-c … 04-20-2011

  7. JonLaird profile image60
    JonLairdposted 4 years ago

    I think "Daughter of Maat" nailed it.

    It really depends on a number of factors. I'll use myself for an example: I curse, but refrain from doing so in public because it can be offensive and I try to not make other people feel uncomfortable. It's simply a matter of respect and consideration for other people. However, my wife and I both have mouths like sailors, and we tend to be a bit more liberal with the cursing (never at each other, only if we see something on television or read something in the news that irks us). The filthiest my mouth gets is probably when I'm playing some video games, but even then, it's not over the microphone where others can hear, and is limited to a few F-bombs here and there.

    Unfortunately, some people aren't able to distinguish what's appropriate in which venues. I've heard people on the bus that I ride to work talking explicitly about sex...not the appropriate time or audience.

    Am I uneducated? Absolutely not; I'm finishing my Master's degree, and plan on going on for a Ph.D. Am I thuggish? Absolutely not; I've never been in trouble with the law, nor am I threatening to others. To be honest, I've heard things that are every bit as offensive - without being "curse words" - come out of the mouths of those who are supposed to be "higher class".

    It's unfortunate that people who curse are being judged as low-class, or as lesser members of society. You would think by this point that people would realize one of our greatest problems is refusing to look past surface appearance to see what's underneath. Separating ourselves into classes, especially based on something as subjective as language, serves no other purpose than dividing us and making us weaker.

  8. brimancandy profile image82
    brimancandyposted 3 years ago

    If your subject is about talking dirty for self pleasure or thinking that others might enjoy the crap that is coming out of your mouth, I find that quite annoying. I have met certain people who like to talk dirty, and the most annoying are the very loud, and the ones who sound just icky. The loud ones want everyone in the neighborhood to hear their filth, and the icky ones talk in a very annoying tone, and won't shut up once they get started.

    Then there are the angry potty mouths who like to get loud only when there are lots and lots of people around. If they were mad at you earlier in the day, they will wait until you are in a crowded fast food joint to bring up the subject again, so they can start foaming at the mouth again. What really gets one person I know going, is that I just sit there and let him rant, and say nothing....and when I think he's calmed down. I say are you finished? Was it good for you? 

    I like to imitate some of them in groups of friends, and, I always get a good laugh.

  9. psycheskinner profile image82
    psycheskinnerposted 3 years ago

    Who cares, seriously.  They are just words.

    1. IzzyM profile image85
      IzzyMposted 3 years ago in reply to this


      Cuss words, swear words, whatever you want to call them, are only offensive when directed at someone.

      Loads of folk I know use the f word as an adjective and they don't even realise they are doing it, so no offence intended.

      From studying swear words in Spanish, most are said and laughed about. Only very few are offensive, and even those have to be said in a certain way or directed at someone to be offensive.

      It should be the same in English language.  It is in my part of the world.

    2. Arox profile image60
      Aroxposted 3 years ago in reply to this


  10. Uninvited Writer profile image82
    Uninvited Writerposted 3 years ago

    I never heard my parents swear. Yet, I can let out a few choice words when I am angry. Of course, it's usually to myself and never aimed at anyone.

    By being offended you give the words more power than they need to have.

  11. innersmiff profile image86
    innersmiffposted 3 years ago

    The vaginal words some men have a problem with. The word itself makes some men uncomfortable. They don't like hearing it and find it difficult to say whereas without batting an eye a man will refer to his d*ck or his rod or his Johnson.

    1. Joseph041167 profile image60
      Joseph041167posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I prefer the real terms. This way people know exactly what you mean. A woman has so many very interesting parts,  the labia majora, the labia minora, and it just goes on and on and never stops. I have no problem with the real terms. Have I done male gender locker room talk, of course. I had a group of casual friends once and we could get silly. And we use silly terms, casual slang terms. Never have been way off into phone sex, or harrasment, or anything strange, fortunately. wink LOL, at least not on here wink

  12. heatblast92 profile image86
    heatblast92posted 3 years ago

    Because we can?

    I always find it funny people would go out of their way to stave off imprecations in their daily vernacular. Freedom of speech means squat should we attempt to curb the evolution of language by reviling the usage of those naughty words. Apparently, a lot of us have been conditioned mainly by our parents to regard cursing as an indicator for indecency, or a lack of an efficient vocabulary. I like to swear; in fact, not a day goes by that I don't, and it sure doesn't mean I want to go about on a murderous rampage through the city. I leave my psychotic episodes to games like Postal, by the way.

    To immediately stereotype chronic swearers as indecent people speaks plenty about how superficial, pretentious people can be, and ironically enough, there's really nothing decent about linguistic profiling. Swearing's almost akin to wearing only your undies out in public; there's nothing objectively wrong about either.

    1. Joseph041167 profile image60
      Joseph041167posted 3 years ago in reply to this

      I curse in moderation, and never in front of children below the age of 18.