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Men and Women - Differences in Written Form
I was having a chat with Mr. X on Facebook, we were just shooting the breeze and one comment led to another and soon we found ourselves talking Manguage. I said I thought that it would be interesting to do a hub on this topic. He said:
"It is a choice."
I looked at that sentence and the only thing I see wrong with it is -- oops! .....is that a period I see at the end of that sentence? It looks like he isn't very excited about that idea - it looks like he thinks it might not be a good idea! Doesn't it?
I hurried and did a google search entering the words "man / language / punctuation".
The first thing that popped up was a short article about how a teacher wrote these words on the black board:
"A woman without her man is nothing"
He instructed the class to rewrite the sentence and use punctuation. The end result was that all of the males translated it like this:
"A woman, without her man, is nothing."
All of the females translated it like this:
"A woman: without her, man is nothing."
I do not think it is coincidental that all of the men and all of the woman internalized and personalized that sentence, quickly and were equally divided.
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I received this by email back in March 2006 (thanks Rowena, for sending it to me) and I still laugh when I read it. In my opinion, this is a classic example
Differences in Written Form
I assumed that since almost everyone agrees that spoken communication between females and males is completely different, evidence would be clear we also have differences in our writing styles.
The differences that I found are profound. Men and women communicate so differently in written form I was able to find many examples that are surprising and hilarious. For example, I have linked an assignment that was given by a college instructor for an online assignment. The results were rapid and in about 5 paragraphs you can see this relationship would have been explosive if carried on in written form.
Some of the differences that are found in written language are that women use more pronouns, superlatives, metaphors and overall generalizations which can make for a communication train wreck between males and females. Women are more intimate and use expressions of thanks, apologies, expressions of appreciation. Men are more adverse and are much more likely to issue put downs, they are more contentious with assertions and are more prone to self promote. Men who post on the Internet are more likely to have lengthy and more frequent posts.
Male vs. Female Behavior
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Make him warm for your form in writing!
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Equality and the internet.....
After reading several abstracts regarding the research on studies about written differences in males and females, one remarkable difference is that women and men show that they are creating the same differences online and offline in their relationships.
Women are more intimate. They use written language to intimate and build relationships. Women use weaker language, are less aggressive and relationship oriented. Women still appear to be nurturing online and they seek to establish connections and closeness. Women will ask more questions.
Is it surprising that one of the most frequently typed phrases in women language was:
"I wonder if...." (Mulac & Lundel, 1994)
Women converse and use language to find common ground. They like to hash things out but the interesting thing is, they want to agree. If one woman in a group disagrees with the general consensus of the group - they will isolate her. This lends confusion to the idea that women want to see other women succeed. It proves that women want other women to be the same and agree and not be different.
Men are aggressive, competitive and more dominating in written form. Men write and speak about resolutions or about their own status. They communicate to establish dominance and control. Men want to win. Man's communication style online is just as simple as off line. They do not use extra words, punctuation or emoticons. Men are power driven and want to be in control at home and on the Internet. The alpha dog complex rules.
I looked at the statistics of online users in totality and the estimation was that just a little less than half of the online world is dominated by men. The ideology that men are more powerful and in control is apparent in the online world. I think it is very interesting that we proclaim that males and females are libertated and equal. The online world is rapidly proving that we are a very sexist society. Without faces, pictures or curves the internet is very indicative of our offline behavior, individually and collectively.
Women want to be seen as equal to their male counter parts. If this is going to happen women need to think more powerfully and then they will communicate in written form more effectively. The belief that men are more powerful and dominating has managed to be perpetuated in a community where the sex of the typist could be anonymous. It isn't though because women will betray their sensitive nature in writing and men will cut to the chase and speak his own manguage.
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