What Do You Reach For?

Seek and You Will Find and Then You Have To Reach For It
Seek and You Will Find and Then You Have To Reach For It

What Do You Reach For When You Search?

If you have reached this article in your search and are not interested in getting out of your head and into your life then this is not for you. What are you reaching for? Whatever it is, you will not find it here. This article is written for the purpose of assisting those who are seeking to expand their reach out into life.

To reach is to stretch out, to extend in space, time, effect and influence. It is impossible to arrive at a destination, or to achieve a dream or a goal without reaching for it.   From Old English - roecan - to stretch oneself.

What do you reach for?

As you grow, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually so too grows your reach
As you grow, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually so too grows your reach

And Why Is It So Important To Expand Your Reach?

One of the first abilities you acquire not long after your birth was the ability to reach. What is the first thing you reach for? Your mother, your father, those who cared for you and about you. You reached for love and security. A few months later you added to your reach as you reached for food and toys. Things that brought you nourishment and pleasure. Your universe was small and intimate shared only with those who were invested in your well-being, grandparents, siblings, close family friends. As your ability to reach expanded so too did your world. Just as your body continued to grow so too did your reach. You were able to reach out and touch another with a laugh, a smile or a cry of distress. Your reach began to encompass more and more people, places and things.

What do you reach for now and why is it so important that you continue to expand your reach?

Out Of The Mud And Into The Light
Out Of The Mud And Into The Light

In her autobiography, A Lotus Grows In The Mud, Goldie Hawn recounts how her father asked her the question so many parents ask their children, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Goldie's reply, "Happy." Happiness is a state of being and in Goldie's reaching for that state she continued to expand her reach as she gave unto others through her willingness to make herself known. Throughout her TV career she touched lives all across North America and beyond giving hundreds of thousands of people something to smile at, something to enjoy and something to out and out laugh at. Her movie career was no different as she continued to give of herself, continued to reach past where she had gone before. Today Goldie's reach has extended around the globe and it is difficult, if not impossible to think of her without feeling happy, without seeing her infectious smile in your mind's eye. Goldie reached her goal of happiness and she still reaches out to others.

Another obvious example of someone who has a great reach is Oprah. Oprah reached for one goal, one dream after another and expanded her world as she expanded the world of those about her. She has not stopped reaching, she is willing to make herself known, to be seen and give onto others something to reach for.

Goldie and Oprah are but two examples of people who gradually and consistently continued to reach and in their so doing both of them have greatly expanded their sphere of influence. Neither greedily reached for the "whole thing" but rather they reached for the next correct step on their journey. They have been of service to others in their journey as they did not reach only to take, but to give.

The fall taken from the pedestal upon which a large portion of society placed Tiger Woods occurred because, where Goldie and Oprah aspired to be the best their best 'self', Tiger aspired to be the best golfer.  Reach for the best you, you can be and then do and have from there.  In our comparing ourselves to others and placing them above or beneath us we have nothing of value with which to measure our own worth.  If each and every day you become a better, and better you the only comparison that is valid is to look back and see how far you have traveled in your own adventure.  Then from your present time you extend your reach into the future. 


How Far Are You Willing To Reach?
How Far Are You Willing To Reach?

What Do You Reach With?

You do not just reach with your hands, your reach with your communication, with your body language,  your attitudes, your emotions, and your personality.  You reach with your heart, your mind and your spirit. What do you reach for?  Do you reach for loved ones, for companionship, for friendship, for intimacy, for your fellow man, and for dreams and goals? Do you reach to contribute to or do you reach to take? Or have you stopped reaching and withdrawn from life? What makes you reach? What causes you to withdraw?

Stretch Your World
Stretch Your World

The Right Time Has Come Now

We are in this world at a time when it has never been easier to reach out to others. Our technology allows for us to make ourselves known, to touch the lives of others whom we will never meet in person, to cross the globe at the touch of a finger and to influence those others and our world in a glorious and purpose filled way. We can offer words of encouragement or words of solace to people who become our friends even though they will never sit at our tables. Our being able to reach in this way was only a dream until somebody, somewhere started to reach for it and encouraged others to reach as well.

What if we expanded our reach even further and reached past the technology and connected in the truth of who we are.  What then could we accomplish - together?

What do you reach for?

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dallas93444 6 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

Our imagination have no limitations... Release our "emergency brakes" and hang on! Thanks for sharing.


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

Remember getting told as a child "It's just your imagination"? Would have been nice to know then that the correct response would have been "You're right!" rather than to react by shutting it down. Thanks for the visit.


malcolmb 6 years ago

Wonderful hub about a great subject. I love the powerful and compelling distinction you make between reaching to be the best "role" and the best "you". Inspiring stuff!


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Merlin Fraser 6 years ago from Cotswold Hills

The greatest words in the English language must be,

"Go For It !"

I was lucky in my childhood, back then all boys wanted to be steam engine drivers. My Grandfather was one and he told me in no uncertain terms that no grandson of his was going to aim so low in life.

Brought up in the remote countryside of England there was an expectation that the children of the village would become the next generation of farm labourers or foresters. However at school I had a love of Geography and a teacher who told me of the big world beyond, a world that he himself had never seen but instiled in me a desire to get out there.

In life shy away from those who say you can't and seek out those who say you can...

Dare to dream and live that dream !


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

Thank you Malcolm and Merlin. It is wonderful when we have people in our lives who inspire and encourage us to bust out of the box. The best teachers in life are those who are willing to have their students surpass them and Merlin you were blessed with at least two such teachers. Thank you both for reading and commenting.


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

Great hub and I love Goldie - I always think of her as one of the most positive people you could have as a role model just because of her uplifting way of looking at life. To be happy is the ultimate goal and I think if you have that, you have everything. But happiness is an ongoing affair, so I think you need to keep redefining that day by day and even flip it to encompass bringing other people happiness as well. You can't 'give it' or 'make' other people happy but you can try by your actions to make the world in general a better place because you are in it. Thanks for the inspiration!


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

I agree with you about Goldie - she reminds me of a butterfly - she flits and touches, she transforms lives and her joy is in her journey. And, I thank you because if anyone had asked me the question Goldie's father asked her my answer would have been, "an inspiration".


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Cari Jean 6 years ago from Bismarck, ND

Your hubs are amazing. You have so much insight. As you stated, it is important to be our best self first before the best at anything else - love the Tiger Woods example - so true!


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raisingme 6 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia Author

Thank you Cari Jean. It is an honor to share my hard earned insight with people such as yourself.

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